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What is like to have a gay siblg?

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MATTHEW RHYS ON HIS 'REHG' GAY CHARACTER ON 'BROTHERS & SISTERS'

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When actor Matthew Rhys was dng for the role of "Kev Walker, " a man who intifi as gay, ABC's " Brothers & Sisters, " he told HuffPost Live was a "rehg" character for him to enunter.

He was one of the siblgs who happened to be gay and he was so clear about that. Before You GoFavore Gay TV CouplYou May Like. What is like to have a siblg who is gay or lbian?

BROTHERS AND SISTERS OF GAYS AND LBIANS

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Based on the ltle b of rmatn available, seems that siblgs may share the stigma of their gay brothers and lbian sisters. They may have to pe wh tnts om peers, which clu accatns that they, too, are gay. In my own study of 65 gay youth and their fai, young Ain-Amerin men talked about how their brothers and other male relativ felt they were addg to society's already negative image of black manhood.

Like parents, their brothers also felt they had to fd ways to handle their peers' homophobic ments and behavrs. Si by Si: On Havg a Gay or Lbian Siblg by Andrew Gottlieb is a sensive, sightful anthology nsistg of says wrten by siblgs of lbians and gays who discs how they, too, bee objects of abe and tolerance, sharg the stigma of their gay siblgs. However, like some fortunate parents, people who learn their siblgs are lbian or gay n fd ways to grow and ga new perspectiv.

Several of the ntributors to this volume discsed how they formed pecially close bonds wh their gay brothers and sisters and, like some of the parents my study, veloped new, more tolerant worldviews that enriched their liv.

BROTHERS AND SISTERS REP: THE GAY DIVORCEE

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The pcy of available rmatn about siblgs of gay and lbian youth do not mean their issu are small or unimportant.

