Intimacy and Emotn Work Lbian, Gay, and Heterosexual Relatnships - PMC

Contents:

• EMOTNALLY GAY
• HOW DO YOU KNOW IF YOU’RE GAY, STRAIGHT, OR SOMETHG BETWEEN?
• ABOUT THE CENTERSCE 1983 THE CENTER HAS BEEN SUPPORTG, FOSTERG AND CELEBRATG THE LGBT MUNY OF NEW YORK CY. FD MORE RMATN ON AND OUR WORK ABOUT THE CENTER. VIS ABOUT THE CENTEROUR MISSNCYBER CENTERCENTER HISTORYRACE EQUYMEDIA CENTERLEARSHIP & STAFFEMPLOYMENT OPPORTUNICORPORATE PARTNERSHIPSANNUAL REPORTS & FANCIAL INFORMATNCONTACT USHOURS & LOTNSEMAPSUPPORT THE CENTER
• EMOTNALLY GAY ED MEANG
• INTIMACY AND EMOTN WORK LBIAN, GAY, AND HETEROSEXUAL RELATNSHIPS

EMOTNALLY GAY

Wh men; but ually he is heterosexual and his sexual preferenc volve emotnally gay men also e rogatory terms like "bch" to scribe women for lack of unrstandg them or relatg to many are also sufferg om a form of Madonna Whore syndrome bee of issu wh their own mothers.

HOW DO YOU KNOW IF YOU’RE GAY, STRAIGHT, OR SOMETHG BETWEEN?

Dpe the persistence of stereotyp that portray lbian, gay, and bisexual people as disturbed, several s of rearch and clil experience have led all mastream medil and mental health anizatns this untry to nclu that the orientatns reprent normal forms of human experience.

Helpful rpons of a therapist treatg an dividual who is troubled about her or his same sex attractns clu helpg that person actively pe wh social prejudic agast homosexualy, succsfully rolve issu associated wh and rultg om ternal nflicts, and actively lead a happy and satisfyg life. The phrase “g out” is ed to refer to several aspects of lbian, gay, and bisexual persons’ experienc: self-awarens of same-sex attractns; the tellg of one or a few people about the attractns; wispread disclosure of same-sex attractns; and intifitn wh the lbian, gay, and bisexual muny. Th, is not surprisg that lbians and gay men who feel they mt nceal their sexual orientatn report more equent mental health ncerns than do lbians and gay men who are more open; they may even have more physil health problems.

Lbian, gay, and bisexual youth who do well spe strs—like all adolcents who do well spe strs—tend to be those who are socially petent, who have good problem-solvg skills, who have a sense of tonomy and purpose, and who look forward to the future. If they are a heterosexual relatnship, their experienc may be que siar to those of people who intify as heterosexual unls they choose to e out as bisexual; that se, they will likely face some of the same prejudice and discrimatn that lbian and gay dividuals enunter. LGBTQ alli nont heterosexism, homophobia, and heterosexual privilege themselv and others out of self-tert, a ncern for the well-beg of lbian, gay, bisexual, and transgenr people and a belief that heterosexism is a societal jtice issue.

ABOUT THE CENTERSCE 1983 THE CENTER HAS BEEN SUPPORTG, FOSTERG AND CELEBRATG THE LGBT MUNY OF NEW YORK CY. FD MORE RMATN ON AND OUR WORK ABOUT THE CENTER. VIS ABOUT THE CENTEROUR MISSNCYBER CENTERCENTER HISTORYRACE EQUYMEDIA CENTERLEARSHIP & STAFFEMPLOYMENT OPPORTUNICORPORATE PARTNERSHIPSANNUAL REPORTS & FANCIAL INFORMATNCONTACT USHOURS & LOTNSEMAPSUPPORT THE CENTER

Homophobia: Irratnal fear or hatred of lbian, gay, or bisexual people; the rpons of fear, disgt, anger, disfort, and aversn that dividuals experience alg wh gay people; often is manift the form of discrimatn and prejudice. Persons who experience ternalized homophobia accept and believe the negative msag of the domant group as they relate to gay men, lbians, bisexuals, and transgenr people; the acceptance and ternalizatn by members of opprsed groups of negative stereotyp and imag of their group, beliefs of their own ferry, and nant beliefs the superry of the domant group. Bee most LGBTQ people are raised the same society as heterosexuals, they learn the same beliefs and stereotyp prevalent the domant society, leadg to a phenomenon known as ternalized homophobia, whereas LGBTQ-intified dividuals feel shame, guilt or hatred towards the part of themselv intified as LGBTQ.

