Joe Kort, Ph.D., talks about his new book, "Is My Hband Gay, Straight, or Bi?"
Contents:
- 17 SIGNS YOU'RE ACTUALLY GAY (AND JT DON'T KNOW IT)
- IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?
- PARENT SPECTS THAT CHILD MIGHT BE GAY
17 SIGNS YOU'RE ACTUALLY GAY (AND JT DON'T KNOW IT)
* signs of being gay in the closet *
Internalized homophobia n be fed as the tenncy of some lbian, gay, bisexual, transgenr, and queer (LGBTQ) dividuals to regularly validate, margalize, and/or opprs their own or other LGBTQ members’ sexual orientatn, sexual inty, self-worth, dividual exprsns, and human rights. Often, those wh gre of ternalized homophobia are nscly or unnscly socialized to believg that members of the LGBTQ muny are “abnormal”, “shameful”, “unsirable” and “unacceptable”, and should be regard wh disda (self-rejectn) and ntempt (self-loathg).
IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?
It is important to emphasize that ternalized homophobia typilly occurs the ntext of a hetero-centric society that often stigmatiz, nigrat, and nmns LGBTQs. It is also signifint to note that while some people wh ternalized homophobia are “out of the closet” and openly alg their own sexual orientatn/sexual inty issu, many others are still “ the closet” (to themselv and/or to others) and secretly stgglg. Many closet LGBTQ dividuals grew-up tradnal, nservative environments where “anti-gay bias” and “gay bashg” are the norm fay, social, tnal, relig, media, social media, and polil environments.
It is a classic example of gaslightg, where a perpetrator ( this se a hetero-centric, homophobic society) nvc the victim that she/he/they are much ls important and worthy than who they tly are. While some LGBTQ dividuals may ocsnally dabble the followg behavrs, which might not be a ser issue, someone wh strong ternalized homophobia will routely engage one or more of the pathologi (dysfunctns) below, while remag largely unaware of (or unncerned wh) the tangible and psychologil damage done to onelf and others. Feelg ashamed or embarrassed when seeg LGBTQ dividuals “beg gay/bi/trans/queer” daily activi, social teractns, popular media, or social media.
PARENT SPECTS THAT CHILD MIGHT BE GAY
(Endg to sensize the effects of discrimatn notwhstandg, regular negative self-preciatn is still a reflectn of ternalized homophobia. Judgg, beltlg, or makg-fun of other LGBTQ dividuals based on homophobic bias and negative stereotyp (gay bashg). Defendg, jtifyg, and excg dividual acts of homophobia fay, iendships, school, at the workplace, or other social or stutnal scenars (learned helplsns).