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• 5 SIGNS YOUR HBAND IS GAY
• GAY, BISEXUAL MEN FACE GREATER PSYCHOLOGIL RISK REPRSIVE UNTRI
• STOP CALLG EVERY HOMOPHOBE A CLOSET CASE, YOU'RE NOT HELPGIT'S TIME TO RETIRE THIS TIRED, KNEE JERK REACTN TO HOMOPHOBIA. {FONT:NORMAL 800 1.2REM/1.2 "D BOLD",SANS-SERIF;TEXT-TRANSFORM:NORMAL;LOR:HER;DISPLAY:LE-BLOCK;PADDG-BOTTOM:6PX;POSN:RELATIVE;TEXT-TRANSFORM:UPPERSE;}{BACKGROUND:#89308A;BOTTOM:0;NTENT:'';DISPLAY:BLOCK;HEIGHT:2PX;LEFT:0;POSN:ABSOLUTE;RIGHT:0;-WEBK-TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;WIDTH:100%;}{LEFT:51%;RIGHT:51%;WIDTH:0;}{FONT:NORMAL 800 1.2REM/1.2 "D BOLD",SANS-SERIF;TEXT-TRANSFORM:NORMAL;LOR:HER;DISPLAY:LE-BLOCK;PADDG-BOTTOM:6PX;POSN:RELATIVE;TEXT-TRANSFORM:UPPERSE;}{BACKGROUND:#89308A;BOTTOM:0;NTENT:'';DISPLAY:BLOCK;HEIGHT:2PX;LEFT:0;POSN:ABSOLUTE;RIGHT:0;-WEBK-TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;WIDTH:100%;}{LEFT:51%;RIGHT:51%;WIDTH:0;}LIFEBY JEFF TAYLORAUGT 9, 2019/11:09 {HEIGHT:HER;DISPLAY:-WEBK-BOX;DISPLAY:-WEBK-FLEX;DISPLAY:-MS-FLEXBOX;DISPLAY:FLEX;POSN:RELATIVE;-WEBK-FLEX-WRAP:WRAP;-MS-FLEX-WRAP:WRAP;FLEX-WRAP:WRAP;-WEBK-ALIGN-EMS:CENTER;-WEBK-BOX-ALIGN:CENTER;-MS-FLEX-ALIGN:CENTER;ALIGN-EMS:CENTER;-WEBK-BOX-PACK:CENTER;-WEBK-JTIFY-NTENT:CENTER;-MS-FLEX-PACK:CENTER;JTIFY-NTENT:CENTER;-WEBK-TRANSFORM-ORIG:CENTER;-MS-TRANSFORM-ORIG:CENTER;TRANSFORM-ORIG:CENTER;} IMG{HEIGHT:100%;WIDTH:100%;OBJECT-F:VER;}{HEIGHT:3428PX;WIDTH:4897PX;}PROTTERS BY MALTE MUELLER/GETTY IMAG, MEN KISSG BY JACQUIE BOYD/GETTY IMAG, COMPOSE BY JEFF TAYLORBY JEFF TAYLORAUGT 9, 2019 / 11:09 AM{"@NTEXT":","@TYPE":"NEWSARTICLE","HEADLE":"STOP CALLG EVERY HOMOPHOBE A CLOSET CASE, YOU'RE NOT HELPG","THUMBNAILURL":","DATEPUBLISHED":"2019-08-09T15:09:49.000+0000","DATEMODIFIED":"2019-08-09T15:09:49.000+0000","IMAGE":{"@NTEXT":","@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT","URL":","WIDTH":1920,"HEIGHT":1080},"URL":","THOR":{"@TYPE":"ORGANIZATN","NAME":"LOGO TV"},"MAENTYOFPAGE":{"@TYPE":"WEBPAGE","@ID":"},"PUBLISHER":{"@TYPE":"ORGANIZATN","@ID":","NAME":"LOGO TV","URL":","LOGO":{"@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT"}},"CREATOR":"JEFF TAYLOR","ARTICLESECTN":"LIFE"}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}TERRY HAGGARD. MARK FOLEY. LARRY CRAIG. AARON SCHOCK (ALLEGEDLY). THE HISTORY OF CLOSETED, ANTI-GAY POLICIANS AND RELIG LEARS IS WELL-DOCUMENTED AND IS OFT CELEBRATED BY THOSE WHO WISH TO SEE OUR SOCIETY MOVE BEYOND {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THE HIGH-PROFILE NATURE OF THE EXAMPL