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WHY STTY'S AFFAIR ON "BROTHERS & SISTERS" IS SOMETHG TO CHEER {FONT:NORMAL 800 1.2REM/1.2 "D BOLD",SANS-SERIF;TEXT-TRANSFORM:NORMAL;LOR:HER;DISPLAY:LE-BLOCK;PADDG-BOTTOM:6PX;POSN:RELATIVE;TEXT-TRANSFORM:UPPERSE;}{BACKGROUND:#89308A;BOTTOM:0;NTENT:'';DISPLAY:BLOCK;HEIGHT:2PX;LEFT:0;POSN:ABSOLUTE;RIGHT:0;-WEBK-TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;WIDTH:100%;}{LEFT:51%;RIGHT:51%;WIDTH:0;}{FONT:NORMAL 800 1.2REM/1.2 "D BOLD",SANS-SERIF;TEXT-TRANSFORM:NORMAL;LOR:HER;DISPLAY:LE-BLOCK;PADDG-BOTTOM:6PX;POSN:RELATIVE;TEXT-TRANSFORM:UPPERSE;}{BACKGROUND:#89308A;BOTTOM:0;NTENT:'';DISPLAY:BLOCK;HEIGHT:2PX;LEFT:0;POSN:ABSOLUTE;RIGHT:0;-WEBK-TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;WIDTH:100%;}{LEFT:51%;RIGHT:51%;WIDTH:0;}TVBY AYMAR JEAN CHRISTIANNOVEMBER 1, 2010/2:00 PMBY AYMAR JEAN CHRISTIANNOVEMBER 1, 2010 / 2:00 PM{"@NTEXT":","@TYPE":"NEWSARTICLE","HEADLE":"WHY STTY'S AFFAIR ON \"BROTHERS & SISTERS\" IS SOMETHG TO CHEER ABOUT","DATEPUBLISHED":"2010-11-01T18:00:53.000+0000","DATEMODIFIED":"2010-11-01T18:00:53.000+0000","IMAGE":{"@NTEXT":","@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT","WIDTH":1920,"HEIGHT":1080},"URL":","THOR":{"@TYPE":"ORGANIZATN","NAME":"LOGO TV"},"MAENTYOFPAGE":{"@TYPE":"WEBPAGE","@ID":"},"PUBLISHER":{"@TYPE":"ORGANIZATN","@ID":","NAME":"LOGO TV","URL":","LOGO":{"@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT"}},"CREATOR":"AYMAR JEAN CHRISTIAN","KEYWORDS":"THE BACKLOT","ARTICLESECTN":"TV"}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}STTY'S A CHEATER? THANKS, ABC! NO, SERLY!{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}GAY FANS OF BROTHERS & SISTERS ARE PROBABLY BREATHG A SIGH OF RELIEF AFTER THE LAST TWO EPISOS OF THE ABC DRAMA. WHY? IT’S NOT NECSARILY BEE BELOVED CHARACTERS KEV WALKER (MATTHEW RHYS)AND STTY WANLL (LE MACFARLANE) ARE PROBABLY GOG TO AVOID AN ADULTERY-SPURRED {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}IT’S BEE THE RIFT HAS FALLY GIVG STTY SOMETHG TO DO, AND THEREBY MA THE CHARACTERS MUCH MORE PLEX AND TERTG. (ACTUALLY, THE SAME ULD BE SAID OF THEIR RELATNSHIP.){BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}AS STTY SAID LAST NIGHT’S EPISO, “I’M JT AS LOST AND DAMAGED AND SCREWED UP AS THE RT OF YOU. I’M NOT PERFECT KEV, I’M NOT PERFECT!”{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}HE MIGHT AS WELL HAVE BEEN SPEAKG FOR FANS WHO’VE BEEN DYG FOR THE DUO TO GET PAST THE WORK TELEVISN TROPE OF THE PERFECT GAY {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THERE HAVE BEEN ENOUGH GAY CHARACTERS ON TELEVISN NOW FOR THERE TO BE A SER PETN OVER WHICH ON ARE MORE NUANCED AND TERTG THAN OTHERS. BUT WHILE DOZENS OF GAY CHARACTERS HAVE FLOOD TELEVISN SCE THE 1990S, GAY UPL ARE RARER, GAY MARRIED UPL ARE RARER STILL, AND GAY MARRIED UPL WH SER PROBLEMS, A WEEKLY STAPLE FOR STRAIGHTS THAT KEEP FANS WATCHG TO SEE WHAT HAPPENS NEXT, ARE ALMOST {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}GIVEN THIS WEEK'S EVENTS ON B&S, SHOULD SEEM OBV TO ANYONE WHO HAS FOLLOWED THE PROGRSN OF GAYS ON TELEVISN THAT KEV AND STTY ARE POISED TO BEE THE MOST TERTG GAY UPLE ON OUR {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}NETWORK TV AND THE WILL & GRACE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}WHY HAS TAKEN SO LONG TO GET A GAY “MARRIED” UPLE (OR AT LEAST PARTNERED, SCE SAME-SEX MARRIAGE HASN’T BEEN LEGAL THAT LONG AND IS STILL ALLOWED ONLY A HANDFUL OF STAT) ON WORK TELEVISN WHO ARE ALG WH A SER PROBLEM THEIR MARRIAGE?