By Gregory Col. Greg is a Senr Rearch Fellow at The Center and is the thor of Sgle, Gay, Christian and No Longer Strangers. “Should I e out to the world as a celibate gay Christian?” I get this qutn a lot—and to tell you the tth, I’m pretty leery of answerg . On the one hand, ’s temptg to say an immediate and hearty y. We have a tenncy as human
Contents:
- WHAT’S GOOD ABOUT BEG GAY?: PERSPECTIV OM YOUTH
- 9 ADVANTAGES OF BEING GAY
- THE PROS AND CONS OF LIVG A GAY LIFE THE 21ST CENTURY.NAVIGATG LOVE, LOSS, AND EVERYTHG BETWEEN — A ONE-STOP SHOP FOR THE UPS AND DOWNS OF BEG FABULOLY GAY MORN TIM.NATHAN CHEN·FOLLOW5 M READ·APR 28--SHAREPHOTO BY SHIL NASH ON UNSPLASHHEY THERE, YOU BETIFUL UNIRN! YOU’RE ABOUT TO EMBARK ON A JOURNEY THAT’S AS LORFUL AS YOUR FAVORE PRI FLAG. WE’RE GOG TO DISH THE DIRT ON LIVG THE GAY LIFE THE 21ST CENTURY — THE GOOD, THE BAD, AND THE OH-SO FABULO. SO BUCKLE UP, BUTTERCUP, BEE WE’RE ABOUT TO SPILL SOME SER TEA.PROS:
- SHOULD GAY MARRIAGE BE LEGAL?
- ABOUT THE CENTERSCE 1983 THE CENTER HAS BEEN SUPPORTG, FOSTERG AND CELEBRATG THE LGBT MUNY OF NEW YORK CY. FD MORE RMATN ON AND OUR WORK ABOUT THE CENTER. VIS ABOUT THE CENTEROUR MISSNCYBER CENTERCENTER HISTORYRACE EQUYMEDIA CENTERLEARSHIP & STAFFEMPLOYMENT OPPORTUNICORPORATE PARTNERSHIPSANNUAL REPORTS & FANCIAL INFORMATNCONTACT USHOURS & LOTNSEMAPSUPPORT THE CENTER
- PROS AND NS OF BEG GAY-IENDLY EMPLOYER
- 33 MAJOR PROS & CONS OF GAY MARRIAGE“GAY MARRIAGE ACCEPTANCE IS HAPPENG THE BLK OF AN EYE.”P. J. O’ROURKE, COMEDIANADVANTAG & DISADVANTAG OF GAY MARRIAGE
WHAT’S GOOD ABOUT BEG GAY?: PERSPECTIV OM YOUTH
Hey there, you betiful unirn! You’re about to embark on a journey that’s as lorful as your favore pri flag. We’re gog to dish the dirt on livg the gay life the 21st century — the… * pros to being gay *
This was one of the few studi found to prent riliency strategi veloped by gay/bisexual adolcents to bat negative social and cultural ntug rearch is need on the velopmental challeng faced by LGB adolcents, pecially those who are also members of other opprsed groups such as youth of lor, a parallel le of scientific quiry is also need to explore the strengths and rilienci monstrated by LGB youth.
Such limatns do not allow for a more nuanced unrstandg of the current lived experienc of LGB youth’s inty exploratn procs, as has been seen more recent qualative studi of sexual orientatn inty (Ja, Harper, Fernanz, & the ATN, 2009)The purpose of the current study is to provi sights to the posive nceptualizatns that gay/bisexual male adolcents posss regardg their sexual orientatn inty utilizg qualative phenomenologil and nstctivist ameworks.
9 ADVANTAGES OF BEING GAY
* pros to being gay *
Although we did quire about the full range of perceptns and experienc related to sexual orientatn inty the larger study om which the data were extracted, we chose to foc solely on the posive aspects of posssg a gay/bisexual sexual orientatn inty for the current vtigatn given the lack of empiril data foced specifilly on riliency-related factors among gay/bisexual male adolcents. In orr to take part the study, participants met the followg eligibily creria: 1) be blogilly male; 2) be between the ag of 14 and 22; 3) self-intify as Ain Amerin, Hispanic/Lato, or Whe non-Hispanic/European Amerin; 4) self-intify as gay, bisexual, or qutng; 5) have no knowledge of beg HIV posive; 6) live the Chigo or Miami metropolan area; and 7) read and unrstand English. Um, 's, 's very easy to, to, when you do fd somebody that is, that is very siar to yourself, 's very easy to fd a nnectn wh them bee they've endured a lot of the same hardships that you have and, and you, and 's easy to talk, I feel like 's very easy to talk to somebody else who is gay, bee they've experienced a lot of the same thgs that I have g and velopg their inty.
