We check out sexy guys together but he firmly stat he's not gay. I don't know what to do about his mixed signals
Contents:
- AS A STRAIGHT MAN, HOW N I POLELY STOP MY GAY IEND FLIRTG WH ME?
- HOW TO KNOW IF A GAY FRIEND LIK YOU (FOR MEN)
- IS FLIRTG BETWEEN GAY AND STRAIGHT MEN OKAY?
- ASK AMY: GAY MAN SET STRAIGHT ABOUT IEND-FLIRTG
AS A STRAIGHT MAN, HOW N I POLELY STOP MY GAY IEND FLIRTG WH ME?
One of my iends who recently me out as gay has started flirtg wh me, even though he knows I’m straight and therefore have no tert him. No gay man has ever flirted wh me and I don’t know why: I’m iendly, I’m a good listener, I have a sexy, swarthy, stubbly look, part Eugene Levy, part Jo-Jo the Dog-Faced Circ Boy – I’m really que irristible. But, for some reason, gay men fd me very unappealg – and, to be hont, I’m a ltle once would be nice if a gay man sidled up to me and said, “Shake your bon-bon, I’m a sperado unrneath your wdow.
However, don't jt straight up go up to him and say: "Are you gay? How do you know if you’re gay?
HOW TO KNOW IF A GAY FRIEND LIK YOU (FOR MEN)
If you fd out he is gay, or are really sure he is, jt ask him. A rear wr: I'm a twentysomethg gay male wh a straight male acquatance who adms to flirtg wh me.
Your distanceSexual attractn is volatile any iendship, but straight men particular feel prsure to monstrate that they are not homophobic. So they might play wh an entirely hypothetil gay inty by mentg on attractive guys, but to gay men, n e across as "mixed signals. – Gilbert Osmond, MontrealThk of the kidsWhether your iend is nfed about his sexualy, aaid to adm he's gay or simply takg his LGBT support a b too far … do you really want to get volved?
And if he were openly gay and had kids wh a male partner stead, would you ask yourself the same qutns about actg on your attractn? He's not g the exce, "I had to get married bee I belong to a ragg homophobic muny. My hband would probably prefer traipsg around the gay village, checkg out cute men, to stg at home watchg another md numbg soccer you have to protect yourself.
IS FLIRTG BETWEEN GAY AND STRAIGHT MEN OKAY?
It don't matter if your iend is gay or straight – there are other people volved: a partner and kids. My gay iend is flirtg(?
She says stuff like “ I’m gay for you”, sends me gay upl tiktoks and says “me and who” or “”. When you are growg up a future gay, you learn very quickly that your relatnships wh straight men are never gog to be anythg other than plex.
I have straight male iends and gay male iends and obvly loads of ladi and everybody is gettg married – ’s jt like Peter’s Friends or This Life, but everybody’s got a crick their neck om g their smartphon day , day out and we’re all tweetg our breakfasts stead of llg each other. But as more boys move away om a fear of gay men toward a d cursy, ’s all too easy to misterpret and get rried away.
ASK AMY: GAY MAN SET STRAIGHT ABOUT IEND-FLIRTG
He wasn’t gay, or remotely terted tryg out, but wanted to be found attractive.
He uldn’t unrstand why, as a gay man, I wasn’t salivatg over what was before me like a rtoon dog droolg at the ssag a butcher’s wdow. Thanks to advanc gay sex scen on TV, nobody really asks “Who plays the man and who is the woman? But sometim when you go to a rtrant as a gay man, ually when there’s more than one of you, somethg odd seems to happen to some straight waers.