How to Pick Up Gay Men: Buildg Confince & Makg a Move

Contents:

• THE HIDN GAY LIV FALLY BEG UNVERED
• 'IT'S A S' BRGS A LOST GENERATN OF GAY MEN TO LIFE
• 'GAY AMERI': PHOTOGRAPHS OF GAY MEN FROM ALL 50 STAT
• KEV MAXEN JT BEME THE FIRST MALE ACH MEN'S PRO SPORTS TO E OUT AS GAY. HE SAID HE DON'T WANT TO HAVE TO 'LIE' OR 'FEEL FEAR' ABOUT HIS PERSONAL LIFE ANYMORE.
• JAGUARS’ KEV MAXEN IS FIRST MALE ACH TO E OUT AS GAY US MEN’S PRO SPORTS
• STEP-BY-STEP INSTCTNS FOR SHOOTG YOUR SHOT WH GAY GUYS
• JACKSONVILLE JAGUARS ACH OUT AS GAY
• 10 COUNTRI WH THE BIGGT GAY POPULATNS THE WORLD
• GAY STEREOTYP: ARE THEY TE?
• PALM SPRGS GAY MEN’S CHOS HOSTS SCHOOL SUPPLI DRIVE
• ESTATE AGENT JAILED FOR VIC ATTACK ON TWO GAY MEN HOLDG HANDS
• KEV MAXEN BE FIRST MALE ACH A US MEN’S PROFSNAL SPORTS LEAGUE TO PUBLICLY E OUT AS GAY

THE HIDN GAY LIV FALLY BEG UNVERED

Per Outsports, as of September 2022, there have only ever been 16 players NFL history to publicly e out as gay or bisexual. Per Outsports, Maxen is the “first publicly out male ach a major Amerin men’s pro sports league,” wh WNBA ach Curt Miller, who publicly me out to the media as gay 2015, also a publicly out male ach an Amerin profsnal sports league.

'IT'S A S' BRGS A LOST GENERATN OF GAY MEN TO LIFE

The majory of gay and bisexual men have and mata good mental health, even though rearch has shown that they are at greater risk for mental health problems. Like everyone else, the majory of gay and bisexual men are able to pe succsfully if nnected to the right rourc. However, ongog homophobia, stigma (negative and ually unfair beliefs), and discrimatn (unfairly treatg a person or group of people) n have negative effects on your health.

'GAY AMERI': PHOTOGRAPHS OF GAY MEN FROM ALL 50 STAT

Gay and bisexual men may also face other health threats that ually happen along wh mental health problems. Gay and bisexual men are more likely than other men to have tried to m suici as well as to have succeed at suici. Keepg your sexual orientatn hidn om others (beg “ the closet”) and fear of havg your sexual orientatn disclosed (beg “outed”) n add to the strs of beg gay or bisexual.

In general, rearch has shown that gay and bisexual men who are open about their sexual orientatn wh others have better health out than gay and bisexual men who do not. However, beg “out” some settgs and to people who react negatively n add to the strs experienced by gay and bisexual men, and n lead to poorer mental health and discrimatn.

Mental health unselg and support groups that are sensive to the needs of gay and bisexual men n be pecially eful if you are g to terms wh your sexual orientatn or are experiencg prsn, anxiety, or other mental health problems. While many gay, bisexual, and other men who have sex wh men may not seek re om a mental health provir bee of a fear of discrimatn or homophobia, is important to keep this as an optn and to fd a provir that is tstworthy and patible.

KEV MAXEN JT BEME THE FIRST MALE ACH MEN'S PRO SPORTS TO E OUT AS GAY. HE SAID HE DON'T WANT TO HAVE TO 'LIE' OR 'FEEL FEAR' ABOUT HIS PERSONAL LIFE ANYMORE.

Bisexual men are perceived to sound more mascule than men who are straight, acrdg to a study of Atralian subjects.Amics at the Universy of Sydney pared the voic of gay, straight and bisexual men a study volvg 160 people.In the rearch led by clil psychologist Jam Morandi, people were reced to analyse the voic of 60 men, 20 of whom were gay, 20 straight and 20 bisexual. They were then asked to rate the men on their sexual orientatn g a sle om zero (exclively heterosexual) to 10 (exclively homosexual).Listeners were also asked to rate each man’s perceived level of femy or masculy the voic on a siar sle.The men volved the study were asked to rerd themselv on a smartphone recg the first two l of the Atralian natnal anthem.Voice sampl were then modified to remove any background noise while volume levels were ma the same to ensure nsistency.Rults om the study showed listeners uld distguish between gay and straight men’s voic wh an accuracy of 62 per cent, apparently nsistent wh prev rearch.However, the study participants uld not terme any differenc between bisexual and straight men’s voic wh any gree of accuracy.