{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}NETWORK TELEVISN REALLY ONLY STARTED G GAY CHARACTERS ON TELEVISN THE 1990S, MOSTLY AS A PLOY TO GET THE UPSLE, URBAN GAY DIENC THAT WERE CREASGLY TURN TO BLE. THOSE BLE CHANNELS, SUCH AS HBO AND SHOWTIME, HAD STARTED TO CREATE ORIGAL PROGRAMMG THAT RIVALED THE BROADST WORKS, FORCG THE BIG FOUR TO ADD GREATER DIVERSY TO THEIR SCHL WHILE ALSO STILL TRYG TO PLEASE THE RT OF {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}FOR A LONG TIME, THIS MEANT THERE WERE MORE GAY CHARACTERS ON BROADST, BUT NONE THAT STAYED AROUND FOR VERY LONG. MOST MERELY POPPED OM TIME TO TIME (FRASIER, NORTHERN EXPOSURE) OR WERE TANGENTIAL TO THE MA CHARACTERS AND STORYL, LIKE THE LBIANS ON FRIENDS OR JACK ON DAWSON’S CREEK. AND EVEN WHEN A CHARACTER WAS PART OF THE MA ST — MATT ON MELROSE PLACE — THEIR GAYNS WAS SO NTROVERSIAL, BASILLY HAD TO BE IGNORED. (CUE THE GAY KISS CUTAWAY.){BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}GIL CHTERSON OM FRASIER, MATT FIELDG OM MELROSE PLACE, ELLEN {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}OF URSE ELLEN HAD ENTIRE SEASON AS AN OUT LBIAN, BUT WE ALL KNOW HOW THAT WORKED OUT. (IN SE YOU DON'T, THE SHOW WAS NCELED AT THE END OF THE SEASON.){BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THEN WILL & GRACE CHANGED THE EQUATN, GIVG A GAY CHARACTER EVERY EPISO, AND AMERI ME ALONG FOR THE RI!{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}STILL TOOK A LONG TIME FOR WILL TO KISS ANOTHER MAN AND EVEN LONGER FOR HIM TO HAVE A STEADY BOYIEND. NBC WAS SRED OF LOSG THE MASTREAM DIENCE, AND ONLY SEASON SIX DID WILL FALLY GET {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}SURE, WILL AND VCE PROBABLY DON’T GET ENOUGH CRED FOR HAVG A FAIRLY PLITED RELATNSHIP. THEIR BREAK-UP WAS SUDN BUT TERTG: VCE NEED TO FD OUT WHO HE IS AND WILL DIDN’T RPECT HIS REER – OR SOMETHG LIKE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}BUT WILL AND VCE WERE PRETTY BLAND PARED TO WHAT WAS HAPPENG ON MUCH MORE DARG PAY-BLE CHANNELS, ON SHOWS LIKE SIX FEET UNR WHERE DAVID AND KEH ALT WH FILY, SEXUALY DISSATISFACTN AND THE FACT BOTH MEN HAD SER ISSU RANGG OM WILD SECURY TO ANGER NTROL {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}MEANWHILE, QUEER AS FOLK, A SHOW ALMOST EXCLIVELY ABOUT GAY AND BISEXUAL MEN, WAS ABLE TO EXPLORE RELATNSHIPS EVEN GREATER TAIL, LVG TO ALL THE DGS, SEX, FILY, AND HIV ISSU ALL GAYS HAVE TO AL {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}BUT MOST OF AMERI, NOT ED TO GAY UPL, NEED A NEAR-PERFECT ONE, NBC SEEMED TO {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}AFTER WILL & GRACE HAD BEEN ON A FEW YEARS, VIEWERS MET MORE GAY UPL, BUT MOST STILL GOT LTLE SCREENTIME AND ALSO LACKED MUCH THE WAY OF PLEXY. SHOWS LIKE UGLY BETTY AND THE CLASS GAVE VIEWERS SOME POSIVE STORYL BUT NO REAL SER TREATMENT OF GAY MEN AS {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}TODAY WE HAVE MORN FAY, WH AN TERTG AND BELIEVABLE, IF NOT ALWAYS SER, PARTNERSHIP BETWEEN MCHELL AND CAMERON; BOB AND LEE OCSNALLY ON DPERATE HOEWIV, WHO, WE’RE TOLD, WERE MARRIAGE UNSELG BEFORE THEIR SUDN BREAK-UP (THOUGH WE NEVER SAW THAT); AND LBIAN UPL LIKE CALLIE AND ARIZONA ON GREY’S ANATOMY. CONGRATS, ABC!{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}WHAT WE STILL HAVEN’T HAD ON WORK TV UNTIL NOW IS A GAY MALE UPLE WH REAL ISSU TO SORT THROUGH, A PLITED HISTORY AND A NFLICT THAT TAK MORE THAN ONE EPISO TO {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}WHAT MAK KEV AND STTY {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}SO WHAT MAK KEV AND STTY SO SPECIAL? WHAT BROTHERS & SISTERS HAS DONE, PERHAPS A LTLE B LATE THE SERI N, IS GIVEN THE FIRST REAL REPRENTATN OF A MARRIED GAY UPLE WHO ARE VERY MUCH LOVE, BUT WHOSE RELATNSHIP IS BOTH NOT PERFECT AND IS EVEN {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}MOST OTHER GAY LONG-TERM RELATNSHIPS ON WORK TELEVISN HAVE SUFFERED OM A SIRE TO PROVE TO AMERI THAT GAYS ARE PEOPLE WHO ARE NOT THE LEAST B THREATENG, SERVE EQUALY AND ARE JT LIKE OUR STRAIGHT UNTERPARTS: WE BUY HO, HAVE KIDS AND LOVE EACH OTHER. Y WE DO!