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AGE DIFFERENC GAY COUPL

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As a gay man, I know I should fear the Gay Death--the impendg loss of my youth and sirabily, or whatever, that wh turng 30, but I super don't. Other gay men are not the a while, I hated gay men.

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In an article for The Advote, one queen, fendg hookup apps on their impact on "gay culture" wrote, "Gay men have always hunted for sex, objectified each other, and treated each other poorly. The tth is, the majory of gay men that I've met over the years--whether through iends or through apps--are almost all uniformly amazg. If anythg, beg gay is a gift and so we shouldn't treat each other poorly.

THE CURSE OF AN ATTRACTN TO OLR GAY MEN

Charlie Wei is a sgle and handsome executive. He’s also a closeted gay guy who’s been on way too many bad bld dat wh women. Charlie’s still hung up on his ex-boyiend Jam and is… gasp, 30! Charlie’s fay thks he’s straight and too old to be whout a wife! Durg another bad bld date, Charlie meets the flirty Ethan, who both annoys and trigu him. Can Charlie fally e out and fd te love wh Ethan or will he ntue on his streak of bad bld dat? * gay 30 year old *

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YEP, HE’S GAY

For a brief but wild time the twenti and thirti, an openly gay culture thrived Chigo—a perd historians ll the “Pansy Craze.” Nightclubs and barets drew crowds of homosexuals, lbians, and voyrs—among them, soclogists who dutifully rerd the proceedgs. Recently redisvered rellectns om that era have land the cy the foreont of the small but popular field of gay historil rearch. * gay 30 year old *

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HOW TO EMBRACE AGG AS A GAY MAN

When so many gay men have spent their formative years the closet, ’s difficult to pe the feelg that you need to make up for lost time. * gay 30 year old *

Gay f my primary sexual attractn, whereas queer is my view of the world. When I was first g to terms wh beg gay and what that meant, I immersed myself gay history, gay film, gay lerature.

I saw myself as a gay man, first and foremost, until I realized that's not necsarily how the world saw me. And I also realized, ncurrently, that there was no real "gay muny" to speak of.