The thors said their rearch showed bisexual men’s voic were perceived as beg more exclively attracted to women pared wh both gay and straight men’s voic.Bisexual men’s voic were rated as more mascule than both gay and straight men’s voic.Rearchers claimed the abily to intify a man’s bisexual inty om his voice alone uld have cril social implitns such as helpg to rce feelgs of alienatn.‘Voice may unter visibily many bisexuals feel’An abstract of the study, tled Can listeners tect if a man is bisexual om his voice alone, reads: “The prent study examed whether bisexual men n be intified om their voic ak to how gay men n be intified on their voice alone.“If this is the se, voice may be an important target of discrimatn on the one hand but may also unter the visibily many bisexuals feel (if their bisexual inti n be apprehend by their voice alone, whout explic disclosure required).“The fdgs may also she light on whether bisexual male voic, like gay male voic, differ om straight voic terms of their genr non-nformy – a qutn that to date has not been examed.”But amics noted the rearch was limed on the grounds all men who participated the study are Atralian, which may not be reflected among wir cultur.And the thors nced the study did not ntrol for the rerdg environment or microphone-to-mouth distance, which uld have affected the qualy of the voice sampl.The thors said the fdgs suggted that while the voic of bisexual men the sample were perceived as more mascule and attracted to femal, listeners did not associate this imprsn wh bisexualy.As a rult, while bisexual men may appear to be at lower risk of facg voice-based intifitn and discrimatn than gay men, they may often be mistaken as beg straight.The study was published the Journal of Sex Rearch. But when I heard people ravg about the show, wrten by Rsell T Davi, I was stck by how many of them admted to knowg ltle about the epimic – and the stctn wreaked among the gay muny. That’s bee, even today's much more acceptg society, the history of the gay and lbian muny is largely a fotten history.

JAGUARS’ KEV MAXEN IS FIRST MALE ACH TO E OUT AS GAY US MEN’S PRO SPORTS

For a long time, the mastream public didn't want to hear our Ca's The Secret Life of Albert Entwistle tells the story of a secretly gay postman searchg for a lost love om his youth (Cred: Headle Review)"I would venture to say that the public were disgted and outraged, " says thor Crystal Jeans. It's about a lonely, socially awkward and secretly gay postman livg a fictnal town the north of England who hs retirement, realisg he wants to turn his life around and fally be happy – but to do this, he needs to fd the love of his life, a man he hasn’t seen for nearly 50 years. My novel is ridg on a wave of tert that dat back the UK to 2017 and the 50th anniversary of the begng of crimalisatn of homosexualy.

STEP-BY-STEP INSTCTNS FOR SHOOTG YOUR SHOT WH GAY GUYS

That same year, the so-lled "Alan Turg law" offered pardons to 49, 000 Brish gay men who’d been nvicted of homosexual acts – followg a mpaign arguably bolstered by the greater awarens brought about by The Imatn Game, the h film that picted the nvictn and chemil stratn of the Enigma-breakg puter scientist.

Over on Instagram, The Aids Memorial shar photos and stori of people – predomantly gay men – who died of the disease, wrten by those who loved them. You’d not tch many queer al mers jottg down their memoirs – Crystal JeansHowever, 's fictn that’s very much drivg the phenomenon of brgg "lost" stori of gay life om the past to light.

Over the last five years, a tr of Irish wrers have livered stunng gay-themed novels set predomantly perds of history that didn't wele them – John Boyne (The Heart’s Invisible Furi), Graham Norton (Home Stretch), and Sebastian Barry (the Costa Award-wng Days Whout End).

JACKSONVILLE JAGUARS ACH OUT AS GAY

In the theatre, Matthew Lopez's exploratn of gay male history The Inherance triumphed London before transferrg to New York, where opened the year after a well-received revival of Mart Crowley's semal 1968 play Boys the Band. Most recently, the ter explod wh behd-the-scen photos of Harry Styl om the shoot of new film My Policeman, an adaptatn of Bethan Roberts's 2012 novel starrg the pop superstar as a closeted gay man the 1950s. However, as a way of explag the mystery surroundg why Harry left behd everythg he knew, Gale imaged a suatn which he was forced to leave as a rult of a gay affair beg exposed.

Crystal Jeans's latt novel is The Inverts, which tells the story of two bt iends – one a lbian, the other a gay man – who enter to a fake marriage the 1920s.

10 COUNTRI WH THE BIGGT GAY POPULATNS THE WORLD

This was another reason I wrote The Secret Life of Albert Entwistle; I wanted to tell the story of one ordary young gay man tryg to exprs his love for another at a time when this would not have been accepted. But I also wanted to ntrast this disturbg, sometim horrifyg picture wh what life n be like for a gay man wh today’s much more acceptg society the UK – and celebrate how much progrs we’ve ma.