HAS HELPED THE MEME OF THE CLOSETED SELF-HATG, ANTI-GAY BULLY PERFORMG HOMOPHOBIA ORR TO VER UP THEIR OWN SECRET ORIENTATN GA TRACTN.LUCIANO LOZANO/GETTY {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}ITS POPULARY IS EVINCED UNTLS MENT SECTNS WHENEVER ANOTHER SELF-INTIFIED STRAIGHT MAN MAK ANTI-LGBTQ {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THE CHARGE IS NOT WHOUT SUPPORT, AS EVINCED BY THE ABOVE LIST, FOR STARTERS. IT HAS BEEN FURTHER FUELED BY AN FAMO 1996 STUDY SHOWG SELF-INTIFIED HOMOPHOBIC MEN BEME AROED BY MALE-ON-MALE EROTIC STIMULI (READ: GAY PORN), WHILE THEIR FELLOW STRAIGHT-INTIFYG UNTERPARTS WHO SELF-REPORTED AS NOT BEG HOMOPHOBIC SHOWED NO SIGNS OF AROAL WHILE VIEWG SAID {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THE STUDY WAS NDUCTED OUT OF THE UNIVERSY OF GEIA G A SMALL SAMPLE SIZE OF JT 64 MEN, AND S THORS NOTED THE DIFFICULTY OF FDG SUBJECTS WHO RANKED THE "HIGH-GRA NON-HOMOPHOBIC RANGE," AS WELL AS THE PROBLEMATIC NATURE OF SELF-INTIFITN. THEY SUGGTED CLUDG A BEHAVRAL ELEMENT TERMG THE LEVEL OF THE SUBJECT'S HOMOPHOBIA FUTURE REARCH, SUCH AS WH A "FIGHT OR FLIGHT" RPONSE MEASUREMENT, AND ALSO NOTED THEY HAD NOT TTED HOMOPHOBIA {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THAT STUDY WAS ALSO NDUCTED OVER TWO S AGO, AND WHILE ANTI-LGBTQ BIAS REMAS A SER PROBLEM, OVERALL ACCEPTANCE HAS CREASED, AND YOUNGER PEOPLE ARE INTIFYG AS LGBTQ AT HIGHER RAT.FRANCK GATTI/EYEEM/GETTY {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}YET THE 1996 STUDY IS STILL TOO OFTEN CED AS IF IS STANDALONE PROOF THAT "HOMOPHOBIA IS GAY."{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}A MORE RECENT STUDY, PUBLISHED 2012 THE JOURNAL OF PERSONALY AND SOCIAL PSYCHOLOGY, ME TO A SIAR NCLN, THROUGH A DIFFERENT METHODOLOGY. 160 LLEGE STUNTS, WHICH AGA REPRENTS A SMALL SAMPLE SIZE, WERE GIVEN TTS TO TERME BOTH THEIR IMPLIC AND EXPLIC BIAS AGAST GAY PEOPLE, BY ASKG PARTICIPANTS HOW THEY FELT ABOUT THEM, WHILE ALSO SELF-INTIFYG THEIR OWN {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THEY WERE THEN SHOWN WORDS AND PICTUR ON A SCREEN AND ASKED TO PUT THEM TO "GAY" OR "STRAIGHT" TEGORI, AHEAD OF WHICH THEY WERE SUBLIMALLY PRIMED WH THE WORD "ME" OR "OTHERS," WHICH WAS FLASHED ON THE SCREEN FOR 35 LISENDS. LEVELS OF HOMOPHOBIA WERE THEN TTED, BOTH BY HAVG PARTICIPANTS FILL OUT QUTNNAIR AND AGA THROUGH WORD ASSOCIATN AND SUBLIMAL PRIMG.TERO VALAEN/ISTOCK /GETTY IMAG PLFOCED AND THOUGHTFUL MAN. COR, PROGRAMMER OR VELOPER G LAPTOP DARK. BSMAN WORKG LATE. STUNT STUDYG AT NIGHT. CLOSE UP OF