How One Mother’s Love for Her Gay Son Started a Revolutn | The New Yorker

Contents:

• GAY MEN AND THEIR MOTHERS: IS THERE A SPECIAL CLOSENS?
• ‘I LOVE A MAMA’S BOY’ FANS ARE CONVCED MATT IS GAY
• ‘I LOVE A MAMA’S BOY’ FANS DOUBLE DOWN ON MATT BEG GAY
• WHY DO GAY MEN TEND TO HAVE CLOSER RELATNSHIPS WH THEIR MOMS STEAD OF THEIR DADS?
• HOW ONE MOTHER’S LOVE FOR HER GAY SON STARTED A REVOLUTN
• MOM'S GEICS COULD PRODUCE GAY SONS

GAY MEN AND THEIR MOTHERS: IS THERE A SPECIAL CLOSENS?

This was found to be te for many of the mothers and sons I terviewed for the study scribed the book: Comg Out, Comg Home: Helpg Fai Adjt to a Gay or Lbian Child (). Neverthels, this closens uld have a downsi, at least temporarily, as many mothers ially blame themselv and the close relatnships for their sons' homosexualy. So, perhaps is not pletely surprisg that once they learned their sons were gay, some of the mothers I terviewed felt that they had done somethg to damage them.

‘I LOVE A MAMA’S BOY’ FANS ARE CONVCED MATT IS GAY

Even though rearch sce the 1950's has bunked , this theory persists people's mds and rears s ugly head for mothers when they ially learn their sons are gay. Fortunately, for many mothers of gay son—wh time and tn, they learn that the ia that they had somehow ma their son gay is ad wrong This was te of the mothers my study who also me to see the benefs havg a gay son as will be scribed later this post. My rearch, clil and personal experienc suggt that there is ed a al lk between male homosexualy and a close maternal relatnship but flows the oppose directn than what was prevly thought.

The young gay mal this study relled sharg terts mon wh their mothers, such as fashn and okg, and were also sensive to their feelgs.

I thk personally [beg gay] ma me a more emotnal person, more sensive, more touch wh both the male and female sis of myself, but allowg me to even acknowledge that other si ma me closer to my mother. Once mothers this study got over their feelgs of guilt and got ed to the ia that their sons were gay, they were able to regnize the benefs of havg a gay son.

‘I LOVE A MAMA’S BOY’ FANS DOUBLE DOWN ON MATT BEG GAY

However, we get to hot water when we allow stereotyp to get the way of unrstandg the uniquens of dividuals and their circumstanc—so is important to remember that not all mothers and gay sons are close. Sadly, some mothers simply nnot adjt to their sons' homosexualy, due to their guilt, relig ncerns, or abily to "let go" and accept the ways they live their liv.

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WHY DO GAY MEN TEND TO HAVE CLOSER RELATNSHIPS WH THEIR MOMS STEAD OF THEIR DADS?

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HOW ONE MOTHER’S LOVE FOR HER GAY SON STARTED A REVOLUTN

” Borrowg om the theori of Amerin psychiatrist and gay activist Richard Isay, LeVay thks 's possible that some pre-homosexual boys exhib certa tras fathers dislike but mothers like.

In my own life as a “gay” man, the scenar I repeatedly wnsed was the son of fdg or divorced parents, whereby the boy be nfidant and “girliend” to the bter and sufferg mother.

MOM'S GEICS COULD PRODUCE GAY SONS

“… 's te that we all have wildly different relatnships wh our parents and plenty of gay men spend jt as much time worryg about his reactn. “I thk that the story of my relatnship wh my mother Mama Jean is universal no matter what age you are, whether you're 50 or 15, that the parent/child relatnship is universal, that the mother/son relatnship is universal, and that the mother/gay son relatnship is universal.

Though my mother was what some nsir to be a stereotypil “gay” mother, domant, overbearg, but certaly that type of mother will always exist, and the mon dynamic between mothers of gay sons…I believe that gay men and straight women have a natural affy for each other, and I thk that dynamic starts wh the mother. Bee I thk gay men are touch wh the feme sis of ourselv, and we're tune wh that wh our mothers a way that a straight son is not and a different way that a straight dghter would not be.

We don't do stereotypil gay-son-and-mum thgs such as shoppg, but I'm a sensive person, and Mum feels fortable tellg me anythg…I told Mum…and she gave me a big hug.