I like guys but I don’t want to be gay. How do I stop beg gay? – The Answer Wall

Contents:

• I’M 43 – BUT I’M MA TO FEEL LIKE A DOSR BY YOUNGER GAY MEN
• LONGEST GAY TEST!
• HOW DO YOU KNOW IF YOU’RE GAY, STRAIGHT, OR SOMETHG BETWEEN?
• JAGUARS ASSISTANT KEV MAXEN OUT AS GAY
• CAN SOMEONE BE HOMOSEXUAL AND NOT GAY?
• HER BOYIEND ISN'T GAY OR BI BUT HE IS SUCKG DICKS GLORY HOL
• PEOPLE THK I'M GAY... BUT I'M NOT
• HOW DO I KNOW I’M NOT REALLY GAY/STRAIGHT?
• HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY
• I'M NOT GAY, BUT I LOVE ANOTHER BOY
• I LIKE GUYS BUT I DON’T WANT TO BE GAY. HOW DO I STOP BEG GAY?
• AM I GAY OR BISEXUAL? QUIZ
• I'M NOT GAY, BUT
• YOU’RE NOT GAY: HOMOSEXUALY ANXIETY OCD
• THE GAY-O-METER! ?️‍? LGBTQ QUIZ

I’M 43 – BUT I’M MA TO FEEL LIKE A DOSR BY YOUNGER GAY MEN

This is the longt "Am I gay? If you want or need to know if you're gay, jt s yourself down now and answer all 45 of the qutns hontly. What if turns out you're gay?

Have you ever wonred what gay sex would feel/be like? He tells you that he's gay and lik you.

That same iend who jt told you he's gay wants to kiss. In a society where most of are expected to be straight, n be difficult to take a step back and ask whether you’re gay, straight, or somethg ’re the only person who n figure out what your orientatn tly is. Havg a sex dream about someone of the same genr as you don’t necsarily make you gay.

LONGEST GAY TEST!

And even if there were, who’s to say who qualifi as gay or straight? Every sgle gay person is unique.

HOW DO YOU KNOW IF YOU’RE GAY, STRAIGHT, OR SOMETHG BETWEEN?

You don’t have to fulfill certa “creria” to qualify as gay, straight, bisexual, or anythg is an aspect of your inty, not a job applitn — and you n intify wh whatever term fs you! ” Plenty of people thought they were one thg for the first half of their life, only to fd that wasn’t ’s also possible to thk you’re gay when you’re actually bi, or thk you’re bi when you’re actually gay, for example.

JAGUARS ASSISTANT KEV MAXEN OUT AS GAY

Your orientatn may change, but that don’t make any ls valid over time, nor do mean you’re wrong or are some people gay? Homophobia — and other forms of bigotry — are alive and well. This uld help you segue to the may fd helpful to start wh somethg like:“After thkg about a lot, I’ve realized that I’m gay.

CAN SOMEONE BE HOMOSEXUAL AND NOT GAY?

Michael Sam beme the first openly gay player to be drafted when the then-St. So when we therapists are nonted wh male clients, often married on, who e to wh ep nflicts about their sexual attractn to other men, we often fd that they are willg to e the word “homosexual, ” but chew the “gay” label.

HER BOYIEND ISN'T GAY OR BI BUT HE IS SUCKG DICKS GLORY HOL

Bee “gay” impli an embracg of the gay liftyle — gay bars, gay pri paras, perhaps multiple sex partners, or even anonymo sex. Unfortunately, much of our natn’s polics have long exacerbated the problem as well, shamg and vilifyg homosexualy, leadg legns of men stgglg wh sexual inty to ternalize their homophobia.

For example, gay men the Mormon fah are moral nflict.

Durg the’90s, I beme a “gay-affirmative therapist. I warned them of the pfalls of keepg their sexual orientatn secret: a life of creased prsn, pursug a secret life the gay unrground wh the danger of beg ught, how attemptg to supprs urg n often e them to bee even more obssed wh them.

PEOPLE THK I'M GAY... BUT I'M NOT

Beg a gay man, I was tryg to brg them to where I was at.

Durg this time, a man don’t see himself as gay, only homosexual. The term gay is too affirmative, and they are not ready to accept . I have treated many men who are of Mormon, Orthodox Jewish, Catholic, and other religns who thk of homosexualy as a pathology.

HOW DO I KNOW I’M NOT REALLY GAY/STRAIGHT?

Their pa is excciatg, but I honor their bravery riskg losg everythg to ensure they have a qualy life as a gay man.

They may need, om time to time, to seek further therapy, but wh the right therapist, one who has thoroughly unrstood the dangers of such practic of “reparative therapy” which the therapist seeks to change the client’s sexual inty om gay to straight. Bee the labels “homosexual” or “gay” rry such a stigma, some of the men seek help for their “sex addictn” and see their homosexualy as an actg out of same-sex urg. Beg homosexual, gay, or havg same-sex attractn is not sex addictn, and should never be treated as such.