GLASS WH REFLECTN OF PUTER {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THOSE PARTICIPANTS THE STUDY WHO INTIFIED AS HETEROSEXUAL, BUT SHOWED A REACTN PATTERN NSISTENT WH HOMOSEXUALY, WERE MORE LIKELY TO EXPRS HOMOPHOBIC ATTUS, THE THORS FOUND. THEY ALSO FOUND A RRELATN WH HOMOPHOBIC ATTUS AND HAVG THORARIAN {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}AGA, MORE REARCH IS NEED, WH THE AFOREMENTNED SMALL SAMPLE SIZE AND THE REARCHERS NOTG THE IMPERFECT NATURE OF STUDYG IMPLIC BIAS, AS WELL AS NOTG THAT RRELATN DO NOT PROVE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}WHAT DO SEEM FAIR TO SAY IS THAT THERE APPEARS TO BE A STRONG RRELATN BETWEEN HOMOPHOBIA AND REPRSED HOMOSEXUALY, AND LIVED EXPERIENCE ALSO BACKS UP THIS FDG. BUT TO JUMP TO THE NCLN THAT SOMEONE WHO HAS A PROBLEM WH QUEER PEOPLE IS FACT CLOSETED WILL NOT ONLY PROVE ACCURATE AT LEAST SOME OF THE TIME, RRI WH NCERNG NNOTATNS, OFTEN DRIPPG WH THE SAME HOMOPHOBIC UNRTON THE SPEAKER IS OSTENSIBLY PROTTG {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}TOO OFTEN THERE IS AN OBV UNRLYG SENSE OF GLEEFUL MOCKERY WHEN THE CHARG ARE MA, AS IF TO SAY, "OH YEAH? WELL MAYBE YOU'RE ONE OF THE MARKED ON! MAYBE YOU'RE A LEPER!"{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THERE'S SOME LOGIC TO THIS, THE WAY OF SHA, THAT ACCG SOMEONE OF BEG THAT WHICH THEY HATE IS A PRETTY SUREFIRE WAY TO GET UNR THEIR SK. BUT ALSO, WHETHER TEND OR NOT, RRI WH THE IMPLITN THAT THAT WHICH YOU ARE ACCG THEM OF IS SOMETHG TO BE ASHAMED OF THE FIRST PLACE. YOU ARE, A SENSE, -SIGNG THEIR HOMOPHOBIA, EVEN IF YOU'RE NOT AWARE THAT'S WHAT YOU'RE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}IF BEG A MEMBER OF THE QUEER MUNY IS SOMETHG TO BE PROUD OF, OR AT THE LEAST NOT TO BE ASHAMED OF, WHY ARE WE STG AS AN ASPERSN?{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THIS IS ALSO BAD STRATEGY IF THE GOAL IS TO HELP REHABILATE THE PERSON SO THAT THEY MIGHT E OUT OF THE CLOSET AND WORK TOWARDS OUR LIBERATN AS OPPOSED TO OUR SUBJUGATN. SHAMG AND RIDICULG SOMEONE HOP THEY E OUT AND BEG FIGHTG ON THE RIGHT SI OF HISTORY IS A LOSG BATTLE. OIVD HOVLAND/GETTY {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THE CHARGE IS EVEN MORE IRKSOME WHEN OM STRAIGHT "ALLI," AS SO OFTEN DO, MOST RECENTLY MONSTRATED BY PATTI LUPONE AND MARIANNE WILLIAMSON. WHILE WOULD BE QUE A STRETCH TO ARGUE EHER ONE IS HOMOPHOBIC, WE ULD PROBABLY HAVE DONE WHOUT THEIR {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}AND IF THE DIVIDUAL IS FACT NOT SECRETLY GAY OR BISEXUAL, BUT