Gay, middle-aged, and lonely as hell - Chigo Rear

Contents:

• GAY, MIDDLE-AGED, AND LONELY AS HELL
• GAY MEN AND AGG
• THE ADULT LIFE URSE AND HOMOSEXUAL INTY MIDLIFE GAY MEN
• 6 - SEX AND OLR GAY MEN
• GAY MEN MID-LIFE: NOW WHAT?
• A GAY MAN AT MIDLIFE PONRS BEG LONELY AND ‘INVISIBLE’
• LBIAN, GAY, BISEXUAL AND TRANSGENR AGG

GAY, MIDDLE-AGED, AND LONELY AS HELL

You are the last generatn of gay ath and the first generatn of a new gay life, and that experience mak you more betiful than any bicep bulge or flat should anyone ll you a “tired old queen” or “past his prime” or, the immortal words of Jethro Tull, “too old to rock and roll, ” their ignorant words should only make you grateful you know otherwise. In the here and now, there is still much homophobia our society: beg looked at an timidatg or shamg way when holdg their same-sex partner’s hand the streets; hearg homophobic people makg plats when gay characters appear on televisn; beg asked appropriate sexual qutns at a party that would never be asked to a heterosexual person; havg to refully select a holiday statn that is gay-iendly.

In particular, the transn om young adulthood to middle age rais qutns of how homosexual inty is refed as gay men alter their participatn gay sexual culture, experience change sexual sire and activy, and revise broar psychosocial inty as fluenced by psychologil and socializatn procs related to agg. Both narrativ clud evince of the effects of ageism and loss, how the are exprsed, and, le wh the work of Simpson (2015), how they n be chapter rts on stori appearg across three books that the thor has wrten on gay men's life stori and which foc on age and ageg. The third book (Robson, 2017) looked at gay men's workg liv om the perspective of three generatns of gay men om the same ternatnal sample, as well as their views and experienc on retirement om paid work and on old age/later central argument this chapter is that while ageg gay men do acquire and n ll on ‘rourc of ageg’ (Heaphy, 2007) to bat gay ageism, the are limed by the nstrats imposed by their ageg bodi and how the are unrstood.

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GAY MEN AND AGG

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"What may be different for gay men above a certa age -- let's say 50, randomly -- is the bed effects of profsnal agg and romantic agg, by which I mean that I thk that we're more nsc of and hnted by lost youth and changed looks than straight men are, for many different reasons. "If you mean some new fear of beg gay bee of the state of the world or suggtg that as we age, we get more timid about beg out, I thk the trajectory this untry is still toward greater equaly for LGBTQ people, spe the actns of the print and his admistratn, " Bni said.

THE ADULT LIFE URSE AND HOMOSEXUAL INTY MIDLIFE GAY MEN

In a review of the effects of social ntext on black homosexual mal, Peterson and Jon (2009) note that studi reveal that, relative to men of other racial groups, black men experience higher levels of ternalized homophobia, are ls likely to disclose their homosexual orientatn, and are more likely to perceive that their iends and neighbors disapprove of homosexualy.

For stance, while sexual behavr ton (age at first sexual ntact wh another male) are changg slowly, dividual psychologil ton (age at first awarens of same-sex attractn, self-intifitn as gay) are changg more rapidly, and social ton (age at first g out, equentg a gay bar) are changg even more rapidly. They found that there were no signifint differenc among heterosexual, homosexual, and bisexual men and women wh rpect to general happs, perceived health, or job satisfactn sce age 18 or wh the last 12 transgenr people, the available studi generally suggt high rat of negative mental health out. Beyond such direct maniftatns of stigma, Herek and Gars (2007) suggt there are pervasive effects of stutnalized stigma, or “heterosexism, ” among gay, lbian, and bisexual populatns, such as nial of the right to marriage most stat, negative enomic effects the workplace, and equent disenanchisement om relig and spirual rourc need to amelrate the effects of and Gars (2007) also intify two other sourc of strs experienced by sexual mori: “felt stigma” and “self-stigma.

The negative feelgs about one's own homosexual sir n have negative impacts on mental and physil health and heighten the strs experienced by sexual DisorrsSome populatn studi have pared rat of anxiety disorrs homosexually and heterosexually active men and women.