{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}DAVID AND KEH OM SIX FEET UNR, CAMERON AND MCHELL OM MORN FAY {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}BUT WE ALSO FIGHT AND HURT EACH OTHER AS WELL. AND FEW OF THE RELATNSHIPS HAVE BEEN “MARRIAG,” PECIALLY THE LEGAL {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}CAM AND MCHELL ARE GREAT, BUT, LIKE THE OTHER TWO UPL ON MORN FAY, THEIR RELATNSHIP IS SOLID. BOB AND LEE BROKE UP A HEARTBEAT AND HAVEN’T BEEN HEARD OM SCE. IT EVEN HAPPENS ON BLE WHERE CAPRI’S UPLE HAD ISSU – YOU KNOW, LIKE HOW ONE HBAND MASSACRED A RIVAL GANG WH A ROBOT – BUT THEIR RELATNSHIP TOO WAS MOSTLY BEYOND {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}BROTHERS & SISTERS FELL TO THIS TRAP – AT FIRST. Y, STTY STARTED OUT PRETTY MSED UP: HE NEED A REER AND HE LACKED A HOME. KEV WAS UNSURE IF HE WANTED A REAL RELATNSHIP, STEAD FOOLG AROUND WH THE HOT GUY OM SEX AND THE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}BUT ONCE THEY GOT MARRIED, KEV AND STTY SETTLED TO WHAT APPEARED TO BE MARAL BLISS. SO EAGER WERE THE WRERS TO SHOW THAT GAY MARRIAGE N BE GREAT THEY FOT TO PUT ANY REAL LIFE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}SURE, THEIR PROBLEMS NCEIVG A CHILD TTED THE RELATNSHIP. THEY FOUGHT, THEY PULLED AWAY OM EACH OTHER, ETC. BUT ONCE AGA, THEY WERE MOSTLY THE PICTURE OF AN EXEMPLARY UPLE: GOOD PEOPLE PUT UNR STRS. MEANWHILE, EVERY OTHER CHARACTER ON THE SHOW HAD GONE THROUGH SOME KD OF EARTH-SHATTERG AFFAIR, BREAK-UP OR DIVORCE. THIS NOT ONLY MA THEM MORE TERTG, BUT MEANT THEY WERE GIVEN MORE SCREENTIME TO SORT OUT THEIR {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}BUT THIS WEEK’S EPISO ED LAST SEASON’S R CRASH TO OPEN UP OLD WOUNDS FOR KEV AND STTY: KEV DOWNPLAYG STTY’S REER AND PULLG AWAY EMOTNALLY; STTY FEELG IMMATURE AND VALUED; AND KEV’S OLD MONS – SELFISHNS, SHORT-SIGHTEDNS – G {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}IT’S ALWAYS BEEN TO THE WRER’S CRED THAT THEY’VE BEEN ABLE TO MAKE KEV OCSNALLY UNLIKABLE. STTY, MEANWHILE, HAS ALMOST ALWAYS BEEN VIRTUO. “YOU WERE SUPPOSED TO BE BETTER THAN THIS,” KEV TELLS STTY AT THE END OF THE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}SO THE WRERS REALLY TOOK A RISK BY MAKG STTY WHO HAD THE AFFAIR. IT MEANT THEY HAD TO PSYCHOLOGILLY EXPLA HOW HAPPENED: A BRIGHT YOUNG THG WALKS , FEEDG STTY’S WEAK SELF-TEEM WH CHEAP FLATTERY (“WH THAT FACE YOU SHOULD CLEARLY HAVE YOUR OWN REALY SHOW.” HILAR. THE A-LIST: NEW YORK, NEXT SEASON?){BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}MEANWHILE KEV IS A BAD BOY TOO, MISSG STTY’S OPENG NIGHT BY GOG TO A BAR TO SULK STEAD BEE NOTHG IS GOG RIGHT FOR HIM. (AFTER ALL, SULKG IS AN TEGRAL PART OF KEV’S CHARACTER.){BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}IT SEEMS LIKELY KEV AND STTY’S MARRIAGE WILL BE SAVED, IF ONLY BEE TOO MANY OTHER (STRAIGHT) MARRIAG ON THE SHOW HAVE FAILED. STTY’S STILL A GOOD PERSON, AFTER ALL, HAVG CHEATED ONLY ONCE AND THEN NFSED , AND OFFERG STATEMENTS OF NCERN ABOUT KEV (“BE DISCREET I DON’T WANT KEV HURT ANY MORE THAN HE ALREADY IS”).{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}BUT HOPEFULLY WILL TAKE A FEW EPISOS FOR KEV TO {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}STTY, AND VICE VERSA, BEE THAT’S WHAT A MARRIAGE REALLY IS — EVEN FOR GAY PEOPLE. YOU HURT {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}OTHER AND YOU HAVE TO REGA TST, BUT THAT TAK TIME. 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They may also need help alg wh peer nmnatn and harassment once others fd out that they have a gay or lbian siblg. In addn, I have also seen parents wh good tentns isolate their gay children's younger siblgs, keepg the gay child's sexual orientatn a secret and therefore excludg brothers and sisters om fay discsns of this topic. At other tim, this is done advertently when, after the gay child out, parents and gay kids emotnally whdraw om the fay, leavg siblgs to al wh their reactns alone.

