The Solutn to "Gay" Insults: Freedom of Speech | Psychology Today

Contents:

• HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY
• HOW DO I KNOW IF I AM GAY? SIGNS YOU ARE GAY
• AM I GAY?
• AM I GAY? HOW DO YOU KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY?
• HOW ‘WHO R’ HAS BEE WORD ONLE FOR ‘I HATE GAY PEOPLE’
• ‘I AM GAY – BUT I WASN’T BORN THIS WAY’
• UR SO GAYKATY PERRYTRACK 6 ON ONE OF THE BOYS PRODUCED BYGREG WELLS“UR SO GAY” IS A SONG ABOUT A BOY WHO FS ALL THE GAY STEREOTYP, SPE NOT ACTUALLY BEG GAY HIMSELF. KATY WISH THE BOY WOULD BE HONT WH HER ABOUT HIMSELF.NOV. 20, 20071 VIEWER135.3K VIEWS90 CONTRIBUTORSTRANSLATNSPORTUGUêSITALIANOUR SO GAY LYRICS[INTRO]YOUR MD MAY REFE TO BELIEVEYOUR MD MAY REFE TO BELIEVE[VERSE 1]I HOPE YOU HANG YOURSELF WH YOUR H&M SRFWHILE **** OFF LISTENG TO MOZARTYOU BCH AND MOAN ABOUT LAWISHG YOU WERE THE RA READG HEMGWAYYOU DON'T EAT MEAT AND DRIVE ELECTRIL RSYOU'RE SO DIE ROCK, 'S ALMOST AN ARTYOU NEED SPF 45 JT TO STAY ALIVE[CHOS]YOU'RE SO GAY AND YOU DON'T EVEN LIKE BOYSNO, YOU DON'T EVEN LIKENO, YOU DON'T EVEN LIKENO, YOU DON'T EVEN LIKE BOYS (OH)YOU'RE SO GAY AND YOU DON'T EVEN LIKE BOYSNO, YOU DON'T EVEN LIKENO, YOU DON'T EVEN LIKENO, YOU DON'T EVEN LIKE[VERSE 2]YOU'RE SO SAD, MAYBE YOU SHOULD BUY A HAPPY MEALYOU'RE SO SKNY, YOU SHOULD REALLY SUPER SIZE THE ALSECRETLY, YOU'RE SO AMED THAT NOBODY UNRSTANDS YOUI'M SO MEAN 'E I NNOT GET YOU OUT OF YOUR HEADI'M SO ANGRY 'E YOU'D RATHER MYSPACE STEADI N'T BELIEVE I FELL LOVE WH SOMEONE THAT WEARS MORE MAKP ANDYOU MIGHT ALSO LIKE[CHOS]YOU'RE SO GAY AND YOU DON'T EVEN LIKE BOYSNO, YOU DON'T EVEN LIKENO, YOU DON'T EVEN LIKENO, YOU DON'T EVEN LIKE BOYSYOU'RE SO GAY AND YOU DON'T EVEN LIKE BOYSNO, YOU DON'T EVEN LIKENO, YOU DON'T EVEN LIKENO, YOU DON'T EVEN LIKE[BREAKDOWN]HEY, OHOH WOAH-OH-OH, OHLA-LA-LALA-LA-LADO-DO-DO, BA-BA-BADO-DO-DO, DA-DA-DAYYOU'RE SO GAYYOU'RE SO GAY[BRIDGE]YOU WALK AROUND LIKE YOU'RE OH-SO BONAIRYOU PULL 'EM DOWN AND THERE'S REALLY NOTHG THEREI WISH YOU WOULD JT BE REAL WH ME[CHOS]YOU'RE SO GAY AND YOU DON'T EVEN LIKE BOYSNO, YOU DON'T EVEN LIKENO, YOU DON'T EVEN LIKENO, YOU DON'T EVEN LIKE BOYSYOU'RE SO GAY AND YOU DON'T EVEN LIKE BOYSNO, YOU DON'T EVEN LIKENO, YOU DON'T EVEN LIKEOH, NO, NO, NO, NO, NO, NO, NOYOU'RE SO GAY AND YOU DON'T EVEN LIKE BOYSNO, YOU DON'T EVEN LIKENO, YOU DON'T EVEN LIKENO, YOU DON'T EVEN LIKE BOYSYOU'RE SO GAY AND YOU DON'T EVEN LIKE BOYSNO, YOU DON'T EVEN LIKENO, YOU DON'T EVEN LIKENO, YOU DON'T EVEN LIKE[OUTRO]PENIS16EMBEDCANCELHOW TO FORMAT LYRICS:TYPE OUT ALL LYRICS, EVEN REPEATG SONG PARTS LIKE THE CHOSLYRICS SHOULD BE BROKEN DOWN TO DIVIDUAL LUSE SECTN HEARS ABOVE DIFFERENT SONG PARTS LIKE [VERSE], [CHOS], ETC.USE ALICS (<I>LYRIC</I>) AND BOLD (<B>LYRIC</B>) TO DISTGUISH BETWEEN DIFFERENT VOLISTS THE SAME SONG PARTIF YOU DON’T UNRSTAND A LYRIC, E [?]TO LEARN MORE, CHECK OUT OUR TRANSCRIPTN GUI OR VIS OUR TRANSCRIBERS FOMABOUT
• HOW DO I KNOW I’M NOT REALLY GAY/STRAIGHT?
• 17 SIGNS YOU'RE ACTUALLY GAY (AND JT DON'T KNOW IT)
• HOW TO ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE GAY
• THE SOLUTN TO "GAY" INSULTS: FREEDOM OF SPEECH

HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY

Keep md that even if you have a sexual experience wh someone of the same genr or another genr, that don’t necsarily mean that you’re gay.

That means, for example, that you n be transgenr but also straight (for stance, you might intify as a woman and feel attracted to men) or gay (e. Article SummaryXIf you’re not sure how to know if you are gay, thk about any past romantic experienc you have had.

HOW DO I KNOW IF I AM GAY? SIGNS YOU ARE GAY

If you have had romantic experienc or fantasi volvg people who are the same genr as you, then there is a good chance you are gay or bisexual, but 's okay if you're a ltle nfed. Pri, formerly known as Gay Pri, is a regnn of LGBTQ inty, affirmatn of equal rights, and celebratn of visibily, digny, and diversy the LGBTQ muny. While the word homosexual is still ocsnally ed some ntexts, you might have noticed that don’t make an appearance any versn of the LGBTQ acronym.

As our age note on the term stat, “up until 1973, homosexualy was listed The Diagnostic and Statistil Manual of Mental Disorrs (DSM), psychiatry’s standard reference on the classifitn of mental illns.

And many feel that this word plac undue emphasis on sexual activy, or that sounds overly clil.” In fact, the term homosexual was liberately rejected by early gay rights activists bee, acrdg to The New York Tim, “they did not want to be intified as exclively sexual begs.”. Gay, on the other hand, n be ed to scribe a person of any genr who experienc same-sex attractn, although is most often ed to scribe a man who is attracted to men. On June 28, 1969, the New York Cy police raid the Stonewall Inn, a bar equented by gay and genr-nonnformg people (at a time when terms like LGBTQ didn’t yet exist).

AM I GAY?

Partially rponse to Stonewall, 1970, queer activists New York Cy anized a march to Central Park wh the theme “Gay Pri.” A more prehensive history of the Stonewall Rt or the Stonewall Uprisg n be found our Pri Month explaer. Queer lerally means “strange or odd om a nventnal viewpot,” and by at least by the late 1800s, queer was ployed as a rogatory term for an effemate or gay man.

AM I GAY? HOW DO YOU KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY?

When down to , there is no reliable "Am I Gay tt", so the only way to know that you are gay (fn of gay) is to look wh yourself to terme your own thoughts and feelgs towards others of the same sex.