IS A CISHET HATER, LLG THEM "ONE OF " IS UNLIKELY TO BE WISE OR PRODUCTIVE, UNLS THE GOAL IS TO DRAW AN EVEN BIGGER TARGET ON OUR BACKS. POKG AT TOXIC MASCULY BY STOKG S BIGGT FEAR—BEG NSIRED EFFEMATE ANY WAY—IS A RECIPE FOR DISASTER, AND WON'T BE THE STRAIGHT "ALLI" WHO TAKE THE BNT OF THE ABE THAT WH THAT {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THE IA THAT HOMOPHOBIA IS NOTHG MORE THAN AN ABILY TO ACCEPT ONE'S OWN TE NATURE ALSO DISUNTS THE FLUENCE OF CENTURI OF ANTI-LGBTQ RELIG DOCTRE, PATRIARCHY, AND A CULTURE THAT ROUTELY PROPS {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}WHILE IS DIFFICULT TO MEASURE THE PERCENTAGE OF QUEER PEOPLE THE POPULATN, AS A RULT OF THOSE WHO ARE THE CLOSET, THE PREVALENCE OF QUEERPHOBIA OUR SOCIETY SUGGTS NOT EVERYONE WHO HARBORS THE SENTIMENTS ARE THEMSELV LGBTQ. CLAIMG OTHERWISE IS TO CLAIM QUEERPHOBIA AS SOLELY AN TERNAL, LGBTQ PROBLEM, AND THE EVINCE IS CERTALY NOT STRONG ENOUGH TO DRAW SUCH A FIVE AND BROAD {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THE PROBLEM OF HOMOPHOBIA, BIPHOBIA, AND TRANSPHOBIA BELONGS TO EVERYONE, STOP TRYG TO MAKE THE QUEER MUNY SOLELY CLAIM {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;CLEAR:BOTH;}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;MARG:0 TO;WIDTH:90%;M-WIDTH:288PX;MAX-WIDTH:1440PX;M-HEIGHT:194PX;}LATT NEWS
• IS RUDY GAY A GOOD F?

5 SIGNS YOUR HBAND IS GAY

Internalized homophobia n be fed as the tenncy of some lbian, gay, bisexual, transgenr, and queer (LGBTQ) dividuals to regularly validate, margalize, and/or opprs their own or other LGBTQ members’ sexual orientatn, sexual inty, self-worth, dividual exprsns, and human rights. Often, those wh gre of ternalized homophobia are nscly or unnscly socialized to believg that members of the LGBTQ muny are “abnormal”, “shameful”, “unsirable” and “unacceptable”, and should be regard wh disda (self-rejectn) and ntempt (self-loathg).

It is also signifint to note that while some people wh ternalized homophobia are “out of the closet” and openly alg their own sexual orientatn/sexual inty issu, many others are still “ the closet” (to themselv and/or to others) and secretly stgglg. Many closet LGBTQ dividuals grew-up tradnal, nservative environments where “anti-gay bias” and “gay bashg” are the norm fay, social, tnal, relig, media, social media, and polil environments. It is a classic example of gaslightg, where a perpetrator ( this se a hetero-centric, homophobic society) nvc the victim that she/he/they are much ls important and worthy than who they tly are.