6 - SEX AND OLR GAY MEN

Cochran and Mays (2000a) also examed possible associatns between homosexual/bisexual behavr patterns and lifetime prevalence of affective disorrs, cludg mania, major prsn, and dysthymia, among men (aged 17–39) g data om the Natnal Health and Nutrn Examatn Survey (NHANES) III.

However, the thors note the limed number of participants who reported a homosexual or bisexual recently, Bostwick and lleagu (2010) ed data om the 2004–2005 Natnal Epimlogic Survey on Alhol and Related Condns (n = 34, 653) to exame lifetime and past-year mood and anxiety disorrs among different sexual orientatn groups.

GAY MEN MID-LIFE: NOW WHAT?

Conron and lleagu (2008), g data om the Massachetts Behavral Risk Factor Surveillance System survey of adults aged 18–64 (n = 38, 910), found that bisexual adults were signifintly more likely to report feelg “sad or blue” than eher heterosexual or lbian and gay adults. The thors note that the prevalence of mental health disorrs found sexual-mory Latos and Asian Amerins was siar to or lower than that found populatn-based studi of lbian, gay, and bisexual adults of prsn among transgenr people are far ls well studied.

A GAY MAN AT MIDLIFE PONRS BEG LONELY AND ‘INVISIBLE’

Feldman and Meyer (2007b) pared the prevalence of eatg disorrs a venue-based sample of 126 whe heterosexuals and 388 whe, black, and Lato LGB men and women and found that, pared wh the heterosexual men, the gay and bisexual men had a higher lifetime prevalence of such disorrs.

PHYSICAL HEALTH STATUSWhile LGBT adults have all of the same health ncerns as the general populatn, there are some areas of physil health that are known to be distct for sexual and genr HealthVery ltle rearch has been nducted on the sexual health of LGBT people, and most of has foced on sexual dysfunctn among gay and bisexual men.

In a study g a nvenience sample of self-intified gay men (n = 1, 196) and a matched sample of heterosexual men (n = 1, 558), none of whom were HIV-posive, Bancroft and lleagu (2005) found that the gay men reported erectile dysfunctn more equently than the heterosexual men. While the thors pos that “erectile dysfunctn” may mean different thgs to gay and heterosexual men, they also suggt that the discrepancy may be associated wh anxiety or other who have sex wh men and take meditn for erectile dysfunctn (eher through a physician or through other sourc) may monstrate higher rat of sexual risk takg.

LBIAN, GAY, BISEXUAL AND TRANSGENR AGG

Numero risk factors for HIV transmissn among gay and bisexual men have been intified, cludg lack of knowledge of HIV serostat (Marks et al., 2009), nonsupportive peer norms (Hart et al., 2004), optimistic beliefs about HIV treatment (Ostrow et al., 2002; Sullivan et al., 2007), greater numbers of male sexual partners, unprotected terurse wh HIV-posive partners, and amphetame or heavy alhol or dg e before sex (Kobl et al., 2006).

Another study examg behavral bisexualy and ndom e based on data om the 2002 cycle of the Natnal Survey of Fay Growth found that bisexually active men, when reportg on their most recent same-sex enunter, ced the same ndom e as heterosexual or homosexual men. Spik and lleagu (2009) found that HIV-posive black men wh both male and female sexual partners engaged more sexual and dg risk behavrs than their heterosexual and gay a systematic review of 29 studi prentg data on HIV and transgenr populatns, Herbst and lleagu (2008) intified a number of risk factors for transgenr women. Conversely, rearch on protective factors is largely FactorsThe primary risk factors for LGBT adults examed the lerature are stigma, discrimatn, and victimizatn; vlence; substance e; and childhood, Discrimatn, and VictimizatnLbians, gay men, and bisexual people are often the targets of stigma and discrimatn bee of their sexual orientatn.

In a 2005 natnal survey wh a probabily sample of self-intified lbian, gay, and bisexual adults (n = 662), approximately 16 percent of lbians and 18 percent of gay men reported they had experienced discrimatn employment or hog bee of their sexual orientatn (Herek, 2009a). An analysis of data om the MIDUS survey, mentned earlier the chapter, found that self-intified homosexual and bisexual adults reported both lifetime and day-to-day experienc wh discrimatn more equently than heterosexuals, and 42 percent attributed the discrimatn partially or entirely to their sexual orientatn (Mays and Cochran, 2001) surprisgly, experienc wh discrimatn and victimizatn have negative effects on psychologil well-beg.