Hetero-Emotnal and Homosexual.

HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY

I thk of them as beg hetero-emotnal homosexuals. He says he's not bisexual or gay. However, the amount that he jok about beg gay, givg blowjobs, etc., mak me thk he might be gay or bisexual and is g to terms wh his sexualy.

I wouldn't have any problems wh this—I dated women for ten years prr to him—but he emphatilly swears he's straight and often pots out that he don't like gay porn, he don't like to see gay men beg affectnate, etc.

I'M NOT GAY, BUT I LOVE ANOTHER BOY

But sure, GLORY, this may be a fetishistic sire on your boyiend's part or he uld be the tit b bisexual and this is how your boyiend exprs his ty b of bisexualy and only his unrolved homophobia/biphobia prevents him om nceivg of himself as bisexual.

Or he uld be secretly be a whole lotta gay but suckg dicks glory hol is all the gay he'll allow himself.

I LIKE GUYS BUT I DON’T WANT TO BE GAY. HOW DO I STOP BEG GAY?

Or he uld be one of those non-gay/non-bi guys who lov to suck the ocsnal dick. But the fact your boyiend don't like to see gay men beg affectnate smacks ls of, "Not gay or bi, not at all gay or bi, nothg to see here, " and more of, "Internalized homophobia and other issu and possibly bi or maybe even gay.

So while I want to acknowledge the existence, the lived experience, and the validy of straight boys who like to suck ck but who are no other way attracted to men, this tail—your boyiend's disfort around gay men—uld be a sign that somethg else is gog on wh him. That don't have to mean he's gay or bi.

It was a shty, selfish thg to do and you have a right to be angry about , GLORY, and you aren't obligated to put up wh this sh jt bee he's explorg his sexualy or stgglg wh ternalized homophobia/biphobia. Adam* said was dangero to e out as gay his home untry and feared beg forced to an arranged marriage wh a said he was "so lucky" to wed his soulmate, Ray, Manchter and wish everyone uld marry who they love. There are more than 60 untri wh laws that crimalise same-sex sexual acts acrdg to the Internatnal Lbian, Gay, Bisexual, Trans and Intersex Associatn, cludg Sdi Arabia.

AM I GAY OR BISEXUAL? QUIZ

'Authentilly myself'Ray said he had also stggled growg up gay the 1970s and 80s England, which was "tough" said his relig school "dmmed to you, 'you are gog to hell'" Adam returned home to Sdi Arabia, spe beg more than 3, 000 apart and later rtricted by the Covid-19 panmic, they kept touch daily and the romance years ago, Ray proposed on a vio ll and after succsfully applyg for a UK fiancé visa, Adam moved to Manchter December 2022. Adam said he had been aaid to even wear lours his home untry so the first thg he did when he moved was start to "grow my mullet, got my ears pierced and booked appotments for tattoos" relled how, ntrast, one of his gay iends Sdi had been forced to marry a woman, addg: "It has ed not only his life but the life of his wife.

The uple, who live London, said a "really betiful memory" was on the way home when one of their sons shouted out of the black b wdow to Trafalgar Square, "My dads jt got married" and cheered "Yay, gay marriage". In orr to have doubts about one’s sexual inty, a sufferer need not ever have had a homo- or heterosexual experience, or any type of sexual experience at all.

I'M NOT GAY, BUT

If the sufferer is heterosexual, then the thought may be that they are homosexual. If on the other hand they happen to be homosexual they may obss about the possibily that they might really be straight.

” Some people’s doubts are further plited by havg such experienc as hearg other people talkg or lookg their directn and thkg that the people mt be analyzg their behavr or appearance and talkg about them – discsg how they mt be gay (or straight). For those wh thoughts of beg homosexual, part of the distrs mt surely be social orig.

YOU’RE NOT GAY: HOMOSEXUALY ANXIETY OCD

Let’s face , gay people have always been an opprsed mory wh our culture, and to sudnly thk of beg this posn, and to be stigmatized this way, n be ighteng.

THE GAY-O-METER! ?️‍? LGBTQ QUIZ

I have sometim wonred if those who experience the most distrs om such thoughts as the do so bee they were raised wh more strongly homophobic or anti-gay attus to beg wh, or if is simply bee one’s sexualy n be such a basic doubt.

Lookg at attractive men or women, or pictur of them, or readg sexually oriented lerature or pornography (hetero- or homosexual), to see if they are sexually excg. Observg themselv for evince of “lookg, ” talkg, walkg, drsg, or gturg like someone who is eher gay or straight.

Compulsively reviewg and analyzg past teractns wh other men or women to see if they have acted like a gay or straight person.