Thomas Lloyd: Why am I "so gay?" | TED Talk

Contents:

• HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY
• HOW TO COPE WHEN YOU'RE GAY AND LONELY
• AM I GAY?
• HOW TO ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE GAY
• HOW DO I KNOW IF I AM GAY? SIGNS YOU ARE GAY
• WHY AM I "SO GAY?"
• SECRETSMARY LAMBERTTRACK 1 ON HEART ON MY SLEEVE PRODUCED BYBENNY CASSETTE, ERIC ROSSE & 1 MORE“SECRETS” IS THE SEND SGLE OM MARY LAMBERT’S BUT ALBUM, HEART ON MY SLEEVE. THE SONG IS ABOUT BEG TE TO YOURSELF, AND LETTG PEOPLE KNOW WHO YOU REALLY ARE.JUL. 15, 20141 VIEWER41.1K VIEWS24 CONTRIBUTORSSECRETS LYRICS[INTRO]OKAYGAME FACETHERE WE GO[VERSE 1]I'VE GOT BIPOLAR DISORRMY SH'S NOT ORRI'M OVERWEIGHT, I'M ALWAYS LATEI'VE GOT TOO MANY THGS TO SAYI ROCK MOM JEANS, T EARRGSEXTRAPOLATE MY FEELGSMY FAY IS DYSFUNCTNALBUT WE HAVE A GOOD TIME KILLG EACH OTHER[PRE-CHOS]THEY TELL OM THE TIME WE'RE YOUNGTO HI THE THGS THAT WE DON'T LIKE ABOUT OURSELVINSI OURSELVI KNOW I'M NOT THE ONLY ONEWHO SPENT SO LONG ATTEMPTG TO BE SOMEONE ELSEWELL, I'M OVER [CHOS]I DON'T RE IF THE WORLD KNOWS WHAT MY SECRETS ARESECRETS AREI DON'T RE IF THE WORLD KNOWS WHAT MY SECRETS ARESECRETS AREYOU MIGHT ALSO LIKE[POST-CHOS]SO, WHAT?SO, WHAT?SO, WHAT?SO, WHAT?[VERSE 2]I N'T THK STRAIGHT, I'M SO GAYSOMETIM I CRY A WHOLE DAYI RE A LOT, E AN ANALOG CLOCKAND NEVER KNOW WHEN TO STOPAND I'M PASSIVE AGGRSIVEI'M SRED OF THE DARK AND THE NTISTI LOVE MY BUTT AND WON'T SHUT UPAND I NEVER REALLY GREW UP[PRE-CHOS]THEY TELL OM THE TIME WE'RE YOUNGTO HI THE THGS THAT WE DON'T LIKE ABOUT OURSELVINSI OURSELVI KNOW I'M NOT THE ONLY ONEWHO SPENT SO LONG ATTEMPTG TO BE SOMEONE ELSEWELL, I'M OVER [CHOS]I DON'T RE IF THE WORLD KNOWS WHAT MY SECRETS ARESECRETS AREI DON'T RE IF THE WORLD KNOWS WHAT MY SECRETS ARESECRETS ARE[POST-CHOS]SO, WHAT?SO, WHAT?SO, WHAT?SO, WHAT?[BRIDGE]EEEEEEH OOOH OOOOOHHH OOOOOOOOH(HA HA HA HA HA)[CHOS]I DON'T RE IF THE WORLD KNOWS WHAT MY SECRETS ARE (SECRETS ARE)SECRETS AREI DON'T RE IF THE WORLD KNOWS WHAT MY SECRETS ARE (SECRETS ARE)SECRETS ARE[POST-CHOS]SO, WHAT?SO, WHAT?SO, WHAT?SO, WHAT?[OUTRO]SO, WHAT?SO, WHAT?(I DON'T RE IF THE WORLD KNOWS WHAT MY SECRETS ARE)SO, WHAT?SO, WHAT?27EMBEDCANCELHOW TO FORMAT LYRICS:TYPE OUT ALL LYRICS, EVEN REPEATG SONG PARTS LIKE THE CHOSLYRICS SHOULD BE BROKEN DOWN TO DIVIDUAL LUSE SECTN HEARS ABOVE DIFFERENT SONG PARTS LIKE [VERSE], [CHOS], ETC.USE ALICS (<I>LYRIC</I>) AND BOLD (<B>LYRIC</B>) TO DISTGUISH BETWEEN DIFFERENT VOLISTS THE SAME SONG PARTIF YOU DON’T UNRSTAND A LYRIC, E [?]TO LEARN MORE, CHECK OUT OUR TRANSCRIPTN GUI OR VIS OUR TRANSCRIBERS FOMABOUT
• I’M SO GAYRAPE REVENGEON RAPE REVENGE 1 VIEWER1 CONTRIBUTORI’M SO GAY LYRICSI AM PROUDWHEN 'S NOTTEARG MEAPARTIT GETS SO ISOLATG, FEELG LIKEI'M THE ONLY PERSON HERE NOT STRAIGHTQUEER PUNKS E OUTQUEER PUNKS E OUTQUEER PUNKS E OUTI'M SO GAYYOU'RE SO GAYI'M SO GAYWE'RE SO GAYYOU MIGHT ALSO LIKE1EMBEDCANCELHOW TO FORMAT LYRICS:TYPE OUT ALL LYRICS, EVEN REPEATG SONG PARTS LIKE THE CHOSLYRICS SHOULD BE BROKEN DOWN TO DIVIDUAL LUSE SECTN HEARS ABOVE DIFFERENT SONG PARTS LIKE [VERSE], [CHOS], ETC.USE ALICS (<I>LYRIC</I>) AND BOLD (<B>LYRIC</B>) TO DISTGUISH BETWEEN DIFFERENT VOLISTS THE SAME SONG PARTIF YOU DON’T UNRSTAND A LYRIC, E [?]TO LEARN MORE, CHECK OUT OUR TRANSCRIPTN GUI OR VIS OUR TRANSCRIBERS FOMABOUTHAVE THE SI SOP ON THIS SONG?SIGN UP AND DROP SOME KNOWLEDGESTART THE SONG BASK A QUTN ABOUT THIS SONGASK A QUTN *‌RAPE REVENGE RAPE REVENGEI’M SO GAYCREDSTAGSROCKEXPAND COMMENTSADD A MENTSIGN UP AND DROP KNOWLEDGE ?GENI IS THE ULTIMATE SOURCE OF MIC KNOWLEDGE, CREATED BY SCHOLARS LIKE YOU WHO SHARE FACTS AND SIGHT ABOUT THE SONGS AND ARTISTS THEY LOVE.SIGN UPGENI IS THE WORLD’S BIGGT LLECTN OF SONG LYRICS AND MIL KNOWLEDGE
• I'M GAY

HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY

|Intifyg as Gay. Gay dividuals are romantilly or sexually attracted to people who are the same genr as them.

If you’re more aroed by people who are the same genr as you, you might be gay.

HOW TO COPE WHEN YOU'RE GAY AND LONELY

Keep md that experienc of sexual aroal are extremely nuanced, and aren’t ncrete proof that you’re gay. For stance, you n be aroed by gay adult media whout necsarily beg gay yourself. If you tend to velop csh on people who are the same genr as you, uld be a sign that you’re gay.

AM I GAY?

You n be gay even if you’ve had straight relatnships the past. If you felt unfortable wh physil ntact wh each girl, you may be gay.

If you often fantasize about relatnships volvg specific genrs, you may be queer or gay.

You may be gay, but you uld also be pansexual or bisexual if you sometim thk about the other genr. Don’t assume you’re gay based on how you walk, talk, or drs.

HOW TO ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE GAY

You’ve probably heard stereotyp about what mak someone gay, but none of the are te. Siarly, walkg or dancg a certa way don’t make you gay, eher. For stance, havg a high-pched voice as a guy don’t make you gay.

How do you know if you’re gay? If you enjoy flirtg wh the same genr, you might be gay or queer. Keep md that even if you have a sexual experience wh someone of the same genr or another genr, that don’t necsarily mean that you’re gay.

Thgs would be so simple if you uld jt label yourself as gay and be done wh , but may not be that easy. If you’re not ready to tell everyone that you’re gay, that’s okay!

HOW DO I KNOW IF I AM GAY? SIGNS YOU ARE GAY

However, you might later realize you’re gay.

I thk I’ve begun to realize that I’m attracted to men and I might be gay.

WHY AM I "SO GAY?"

I’m gay, and I’m proud of . While “gay” is a totally valid label to intify wh, isn’t the only LGBTQ+ label out there.