My spiratn was a seri of terviews I nducted wh olr gay men whilst I was Edor--Chief of Attu magaze, as part of our celebratn of the 50th anniversary of the start of crimalisatn. Pop star Harry Styl is starrg new film My Policeman as a closeted gay officer the 1950s (Cred: Getty Imag)"What we see all through history is that people are nied their past as part of a way to ntrol them, " says Hornby. I secretly bought as a ltle stunt, secretly buyg his gay magaze, all kd of ashamed and exced all at once, like you do, " Davi said.

Wh It's a S, Davi ptur the tragic irony of an era where gay men were jt startg to enjoy some amount of eedom after hard-fought battl for liberatn, only to be ravaged by an unseen viral predator. HIV/AIDS is far om jt a gay man's disease, but as s first victims — predomantly gay men — started fillg up ICUs and mu, a backlash agast them ensued. Olly Alexanr, who's 30, has been open about beg a victim of anti-gay bullyg growg up, says his school experience was fely fluenced by that backlash.

GAY STEREOTYP: ARE THEY TE?

"You know, now that I'm lookg back, I realize what a huge impact that had on me as I was g to terms wh my own sexualy and the word gay and AIDS were ed as jok the playground. Though Rchie might be the fierct nialist the seri, 's clear that at least at the outset, most of It's a S's gay characters n't be bothered to stop the party. Sensg the impendg wave of fectns, olr gay men try, to no avail, to warn their younger unterparts, but their advisory posters are rejected om gay bars and their worri are shunned as simply attempts to prive a younger generatn of their newfound sexual eedom.

Jill is a straight woman livg the Pk Palace wh her gay iends, and though we don't learn much about her personal story, she do a lot of the show's emotnal labor — whether 's phonebankg, prott anizg or holdg the hands of the abandoned and dyg — and she do all wh ltle regnn.

I thk I wouldn't be dog my job if I wrote gay men as sats all the time and you see great prsure beg put on her, " he says.

PALM SPRGS GAY MEN’S CHOS HOSTS SCHOOL SUPPLI DRIVE

Parents would get word their children were sick and they'd whisk them back home, sometim lerally burng all of the artifacts of their gay liv the procs.

ESTATE AGENT JAILED FOR VIC ATTACK ON TWO GAY MEN HOLDG HANDS

's Channel 4, he's seen feedback om younger gay men — livg today's world of advanced preventative HIV medice and relative eedom — who are outraged "that such a world ever existed. It is precisely this faceted humany that photographer Stt Pastfield, a gay man himself, sought to pture Gay Ameri, travelg 54, 000 across 50 stat three years to weave a powerful, profoundly human taptry of 140 fathers, brothers, sons, and iends om all walks of life, religns, ethnici, and backgrounds, who happen to be homosexual mal. From lawyers to artists to teachers to farmers, his perceptive, eply personal portras pat a layered picture of ntemporary gay (male) life, the first-ever large-sle photographic survey of gay men always tell you to shoot what you love, and that objective led me to this project.

I cid that I would fd and meet a gay man om every state, listen to their stori, and photograph them the hope that I uld turn that material to a book that would change people's opns and te -- the book that I wish had existed when I was a lad. I wanted to produce a profound llectn of ordary, proud, out gay men who would otherwise never fd the spotlight. He wr the preface:A year before my father's ath [om lung ncer], I started gog to a regular group-therapy ssn for gay men New York Cy.

This year we celebrate our 13th anniversary Voice has a fantastic terview wh Pastfield, which he reflects on the role the Inter played patg a tly dimensnal portra of gay Inter played a big part how I found people. I thk most outspoken gay men and all facets of the LGBT muny are those people who fed themselv very much by beg gay and they have that issue that they really want to share wh the world.

KEV MAXEN BE FIRST MALE ACH A US MEN’S PROFSNAL SPORTS LEAGUE TO PUBLICLY E OUT AS GAY

Ten, maybe 20 years ago, I'm not que sure how I would have found the same men bee they're not gog to gay muny centers, most of them. That I was really able to nnect wh a lot of gay men that are for the most part unr the radar and what most see of the gay muny. Thoughtful and perspective-shiftg, Gay Ameri reveals the dimensns of humany well past sexualy, a powerful step toward a culture that no longer nflat sexual orientatn wh human inty and a worthy addn to the bt photography books of Stt post also appears on Bra Pickgs, an Atlantic partner se.

Kev Maxen, an associate strength ach wh the Jacksonville Jaguars, jt publicly me out as gay, makg him the first-ever male ach Amerin profsnal men's sports to do so. Jacksonville Jaguars associate strength ach Kev Maxen is believed to be the first openly gay male ach major North Amerin men's sports after g out publicly an terview wh Outsports.