When you’re a gay man, agg is plited.
Contents:
- I’M 43 – BUT I’M MA TO FEEL LIKE A DOSR BY YOUNGER GAY MEN
- DWIGHT HOWARD SUED BY MAN CLAIMG NBA STAR FORCED HIM TO HAVE GAY THREOME
- JAGUARS ACH OUT AS GAY A FIRST FOR U.S.-BASED PRO LEAGU
- GAY MEN AND AGG
- VATNS FOR GAY MEN OVER 40 YEARS OLD
I’M 43 – BUT I’M MA TO FEEL LIKE A DOSR BY YOUNGER GAY MEN
‘In gay years, you’re rather past your sell-by date, aren’t you?’ the person ont of me said, raisg an eyebrow. * gay man over 40 *
As his name suggts, Otterj draws his greatt spiratn om the slenr, hairy, beard, and often tattooed gay male subculture known as otters -- but not exclively. The men his photographs are unabashed exhibnists lookg for a place to f to a gay culture that has creasgly turned s back on a sexually aware world where leather and cisg are forms of liberatn.
My stat the gay guy world had changed, and that was jt how was gog to be. Where was the show that I uld intify wh, the one about gay men their 40s still tryg to figure out life and s twists and turns, ups and downs, surpris and disappotments? I uldn't fd anythg alg wh issu to which I uld then I thought about all of my 40-somethg gay iends and how they all led very different liv om me and each other's as well.
So, along wh my wrg partner John Sobrack (a fellow gay filmmaker, married and his 40s), I created The New 30 -- a digal seri about a group of diverse gay iends navigatg their 40s and disverg that life isn't nearly what they imaged would be at that age. It explor some of the real issu of beg gay and your 40s, such as erectile dysfunctn, tergeneratnal and terracial datg, baby adoptn, open marriag, adaptg to technology, physil challeng of agg, alg wh the past, planng for the future, and havg to start over, to name a few -- all handled serly and dramatilly but wh a touch of humor. I've learned 's OK to be gay and your 40s and not have your life all figured out.
DWIGHT HOWARD SUED BY MAN CLAIMG NBA STAR FORCED HIM TO HAVE GAY THREOME
Kev Maxen, an associate strength ach wh the Jacksonville Jaguars, has bee the first male ach a major U.S.-based profsnal league to e out as gay. * gay man over 40 *
In one msage, Howard explas that he’s not gay, he’s “j alil nasty sometim. Harper and Howard, who has never intified as gay or bisexual, met on social media and arranged to have sex.
Now I want you to know I’m not gay or anythg. Adam* said was dangero to e out as gay his home untry and feared beg forced to an arranged marriage wh a said he was "so lucky" to wed his soulmate, Ray, Manchter and wish everyone uld marry who they love. There are more than 60 untri wh laws that crimalise same-sex sexual acts acrdg to the Internatnal Lbian, Gay, Bisexual, Trans and Intersex Associatn, cludg Sdi Arabia.
JAGUARS ACH OUT AS GAY A FIRST FOR U.S.-BASED PRO LEAGU
* gay man over 40 *
'Authentilly myself'Ray said he had also stggled growg up gay the 1970s and 80s England, which was "tough" said his relig school "dmmed to you, 'you are gog to hell'" Adam returned home to Sdi Arabia, spe beg more than 3, 000 apart and later rtricted by the Covid-19 panmic, they kept touch daily and the romance years ago, Ray proposed on a vio ll and after succsfully applyg for a UK fiancé visa, Adam moved to Manchter December 2022. Adam said he had been aaid to even wear lours his home untry so the first thg he did when he moved was start to "grow my mullet, got my ears pierced and booked appotments for tattoos" relled how, ntrast, one of his gay iends Sdi had been forced to marry a woman, addg: "It has ed not only his life but the life of his wife.
The uple, who live London, said a "really betiful memory" was on the way home when one of their sons shouted out of the black b wdow to Trafalgar Square, "My dads jt got married" and cheered "Yay, gay marriage". -based profsnal league to e out as gay. Michael Sam beme the first openly gay player to be drafted when the then-St.
GAY MEN AND AGG
Wele to the only podst explorg the mss, awomens, of masculy of beg a gay man over 40. Each episo is about sparkg ia, addrsg challeng, and divg ep to what looks like to be a vulnerable gay guy. We talk about the stuff gay guys have a hard time talkg ab… * gay man over 40 *
The gay culture is unfivg of agg. Many gay men will have endured homophobic bullyg at school whilst teachers turned a bld eye; havg parents not unrstandg or acceptg their sexual orientatn; or a difficult and paful g out procs. In the here and now, there is still much homophobia our society: beg looked at an timidatg or shamg way when holdg their same-sex partner’s hand the streets; hearg homophobic people makg plats when gay characters appear on televisn; beg asked appropriate sexual qutns at a party that would never be asked to a heterosexual person; havg to refully select a holiday statn that is gay-iendly.
This is what we ll "mory strs, " the chronic strs that occurs every day for beg gay a heterosexual world. As a rult, gay men (and others the LGBTQ muni) have to velop a shield to protect themselv.
VATNS FOR GAY MEN OVER 40 YEARS OLD
One way that gay men n create a sense of safety and protect themselv agast more woundg is by feelg wanted and sexually sired, which wh lookg perfect, showg no signs of vulnerabili and beg young. For gay men, for some reason, 40 years of age seems to be the thrhold when gay men flip om beg sirable and sexy to beg visible and even sometim an object of disgt.