This chapter highlights that the outward exprsn of homophobia was not socially acceptable to men on this team. Gay men were viewed wh rpect and equaly. While there were no openly gay men on this team, the men weled the notn of a gay man to jo or e...
Contents:
- 10 SIGNS YOUR BROMANCE IS ACTUALLY A GAY RELATNSHIP
- IS BROMANCE GAY?
- YOU’RE NOT GAY. YOU’RE A BROMANCE.
- BROMANC AND GAY MEN
- KEV MAXEN BE FIRST MALE ACH A US MEN’S PROFSNAL SPORTS LEAGUE TO PUBLICLY E OUT AS GAY
10 SIGNS YOUR BROMANCE IS ACTUALLY A GAY RELATNSHIP
Could gay guys be the ultimate wg men for their straight, male iends? * is my bromance gay *
Their homosocial bondg exceeds ual male iendships and, some circumstanc, match or surpass heterosexual romance. Diamond noted that passnate iendships among men are nsired un-mascule and culturally problematic bee “highly timate and affectnate same-genr iendships are more likely to engenr spicn of homosexualy when they occur between men than when they occur between women.” Whereas women n be passnate wh each other and stay straight, if men are passnate wh each other, they are tagged gay.
Bromance might have been vented as a ver, an acceptable cultural script manufactured to let men be emotnally vulnerable wh each other while beg protected om the stigma of gayns. For a long time, iendships between gay men and straight men – what some now ll “bromosexual” iendships – were unmon.
Homophobia was likely one reason; another was that straight men probably assumed they didn’t have much mon wh gay men. Specifilly, we’re terted lookg at the reasons gay men and straight men bee iends (or rema iends after the gay iend out). We currently have a survey vtigatn unrway that explor some of the posive out of “bromosexual” iendships, cludg our theory that gay men and straight men n be optimal wg men for one another.
IS BROMANCE GAY?
Are you gay if you have a close bond - borrg on obssn wh your male mate? Or is simply a se of Bromance? Is Bromance Gay? Perhaps isn't. * is my bromance gay *
Many straight men hated to beiend gay men, fearg harassment, rejectn om their straight iends or beg lled gay. Gay men – particularly those nservative and ral environments – rema wary about tryg to beiend straight men, fearg prejudice-fueled rejectn. At the same time, many straight men still doubt that they’ll be able to relate to gay men any meangful way and, for this reason, may not try to iate a iendship.
Of urse, the tradnal notn that gay men and straight men nnot be close iends is herently homophobic and unte.
YOU’RE NOT GAY. YOU’RE A BROMANCE.
The Leather Boys shows how the mon humany of gay & straight men n be greater than sex. * is my bromance gay *
We propose gay-straight male iendships are not only possible, but that they n grow to be extremely rewardg. If they’re open-md about beiendg gay men and make the effort to try to fe iendships based upon mon terts, gay men should feel more fortable reciprotg. Gay men who disclose their sexual orientatn to their straight male iends earlier life may be able to build more open and hont iendships wh them to adulthood.
Send, recent rearch has argued that genr and sexual orientatn might not be as black and whe as prevly thought, which opens up new avenu for explorg how gay and straight men n relate to one another. If a straight guy and his gay male iend are ls rigid about their masculy and sexualy, they’ll probably be more likely to discs tails about their sexual and romantic liv openly wh one another.
BROMANC AND GAY MEN
* is my bromance gay *
Recent rearch has suggted that advice sharg uld be a ccial reason that straight women seek out gay men as iends. In short, women are able to tst the datg advice om gay male iends bee they know their gay iends don’t have any ulterr motiv: They’re not tryg to hook up wh them or pete wh them for guys.
We believe that this same sort of unbiased advice sharg might also foster iendships between gay and straight men. Bee of the tst they engenr om straight women, gay men are uniquely posned to be excellent “wg men” for sgle straight men. However, straight women do tend to tst the datg advice of gay men (pecially more than advice om straight men or women).
Jt as a gay man might be able to pass on advice about women to his straight iend, a straight man uld nnect his gay male iend wh another sirable gay man, sce neher the gay man nor his straight iend are petg for the same person.
KEV MAXEN BE FIRST MALE ACH A US MEN’S PROFSNAL SPORTS LEAGUE TO PUBLICLY E OUT AS GAY
We believe that havg a tstworthy nfidant to help wh romantic pursus is one of the major reasons straight and gay men are leavg the fort of their same-sex, same-orientatn iend groups to form “bromosexual” iendships. Toby once told me that he nsired himself straight, then a year later – when he was seeg a guy – he told me he thought he was gay. Once, Steve ma the mistake of suggtg they try somethg together and Pl got angry and rmed Steve that he’s not gay and stormed off.