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• NEIL PATRICK HARRIS SHAR HIS THOUGHTS ON STRAIGHT ACTORS PLAYG GAY CHARACTERS
• SHOULD STRAIGHT ACTORS STILL PLAY GAY CHARACTERS? 'IT'S PLITED'
• JAKE GYLLENHAAL LOOKS BACK AT THE STIGMA OF PLAYG GAY 'BROKEBACK'
• MAN WS WORLD'S LONGT GAME OF "GAY CHICKEN": {FONT:NORMAL 800 1.2REM/1.2 "D BOLD",SANS-SERIF;TEXT-TRANSFORM:NORMAL;LOR:HER;DISPLAY:LE-BLOCK;PADDG-BOTTOM:6PX;POSN:RELATIVE;TEXT-TRANSFORM:UPPERSE;}{BACKGROUND:#89308A;BOTTOM:0;NTENT:'';DISPLAY:BLOCK;HEIGHT:2PX;LEFT:0;POSN:ABSOLUTE;RIGHT:0;-WEBK-TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;WIDTH:100%;}{LEFT:51%;RIGHT:51%;WIDTH:0;}{FONT:NORMAL 800 1.2REM/1.2 "D BOLD",SANS-SERIF;TEXT-TRANSFORM:NORMAL;LOR:HER;DISPLAY:LE-BLOCK;PADDG-BOTTOM:6PX;POSN:RELATIVE;TEXT-TRANSFORM:UPPERSE;}{BACKGROUND:#89308A;BOTTOM:0;NTENT:'';DISPLAY:BLOCK;HEIGHT:2PX;LEFT:0;POSN:ABSOLUTE;RIGHT:0;-WEBK-TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;WIDTH:100%;}{LEFT:51%;RIGHT:51%;WIDTH:0;}LIFEBY DAN AVERYSEPTEMBER 29, 2013/4:22 PMBY DAN AVERYSEPTEMBER 29, 2013 / 4:22 PM{"@NTEXT":","@TYPE":"NEWSARTICLE","HEADLE":"MAN WS WORLD'S LONGT GAME OF \"GAY CHICKEN\": WATCH","DATEPUBLISHED":"2013-09-29T20:22:11.000+0000","DATEMODIFIED":"2013-09-29T20:22:11.000+0000","IMAGE":{"@NTEXT":","@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT","WIDTH":1920,"HEIGHT":1080},"URL":","THOR":{"@TYPE":"ORGANIZATN","NAME":"LOGO TV"},"MAENTYOFPAGE":{"@TYPE":"WEBPAGE","@ID":"},"PUBLISHER":{"@TYPE":"ORGANIZATN","@ID":","NAME":"LOGO TV","URL":","LOGO":{"@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT"}},"CREATOR":"DAN AVERY","ARTICLESECTN":"LIFE"}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;DISPLAY:-WEBK-BOX;DISPLAY:-WEBK-FLEX;DISPLAY:-MS-FLEXBOX;DISPLAY:FLEX;-WEBK-BOX-PACK:CENTER;-WEBK-JTIFY-NTENT:CENTER;-MS-FLEX-PACK:CENTER;JTIFY-NTENT:CENTER;} .TWTER-TWEET-RENRED, {M-WIDTH:65%;WIDTH:TO !IMPORTANT;} {WIDTH:100%;} {MARG-LEFT:TO !IMPORTANT;MARG-RIGHT:TO !IMPORTANT;} IMG{MAX-WIDTH:100%;WIDTH:100%;} > IAME{BORR:NONE;MAX-WIDTH:100%;} > *{MAX-WIDTH:NONE !IMPORTANT;}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}GAY CHICKEN ISN'T SOMETHG YOU ORR AT A FE BOYSTOWN, 'S AN HEAD-SCRATCHG "GAME" PLAYED BY PRUMABLY STRAIGHT GUYS TO SHOW HOW HETEROSEXUAL THEY ARE. HOW? BY KISSG ANOTHER {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THE EDY CLIP ABOVE, OM THE NORWEGIAN EDY SHOW KOLLEKTIVET, EXPLAS THE LOGIL GYMNASTICS BEHD THE GAME'S THKG AND TAK THEM TO THEIR ILLOGIL {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;CLEAR:BOTH;}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;MARG:0 TO;WIDTH:90%;M-WIDTH:288PX;MAX-WIDTH:1440PX;M-HEIGHT:194PX;}LATT NEWS
• IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?
• THE CUR CASE OF GAYFACE
• IF 2 STRAIGHT GUYS N PLAY "GAY CHICKEN"