That means, for example, that you n be transgenr but also straight (for stance, you might intify as a woman and feel attracted to men) or gay (e.

Beg gay is part of who you are, and there’s nothg wrong wh . You don’t need to be sexually active to be gay.

SECRETSMARY LAMBERTTRACK 1 ON HEART ON MY SLEEVE PRODUCED BYBENNY CASSETTE, ERIC ROSSE & 1 MORE“SECRETS” IS THE SEND SGLE OM MARY LAMBERT’S BUT ALBUM, HEART ON MY SLEEVE. THE SONG IS ABOUT BEG TE TO YOURSELF, AND LETTG PEOPLE KNOW WHO YOU REALLY ARE.JUL. 15, 20141 VIEWER41.1K VIEWS24 CONTRIBUTORSSECRETS LYRICS[INTRO]OKAYGAME FACETHERE WE GO[VERSE 1]I'VE GOT BIPOLAR DISORRMY SH'S NOT ORRI'M OVERWEIGHT, I'M ALWAYS LATEI'VE GOT TOO MANY THGS TO SAYI ROCK MOM JEANS, T EARRGSEXTRAPOLATE MY FEELGSMY FAY IS DYSFUNCTNALBUT WE HAVE A GOOD TIME KILLG EACH OTHER[PRE-CHOS]THEY TELL OM THE TIME WE'RE YOUNGTO HI THE THGS THAT WE DON'T LIKE ABOUT OURSELVINSI OURSELVI KNOW I'M NOT THE ONLY ONEWHO SPENT SO LONG ATTEMPTG TO BE SOMEONE ELSEWELL, I'M OVER [CHOS]I DON'T RE IF THE WORLD KNOWS WHAT MY SECRETS ARESECRETS AREI DON'T RE IF THE WORLD KNOWS WHAT MY SECRETS ARESECRETS AREYOU MIGHT ALSO LIKE[POST-CHOS]SO, WHAT?SO, WHAT?SO, WHAT?SO, WHAT?[VERSE 2]I N'T THK STRAIGHT, I'M SO GAYSOMETIM I CRY A WHOLE DAYI RE A LOT, E AN ANALOG CLOCKAND NEVER KNOW WHEN TO STOPAND I'M PASSIVE AGGRSIVEI'M SRED OF THE DARK AND THE NTISTI LOVE MY BUTT AND WON'T SHUT UPAND I NEVER REALLY GREW UP[PRE-CHOS]THEY TELL OM THE TIME WE'RE YOUNGTO HI THE THGS THAT WE DON'T LIKE ABOUT OURSELVINSI OURSELVI KNOW I'M NOT THE ONLY ONEWHO SPENT SO LONG ATTEMPTG TO BE SOMEONE ELSEWELL, I'M OVER [CHOS]I DON'T RE IF THE WORLD KNOWS WHAT MY SECRETS ARESECRETS AREI DON'T RE IF THE WORLD KNOWS WHAT MY SECRETS ARESECRETS ARE[POST-CHOS]SO, WHAT?SO, WHAT?SO, WHAT?SO, WHAT?[BRIDGE]EEEEEEH OOOH OOOOOHHH OOOOOOOOH(HA HA HA HA HA)[CHOS]I DON'T RE IF THE WORLD KNOWS WHAT MY SECRETS ARE (SECRETS ARE)SECRETS AREI DON'T RE IF THE WORLD KNOWS WHAT MY SECRETS ARE (SECRETS ARE)SECRETS ARE[POST-CHOS]SO, WHAT?SO, WHAT?SO, WHAT?SO, WHAT?[OUTRO]SO, WHAT?SO, WHAT?(I DON'T RE IF THE WORLD KNOWS WHAT MY SECRETS ARE)SO, WHAT?SO, WHAT?27EMBEDCANCELHOW TO FORMAT LYRICS:TYPE OUT ALL LYRICS, EVEN REPEATG SONG PARTS LIKE THE CHOSLYRICS SHOULD BE BROKEN DOWN TO DIVIDUAL LUSE SECTN HEARS ABOVE DIFFERENT SONG PARTS LIKE [VERSE], [CHOS], ETC.USE ALICS (<I>LYRIC</I>) AND BOLD (<B>LYRIC</B>) TO DISTGUISH BETWEEN DIFFERENT VOLISTS THE SAME SONG PARTIF YOU DON’T UNRSTAND A LYRIC, E [?]TO LEARN MORE, CHECK OUT OUR TRANSCRIPTN GUI OR VIS OUR TRANSCRIBERS FOMABOUT

Article SummaryXIf you’re not sure how to know if you are gay, thk about any past romantic experienc you have had. If you have had romantic experienc or fantasi volvg people who are the same genr as you, then there is a good chance you are gay or bisexual, but 's okay if you're a ltle nfed. Part of realizg you're gay, or bi, or trans, or non-bary, or anythg other than cisgenr and heterosexual is acceptg you’re different—and somewhat separated—om the majory.

