"Mom, Dad, I'm gay!" Your brave, wonrful, betiful child has spoken the words out loud that somewhere the back of your md you already spected. This moment of honty is the begng of a journey that n be challengg for both you and your child.
Contents:
- HOW CHRISTIAN PARENTS SHOULD RPOND TO THEIR CHILD'S GAY INTY CRISIS
- WHAT TO DO WHEN YOUR CHILD SAYS: "I'M GAY"
- HOW TO SUPPORT A TEEN WHO'S E OUT AS GAY
- JAGUARS ASSOCIATE STRENGTH ACH OUT AS GAY A FIRST FOR US-BASED PRO LEAGU
- COMG OUT: A PARENTS GUI TO SUPPORTG YOUR GAY TEEN
HOW CHRISTIAN PARENTS SHOULD RPOND TO THEIR CHILD'S GAY INTY CRISIS
When a child first out as eher beg gay or havg same-sex attractn their parents' ial rpons are ually the wrong on, says Chris Doyle, a psychotherapist who specializ SSA. * gay teenager comes out to parents *
There is growg support for gay marriage, adoptn rights, and employment protectn.
Openly gay men and women are servg the ary.
That said, there are still some plac where homosexualy is nsired unacceptable. And there are some people who ntue to thk of homosexualy as abnormal or immoral. Social groups n also provi a buffer between a gay child and homophobia.
WHAT TO DO WHEN YOUR CHILD SAYS: "I'M GAY"
When my son me out as gay, I was ready. But there is still plenty for me to learn, Nama Wston wr. * gay teenager comes out to parents *
Gay-Straight Alliance () is a school-based, peer anizatn prised of kids of all sexual orientatns, cludg heterosexuals, who spread the word throughout the school that harassment of gay and genr non-nformg stunts is not ol. If your teen’s school don’t have a Gay-Straight Alliance, ask the admistratn what they n do to support the creatn of one.
There’s been adverse ndng, gnive therapy, behavral therapy, and spirual therapy (“prayg the gay away”). Stori of and by gay teenagers:. D., ABPP, is the thor of Comg Around: Parentg Lbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgenr Kids and an associate profsor at Michigan State Universy.
parents of lbian, gay, bisexual, transgenr, and qutng (LGBTQ) teens to remember each child is unique and will have their own experienc and feelgs along the way. "I thk I might be gay (or lbian, bi, or trans), but I'm not sure, and I don't know how I feel about that... "Beyond jt feelg "different, " young people beg to wonr if they might be "gay" (or lbian, bi or trans) or some other label they may prefer.
HOW TO SUPPORT A TEEN WHO'S E OUT AS GAY
Kev Maxen, an associate strength ach wh the Jacksonville Jaguars, has bee the first male ach a major U.S.-based profsnal league to e out as gay. * gay teenager comes out to parents *
"I accept that I'm gay, but what will my fay and iends say? "I've told most of my fay and iends that I'm gay (or lbian, bi, or trans).
Gay, Lbian, and Bisexual Teens: Facts for Teens and Their Parents. When a child first out to their parents as eher beg gay or havg same-sex attractn, their ial rpons are ually the wrong on, says Chris Doyle, a psychotherapist who specializ York Cy gay pri para crowd this undated photo.
"Sce homosexualy is beg more wily accepted Amerin society, an creasg number of teens who experience SSA are intifyg as gay.
JAGUARS ASSOCIATE STRENGTH ACH OUT AS GAY A FIRST FOR US-BASED PRO LEAGU
They believe that if you experience same-sex attractns, then you're gay, " Doyle told the negative rpons parents have, acrdg to Doyle, are avoidg the issue by barrg their child om talkg about SSA or their gay inty; believg that 's a passg phase; or threateng to kick their olr teen or 20-somethg child out of the hoe. He also emphasized that parents nnot talk their child out of beg gay or havg SSA.
"We know, our clil rearch over the last 25 years, that fay culture, environment and other non-blogil factors play a signifint role the velopment of same-sex attractn, " he asserted, addg that parents shouldn't seek therapy as an attempt to change their the book, Gay Children, Straight Parents: A Plan for Fay Healg, wrten by Richard Cohen, executive director of IHF, Doyle said 12 prcipl are discsed to help fai navigate through SSA and s . "Regardg sleepovers and big life events such as parents' attendg a child's same-sex weddg ceremony, Doyle suggted that parents treat their homosexual child the same as they would their heterosexual the se of sleepovers, parents should mata the same standards for every child and not allow their gay intified or SSA child to have somone they're attracted to spend the night wh them.
"The same l should apply to heterosexual upl and homosexual upl, " he when down to attendg a child's gay weddg ceremony, Doyle suggted that attendg the ceremony don't necsarily reflect that the parents agree wh same-sex marriage, their prence merely shows their love for their child. Perhaps you’ve always expected that your son was gay, or maybe your dghter didn’t really want to be your dghter, she wanted to be your son, but this never really beme a realy until that moment when you’re stg the livg room across om your nervo child.
COMG OUT: A PARENTS GUI TO SUPPORTG YOUR GAY TEEN
Hopefully my suggtns n give all of you parents out there some sights to what will make your children feel the most secure and validated at the moment they e out, bee that’s what we all want om our parents, regardls of whether we’re gay or straight or makg a big and foremost, let’s fe our terms.
Well, ’s an acronym for lbian, gay, bisexual, transgenr, queer/qutng, tersex, and asexual (ntrary to popular belief, the A do not stand for ally, which is a heterosexual supporter of the LBGTQIA muny). Don’t pry; your child will tell you as much as he wants, and you should rpect parents found out I was gay by accint, and even though they are two of the most amazg, acceptg, lovg people on this pla, I was still worried about their reactns. I hear stuff like this all the time, and driv me crazy: “Oh, yeah, my son is gay.
As he tri to nvce them (and they agree) that he has always been gay, his mother ref to accept , tellg him that she lov him, but not the thgs that he is. At least once she mentns that she don't want other people to thk that she'd be okay wh homosexualy, and tak me back to a time when my parents said the same thg. The betrayal her son mt feel mt be monumental, that the thoughts and opns of others are more important than those of the child she'd some say that beg gay is a choice, I agree wh both the man this vio and menters on Redd who've poted out that if were one, would not be a choice many would make.