Gay, Not Gay, Straight, Not Straight | Psychology Today

Contents:

• CAN SOMEONE BE HOMOSEXUAL AND NOT GAY?
• HOW DO I KNOW I’M NOT REALLY GAY/STRAIGHT?
• I LIKE GUYS BUT I DON’T WANT TO BE GAY. HOW DO I STOP BEG GAY?
• HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY
• ‘NOT-AT-ALL-SECRET GAY AGENDA’: DISNEY EMPLOYE BREAK DOWN ‘ADDG QUEERNS’ TO CHILDREN’S SHOW, DEGENRIZG THEME PARKS
• 10 ANTI-GAY MYTHS DEBUNKED
• WHY SOME STRAIGHT PEOPLE MIGHT HAVE GAY SEX
• GAY, NOT GAY, STRAIGHT, NOT STRAIGHT
• SYNONYMS FOR NOT GAY

CAN SOMEONE BE HOMOSEXUAL AND NOT GAY?

So when we therapists are nonted wh male clients, often married on, who e to wh ep nflicts about their sexual attractn to other men, we often fd that they are willg to e the word “homosexual, ” but chew the “gay” label. Unfortunately, much of our natn’s polics have long exacerbated the problem as well, shamg and vilifyg homosexualy, leadg legns of men stgglg wh sexual inty to ternalize their homophobia. I warned them of the pfalls of keepg their sexual orientatn secret: a life of creased prsn, pursug a secret life the gay unrground wh the danger of beg ught, how attemptg to supprs urg n often e them to bee even more obssed wh them.

They may need, om time to time, to seek further therapy, but wh the right therapist, one who has thoroughly unrstood the dangers of such practic of “reparative therapy” which the therapist seeks to change the client’s sexual inty om gay to straight. ” Some people’s doubts are further plited by havg such experienc as hearg other people talkg or lookg their directn and thkg that the people mt be analyzg their behavr or appearance and talkg about them – discsg how they mt be gay (or straight).

HOW DO I KNOW I’M NOT REALLY GAY/STRAIGHT?

I have sometim wonred if those who experience the most distrs om such thoughts as the do so bee they were raised wh more strongly homophobic or anti-gay attus to beg wh, or if is simply bee one’s sexualy n be such a basic doubt. The flip si of this is when they look at thgs havg to do wh sex of an oppose orientatn and then feel aroed some way, which they then nclu to mean that they liked , which means that they are gay (or straight).

Makg a seri of three-mute tap that based on the wrgs gradually suggt more and more that you are gay, and listeng to them several tim a day changg them when they no longer bother you). Yet when the men were forced to choose between straight, bisexual or gay, about three-quarters marked straight bee for them bisexual, even if is unrstood as “bisexual-leang straight, ” is too gay to accurately scribe their inty.

I LIKE GUYS BUT I DON’T WANT TO BE GAY. HOW DO I STOP BEG GAY?

On Tuday night, Chris Rufo released several vios purportedly om a recent “all-hands” Disney staff meetg to discs the Florida Parental Rights In Edutn Bill — aka the rrectly termed, “Don’t Say Gay Bill” — as well as Disney’s efforts to ph radil genr iology and other progrsive ias on sexualy. Acrdg to the footage obtaed by Rufo, one executive producer said that she was easily able to implement her “not-at-all secret gay agenda” one show while another Disney manager discsed the pany’s move to drop “genred greetgs” om live spiels and other aspects of the Ravene, an executive producer for Disney who has worked on shows such as “The Proud Fay, ” explaed how she was pleasantly surprised by the welg attu and open-mdns that the pany had toward the LGBTQIA+ agenda, particularly as relat to “addg queerns” to the show she worked on, “The Proud Fay. ” Raveane’s ments n be seen here:SCOOP: I've obtaed vio om si Disney's all-hands meetg about the Florida parental rights bill, which executive producer Latoya Ravene says her team has implemented a "not-at-all-secret gay agenda" and is regularly "addg queerns" to children's programmg.

Rufo ⚔️ (@realchrisfo) March 29, 2022Disney Corporate Print Karey Burke also allegedly chimed durg that meetg, implorg the pany to add more LGBTQIA lead characters to the pani stori:We have many, many, many LGBTQIA characters our stori and yet we don’t have enough leads, a narrative which gay characters jt — jt get to be characters and not have to be about gay stori. Yterday on Twter, Rufo shared the vios of five executiv who openly celebrated their past efforts to troduce Disney’s existg genr- and sex-based ntent for children and proudly advoted for the advancement and expansn of their “not-at-all-secret gay agenda.

HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY

SCOOP: I've obtaed vio om si Disney's all-hands meetg about the Florida parental rights bill, which executive producer Latoya Ravene says her team has implemented a "not-at-all-secret gay agenda" and is regularly "addg queerns" to children's programmg.

But Chapek’s opposn to the Florida law was apparently not rolute enough for some ultra-woke gay and trans activist employe at Disney, who the g weeks staged a walkout prott of Chapek’s supposedly d stance.