9 FAMO GAY MEN WH YOUNGER BOYIENDS: FROM GAY TO {FONT:NORMAL 800 1.2REM/1.2 "D BOLD",SANS-SERIF;TEXT-TRANSFORM:NORMAL;LOR:HER;DISPLAY:LE-BLOCK;PADDG-BOTTOM:6PX;POSN:RELATIVE;TEXT-TRANSFORM:UPPERSE;}{BACKGROUND:#89308A;BOTTOM:0;NTENT:'';DISPLAY:BLOCK;HEIGHT:2PX;LEFT:0;POSN:ABSOLUTE;RIGHT:0;-WEBK-TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;WIDTH:100%;}{LEFT:51%;RIGHT:51%;WIDTH:0;}{FONT:NORMAL 800 1.2REM/1.2 "D BOLD",SANS-SERIF;TEXT-TRANSFORM:NORMAL;LOR:HER;DISPLAY:LE-BLOCK;PADDG-BOTTOM:6PX;POSN:RELATIVE;TEXT-TRANSFORM:UPPERSE;}{BACKGROUND:#89308A;BOTTOM:0;NTENT:'';DISPLAY:BLOCK;HEIGHT:2PX;LEFT:0;POSN:ABSOLUTE;RIGHT:0;-WEBK-TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;WIDTH:100%;}{LEFT:51%;RIGHT:51%;WIDTH:0;}CELEBRIBY ALEXANR STEVENSONJULY 4, 2014/2:00 PMBY ALEXANR STEVENSONJULY 4, 2014 / 2:00 PM{"@NTEXT":","@TYPE":"NEWSARTICLE","HEADLE":"9 FAMO GAY MEN WH YOUNGER BOYIENDS: FROM GAY TO DECEMBER","DATEPUBLISHED":"2014-07-04T18:00:43.000+0000","DATEMODIFIED":"2014-07-04T18:00:43.000+0000","IMAGE":{"@NTEXT":","@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT","WIDTH":1920,"HEIGHT":1080},"URL":","THOR":{"@TYPE":"ORGANIZATN","NAME":"LOGO TV"},"MAENTYOFPAGE":{"@TYPE":"WEBPAGE","@ID":"},"PUBLISHER":{"@TYPE":"ORGANIZATN","@ID":","NAME":"LOGO TV","URL":","LOGO":{"@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT"}},"CREATOR":"ALEXANR STEVENSON","ARTICLESECTN":"CELEBRI"}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}AS GAY CELEBRI BEG TO FEEL MORE FORTABLE BEG OPEN ABOUT THEIR RELATNSHIPS, WE'RE SEEG THEY'RE NOT ALL THAT DIFFERENT OM STRAIGHT STARS, WHO OFTEN DATE MUCH YOUNGER THAN THEIR {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}WHEN WE LEARNED TOM DALEY’S NEW BOYIEND WAS NONE OTHER THAN OSR-WNG SCREENWRER DT LANCE BLACK, GAY TONGU STARTED WAGGG ABOUT THE UPLE’S 20-YEAR AGE GAP. OF URSE, DALEY ISN’T YOUR TYPIL 19-YEAR-OLD, AND DLB LOOKS LIKE A LN BUCKS—BUT GOT THKG ABOUT OTHER HIGH-PROFILE GAY ROMANC WH A SIGNIFINT AGE DIFFERENCE. DO SOME EXTRA EAGE ON THE ODOMETER MEAN ANYTHG WHEN YOU’RE LOVE?{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}IF THE NE UPL BELOW ARE ANY DITN, THE ANSWER IS “Y, NO, AND MAYBE.”{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}GERALD MCCULLOUCH AND DERRICK {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THE STORYBOOK ROMANCE: GORDON, 22, IS THE FIRST OPENLY GAY BASKETBALL PLAYER THE NCAA. MCCULLOUCH, 47,  IS A FORMER ST MEMBER OF CSI AND APPEARED THE DIE GAY EDY BEAR CY. THE TWO WENT PUBLIC WH THEIR RELATNSHIP AT THE NYC GLAAD MEDIA AWARDS MAY. “A NIGHT THAT I WILL NEVER FET AND A NIGHT THAT I DIDN'T WANT TO END,” GORDON TWEETED ABOUT THE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}DID THEY LIVE HAPPILY EVER AFTER? LETS GIVE THE KIDS A CHANCE!{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}TOM DALEY AND DT LANCE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THE STORYBOOK ROMANCE: DALEY, 20, ME OUT A HEARTFELT YOUTUBE VIO LAST YEAR, DITG WAS LOVE THAT SPARKED HIS NEWFOUND OPENNS. INIALLY HE AVOID NAMG NAM, BUT HE AND BLACK, 40, STARTED POPPG UP ON EACH OTHERS SOCIAL MEDIA, AND WH MONTHS STEPPED OUT AS A UPLE. THE MILK SCREENWRER HAS EVEN BEEN TO ENGLAND TO SPEND CHRISTMAS WH DALEY AND HIS {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}DID THEY LIVE HAPPILY EVER AFTER: THGS ARE LOOKG {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}CALV KLE AND NICK {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THE STORYBOOK ROMANCE: THE FASHN SIGNER WAS 67  2010, WHEN