HOW ‘WHO R’ HAS BEE WORD ONLE FOR ‘I HATE GAY PEOPLE’

And if do turn out that you are gay, remember that there is nothg wrong wh beg gay – is jt part of who you are.

Gay - While this adjective has historilly scribed men who are attracted to other men, the term now is ed to refer to anyone who experienc romantic, emotnal, or physil attractn to people of the same genr. Sce genr inty and sexual orientatn are separate, transgenr people n intify as straight, gay, lbian, bisexual, etc.

In the 1950s and 1960s, was believed, some circl, that was possible to tt for homosexualy and such a tt was veloped Canada. However, this tt was based on many flty assumptns and has long sce been shown that no tt n tell you whether you are gay or not. The ratg sl aim to classify people not as "gay" or "straight" but rather dite that most people do not experience exclively gay or straight experienc.

‘I AM GAY – BUT I WASN’T BORN THIS WAY’

Most people, regardls as to their sexual inty, do experience both homosexual and heterosexual feelgs and/or behavrs at different tim their liv. It n be hard for some people to know whether or not they are gay, but 's important to remember that cidg you are gay is a personal cisn and not a clil one.

Some people that have homosexual experienc ntue not to intify as gay while others that have never had a homosexual experience and rather, jt have homosexual feelgs, may ll themselv gay.

"Wh time, someone who is gay will realize that not only are they sexually attracted to members of the same sex, but that this attractn is not transnal, or as often scribed 'jt a phase'.

UR SO GAYKATY PERRYTRACK 6 ON ONE OF THE BOYS PRODUCED BYGREG WELLS“UR SO GAY” IS A SONG ABOUT A BOY WHO FS ALL THE GAY STEREOTYP, SPE NOT ACTUALLY BEG GAY HIMSELF. KATY WISH THE BOY WOULD BE HONT WH HER ABOUT HIMSELF.NOV. 20, 20071 VIEWER135.3K VIEWS90 CONTRIBUTORSTRANSLATNSPORTUGUêSITALIANOUR SO GAY LYRICS[INTRO]YOUR MD MAY REFE TO BELIEVEYOUR MD MAY REFE TO BELIEVE[VERSE 1]I HOPE YOU HANG YOURSELF WH YOUR H&M SRFWHILE **** OFF LISTENG TO MOZARTYOU BCH AND MOAN ABOUT LAWISHG YOU WERE THE RA READG HEMGWAYYOU DON'T EAT MEAT AND DRIVE ELECTRIL RSYOU'RE SO DIE ROCK, 'S ALMOST AN ARTYOU NEED SPF 45 JT TO STAY ALIVE[CHOS]YOU'RE SO GAY AND YOU DON'T EVEN LIKE BOYSNO, YOU DON'T EVEN LIKENO, YOU DON'T EVEN LIKENO, YOU DON'T EVEN LIKE BOYS (OH)YOU'RE SO GAY AND YOU DON'T EVEN LIKE BOYSNO, YOU DON'T EVEN LIKENO, YOU DON'T EVEN LIKENO, YOU DON'T EVEN LIKE[VERSE 2]YOU'RE SO SAD, MAYBE YOU SHOULD BUY A HAPPY MEALYOU'RE SO SKNY, YOU SHOULD REALLY SUPER SIZE THE ALSECRETLY, YOU'RE SO AMED THAT NOBODY UNRSTANDS YOUI'M SO MEAN 'E I NNOT GET YOU OUT OF YOUR HEADI'M SO ANGRY 'E YOU'D RATHER MYSPACE STEADI N'T BELIEVE I FELL LOVE WH SOMEONE THAT WEARS MORE MAKP ANDYOU MIGHT ALSO LIKE[CHOS]YOU'RE SO GAY AND YOU DON'T EVEN LIKE BOYSNO, YOU DON'T EVEN LIKENO, YOU DON'T EVEN LIKENO, YOU DON'T EVEN LIKE BOYSYOU'RE SO GAY AND YOU DON'T EVEN LIKE BOYSNO, YOU DON'T EVEN LIKENO, YOU DON'T EVEN LIKENO, YOU DON'T EVEN LIKE[BREAKDOWN]HEY, OHOH WOAH-OH-OH, OHLA-LA-LALA-LA-LADO-DO-DO, BA-BA-BADO-DO-DO, DA-DA-DAYYOU'RE SO GAYYOU'RE SO GAY[BRIDGE]YOU WALK AROUND LIKE YOU'RE OH-SO BONAIRYOU PULL 'EM DOWN AND THERE'S REALLY NOTHG THEREI WISH YOU WOULD JT BE REAL WH ME[CHOS]YOU'RE SO GAY AND YOU DON'T EVEN LIKE BOYSNO, YOU DON'T EVEN LIKENO, YOU DON'T EVEN LIKENO, YOU DON'T EVEN LIKE BOYSYOU'RE SO GAY AND YOU DON'T EVEN LIKE BOYSNO, YOU DON'T EVEN LIKENO, YOU DON'T EVEN LIKEOH, NO, NO, NO, NO, NO, NO, NOYOU'RE SO GAY AND YOU DON'T EVEN LIKE BOYSNO, YOU DON'T EVEN LIKENO, YOU DON'T EVEN LIKENO, YOU DON'T EVEN LIKE BOYSYOU'RE SO GAY AND YOU DON'T EVEN LIKE BOYSNO, YOU DON'T EVEN LIKENO, YOU DON'T EVEN LIKENO, YOU DON'T EVEN LIKE[OUTRO]PENIS16EMBEDCANCELHOW TO FORMAT LYRICS:TYPE OUT ALL LYRICS, EVEN REPEATG SONG PARTS LIKE THE CHOSLYRICS SHOULD BE BROKEN DOWN TO DIVIDUAL LUSE SECTN HEARS ABOVE DIFFERENT SONG PARTS LIKE [VERSE], [CHOS], ETC.USE ALICS (<I>LYRIC</I>) AND BOLD (<B>LYRIC</B>) TO DISTGUISH BETWEEN DIFFERENT VOLISTS THE SAME SONG PARTIF YOU DON’T UNRSTAND A LYRIC, E [?]TO LEARN MORE, CHECK OUT OUR TRANSCRIPTN GUI OR VIS OUR TRANSCRIBERS FOMABOUT