Specifilly, many aspects of the velopment of homosexualy (both the male and female varieti) are not as well unrstood as they should be to make some of the claims that many people felt nfint exprsg. There's a lot to discs regardg the rults of the paper (Skorska et al, 2016): The rearchers were examg the possibily that a maternal immune rponse might play a key role the velopment of a homosexual orientatn mal.

‘NOT-AT-ALL-SECRET GAY AGENDA’: DISNEY EMPLOYE BREAK DOWN ‘ADDG QUEERNS’ TO CHILDREN’S SHOW, DEGENRIZG THEME PARKS

Effectively, then, the mother's immune system would (sometim) treat certa male protes produced by the fet as a foreign pathogen and attempt to attack , rultg out that uld clu a homosexual orientatn, but also fetal loss if the reactn was strong enough (i. Already there is a lot to like about this hypothis on a theoretil level, as don't pos any hidn adaptive benefs for a homosexual orientatn (as such proposed benefs have not received sound empiril support historilly). The rearchers reced approximately 130 mothers and classified them on the basis of what kd of children they had: those who had at least 1 gay son (n = 54), and those who only had heterosexual sons (n = 72).

10 ANTI-GAY MYTHS DEBUNKED

The mothers were then classified further to one of five groups: those wh gay male only-children (n = 8), those wh gay male offsprg that had no olr brothers (n = 23), those wh gay male offsprg wh olr brothers (n = 23), those wh heterosexual male only-children (n = 11), and those wh heterosexual male offsprg wh siblgs (n = 61).

As birth weight tends to crease over succsive pregnanci, the parisons were limed to first live-born sons only (n = 63); this left 4 gay male only-children, 7 gay mal wh no olr brothers, 14 heterosexual mal wh gay younger brothers, 10 heterosexual male only-children, and 28 heterosexual mal wh siblgs.

The rults mirrored those of the fetal-loss data: mothers of gay male only-children tend to give birth to fants that weighed signifintly ls (M = 2970 grams), than all other groups (d = 1.

WHY SOME STRAIGHT PEOPLE MIGHT HAVE GAY SEX

While 's important to not get rried away wh this fdg given the relatively small sample size (I wouldn't put too much stock an N of 8), there is some suggtive evince here worth pursug further that somethg is atypil fetal velopment the se of gay male offsprg.

GAY, NOT GAY, STRAIGHT, NOT STRAIGHT

Skorska et al (2016) pos that this might have somethg to do wh some mothers showg a greater immune rponse agast male offsprg, rultg more fetal loss, the rult beg that such mothers are both ls likely to have any children at all and more likely to have gay male children particular.

If mothers of gay men do not tend to have a greater rat of female-to-male offsprg, this would st some doubt on the explanatn (and, sce the only data I've heard reports that gay men tend to have more olr brothers, seems they would have noticed the sister pot by now if existed). On the other hand, if this is a more general immune reactn agast fetal bodi, regardls of their sex, we would not expect such a pattern ( might also predict that mothers takg immunosupprsants would be ls likely to have gay offsprg/misrry, but thgs are unlikely to be that simple owg to the fact that other effects would rult too). If is tly the se that maternal immune rpons are the drivers of homosexual velopment humans, would be very cur that siar out don't appear to obta across at least other mammalian speci.

Disregardg all evince that the ex-gay movement is credibly damagg to more than 90% of those who unrgo "treatment" (bee they clearly jt didn't believe God enough), Settg Captiv Free wants you to know that you were not "born this way.

SYNONYMS FOR NOT GAY

" Homosexualy is a s that you need to purge om your system, and the only way to do is to follow their three-parts-a-day the app is only downloadable om Google Play (iTun and the 69, 822+ people who petned them don't believe nversn therapy for some reason), there is an abridged versn available on the mistry’s webse. Change For the Right Reasons (the Glory Of God): After all, homosexualy is nothg but "lt, porn, and sexual immoraly, " ss that are applible only to gay people and never to straight on. Realize That Beg Homosexual Mak You Feel Alone Fet that we told you to shut yourself away om most of the world, and ignore the ia that maybe gay people feel so alone bee of the discrimatory and hateful attus that they face, helped by people like .

Ever sce born-aga sger and orange juice pchwoman Ana Bryant helped kick off the ntemporary anti-gay movement some 40 years ago, hard-le elements of the relig right have been searchg for ways to monize gay people — or, at a mimum, to fd arguments that will prevent their normalizatn society.

But addn to hawkg that myth, the legns of anti-gay activists who followed have add a panoply of others, rangg om the extremely doubtful claim that sexual orientatn is a choice, to unalloyed li like the claims that gay men molt children far more than heterosexuals or that hate crime laws will lead to the legalizatn of btialy and necrophilia. The fairy tal are important to the anti-gay right bee they form the basis of s claim that homosexualy is a social evil that mt be supprsed — an opn rejected by virtually all relevant medil and scientific thori.