HE BEGAN DATG GBER, A 20 YEAR OLD MOL WH A GAY-PORN PAST. KLE THREW A MORE-LAVISH-THAN-LAVISH 21ST BIRTHDAY PART FOR HIS BOYTOY AT INDOCHE, A STUD 54-THEMED BASH FEATURG GUTS LIKE ANNA WTOUR, DONNA KARAN AND VERA WANG AND A KE WH 21 {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}DID THEY LIVE HAPPILY EVER AFTER? NOT QUE. KLE FALLY END THGS AFTER GBER WAS ARRTED FOR ASSLT AND DG POSSSN. IT LOOKED LIKE THEY REKDLED THE AFFAIR LAST SUMMER, BUT NOTHG ME OF {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}AFTER BEG TOSSED OUT OF THE ASCENSN PARTY ON FIRE ISLAND 2013, GBER NOW CLAIMS HE’S NOT {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}NATE BERK AND JEREMIAH {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THE STORYBOOK ROMANCE: INTERR SIGNER/TV PERSONALY BERK, 42, LOST HIS BOYIEND FERNANDO BENGOECHEA DURG THE  TSUNAMIS THAT VASTATED SOUTH ASIA 2004. BUT HE FOUND LOVE AGA 2012 WH TWENTYSOMETHG BRENT, A FORMER ASSISTANT TO RACHEL {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}DID THEY LIVE HAPPILY EVER AFTER? HOPEFULLY Y. THE UPLE MARRIED EARLIER THIS {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}T.R. KNIGHT AND MARK {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THE STORYBOOK ROMANCE: THE FORMER GREY’S ANATOMY STAR WAS 35 WHEN HE STARTED DATG THE 19-YEAR-OLD STUNT. “IT’S BOUND TO RAISE SOME EYEBROWS,” KNIGHT ADMTED TO EXTRA AT THE TIME. “BUT WE LOVE EACH OTHER.  [MARK] IS AN AMAZG GUY. I LOVE BEG AROUND HIM I LOVE WHAT WE HAVE.”{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}DID THEY LIVE HAPPILY EVER AFTER? ALAS, NO. WHETHER WAS THE AGE DIFFERENCE OR SOMETHG ELSE, THE GUYS EVENTUALLY SPL AND KNIGHT BEGAN SEEG PATRICK LEAHY 2010. THE UPLE MARRIED OCTOBER 2013 AFTER THREE YEARS OF {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}MARC JABS AND HARRY {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THE STORYBOOK ROMANCE: WHAT IS ABOUT SIGNERS AND PORN STARS? JABS, OIME HEAD OF LOUIS VUTON, STARTED A HEATED ROMANCE WH BRAZILIAN ADULT-FILM ACTOR HARRY LOUIS, SPE THEIR 26-YEAR AGE DIFFERENCE. THE TWOSOME’S URTSHIP WAS CHRONICLED NUMERO INSTAGRAM PICS AND TWTER UPDAT TAKEN EXOTIC {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}DID THEY LIVE HAPPILY EVER AFTER? TE TO FORM, LOUIS TOOK TO INSTAGRAM TO ANNOUNCE HIS AND JABS’ SPL WH A PHOTO OF THE UPLE DONE UP LIKE A SHATTERED PICTURE AME. “ME AND MARC HAVE CID NOT RRY ON WH OUR RELATNSHIP AS BOYIENDS,” HE POSTED WH THE IMAGE. “WE LOVE EACH OTHER VERY MUCH, AND THAT WAS A CISN OM BOTH!”{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}OF URSE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;DISPLAY:-WEBK-BOX;DISPLAY:-WEBK-FLEX;DISPLAY:-MS-FLEXBOX;DISPLAY:FLEX;-WEBK-BOX-PACK:CENTER;-WEBK-JTIFY-NTENT:CENTER;-MS-FLEX-PACK:CENTER;JTIFY-NTENT:CENTER;} .TWTER-TWEET-RENRED, {M-WIDTH:65%;WIDTH:TO !IMPORTANT;} {WIDTH:100%;} {MARG-LEFT:TO !IMPORTANT;MARG-RIGHT:TO !IMPORTANT;} IMG{MAX-WIDTH:100%;WIDTH:100%;} > IAME{BORR:NONE;MAX-WIDTH:100%;} > *{MAX-WIDTH:NONE !IMPORTANT;}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}CHEYENNE JACKSON AND JASON {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THE STORYBOOK ROMANCE: JACKSON’S SPL OM HIS PARTNER OF 13 YEARS, MONTE LAPKA, WENT PUBLIC WHEN PHOTOS OF THE 30 ROCK STAR WH A SHAVED HEAD AND LOTS OF NEW TATTOOS EMERGED ONLE.  