Exampl of such munal efforts may clu the anizatn of polil ralli and public foms or participatn tnal enavors to discs issu primarily affectg LGBT discsg their sexual inti, many participants scribed exampl of societal margalizatn and discrimatn of gay/bisexual people that is nsistent wh prev rearch (c.
Addnally, unlike past rearch, fdgs monstrated participants’ emphasis on actively ristg discrimatn, which uld serve as another potential pg strategy or source of om this study n be ed to shed light on broar issu of social and cultural ponents of gay/bisexual male adolcents’ sense of self and self-acceptance, which may fluence healthy adolcent velopment. The study’s fdgs offer a clearer unrstandg of how societal msag play a role gay/bisexual male youths’ self perceptns and offer sight to ways to improve the healthy functng of gay/bisexual youth by challengg negative societal fdgs may also offer rmatn for the velopment of mental and physil health promotn programs that emphasize the posive aspects of gay/bisexual sexual orientatn inty, and the role that self acceptance n play promotg healthy thoughts and behavrs.
THE PROS AND CONS OF LIVG A GAY LIFE THE 21ST CENTURY.NAVIGATG LOVE, LOSS, AND EVERYTHG BETWEEN — A ONE-STOP SHOP FOR THE UPS AND DOWNS OF BEG FABULOLY GAY MORN TIM.NATHAN CHEN·FOLLOW5 M READ·APR 28--SHAREPHOTO BY SHIL NASH ON UNSPLASHHEY THERE, YOU BETIFUL UNIRN! YOU’RE ABOUT TO EMBARK ON A JOURNEY THAT’S AS LORFUL AS YOUR FAVORE PRI FLAG. WE’RE GOG TO DISH THE DIRT ON LIVG THE GAY LIFE THE 21ST CENTURY — THE GOOD, THE BAD, AND THE OH-SO FABULO. SO BUCKLE UP, BUTTERCUP, BEE WE’RE ABOUT TO SPILL SOME SER TEA.PROS:
Proponents ntend that gay marriage bans are discrimatory and unnstutnal, opponents ague that marriage is primarily for procreatn. * pros to being gay *
One example of such a program is the Mpowerment Project, which is a wily ed sexual health promotn terventn that clus a foc on enhancg gay/bisexual young men’s acceptance of their sexual orientatn utilizg muny mobilizatn and peer-based strategi orr to addrs unique munal needs and empower s members (Kegel, Hays, & Coat, 1996; Kegel, Hays, Pollack, Coat, 1999) orr for programs to be succsful, dividuals workg wh gay/bisexual dividuals mt be sensive to issu unique to LGB youth populatns.
Furthermore, social service and health re provirs should be aware of muny nnectns that support healthy inty velopment orr to assist adolcents makg cril social support rmatn prented this study advanc our unrstandg of factors that fluence the self-perceptns of sexual orientatn inty among gay/bisexual youth. In addn, this sample was rtricted to male youth; therefore, the life experienc of lbian and bisexual young women were not summary, the current data suggt that spe experienc of LGB-related opprsn and margalizatn, gay/bisexual male youth are able to synthize their experienc orr to nstct a more posive sexual orientatn inty. In addn, studi foced on negative physil and mental health out should strive not only to explore risk factors for such out, but also exame riliency-based factors which may offer sights to how some gay/bisexual youth are able to thrive the face of qualative and quantative rearch foced on the velopment of a posive sexual orientatn inty among gay/bisexual youth is need.
On July 25, 2014 Miami-Da County Circu Court Judge Sarah Zabel led Florida’s gay marriage ban unnstutnal and stated that the ban “serv only to hurt, to discrimate, to prive same-sex upl and their fai of equal digny, to label and treat them as send-class cizens, and to em them unworthy of participatn one of the fundamental stutns of our society.
SHOULD GAY MARRIAGE BE LEGAL?
Unrstand health ncerns for gay men and other men who have sex wh men, and learn how to promote good health. * pros to being gay *
2016 printial ndidate and former Hewlett-Packard CEO Carly Fra stated that civil unns are aquate as an equivalent to marriage: “Benefs are beg btowed to gay upl [ civil unns]… I believe we need to rpect those who believe that the word marriage has a spirual foundatn… Why n’t we rpect and tolerate that while at the same time sayg ernment nnot btow benefs unequally.
