How to Cope When Your Spoe Is Gay

Contents:

• FDG OUT YOUR SPOE IS GAY
• STRAIGHT WOMEN AND THEIR GAY HBANDS
• WHAT CAN YOU DO IF YOU THK YOUR WIFE IS GAY?
• MY HBAND IS GAY BUT WE’RE MARRIED WH TWO KIDS AND HAVE GREAT SEX
• WOMAN OUT AS GAY 6 YEARS TO MARRIAGE BUT STAYS WH HBAND: ‘HE’S MY SOULMATE’
• IS MY HBAND GAY? SIGNS OF A GAY HBAND
• HOW TO COPE WHEN YOUR SPOE COM OUT AS GAY
• WHEN GAY MEN (MIS)MARRY STRAIGHT WOMEN: BONNIE KAYE'S STORY
• I WAS MARRIED WH 2 KIDS WHEN I REALIZED I’M GAY
• WHEN YOUR SPOE OUT AS GAY

FDG OUT YOUR SPOE IS GAY

—Aaid She’s Gay.

STRAIGHT WOMEN AND THEIR GAY HBANDS

That’s the nversatn you need to have—not “Are you sure you’re not gay? “Kchen Stk: The rtrant staff thk I n’t unrstand when they ll me anti-gay slurs Spanish.

WHAT CAN YOU DO IF YOU THK YOUR WIFE IS GAY?

But when the marriage is over bee your spoe turns out to be gay, there is a whole different layer of thoughts and emotns to ntend wh.

Bonnie Kaye,, me to specialize helpg women face this unanticipated reason for the mise of their marriage after her own marriage llapsed by virtue of her hband beg gay. Kaye reports that when a woman learns the reason for the problems her marriage-namely homosexualy, she go through a wi range of emotns om vastatn, shame, guilt, rponsibily, and perhaps even to repulsn. Acrdg to, there are over 4 ln women this untry who are married to, or have been married to gay men, and there are lns more throughout the world.

"In almost all s, " Kaye stat, "women wh gay hbands are unaware of their hbands' homosexualy at the time of the marriage. The answers to the qutns pend on if the gay or lbian spoe knew and tried to reprs the homosexual attractns, whether he or she didn't know they were gay, or if they are bisexual (attracted to both genrs) or pansexual (attracted more to a person's spir or personaly rather than a person's anatomy) so the attractn to their spoe was real was real but not limed to one person or genr. The seems to be no shortage of support out there on this subject matter and I also me across several books on the topic that may be of help to both the gay and straight spoe.

MY HBAND IS GAY BUT WE’RE MARRIED WH TWO KIDS AND HAVE GREAT SEX

My Hband Is Gay: A Woman's Survival Gui, by Carol Grever. My Hband’s Not Gay, a show on TLC, has ed an uproar. Why do some people bee so outspoken and judgmental about marriag wh one straight and one gay spoe?

Fally, the relatnships suggt to some people “reparative therapy, ” the uhil and impossible claim that a person n be changed om gay to straight. The men this televisn program aren’t claimg to be ex-gay nor that they n change their sexual orientatn (at least not on the show).

They report they are attracted to men but choose not to live as a gay man and their straight wiv accept this.

WOMAN OUT AS GAY 6 YEARS TO MARRIAGE BUT STAYS WH HBAND: ‘HE’S MY SOULMATE’

People seem to get up arms when a man says he is not gay but rather simply attracted to men. In our culture, we intify ourselv via a sexual-attractn bary: gay or straight.

IS MY HBAND GAY? SIGNS OF A GAY HBAND

Later, their gay sexual inti surface and here they are—heterosexually married wh children. Many straight women married to gay men nscly choose to do so wh their ey wi open. There are plenty of wiv who choose to stay married even after fdg out later the marriage that their hband is gay and attracted to men.

They make this choice wh open discsns, which are very paful and emotnal for both the gay man and the straight wife. ” To the man, I say, “Consir whether you n really keep your homosexual feelgs and sir check. You might be able to claim your inty by meetg ocsnally wh gay men, stayg touch on Facebook, and lettg your gay iends know that you want to rema sexually fahful to your wife.

I warn mixed-orientatn upl that he may feel differently later life and his gayns may surface more strongly and bee more of an inty for him and th bee an issue their marriage. Both the gay man and the straight spoe share the risk of stayg married.

HOW TO COPE WHEN YOUR SPOE COM OUT AS GAY

Both straight and gay muni put enormo prsure on the man and woman a mixed-orientatn marriage, and few marriag n stand up unr this social, fay, and relig prsure. Some upl try to “live straight” and image that they will be able to not acknowledge the hband’s gayns any way.

Generally, a gay man will feel a lot of emotnal distrs, grief, and prsn if he is livg so eply the closet. This will happen even if, or maybe I should say pecially if, he is nial about his gayns.

If your hband says he didn’t know he was gay when he married you, he most likely didn’t know. Most of my male clients who are gay and married to women didn’t know that their inty was gay when they married. They often don’t know their inty is gay when they first e to see me.

WHEN GAY MEN (MIS)MARRY STRAIGHT WOMEN: BONNIE KAYE'S STORY

He most likely terpreted his gay terts as sexual “kks, ” and he nvced himself they would fa away after he married.

Typilly the men are homophobic and want me to reassure them and their wiv that they aren’t gay.

I WAS MARRIED WH 2 KIDS WHEN I REALIZED I’M GAY

I’ve heard more than once, “I’m not gay. ” The gay men intify their behavr as “only sexual.

WHEN YOUR SPOE OUT AS GAY

A gay man n tly love a woman, have satisfyg and regular sex wh her, and want to stay married to her while beg unterted other women sexually. That is, the man is still gay, and he lov you. She may fear that bee he is gay, he will leave her.