NEIL PATRICK HARRIS SHAR HIS THOUGHTS ON STRAIGHT ACTORS PLAYG GAY CHARACTERS

End they go home to their wiv and male adult performers who go "gay for pay, " a term ed to scribe gay porn which two (or more) otherwise straight dus have sex on mera, the above scenar is jt another day at the Male Porn Stars Are Straight — But They Have Sex Wh Men for a LivgSource: YouTubeThis week, MTV is airg an episo of Te Life explorg the liv of two such performers, and their stggl to balance the seemgly nflictg mands of their profsnal and personal liv.

In straight porn, the pay for men is notorly lower than the pay for women, so "gay porn [actors] general make a lot more than straight porn, " Damian McKnight, the CEO and producer of the succsful gay-for-pay se Broke Straight Boys, told the Daily Dot last year.

In a book that me out earlier this year, Not Gay: Sex Between Straight Whe Men, thor Jane Ward argued that male sexualy is a lot more fluid than most of are willg to acknowledge.

SHOULD STRAIGHT ACTORS STILL PLAY GAY CHARACTERS? 'IT'S PLITED'

" she prevly told said, adult entertament publicist Mike Stabile told Mic that he believ the sexualy of a gay-for-pay porn star is likely to be a b more flexible than your average joe. "They seemed to have more of a fluid sexualy, or were jt extremely sexual, even if they intified as straight their private liv, " he said of the gay-for-pay actors he's worked wh the past.

"Of urse, there are some who are jt bee of the money, guys who sist on havg loud cellphone nversatns wh their girliends while on-set, or beg homophobic.

That's a ltle more plited, as some believe that gay men's tenncy to fetishize straight men engagg gay sex stems om a ep-rooted place of self-loathg or shame. "Bee of ternalized homophobia (which typilly looms large before and durg the early g-out procs), they're more often lookg for men who act mascule, " thor Joe Kort wrote 2013 for the Huffgton Post. For stance, when gay-for-pay porn star Chris Tyler was asked by the Village Voice what the harst part of his job was, he answered:"Takg a 10-ch-pl dick.

JAKE GYLLENHAAL LOOKS BACK AT THE STIGMA OF PLAYG GAY 'BROKEBACK'

• Could a straight guy get dnk enough to fool around wh another guy jt bee “felt good”, or is more likely that he has some gay/bi/cur feelgs that perhaps he’s been reprsg? Even acuntg for the fact that he might remember some of what happened, don't mean he's bisexual, secretly gay, or that you're his magil "exceptn." He was dnk out of his md. So until they fd themselv a siar suatn, they don’t see how n be possible for a straight person to have a sexual experience wh a person of the same sex and not be gay or at least bisexual.

The 47-year-old actor is revealg his thoughts on the ntroversial nversatn about who gets to play what 22, 2021, 4:24 AM UTC / Source: TODAYNeil Patrick Harris is openg up about his thoughts on whether or not straight actors should play gay on televisn and film.

”The 47-year-old actor is about to be part of an all gay male ensemble the new seri "It’s A S, " that was directed by Rsell T Davi, the creator of "Queer as Folk. " Followg a group of young gay men early 1980s England and their experience wh HIV and AIDS, Davi ma a pot to st this latt work of his wh actors who intify as gay real life. “I’m not beg woke about this… but I feel strongly that if I st someone a story, I am stg them to act as a lover, or an enemy, or someone on dgs or a crimal or a sat… they are not there to ‘act gay’ bee ‘actg gay’ is a bunch of s for a performance, " Davi said of his stg cisn.

