14 Ways To Defeat Your Fears of Beg Gay

Contents:

• HOCD – HOMOSEXUAL OCD OR THE FEAR OF BEG GAY
• YOU’RE NOT GAY: HOMOSEXUALY ANXIETY OCD
• 'HOMOSEXUAL OCD': STRAIGHT MEN WHO SPECT THEY ARE GAY
• I'M AAID THAT I'M GAY
• MEET THE STRAIGHT MEN WHO ARE TERRIFIED THEY ARE GAY

HOCD – HOMOSEXUAL OCD OR THE FEAR OF BEG GAY

“HOCD”, short for “Homosexual OCD”, is the term ed for a theme of Obssive Compulsive Disorr which the sufferer has obssns—unwanted tsive thoughts—surroundg their sexual orientatn. I will be g the term “HOCD” throughout this article to discs obssns of those who intify as heterosexual and have relentls doubts about whether or not they are gay. A more reprentative way to scribe the obssns is “Sexual Orientatn OCD” bee OCD n latch onto anyone’s sexualy, whether that be someone who intifi as gay or queer or asexual.

Furthermore, as sexual obssns of OCD n be about perverse ntent (fear that one is a pedophile or unwanted thoughts about ct), the term “Homosexual OCD” impli that homosexualy is perverse. The way many clients scribe is that they had a good sense of their heterosexual orientatn and then randomly had an tsive thought such as “what if you’re gay? HOCD is not to be misnsted wh nial or sexual reprsn, as those who are reprsg their te sexualy know that they are attracted to the same sex but ph away, often due to shame that om livg a heteronormative and homophobic world.

It is a touchy subject among OCD sufferers and therapists alike who proclaim that HOCD is not homophobia. While HOCD is not sexual reprsn, is not accurate to say that every person wh HOCD is not homophobic. “I have HOCD and I’m not homophobic but I would tell my kid that they should not act on their sir if they were gay.

YOU’RE NOT GAY: HOMOSEXUALY ANXIETY OCD

“I have HOCD and jt bee I am not fortable wh or don’t agree wh one’s sexual preference don’t make me homophobic.

All of the people above may have HOCD but that do not erase the blatant homophobia. It is important to weed out what is what bee addn to hurtg the LGBTQIA+ muny, ternalized homophobia may be keepg those wh HOCD further stuck. An OCD specialist n addrs unrlyg, or sometim overt, homophobia by askg the sufferer why their tsive thoughts bother them so much.

It is important to note that not everyone wh HOCD is homophobic and that the tsive thoughts are not a choice. It is equally important to acknowledge homophobia that is prent among some OCD sufferers bee nyg the existence of homophobia perpetuat s existence.

'HOMOSEXUAL OCD': STRAIGHT MEN WHO SPECT THEY ARE GAY

The realy is that we live a very heteronormative world, which is reflected through mastream media showsg heterosexual relatnships, lack of diversy polics, relig groups that nounce homosexualy and claim—wh zero evince—that gay folks will go to hell, and laws that enable discrimatn agast the LGBTQIA+ muny. While may not be the dividual’s flt for ternalizg homophobia, is up to them to undo what has been tght—OCD sufferer or not.

OCD specialists spend a lot of time advotg for and protectg the OCD muny, which is why so many are quick to note that HOCD is not homophobia. Instead of sayg is the “fear of beg gay when one is straight”, scribe for what really is: the fear of not knowg one’s te sexual orientatn. Changg the language we e and ensurg that homophobia is not reflected our practic will protect the OCD muny as a whole.

People who experience homosexual OCD may experience obssns surroundg the uncertaty of their attractn or potential attractn to people of their same genr. In the past, some have ed the term “Homosexual OCD” to refer to them wh Sexual Orientatn OCD that volve doubts or tsive thoughts about attractn to people of the same genr, ntrary to one’s own inty. People who experience homosexual them Sexual Orientatn OCD may experience obssns surroundg the uncertaty of their attractn or potential attractn to people of their same genr.

I'M AAID THAT I'M GAY

Homosexual OCD do not mean that someone is aaid of beg attracted to people of the same genr, but rather that they are aaid of the uncertaty they feel about their own inty and sir. How n I tell if ’s OCD fear of beg gay, and not normal qutng of my sexual orientatn?

Someone wh homosexual them Sexual Orientatn OCD is not necsarily aaid of havg one sexual orientatn or another; rather, their abily to feel sure of their own sexualy and inty signifint distrs.

Guilt or shame n pop up for someone wh homosexual OCD if they are a heterosexual relatnship and feel rponsible for potentially wastg their partner’s time or g them grief if they e to the realizatn down the le they are fact gay, lbian, or queer. Homosexual them Sexual Orientatn OCD n lead people to overanalyze unwanted physil sensatns they experience rponse to stimuli om the same genr, and terpretg this sensatn to be a “sign” that they actually are nial of their sexualy. When people wh fear of beg gay experience tsive thoughts, imag, feelgs, or urg that e distrs, they may engage pulsns, both physil and mental.

MEET THE STRAIGHT MEN WHO ARE TERRIFIED THEY ARE GAY

Homosexual OCD n be bilatg for people who stggle wh them, but all forms of OCD are highly treatable. There are many gay men who say "I'm not part of the scene" -- men who hate gay bars and, prumably, crowds of queer people general. Internalized homophobia -- self-shamg, self-hatred -- leads many gay men, and many queer people general, to recreate their closets long after they're "out" by shunng others, particularly those they nsir "flamboyant.

" Y, there are some good reasons to rce your participatn gay bars (time, money, health). But you mt spend time wh others, whether that means havg a group of gay movie iends or queer gamers or playg on a gay sports team. This parable piece by lbian wrer Sarah Prager go through the lp of great gays who changed the world -- om ventor Alan Turg to Tchaikovsky, the poser, to the Renaissance pater and ventor Leonardo da Vci.