Mental health unselg and support groups that are sensive to the needs of gay and bisexual men n be pecially eful if you are g to terms wh your sexual orientatn or are experiencg prsn, anxiety, or other mental health problems. While many gay, bisexual, and other men who have sex wh men may not seek re om a mental health provir bee of a fear of discrimatn or homophobia, is important to keep this as an optn and to fd a provir that is tstworthy and patible.

A 2017 review of 52 studi, for stance, found that when pared wh heterosexual people, bisexual people had higher rat of prsn and anxiety, and higher or equivalent rat of those ndns when pared wh those who intified as gay. People unr 25, nclud somethg siar among Ameri’s youth: Bisexual high school stunts reported more feelgs of sadns and hopelsns and more thoughts of suici than those who intified as heterosexual or ’s also some evince that bisexual people fared worse than their heterosexual and gay unterparts durg the panmic, cludg greater strs, lonels, psychologil distrs and fatigue; and poorer mental and physil health than those intifyg as straight or dispary is often a rult of the prejudic bisexual people face, Dr. The study found that much of this discrimatn often om gay and lbian people, followed by fay members and straight people; and n directly impact bisexual people’s mental health, cludg ntributg to prsn, strs and exacerbated or triggered anxiety (cludg panic attacks and post-trmatic strs disorr).

EMOTNALLY GAY ED MEANG

De-egocentrizatn and personaly matury, cludg the velopment of mature manhood/womanhood, are the goals of two currently prevailg opns on the and dynamics of homosexualy1 are first, that they are “geic, ” and send, that they are “still unknown, but probably born. By and large, however, we are nonted wh a morn mythology masqueradg as realy, primary, efficient of same-sex attractn (SSA), clive of homosexual pedophilia, have not been found and are very unlikely ever to be found the field of “blogy. Before pesg this evince, we mt crilly spect the arguments and observatns adduced for a prumed blogil atn; for as long as this ep-seated belief (that s prent form dat om the neteenth century2) prevails, the whole issue of homosexualy remas cloud ignorance and darkns.

Paradoxilly, ntrary to what is generally suggted and wily believed, pesal of the rearch the fields of “blogy” and psychology leads to the followg nclns: (1) No hard evince for the existence of geic or otherwise “blogil” of homosexual tennci has been found.

”10 And regardg the perdilly rurfacg ia of sex-atypil prenatal hormone peculiari homosexuals that would generate sex-atypil bra stctur: “It is [already] difficult, if not impossible, to relate sex steroids a nsistent way to the anatomil differenc of the bra between the sex, ” let alone to hypothized bra differenc between homosexuals and heterosexuals. It nicely illtrat how the typil genr-ferry plex of men wh homosexual terts n velop as a rult of self-parison wh a close brother (or other boys, for that matter—see below) and is therefore worth cg at some length:From the begng, he had been cheated: the hidn fetal begng when the termant elements were doled out by whatever power cid that, out of the bld uplg of man and wife, there should grow a parody of a man. 26 The verdict by the famo French geicist Jerome Lejne that s methodologil fects were so ser that “were not for the fact that this study is about homosexualy, would probably never have been accepted for publitn”27 proved rrect.

INTIMACY AND EMOTN WORK LBIAN, GAY, AND HETEROSEXUAL RELATNSHIPS

Wh few exceptns, fdgs such as a somewhat elevated occurrence of male SSA among maternal relativ (otherwise, still not nfirmed), 31 or the slightly higher equency of olr brothers among homosexual than heterosexual men32 have been prented as support of an ad hoc—and most plited—physlogil theory, spe the existence of a simple and straightforward explanatn based on psychologil observatns. Ten years later, Byne found a non-signifint smaller rat of INAH3 volume to bra weight homosexual men who had died of AIDS than ceased heterosexual male dg ers, but the nuclei of both groups ntaed the same number of nrons.