Follow a gay uple’s lead as to how to refer to one spoe. And when doubt, “partner” ually satisfi everyone.
Contents:
- IS IT GAY HBAND? LBIAN WIFE? OR WHAT?
- WOMAN OUT AS GAY 6 YEARS TO MARRIAGE BUT STAYS WH HBAND: ‘HE’S MY SOULMATE’
- “MEN ARE FOR SEX AND WOMEN ARE FOR MARRIAGE”: ON THE DUALY THE LIV OF JEWISH RELIG GAY MEN MARRIED TO WOMEN
- ESTATE AGENT JAILED FOR VIC ATTACK ON TWO GAY MEN HOLDG HANDS
IS IT GAY HBAND? LBIAN WIFE? OR WHAT?
* gay men married women *
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27, 2012Every other Tuday, Steven Petrow, the thor of “Steven Petrow’s Complete Gay & Lbian Manners, ” (Workman, 2011), addrs qutns about gay and straight etiquette for a boomer-age dience.
WOMAN OUT AS GAY 6 YEARS TO MARRIAGE BUT STAYS WH HBAND: ‘HE’S MY SOULMATE’
Rourc for stunts and psychologists to ga a better unrstandg of issu that may affect the straight spoe when a wife or hband out as lbian, gay, bisexual or transgenr. * gay men married women *
" I am a straight man my 50s, and most same-sex upl of my age group e “partner” to refer to each other although younger gay male iends speak of their “hbands” wh lbian upl routely g “wife.
“MEN ARE FOR SEX AND WOMEN ARE FOR MARRIAGE”: ON THE DUALY THE LIV OF JEWISH RELIG GAY MEN MARRIED TO WOMEN
Given today’s crazy-quilt mix of state marriage laws (ma even more so by the Electn Day victori for gay weddgs), ’s no wonr you are nfed about how to refer to our signifint others. The other day I heard about a recently married gay man who mentned his “hband” passg to a woman of a certa age (meang ours! It’s tertg to me that you rrectly intify the generatnal difference among your gay, lbian and bisexual iends (two snaps for payg attentn!
) and I’ll bet you’re likely to rell when other terms were vogue — “longtime pann” was obuary for “gay” – and back the day the sexually suggtive “lover” was the mon moniker for many a practil level what I suggt dog is listeng to how a uple troduc or refers to each other. For stance, I recently overheard a gay iend a long-term relatnship refer to his better half as his “spoe” only to hear one of the straight folks ask him mut later what kd of work his “iend” did.
ESTATE AGENT JAILED FOR VIC ATTACK ON TWO GAY MEN HOLDG HANDS
I’d love to see Endora st a spell on Congrs and get to overturn the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA), which prohibs Feral regnn of gay and lbian weddgs (and ni more than 1, 100 benefs like Social Secury for survivg spo or hospal visatn rights).
If you need advice about gay/straight suatns or issu (geared to a boomer-aged dience), send them to Mr. “I thk I knew I was gay growg up, [but] here Ameri n be very nservative, ” Nilette told SWNS. She add: “It wasn’t really a thg to be gay when I was growg up.
Many lbian, gay, bisexual or transgenr people e out years after they have been married to an oppose-sex heterosexual wife or hband. For example, when a “closeted” gay or bisexual man has sex wh another man, he views that sex as reflectg his secret gay/bisexual inty.