While some LGBTQ dividuals may ocsnally dabble the followg behavrs, which might not be a ser issue, someone wh strong ternalized homophobia will routely engage one or more of the pathologi (dysfunctns) below, while remag largely unaware of (or unncerned wh) the tangible and psychologil damage done to onelf and others. In the wake of the Orlando shootg at the Pulse nightclub, there were que a number of speculatns floatg around my social media that the shooter himself had been harborg homosexual urg that he had been tryg to reprs. Reprsn—beg the odd thg that apparently is— this se volved his visg gay nightclubs and g gay datg apps to munite—and prumably have sex—wh other gay men; he might have even been dog all those thgs while tellg himself he had no tert such activi, that they were morally wrong, or at the very least while tryg to keep secret om other people his life.

GAY, BISEXUAL MEN FACE GREATER PSYCHOLOGIL RISK REPRSIVE UNTRI

The unrlyg ia that se—that some gree of homophobia is actually explaed by the homophob qutn tryg to ny their own homosexual urg—remas a somewhat popular speculatn. Before nsirg some new rearch on the hypothis, then, I wanted to take a step back and nsir why, on a theoretil level, we shouldn't expect implic or reprsed homosexual urg to predict homophobic attus particularly well. This should be expected, as homosexualy do not appear to be adaptive; same-sex attractn jt isn't a good way to reproduce on' gen directly or directly (whether through k or alliance formatn).

Given that rary, then, if somethg around even 20% of the populatn is homophobic, then there is eher a lot of homophobia unrelated to homosexualy, or reprsed homosexualy is very, very mon. In other words, one of two statements follow, neher of which bo well for the homophobia-as-reprsed-attractn hypothis: (a) lots of people who are homophobic harbor no homosexual urg or (b) many of those who are homophobic harbor such urg. So, if lots of people who do have homosexual urg were homophobic, then adoptg a homophobic stance should actually be expected to posively signal that one is a homosexual, as beg homophobic is somethg lots of (closeted) homosexual people actually do.

STOP CALLG EVERY HOMOPHOBE A CLOSET CASE, YOU'RE NOT HELPGIT'S TIME TO RETIRE THIS TIRED, KNEE JERK REACTN TO HOMOPHOBIA. {FONT:NORMAL 800 1.2REM/1.2 "D BOLD",SANS-SERIF;TEXT-TRANSFORM:NORMAL;LOR:HER;DISPLAY:LE-BLOCK;PADDG-BOTTOM:6PX;POSN:RELATIVE;TEXT-TRANSFORM:UPPERSE;}{BACKGROUND:#89308A;BOTTOM:0;NTENT:'';DISPLAY:BLOCK;HEIGHT:2PX;LEFT:0;POSN:ABSOLUTE;RIGHT:0;-WEBK-TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;WIDTH:100%;}{LEFT:51%;RIGHT:51%;WIDTH:0;}{FONT:NORMAL 800 1.2REM/1.2 "D