Here he shar his journey to overe the sense of isolatn he felt growg up gay a small U. At the time, there were no real gay role mols except for Graham Norton and Jack om Dawson's Creek—and I certaly didn't intify wh him bee I wasn't a football player. I felt like I was pletely on my rried on until I was 16, when I started gog out to gay bars my hometown.

I’M SO GAYRAPE REVENGEON RAPE REVENGE 1 VIEWER1 CONTRIBUTORI’M SO GAY LYRICSI AM PROUDWHEN 'S NOTTEARG MEAPARTIT GETS SO ISOLATG, FEELG LIKEI'M THE ONLY PERSON HERE NOT STRAIGHTQUEER PUNKS E OUTQUEER PUNKS E OUTQUEER PUNKS E OUTI'M SO GAYYOU'RE SO GAYI'M SO GAYWE'RE SO GAYYOU MIGHT ALSO LIKE1EMBEDCANCELHOW TO FORMAT LYRICS:TYPE OUT ALL LYRICS, EVEN REPEATG SONG PARTS LIKE THE CHOSLYRICS SHOULD BE BROKEN DOWN TO DIVIDUAL LUSE SECTN HEARS ABOVE DIFFERENT SONG PARTS LIKE [VERSE], [CHOS], ETC.USE ALICS (<I>LYRIC</I>) AND BOLD (<B>LYRIC</B>) TO DISTGUISH BETWEEN DIFFERENT VOLISTS THE SAME SONG PARTIF YOU DON’T UNRSTAND A LYRIC, E [?]TO LEARN MORE, CHECK OUT OUR TRANSCRIPTN GUI OR VIS OUR TRANSCRIBERS FOMABOUTHAVE THE SI SOP ON THIS SONG?SIGN UP AND DROP SOME KNOWLEDGESTART THE SONG BASK A QUTN ABOUT THIS SONGASK A QUTN *‌RAPE REVENGE RAPE REVENGEI’M SO GAYCREDSTAGSROCKEXPAND COMMENTSADD A MENTSIGN UP AND DROP KNOWLEDGE ?GENI IS THE ULTIMATE SOURCE OF MIC KNOWLEDGE, CREATED BY SCHOLARS LIKE YOU WHO SHARE FACTS AND SIGHT ABOUT THE SONGS AND ARTISTS THEY LOVE.SIGN UPGENI IS THE WORLD’S BIGGT LLECTN OF SONG LYRICS AND MIL KNOWLEDGE

I ma one gay iend, who I'm actually close to now.

For the first time I've been able to form a good group of gay iends and create my own support work. I'd go on gay chatrooms but that was jt a facels nversatn wh someone who uld have been anyone. I thk if I'd had iends who were gay when I was growg up, my life would have been so different.

I now know there were other kids at my school who were gay, but they didn't e out till much later.

I'M GAY

Gay - While this adjective has historilly scribed men who are attracted to other men, the term now is ed to refer to anyone who experienc romantic, emotnal, or physil attractn to people of the same genr. Sce genr inty and sexual orientatn are separate, transgenr people n intify as straight, gay, lbian, bisexual, etc. Most people the LGBTQ+ muny know om experience that acceptg your sexualy will lead to your beg a happier, more open this gui, the term gay has been ed to clu all forms of non-heterosexual attractn, whether that be people who are lbian, gay, bisexual, queer, pansexual, or otherwise not straight.

Know if you are gay. Consir takg an onle sexualy quiz, like this one, to see if intifyg as gay feels right for you. There isn't any need to change yourself - beg gay is jt another way of simply existg, and there is nothg wrong wh at all.

Neher is there anythg wrong wh you for beg gay. The fact that I am gay is jt another facet of who I am, jt as beg creative, or optimistic, or havg brown ey is. Remember that beg gay do not require you to nform to typil gay stereotyp.