Court papers filed July 2014 by attorneys fendg Arizona’s gay marriage ban stated that “the State regulat marriage for the primary purpose of channelg potentially procreative sexual relatnships to endurg unns for the sake of jog children to both their mother and their father… Same-sex upl n never provi a child wh both her blogil mother and her blogil father. Queer activist Anrs Zanichkowsky stated June 2013 that the then mpaign for gay marriage “tentnally and malicly eras and exclus so many queer people and cultur, particularly trans and genr non-nformg people, poor queer people, and queer people non-tradnal fai… marriage thks non-married people are viant and not tly servg of civil rights. Matt Barber, Associate Dean for Onle Programs at Liberty Universy School of Law, stated, “Every dividual engaged the homosexual liftyle, who has adopted a homosexual inty, they know, tuively, that what they’re dog is immoral, unnatural, and self-stctive, yet they thirst for that affirmatn.
ABOUT THE CENTERSCE 1983 THE CENTER HAS BEEN SUPPORTG, FOSTERG AND CELEBRATG THE LGBT MUNY OF NEW YORK CY. FD MORE RMATN ON AND OUR WORK ABOUT THE CENTER. VIS ABOUT THE CENTEROUR MISSNCYBER CENTERCENTER HISTORYRACE EQUYMEDIA CENTERLEARSHIP & STAFFEMPLOYMENT OPPORTUNICORPORATE PARTNERSHIPSANNUAL REPORTS & FANCIAL INFORMATNCONTACT USHOURS & LOTNSEMAPSUPPORT THE CENTER
LGBTQIA+ is an abbreviatn for lbian, gay, bisexual, transgenr, queer or qutng, tersex, asexual, and more. The terms are ed to scribe a person’s sexual orientatn or genr inty. * pros to being gay *
If we fe beg gay as engagg homosexual behavr (the ncept of “gay” as an inty is a Wtern cultural ncept – people who have sex wh both men and women may ll themselv gay, straight or bisexual, pendg on the l of their culture or subculture), then people stop beg gay as soon as they stop engagg this behavr.
If sexual preference n be altered, then people who support gay rights n’t rely on the argument that gay people should be protected om discrimatn bee gay people have no choice but to be gay – an argument that seems like an apology for homosexualy, as if homosexualy is a disease for which there is no cure. Supreme Court cisn favor of gay marriage, society at large still has a way to go to beg a tolerant natn — even though more than 60 percent of Fortune 500 pani offer domtic partner-benefs signed to support gay and lbian people do not realize that employers n discrimate agast gay and lbian dividuals by not hirg them or termatg their employment solely on the basis of their sexual orientatn. This is bee there is no feral legislatn that protects the rights of gay and lbian employe or job seekers such as Tle VII of the Civil Rights Act do for others based on race, genr, sex, relign or natnal lack of such human rights protectn likely ntribut to the stigmatizatn of Gay, Lbian, Bisexual and Transgenr (GLBT), hirg managers n learn om the rults bee they show how the promotn of pany polici may serve as a way to filter tolerant job seekers om their labor pool.
Siarly, recment ads that were perceived to target whe mal alienated racial mori and to rearch and learng om bt practic over time, anizatns now do a better job of puttg programs place to make sure that employe om all racial and ethnic backgrounds feel stctur mt be place to create an environment that is supportive of gay and lbian employe? Thanks to some of the Christian anizatns which lean ultra-nservative and other ultra-nservative outlets, many people believe thgs like beg raised by a gay uple will ‘make the child gay’ and that the child will have some sort of plete experience bee they’ll be lackg a role mol of a each genr.
PROS AND NS OF BEG GAY-IENDLY EMPLOYER
There are mostly advantag to beg a gay-iendly employer, but there some downsis as well * pros to being gay *
Equal rights for everyoneProhibn of gay marriage as outdated historil nstctEqual benefs for all uplGay marriag are part of a morn and tolerant societyCultural valu changed a lot over timePosive health effects for gay uplLower strs levels for self-sex uplDifference between relig and legal marriage should be maCan also be jtified om a legal and nstutnal perspectiveMay be nsired as a human rightCan help that more orphans get adoptedStigmatizatn of adopted children om gay upl n be avoidPeople n live their life to s fulltProhibn of gay marriag would discrimate peoplePeople do no longer have to hi their te natureMany celebri embrace the ia of gay marriageIncreasg number of people nsir gay marriag as normalOne important argument for gay marriag is that everyone our society should have equal rights to do whatever they want to do as long as they do not harm others. However, our nowadays society, there is far ls need for addnal children and same-sex marriage and therefore, the historil reasons why gay marriag had been prohibed the past may be missg our current long as gay upl are not allowed to marry, they will also not get the same benefs as married upl wh different sex. However, this n be nsired to be que unfair sce all marriag should be treated as equally important, which also impli that the benefs for all sorts of upl should be siar or even, allowg gay marriag n also help to improve the accs to benefs for gay general, we often claim to be so tolerant our society while fact, many people are not tolerant at are still many mori that are discrimated agast due to their race, genr and other herent should be handipped due to those herent characteristics and therefore, gay marriag are another step towards a more tolerant, morn and open society that embrac a variety of different liftyl and same-sex marriag would have been unthkable jt a few centuri ago, our cultural valu changed que a fact, people our nowadays society often try new thgs, want to expand their knowledge and their experience and try to really figure out what they want to do wh their, gay marriage would give those people an addnal tool to change the cultural valu our society even further.