BOLD",SANS-SERIF;TEXT-TRANSFORM:NORMAL;LOR:HER;DISPLAY:LE-BLOCK;PADDG-BOTTOM:6PX;POSN:RELATIVE;TEXT-TRANSFORM:UPPERSE;}{BACKGROUND:#89308A;BOTTOM:0;NTENT:'';DISPLAY:BLOCK;HEIGHT:2PX;LEFT:0;POSN:ABSOLUTE;RIGHT:0;-WEBK-TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;WIDTH:100%;}{LEFT:51%;RIGHT:51%;WIDTH:0;}LIFEBY JEFF TAYLORAUGT 9, 2019/11:09 {HEIGHT:HER;DISPLAY:-WEBK-BOX;DISPLAY:-WEBK-FLEX;DISPLAY:-MS-FLEXBOX;DISPLAY:FLEX;POSN:RELATIVE;-WEBK-FLEX-WRAP:WRAP;-MS-FLEX-WRAP:WRAP;FLEX-WRAP:WRAP;-WEBK-ALIGN-EMS:CENTER;-WEBK-BOX-ALIGN:CENTER;-MS-FLEX-ALIGN:CENTER;ALIGN-EMS:CENTER;-WEBK-BOX-PACK:CENTER;-WEBK-JTIFY-NTENT:CENTER;-MS-FLEX-PACK:CENTER;JTIFY-NTENT:CENTER;-WEBK-TRANSFORM-ORIG:CENTER;-MS-TRANSFORM-ORIG:CENTER;TRANSFORM-ORIG:CENTER;} IMG{HEIGHT:100%;WIDTH:100%;OBJECT-F:VER;}{HEIGHT:3428PX;WIDTH:4897PX;}PROTTERS BY MALTE MUELLER/GETTY IMAG, MEN KISSG BY JACQUIE BOYD/GETTY IMAG, COMPOSE BY JEFF TAYLORBY JEFF TAYLORAUGT 9, 2019 / 11:09 AM{"@NTEXT":","@TYPE":"NEWSARTICLE","HEADLE":"STOP CALLG EVERY HOMOPHOBE A CLOSET CASE, YOU'RE NOT HELPG","THUMBNAILURL":","DATEPUBLISHED":"2019-08-09T15:09:49.000+0000","DATEMODIFIED":"2019-08-09T15:09:49.000+0000","IMAGE":{"@NTEXT":","@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT","URL":","WIDTH":1920,"HEIGHT":1080},"URL":","THOR":{"@TYPE":"ORGANIZATN","NAME":"LOGO TV"},"MAENTYOFPAGE":{"@TYPE":"WEBPAGE","@ID":"},"PUBLISHER":{"@TYPE":"ORGANIZATN","@ID":","NAME":"LOGO TV","URL":","LOGO":{"@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT"}},"CREATOR":"JEFF TAYLOR","ARTICLESECTN":"LIFE"}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}TERRY HAGGARD. MARK FOLEY. LARRY CRAIG. AARON SCHOCK (ALLEGEDLY). THE HISTORY OF CLOSETED, ANTI-GAY POLICIANS AND RELIG LEARS IS WELL-DOCUMENTED AND IS OFT CELEBRATED BY THOSE WHO WISH TO SEE OUR SOCIETY MOVE BEYOND {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THE HIGH-PROFILE NATURE OF THE EXAMPL HAS HELPED THE MEME OF THE CLOSETED SELF-HATG, ANTI-GAY BULLY PERFORMG HOMOPHOBIA ORR TO VER UP THEIR OWN SECRET ORIENTATN GA TRACTN.LUCIANO LOZANO/GETTY {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}ITS POPULARY IS EVINCED UNTLS MENT SECTNS WHENEVER ANOTHER SELF-INTIFIED STRAIGHT MAN MAK ANTI-LGBTQ {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THE CHARGE IS NOT WHOUT SUPPORT, AS EVINCED BY THE ABOVE LIST, FOR STARTERS. IT HAS BEEN FURTHER FUELED BY AN FAMO 1996 STUDY SHOWG SELF-INTIFIED HOMOPHOBIC MEN BEME AROED BY MALE-ON-MALE EROTIC STIMULI (READ: GAY PORN), WHILE THEIR FELLOW STRAIGHT-INTIFYG UNTERPARTS WHO SELF-REPORTED AS NOT BEG HOMOPHOBIC SHOWED NO SIGNS OF AROAL WHILE VIEWG SAID {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THE STUDY WAS NDUCTED OUT OF THE UNIVERSY OF GEIA G A SMALL SAMPLE SIZE OF JT 64 MEN, AND S THORS NOTED THE DIFFICULTY OF FDG SUBJECTS WHO RANKED THE "HIGH-GRA NON-HOMOPHOBIC RANGE," AS WELL AS