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Kev Maxen, an associate strength ach wh the Jacksonville Jaguars, has bee the first male ach a major U.S.-based profsnal league to e out as gay.

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HOW CHRISTIAN PARENTS SHOULD RPOND TO THEIR CHILD'S GAY INTY CRISIS

When a child first out as eher beg gay or havg same-sex attractn their parents' ial rpons are ually the wrong on, says Chris Doyle, a psychotherapist who specializ SSA. * gay teenager comes out to parents *

There is growg support for gay marriage, adoptn rights, and employment protectn. Openly gay men and women are servg the ary. That said, there are still some plac where homosexualy is nsired unacceptable.

And there are some people who ntue to thk of homosexualy as abnormal or immoral. Social groups n also provi a buffer between a gay child and homophobia.

Gay-Straight Alliance () is a school-based, peer anizatn prised of kids of all sexual orientatns, cludg heterosexuals, who spread the word throughout the school that harassment of gay and genr non-nformg stunts is not ol.

WHAT TO DO WHEN YOUR CHILD SAYS: "I'M GAY"

When my son me out as gay, I was ready. But there is still plenty for me to learn, Nama Wston wr. * gay teenager comes out to parents *

If your teen’s school don’t have a Gay-Straight Alliance, ask the admistratn what they n do to support the creatn of one.

There’s been adverse ndng, gnive therapy, behavral therapy, and spirual therapy (“prayg the gay away”). Stori of and by gay teenagers:.

HOW TO SUPPORT A TEEN WHO'S E OUT AS GAY

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D., ABPP, is the thor of Comg Around: Parentg Lbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgenr Kids and an associate profsor at Michigan State Universy. parents of lbian, gay, bisexual, transgenr, and qutng (LGBTQ) teens to remember each child is unique and will have their own experienc and feelgs along the way. "I thk I might be gay (or lbian, bi, or trans), but I'm not sure, and I don't know how I feel about that...

"Beyond jt feelg "different, " young people beg to wonr if they might be "gay" (or lbian, bi or trans) or some other label they may prefer.

JAGUARS ASSOCIATE STRENGTH ACH OUT AS GAY A FIRST FOR US-BASED PRO LEAGU

"I accept that I'm gay, but what will my fay and iends say?

COMG OUT: A PARENTS GUI TO SUPPORTG YOUR GAY TEEN

"I've told most of my fay and iends that I'm gay (or lbian, bi, or trans). Gay, Lbian, and Bisexual Teens: Facts for Teens and Their Parents.

When a child first out to their parents as eher beg gay or havg same-sex attractn, their ial rpons are ually the wrong on, says Chris Doyle, a psychotherapist who specializ York Cy gay pri para crowd this undated photo. "Sce homosexualy is beg more wily accepted Amerin society, an creasg number of teens who experience SSA are intifyg as gay. They believe that if you experience same-sex attractns, then you're gay, " Doyle told the negative rpons parents have, acrdg to Doyle, are avoidg the issue by barrg their child om talkg about SSA or their gay inty; believg that 's a passg phase; or threateng to kick their olr teen or 20-somethg child out of the hoe.

He also emphasized that parents nnot talk their child out of beg gay or havg SSA. "We know, our clil rearch over the last 25 years, that fay culture, environment and other non-blogil factors play a signifint role the velopment of same-sex attractn, " he asserted, addg that parents shouldn't seek therapy as an attempt to change their the book, Gay Children, Straight Parents: A Plan for Fay Healg, wrten by Richard Cohen, executive director of IHF, Doyle said 12 prcipl are discsed to help fai navigate through SSA and s . "Regardg sleepovers and big life events such as parents' attendg a child's same-sex weddg ceremony, Doyle suggted that parents treat their homosexual child the same as they would their heterosexual the se of sleepovers, parents should mata the same standards for every child and not allow their gay intified or SSA child to have somone they're attracted to spend the night wh them.

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