Abstract The aim of this qualative study was to exame the lived experience of married Jewish relig men who are also gay. Twenty -pth terviews were nducted wh participants, livg Israel, who fed themselv as orthodox Jews and gay men married to women. Phenomenologil analysis revealed 3 key them: a sense of social obligatn to marry a woman; a lived realy characterized by spl and dualy; and a diverse experience that rang om feelgs of shame and guilt to a sense of acceptance and rencilement. The fdgs suggt that although some men stggle to manage a life wh a secret same-sex orientatn while experiencg tratn and distrs, other men fd much greater meang and signifince their sense of fay and muny belongg than a life lived acrdg to their sexual orientatn. The fdgs dite the great importance of relig affiliatn and beliefs shapg the liv of the men. Implitns for social and practil terventns are discsed, wh special reference to the g out procs and the ethil standpot of the therapist.
Contents:
- IS IT GAY HBAND? LBIAN WIFE? OR WHAT?
- WOMAN OUT AS GAY 6 YEARS TO MARRIAGE BUT STAYS WH HBAND: ‘HE’S MY SOULMATE’
- “MEN ARE FOR SEX AND WOMEN ARE FOR MARRIAGE”: ON THE DUALY THE LIV OF JEWISH RELIG GAY MEN MARRIED TO WOMEN
- ESTATE AGENT JAILED FOR VIC ATTACK ON TWO GAY MEN HOLDG HANDS
IS IT GAY HBAND? LBIAN WIFE? OR WHAT?
Follow a gay uple’s lead as to how to refer to one spoe. And when doubt, “partner” ually satisfi everyone. * gay men married women *
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WOMAN OUT AS GAY 6 YEARS TO MARRIAGE BUT STAYS WH HBAND: ‘HE’S MY SOULMATE’
Rourc for stunts and psychologists to ga a better unrstandg of issu that may affect the straight spoe when a wife or hband out as lbian, gay, bisexual or transgenr. * gay men married women *
27, 2012Every other Tuday, Steven Petrow, the thor of “Steven Petrow’s Complete Gay & Lbian Manners, ” (Workman, 2011), addrs qutns about gay and straight etiquette for a boomer-age dience. " I am a straight man my 50s, and most same-sex upl of my age group e “partner” to refer to each other although younger gay male iends speak of their “hbands” wh lbian upl routely g “wife.
Given today’s crazy-quilt mix of state marriage laws (ma even more so by the Electn Day victori for gay weddgs), ’s no wonr you are nfed about how to refer to our signifint others. The other day I heard about a recently married gay man who mentned his “hband” passg to a woman of a certa age (meang ours!
It’s tertg to me that you rrectly intify the generatnal difference among your gay, lbian and bisexual iends (two snaps for payg attentn! ) and I’ll bet you’re likely to rell when other terms were vogue — “longtime pann” was obuary for “gay” – and back the day the sexually suggtive “lover” was the mon moniker for many a practil level what I suggt dog is listeng to how a uple troduc or refers to each other.
“MEN ARE FOR SEX AND WOMEN ARE FOR MARRIAGE”: ON THE DUALY THE LIV OF JEWISH RELIG GAY MEN MARRIED TO WOMEN
For stance, I recently overheard a gay iend a long-term relatnship refer to his better half as his “spoe” only to hear one of the straight folks ask him mut later what kd of work his “iend” did.
I’d love to see Endora st a spell on Congrs and get to overturn the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA), which prohibs Feral regnn of gay and lbian weddgs (and ni more than 1, 100 benefs like Social Secury for survivg spo or hospal visatn rights). If you need advice about gay/straight suatns or issu (geared to a boomer-aged dience), send them to Mr. “I thk I knew I was gay growg up, [but] here Ameri n be very nservative, ” Nilette told SWNS.
ESTATE AGENT JAILED FOR VIC ATTACK ON TWO GAY MEN HOLDG HANDS
She add: “It wasn’t really a thg to be gay when I was growg up. Many lbian, gay, bisexual or transgenr people e out years after they have been married to an oppose-sex heterosexual wife or hband.