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Contents:
- GAY AND CAN'T FD A PARTNER?
- WILL I EVER FD A GAY PARTNER?
- IT TOOK ME A LONG TIME, BUT I’VE FALLY FALLEN LOVE WH BEG GAY
GAY AND CAN'T FD A PARTNER?
* will i ever find love gay *
OK, so, you’re gay, and you want to fd a partner and eventually a hband; someone wh whom to share your life. You thk that maybe ’s jt not possible for gay men to have long-term relatnships. There mt be some tth to the old joke: “What do a gay man brg on a send date?
WILL I EVER FD A GAY PARTNER?
In today’s advice lumn ¡Hola Papi! by John Pl Brammer, we addrs how shallowns and gay culture have all too much mon. * will i ever find love gay *
As an openly gay man wh over 30 years of experience as a therapist, I have seen sr of sgle gay men sabotage their efforts to fd a partner, placg obstacl their own path—whout havg the slightt ia as to what they are dog and why.
Fortunately, I have also learned how to intify and name the self-featg and often hidn hurdl—and have disvered that they are beliefs that too many gay men repeat to themselv, often whout even knowg .
IT TOOK ME A LONG TIME, BUT I’VE FALLY FALLEN LOVE WH BEG GAY
In my experience, this ternalized belief is the poison that prevents some gay men om buildg a healthy relatnship, and also why many ms up the on they already have. Some of have been bullied as children; physilly, verbally, and emotnally abed at tenr ag by our peers and fay members for beg gay before we even regnized and unrstood our same-sex attractns. Sadly, the wounds are difficult to heal, and as a rult, n leave gay men wh the sense that we are unlovable and th unworthy of love, affectn, and happs.