For all the reasons, is a good ia to pay close attentn to siblgs fai wh g-out gay and lbian youth.

However, there are ways to expla homosexualy to a small child whout gettg to the nty-grty sexual tails. " Many therapists who have worked wh young children, whose prejudic are not yet fully formed, know how surprisgly flexible they n be when to unrstandg topics such as homosexualy if they are explaed ways that are le wh their gnive abili.

ARE YOUNGER BROTHERS MORE LIKELY TO BE GAY?

Mothers and fathers might also fear that such rmatn uld fluence the younger siblg to actually "turn gay.

There is no evince that havg a lbian sister or a gay brother n persua a child to bee gay.

BROTHERS AND SISTERS OF GAYS AND LBIANS

Furthermore, one gay child a fay do not necsarily mean that others will be as well. However, there is some evince that pared to fai wh no gay siblgs, if one son a fay is gay, his brothers are statistilly more likely to be. In my study, there were two fai that clud two siblgs who were gay, and both s, seemed that by the time the parents found out about the send child, they had an easier time adjtg than they did when they found out about their first child.

However, is possible that some parents might experience exponentially more self-blame, guilt, loss, and worry if they have two or more gay or lbian children.

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Hopefully, more rearch will be forthg to provi guidance helpg fai wh the special challenge of havg multiple gay children.

He picked the gay bar where Stty and his iends had gone for karaoke night so that he uld prove that he wasn’t, fact, as uptight as they thought. By Mandi Bierly Kev S2 E15 Rep Brothers and Sisters rep: Gettg Away Wh Mergers By Mandi Bierly Image S2 E14 Rep Brothers and Sisters rep: Half-Sister Act By Mandi Bierly Nora S2 E13 Rep Brothers and Sisters rep: Separatn Anxiety By Mandi Bierly Sarah S2 E12 Rep Brothers and Sisters rep: The Gay Divorcee By Mandi Bierly Image S2 E9 Rep Brothers and Sisters rep: The Bri Wore Blackmail By Mandi Bierly Image S2 E6 Rep Brothers and Sisters rep: The Personal is Polil By Mandi Bierly Image S2 E5 Rep Brothers and Sisters rep: Hell No, Kty By Mandi Bierly Sarah S2 E4 Rep Brothers and Sisters rep: Botched Getaway By Mandi Bierly Tommy2 S2 E3 Rep Brothers and Sisters rep: The Pakiller Instct By Mandi Bierly Image S2 E1 Rep Brothers and Sisters season premiere rep: Wish You Were Here By EW Staff Brothers and Sisters Calista Flockhart and Sally Field star the teary fay ensemble drama. Probably the origal gay brother on televisn, Jack is Andie’s younger siblg.

In the Amerin one, when his olr brother Lip disvers a che of gay pornography the room they share, he first tri to set him up wh a girl.

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