Allowg gay marriag would also greatly benef the overall health of gay fact, our current society, many people who have an tert the same sex have to hi their feelgs sce beg gay is still nsired to be tolerable by many people our n lead to ser emotnal nflicts, which may turn to severe mental issu the long n.
However, by allowg gay marriag, the overall level of tolerance our society would likely crease, which would lead to a state where gay upl uld eely live their liftyle whout havg to worry to get physilly or mentally turn, chanc are that this would also greatly improve their overall health gay upl do no longer have to fear gettg attacked by other people, chanc are that also their overall strs levels will drop turn, the people uld enjoy their liv much more whout havg to worry about the opns of others too much anymore. However, the state uld still allow gay marriag om a legal, relign and law uld be separated and gay marriag uld be allowed a non-relig many untri, there are nstutns place which state that everyone our society should have equal rights and should be able to make ee cisns for his or her life.
33 MAJOR PROS & CONS OF GAY MARRIAGE“GAY MARRIAGE ACCEPTANCE IS HAPPENG THE BLK OF AN EYE.”P. J. O’ROURKE, COMEDIANADVANTAG & DISADVANTAG OF GAY MARRIAGE
However, if we allow gay marriag and also give those gay upl adoptn rights, more orphans uld be turn, the overall chanc of those orphans to succeed life uld be creased our current state of the world, the overall level of acceptance towards gay upl is still rather limed many regns of our pla. However, if we allow gay marriag those untri, chanc are that the overall acceptance society would crease and also the social stigma towards self-sex marriag uld be turn, also children who had been adopted by gay upl uld benef sce they would have an easier time school and life far as we know, we only have a sgle life and mak sense that we live our life to s fullt whenever we therefore mak sense to also allow gay marriag so that also gay people n do what they want life and are not rtricted by legal prohibn of gay marriag n also be nsired as a form of ser discrimatn.
However, if ernments those untri allow same-sex marriag, chanc are that the overall level of tolerance towards gay upl would crease turn, people uld show the world who they really are stead of havg to hi their te are also many celebri out there who embrace the ia of gay n be que important orr to improve tolerance towards gay marriage our who currently are agast gay marriage may change their mds if their idols speak up for the allowance of same-sex marriag and our society will bee more tolerant towards alternative liftyl people our current society also nsir gay marriag as part of the lol culture. Dependg on the regn, people do no longer differentiate between straight and gay upl and therefore, there may no longer be a reason to prohib gay marriage at marriage may nflict wh relig beliefsSelf-sex marriage may nflict wh cultural valuMany people still nsir as dodgyWe need children to sta our populatnTolerance towards gay upl is still missgOpponents claim that gay marriage is agast human natureGay marriage may vlate certa tradnsMarriage may lose s importance our societyOpponents of gay marriage claim that is immoralRaisg kids hoeholds wh mother and father works btMay only be the begng of the erosn of cultural nceptsMarriage should be lked to procreatnNot allowed many untri yetSome people rather claim to abandon the ncept of marriage generalSame-sex marriag n be expensive for the stateAcceptance towards gay upl may be lackg even if they are allowed to marryApart om the var advantag of allowg gay marriag, there are still some downsis related to this disadvantage of gay marriage is that this ncept may nflict wh relig beliefs of many sorts. For stance, the bible, gay marriag are not nsired to be the right way to people all over the world are still que relig and take the words of the bible and other scriptur que, those regns, allowg gay marriag may be que problematic sce many people would simply not tolerate this ncept om a relig marriag may also not be le wh historil cultural valu.
In fact, gay marriage was never allowed the history of mankd and opponents of self-sex marriag often claim that we should therefore not allow cultur have not tolerated gay marriag for thoands of years, might make no sense to tolerate those social nstcts our current though the level of tolerance towards mori and also to self-sex marriag has creased que a lot over the past years some regns, there are still untri where the level of tolerance regardg gay marriage is still que low. Another problem of gay marriage is that the human populatn may drop signifintly over the actn of gay upl be too high, chanc are that fewer children will be though this uld be beneficial for our environment to a certa extent, uld also lead to ser problems if we don’t have sufficient children that are borne.