THE PROBLEMATIC NATURE OF SELF-INTIFITN. THEY SUGGTED CLUDG A BEHAVRAL ELEMENT TERMG THE LEVEL OF THE SUBJECT'S HOMOPHOBIA FUTURE REARCH, SUCH AS WH A "FIGHT OR FLIGHT" RPONSE MEASUREMENT, AND ALSO NOTED THEY HAD NOT TTED HOMOPHOBIA {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THAT STUDY WAS ALSO NDUCTED OVER TWO S AGO, AND WHILE ANTI-LGBTQ BIAS REMAS A SER PROBLEM, OVERALL ACCEPTANCE HAS CREASED, AND YOUNGER PEOPLE ARE INTIFYG AS LGBTQ AT HIGHER RAT.FRANCK GATTI/EYEEM/GETTY {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}YET THE 1996 STUDY IS STILL TOO OFTEN CED AS IF IS STANDALONE PROOF THAT "HOMOPHOBIA IS GAY."{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}A MORE RECENT STUDY, PUBLISHED 2012 THE JOURNAL OF PERSONALY AND SOCIAL PSYCHOLOGY, ME TO A SIAR NCLN, THROUGH A DIFFERENT METHODOLOGY. 160 LLEGE STUNTS, WHICH AGA REPRENTS A SMALL SAMPLE SIZE, WERE GIVEN TTS TO TERME BOTH THEIR IMPLIC AND EXPLIC BIAS AGAST GAY PEOPLE, BY ASKG PARTICIPANTS HOW THEY FELT ABOUT THEM, WHILE ALSO SELF-INTIFYG THEIR OWN {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THEY WERE THEN SHOWN WORDS AND PICTUR ON A SCREEN AND ASKED TO PUT THEM TO "GAY" OR "STRAIGHT" TEGORI, AHEAD OF WHICH THEY WERE SUBLIMALLY PRIMED WH THE WORD "ME" OR "OTHERS," WHICH WAS FLASHED ON THE SCREEN FOR 35 LISENDS. LEVELS OF HOMOPHOBIA WERE THEN TTED, BOTH BY HAVG PARTICIPANTS FILL OUT QUTNNAIR AND AGA THROUGH WORD ASSOCIATN AND SUBLIMAL PRIMG.TERO VALAEN/ISTOCK /GETTY IMAG PLFOCED AND THOUGHTFUL MAN. COR, PROGRAMMER OR VELOPER G LAPTOP DARK. BSMAN WORKG LATE. STUNT STUDYG AT NIGHT. CLOSE UP OF GLASS WH REFLECTN OF PUTER {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THOSE PARTICIPANTS THE STUDY WHO INTIFIED AS HETEROSEXUAL, BUT SHOWED A REACTN PATTERN NSISTENT WH HOMOSEXUALY, WERE MORE LIKELY TO EXPRS HOMOPHOBIC ATTUS, THE THORS FOUND. THEY ALSO FOUND A RRELATN WH HOMOPHOBIC ATTUS AND HAVG THORARIAN {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}AGA, MORE REARCH IS NEED, WH THE AFOREMENTNED SMALL SAMPLE SIZE AND THE REARCHERS NOTG THE IMPERFECT NATURE OF STUDYG IMPLIC BIAS, AS WELL AS NOTG THAT RRELATN DO NOT PROVE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}WHAT DO SEEM FAIR TO SAY IS THAT THERE APPEARS TO BE A STRONG RRELATN BETWEEN HOMOPHOBIA AND REPRSED HOMOSEXUALY, AND LIVED EXPERIENCE ALSO BACKS UP THIS FDG. BUT TO JUMP TO THE NCLN THAT SOMEONE WHO HAS A PROBLEM WH QUEER PEOPLE IS FACT CLOSETED WILL NOT ONLY PROVE ACCURATE AT LEAST SOME OF THE TIME, RRI WH NCERNG NNOTATNS, OFTEN DRIPPG WH THE SAME HOMOPHOBIC UNRTON THE SPEAKER IS OSTENSIBLY PROTTG {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}TOO OFTEN THERE IS AN OBV UNRLYG SENSE OF GLEEFUL MOCKERY WHEN THE CHARG ARE MA, AS IF TO SAY, "OH YEAH? WELL MAYBE YOU'RE ONE OF THE MARKED ON! MAYBE YOU'RE A LEPER!"