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Contents:

• ‘TRMATIZED’ DGHTER OF LGBT PARENTS: ‘MY GAY MOMS OPPRSED ME’
• HOW TO TELL YOUR MOM YOU ARE GAY
• JAY-Z'S MUM: ‘I WAS NOT EE’ UNTIL I TOLD SON I WAS GAY
• HOW HOMOPHOBIA TURNED ME AGAST MY GAY MOTHER
• MY MOTHER HAS NEVER ALT WH ME BEG GAY
• HOW TO TELL YOUR PARENTS YOU ARE GAY
• MOTHERS’ SUPPORT GAVE GAY SON LOVE TO LAST A LIFETIME

‘TRMATIZED’ DGHTER OF LGBT PARENTS: ‘MY GAY MOMS OPPRSED ME’

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You may realize, for stance, that you really want your mom to know when you realized you were gay.

HOW TO TELL YOUR MOM YOU ARE GAY

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JAY-Z'S MUM: ‘I WAS NOT EE’ UNTIL I TOLD SON I WAS GAY

You might want to clu thgs like when you learned you were gay, what ’s been like for you, and what your hop are for the future. I'm gay. At the begng of his send year of llege, my son Nick told me he was gay, and that he didn‘t believe same-sex relatnships were sful.

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HOW HOMOPHOBIA TURNED ME AGAST MY GAY MOTHER

Jt the week before, Mom had e to my room where I was buildg wh Legos and told me she was gay. I'd grown up a muny suffed wh homophobia — neighbors and fay members alike tossed around works like "dyke" and "faggot" all the time.

As the ferry roared across the Cumberland Sound toward the island, I was stgglg wh the thgs I'd associated wh the word "gay, " none of them good. I had an olr who lled people gay or a faggot when he was angry or makg fun of someone.

MY MOTHER HAS NEVER ALT WH ME BEG GAY

Gay, faggot, dyke. But before that morng my room, I'd never heard my mother scribe herself as gay to anyone. When I spoke wh adults who grew up like I did the early days of gay parentg, I disvered many mon experienc.

There was no room for me to share when thgs were hard at home, or when I need extra supportOne adult child of gay parents — I'll refer to her as Ann — relled that even though her home life was great, she alt wh bg prejudice, lonels, and isolatn her small town, where she knew no other gay fai. One of those iends told Ann that her dad believed gay people spread HIV/AIDS. You don't live muni like Ann's whout brgg at least some of that homophobia home.

HOW TO TELL YOUR PARENTS YOU ARE GAY

Ann said that her childhood, while happy, was also marked by secrecy and nfn: "I didn't unrstand the term 'gay' or that my mom was gay until people outsi of my immediate fay started givg looks or makg ments or askg qutns, " she said.

Ann remembers kids at school g the term "gay" as a slur, and uncl warng her and her brother that they would grow up to be gay, sce their mother was. Of urse, then, as now, kids om gay fai also alt wh the same list of problems kids om straight fai face: divorce, alholism, abandonment, fancial secury, and so on. The issu are many ways amplified and renred more shameful bee our fallible parents also happen to be gay.

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MOTHERS’ SUPPORT GAVE GAY SON LOVE TO LAST A LIFETIME

Another child of gay parents who grew up the '80s — I'll ll her Elisa — said that when people asked about her fay her standard reply was, "Havg two moms is amazg! Rob Marquis, natnal program director of COLAGE, a support anizatn for people who have one or more LGBTQ parents, said the children of gay parents bear a unique rponsibily. Marquis, who grew up wh two moms the '80s a closeted gay muny ral New Mexi, says 's val for kids om gay fai to speak hontly about what's different and difficult about their backgrounds.