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"Neil Patrick HarrisOn the subject of "Queer as Folk, " the groundbreakg early 2000s drama that featured mostly straight actors playg gay, Harris said he was a big fan. “In our world that we live you n’t really as a director mand that (an actor be gay or straight), " he said, addg the qutn: "Who’s to terme how gay someone is? Wh theater doors bolted shut for the next…foreeable future, we’re thrilled to see some Broadway talent pop up the pilot episo of Boy•Friends, a new edy based off the My Gay Boyiend web-seri.

IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?

The show centers around two llege roommat, one gay and one straight, and their “journey through llege and to adulthood to bee the homo-hetero power uple of the ag.

The llectn clus Espac Dos (Spa) In the Name of the Father (Brazil), My Straight Boyiend (US), Tth or Consequenc (Brazil), Coffee Date (US), Poprn & Coke (UK), and productn, box office & pany PhotosMore like thisReview Half hearted llectn of gay short filmsThis is by far the poort llectn of gay shorts that I've seen marketed. "Roger Ebert wrote: "He plays the role not as a man pretendg to be a woman, and not as a woman trapped a man's body, and not as a parody of a woman, and not as a gay man, but as a drag queen, perd: Lola, a tall, athletic performer thigh-high red boots who l the stage of a drag club as if she were born there, and is a pretty good sger, too. Heath Ledger and Jake Gyllenhaal, both straight, were both Osr-nomated for their performanc (Ledger lead, Gyllenhaal supportg) this film about two men fallg love and ntug their affair for film sred 87% on Rotten Tomato, wh the se's cril nsens readg: "A betifully epic Wtern, 'Brokeback Mounta''s gay love story is imbued wh heartbreakg universaly, helped by the movg performanc of Heath Ledger and Jake Gyllenhaal.

THE CUR CASE OF GAYFACE

My last post scribed a populatn of mal who nsir themselv heterosexual, do not label themselv gay or bisexual, chew volvement wh the LGBT muny, are often married or romantilly volved wh an oppose-sex partner, and who engage sex wh mal or exprs the sire to do so. Due large part to the popularizatn of the topic the btsellg 2005 book On the Down Low: A Journey to the Liv of 'Straight' Black Men Who Sleep wh Men, [i] Lato and Ain-Amerin men are the primary subjects rearch wh non-gay intified MSM.

One of the earlit studi, "The Bisexual and Non-Gay Attached Rearch Project" om the early 1990s, found that participants engagg same-sex sexual behavr but not intifyg as gay or bisexual scribed themselv as “kky, ” “normal, ” or “jt a guy. In tally, the men terviewed reported that if sexual activy between men was anonymo, experimental, ocsnal, or if substance e was volved, the act was not “gay. [iii] Daryl Hood, Garrett Prtage, June Crawford, Tania Sorrell, and Chris O’Reilly, "Report on the BANGAR Project: Bisexual Activy/non Gay Attachment Rearch Targetg Strategi Intifitn Project.

IF 2 STRAIGHT GUYS N PLAY "GAY CHICKEN"

Ramamurthi, Cleo Manago, Serg Ava, and Marv Jon, “Sexual Behavr, Sexual Inty, and Substance Abe Among Low-Ine Bisexual and Non-Gay-Intifyg Ain Amerin Men Who Have Sex wh Men, ” Archiv of Sexual Behavr 37, no. The funnit and sadst (and therefore bt) observatn durg the 2019 Osrs season was that there was more gay sex and queer characters an 18th-century black edy about the queen than there was a bpic about the gay ontman of the band Queen. But like a big gay Trojan horse, those films rolled to town and a faiar nversatn me pourg out: Is right that the queer characters are all played by heterosexual actors?