{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THERE'S SOME LOGIC TO THIS, THE WAY OF SHA, THAT ACCG SOMEONE OF BEG THAT WHICH THEY HATE IS A PRETTY SUREFIRE WAY TO GET UNR THEIR SK. BUT ALSO, WHETHER TEND OR NOT, RRI WH THE IMPLITN THAT THAT WHICH YOU ARE ACCG THEM OF IS SOMETHG TO BE ASHAMED OF THE FIRST PLACE. YOU ARE, A SENSE, -SIGNG THEIR HOMOPHOBIA, EVEN IF YOU'RE NOT AWARE THAT'S WHAT YOU'RE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}IF BEG A MEMBER OF THE QUEER MUNY IS SOMETHG TO BE PROUD OF, OR AT THE LEAST NOT TO BE ASHAMED OF, WHY ARE WE STG AS AN ASPERSN?{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THIS IS ALSO BAD STRATEGY IF THE GOAL IS TO HELP REHABILATE THE PERSON SO THAT THEY MIGHT E OUT OF THE CLOSET AND WORK TOWARDS OUR LIBERATN AS OPPOSED TO OUR SUBJUGATN. SHAMG AND RIDICULG SOMEONE HOP THEY E OUT AND BEG FIGHTG ON THE RIGHT SI OF HISTORY IS A LOSG BATTLE. OIVD HOVLAND/GETTY {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THE CHARGE IS EVEN MORE IRKSOME WHEN OM STRAIGHT "ALLI," AS SO OFTEN DO, MOST RECENTLY MONSTRATED BY PATTI LUPONE AND MARIANNE WILLIAMSON. WHILE WOULD BE QUE A STRETCH TO ARGUE EHER ONE IS HOMOPHOBIC, WE ULD PROBABLY HAVE DONE WHOUT THEIR {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}AND IF THE DIVIDUAL IS FACT NOT SECRETLY GAY OR BISEXUAL, BUT IS A CISHET HATER, LLG THEM "ONE OF " IS UNLIKELY TO BE WISE OR PRODUCTIVE, UNLS THE GOAL IS TO DRAW AN EVEN BIGGER TARGET ON OUR BACKS. POKG AT TOXIC MASCULY BY STOKG S BIGGT FEAR—BEG NSIRED EFFEMATE ANY WAY—IS A RECIPE FOR DISASTER, AND WON'T BE THE STRAIGHT "ALLI" WHO TAKE THE BNT OF THE ABE THAT WH THAT {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THE IA THAT HOMOPHOBIA IS NOTHG MORE THAN AN ABILY TO ACCEPT ONE'S OWN TE NATURE ALSO DISUNTS THE FLUENCE OF CENTURI OF ANTI-LGBTQ RELIG DOCTRE, PATRIARCHY, AND A CULTURE THAT ROUTELY PROPS {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}WHILE IS DIFFICULT TO MEASURE THE PERCENTAGE OF QUEER PEOPLE THE POPULATN, AS A RULT OF THOSE WHO ARE THE CLOSET, THE PREVALENCE OF QUEERPHOBIA OUR SOCIETY SUGGTS NOT EVERYONE WHO HARBORS THE SENTIMENTS ARE THEMSELV LGBTQ. CLAIMG OTHERWISE IS TO CLAIM QUEERPHOBIA AS SOLELY AN TERNAL, LGBTQ PROBLEM, AND THE EVINCE IS CERTALY NOT STRONG ENOUGH TO DRAW SUCH A FIVE AND BROAD {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THE PROBLEM OF HOMOPHOBIA, BIPHOBIA, AND TRANSPHOBIA BELONGS TO EVERYONE, STOP TRYG TO MAKE THE QUEER MUNY SOLELY CLAIM {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;CLEAR:BOTH;}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;MARG:0 TO;WIDTH:90%;M-WIDTH:288PX;MAX-WIDTH:1440PX;M-HEIGHT:194PX;}LATT NEWS

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