Many people bee aware of gay feelgs durg their teenage years, as this is when they beg to learn more about their sexualy and inty. However, the difficulti associated wh acceptg the feelgs and g out gay mean that many gay people don't intify themselv as gay until later on life.

When a loved one tells you they don’t re that you’re lbian, gay, bisexual, trans or any of the other many scriptors of people our muny, they are tryg to, wh words, wrap their arms around you and give you a big hug.

HOW DO I KNOW I’M NOT REALLY GAY/STRAIGHT?

You so obvly nnot be gay, was her implitn, bee this is good was 2006, a full five years before Lady Gaga would set the Born This Way argument atop s unassailable cultural perch, but even then the popular unrstandg of orientatn was that was somethg you were born wh, somethg you uldn’t change. I me out at a nservative Christian llege the US and was a gay relatnship for around two years wh a basketball player who end up marryg a woman. Well, you mt have been gay the whole time, some might thk, and bee of some relig shame, you cid to lie to yourself and experiment wh a girl.

But what feels most accurate to say is that I’m gay – but I wasn’t born this people may fd their sir changg directn - and n't jt be explaed as experimentatn (Cred: Ignac Lehmann)In 1977, jt over 10% of Amerins thought gayns was somethg you were born wh, acrdg to Gallup.

17 SIGNS YOU'RE ACTUALLY GAY (AND JT DON'T KNOW IT)

Throughout the same perd, the number of Amerins who believe homosexualy is “due to someone’s upbrgg/environment” fell om jt unr 60% to ias reached cril mass pop culture, first wh Lady Gaga’s 2011 Born This Way and one year later wh Macklemore’s Same Love, the chos of which has a gay person sgg “I n’t change even if I tried, even if I wanted to. ” Around the same time, the Human Rights Campaign clared unequivolly that “Beg gay is not a choice, ” and to claim that is “giv unwarranted crence to roundly disproven practic such as nversn or reparative therapy.