AFTER MOVG TO WT HOLLYWOOD, JACKSON, 39, QUICKLY FOUND NEW LOVE WH THE YOUNGER LAND, AN ASPIRG {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}DID THEY LIVE HAPPILY EVER AFTER? IF JACKSON’S ALLEGED SEX TAPE IS TO BELIEVED, THEN HELL {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}CHRISTOPHER ISHERWOOD AND DON {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THE STORYBOOK ROMANCE: ISHERWOOD, ONE OF THE GREAT CHRONICLERS OF 20TH CENTURY GAY LIFE, WAS 48 WHEN HE MET 18-YEAR-OLD BACHARDY ON VALENTE’S DAY 1953. THE 30-YEAR AGE GAP RAISED EYEBROWS, AS DID BACHARDY’S REPUTATN AS A HTLER. BUT THEIR RELATNSHIP HELPED THE TWO MEN FLOURISH EMOTNALLY AND CREATIVELY—BACHARDY EVEN SPIRED ISHERWOOD’S A SGLE MAN: “WE’D BEEN TOGETHER 10 YEARS. I WAS MAKG A LOT OF TROUBLE AND WONRG IF I SHOULDN’T BE ON MY OWN," RELLS BACHARDY. "CHRIS WAS GOG THROUGH A VERY DIFFICULT PERD [AS WELL]. SO HE KILLED OFF MY CHARACTER, JIM, THE BOOK AND IMAGED WHAT HIS LIFE WOULD BE WHOUT ME.”{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}DID THEY END UP HAPPILY EVER AFTER? DPE AFFAIRS, ARGUMENTS AND SEPARATNS, BACHARDY AND ISHERWOOD REMAED TOGETHER  UNTIL ISHERWOOD’S ATH 1986. BACHARDY STILL LIV THE SANTA MONI HOME THEY SHARED FOR {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}LIBERACE AND STT {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THE STORYBOOK ROMANCE: LIBERACE WAS 57 WHEN HE HIRED THORSON, 18, TO BE HIS DRIVER THE LATE 1970S AND EMBARKED ON A FIVE-YEAR ROMANCE FULL OF LAVISH PRENTS, EXOTIC VATNS… AND CREEPY PLASTIC SURGERY. THE CLOSETED ENTERTAER EVEN MANAGED TO SHOEHORN THORSON TO HIS VEGAS ACT AS A DANCER. DID THEY LIVE HAPPILY EVER AFTER? UM, DID YOU SEE BEHD THE CANLABRA?{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}JONATHAN ADLER AND SIMON {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THE STORYBOOK ROMANCE: THOUGH NOW KNOWN AS THE KG OF KSCHY TERR RATG ADLER WAS A YOUNG SCULPTOR WHEN HE MET DOONAN, HEAD MERCHANDISER FOR BARNEY’S, ON A BLD DATE 1994. “THE BLOKE WHO SET UP JT HAD SOME TUN THAT WE WOULD H OFF ,” DOONANRELLED  THE NEW YORK TIM. “BUT HE BADGERED ME WH LOTS OF DIRECT QUTNS,” MR. DOONAN SAID. “IN ENGLAND PEOPLE WOULDN’T ASK A LOT OF DIRECT QUTNS.” THEY WED 2008 AFTER 14 YEARS TOGETHER. DID THEY LIVE HAPPILY EVER AFTER? AFTER NEARLY 20 YEARS AS THE SIGN WORLD’S POWER GAY COUPLE, WE’D SAY {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}HADRIAN AND {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THE STORYBOOK ROMANCE:  ANTO BEME PART OF THE ENTOURAGE OF EMPEROR HADRIAN WHEN HE WAS STILL A BOY, BUT AT SOME POT THEIR RELATNSHIP TURNED SEXUAL. HADRIAN MARRIED AN ARISTOCRAT, VIBIA SABA, 100AD BUT THE UPLE HAD NO CHILDREN. (HIS HEIRS WERE ALL ADOPTED.) DID THEY LIVE HAPPILY EVER AFTER? TRAGILLY, ANTO DROWNED THE NILE 130 AD, SENDG HADRIAN TO NSOLABLE GRIEF. HE ORRED THE GREEK YOUTH IFIED AS A GOD AND NAMED THE EGYPTIAN CY ANTOPOLIS HIS MEMORY. ARCHAEOLOGIST RJA WILSON WROTE THAT HADRIAN “TURNED TO [GREEK SCULPTORS] TO PERPETUATE THE MELANCHOLY BETY, DIFFINT MANNER, AND LHE AND SENSUO AME OF HIS BOYIEND ANTO” WHAT HAS BEEN SCRIBED AS “THE LAST PENNT CREATN OF GRE-ROMAN ART.”{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;CLEAR:BOTH;}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;MARG:0 TO;WIDTH:90%;M-WIDTH:288PX;MAX-WIDTH:1440PX;M-HEIGHT:194PX;}LATT NEWS

That was somethg that existed before people were out and ee to be who they were and when beg gay or straight were the only choic.

A GAY MAN AT MIDLIFE PONRS BEG LONELY AND ‘INVISIBLE’

I had to get over beg gay orr to embrace the other facets of my inty and of my personaly.

*BEAR-MAGAZINE.COM* GAY 30 YEAR OLD

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