”People who challenge the Born This Way narrative are often st as homophobic, and their thkg is nsired backwardAs Jane Ward not Not Gay: Sex Between Straight Whe Men, what’s tertg about many of the claims is how transparent their speakers are wh their polil motivatns. “Such statements, ” she wr, “fe blogil acunts wh an obligatory and nearly ercive force, suggtg that anyone who scrib homosexual sire as a choice or social nstctn is playg to the hands of the enemy. ” People who challenge the Born This Way narrative are often st as homophobic, and their thkg is nsired backward – even if they are themselv, for example, Cynthia Nixon of Sex and The Cy fame.

HOW TO ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE GAY

Callg me “idtic” and “patently absurd”, Aravosis wrote, “The gay haters at the relig right uldn’t have wrten any better. ”Gay rights do not have to hge on a geic explanatn for sexualy (Cred: Ignac Lehmann)For Aravosis, and many gay activists like him, the public will only accept and affirm gay people if they thk they were born gay.

Patrick Grzanka, Assistant Profsor of Psychology at Universy of Tennsee, for stance, has shown that some people who believe that homosexualy is nate still hold negative views of gays. In fact, the homophobic and non-homophobic rponnts he studied shared siar levels of belief a Born This Way Samantha Allen not at The Daily Beast, the growg public support for gays and lbians has grown out of proportn wh the rise the number of people who believe homosexualy is fixed at birth; would be unlikely that this small change opn uld expla the spike support for gay marriage, for stance. In 1985, only 24% of Amerin rponnts said they had a gay iend, relative or -worker —  2013, that number was at 75%.

“It don’t seem to matter as much whether or not people believe that gay people are born that way as do that they simply know someone who is currently gay, ” Allen spe of the studi, those who ph agast Born This Way narrativ have been heavily cricised by gay activists. Siarly, Ward has received her own hatemail for phg agast the lg LGB narrativ, wh some gays tellg her she’s “worse than Ann Coulter, ” the ntroversial US thor of books like If Democrats Had Any Bras, They’d Be Republins. And when I published my say on choosg to be gay, an irate Amerin lbian activist wrote me that had “jt been nfirmed” to her that my wrg was “directly rponsible for four gay aths Rsia.

THE SOLUTN TO "GAY" INSULTS: FREEDOM OF SPEECH

There is a unanimo opn that gay “nversn therapy” should be rejectedLet’s first be clear that whatever the origs of our sexual orientatn, there is a unanimo opn that gay “nversn therapy” should be rejected.

The efforts are potentially harmful, acrdg to the APA, “bee they prent the view that the sexual orientatn of lbian, gay and bisexual youth is a mental illns of disorr, and they often ame the abily to change one’s sexual orientatn as a personal and moral failure. The APA, for example, while notg that most people experience ltle to no choice over their orientatns, says this of homosexualy’s origs:“Although much rearch has examed the possible geic, hormonal, velopmental, social and cultural fluenc on sexual orientatn, no fdgs have emerged that perm scientists to nclu that sexual orientatn is termed by any particular factor or factors.

”Siarly, the Amerin Psychiatric Associatn wr a 2013 statement that while the of heterosexualy and homosexualy are currently unknown, they are likely “multifactorial cludg blogil and behavral roots which may vary between different dividuals and may even vary over time. ”Te, var eye-grabbg headl over the years have claimed that some scientists have found somethg like The Gay Gene. ” Acrdg to LeVay’s rearch, a specific part of the bra, the third terstial nucls of the anterr hypothalam (INAH-3), is smaller homosexual men than is heterosexual as they might, scientists have stggled to inty any particular gen that nsistently predict the directns of our love and sire (Cred: Ignac Lehmann)Read moreYou n spot the problem wh this study a e away: were the gay bras LeVay studied born that way, or did they bee that way?