New rearch explor the benefs of iendship between gay and straight men.
Contents:
- IS FLIRTG BETWEEN GAY AND STRAIGHT MEN OKAY?
- GAY MEN AND STRAIGHT MEN AS FRIENDS
- CAN GAY AND STRAIGHT MEN REALLY BE FRIENDS?
- CAN A STRAIGHT GUY ETHILLY ACCEPT ORAL SEX OM HIS GAY BUDDY?
IS FLIRTG BETWEEN GAY AND STRAIGHT MEN OKAY?
Heterosexual and gay men n heal and grow as a rult of their iendships. * gay guy and straight guy *
Of urse, some intify as straight but are realy closeted bisexuals or gays by sexual orientatn—perhaps likely to e out at a later age (if ever). The differenc between gay and straight men are much harr to discern the days, cludg the ways that affectn is shown.
GAY MEN AND STRAIGHT MEN AS FRIENDS
* gay guy and straight guy *
It simply don’t matter so much who is gay and who isn’t ( most quarters), and hangg out wh gay men when you are straight is no big al. Asi om the grooms and me, I didn’t know, nor uld I tell after many enunters, who was gay and who was straight.
” It mak sense, a shrewd nice-lookg younger man his charm and don’t happen to re if the teractn is wh a gay man. Several gay male iends and I somehow started talkg about how gay and straight men teract so differently than they once did (not so long ago). The lson is that everyone n loosen up, pecially gay men who, for so long, have had to be reful about lettg others really know them.
CAN GAY AND STRAIGHT MEN REALLY BE FRIENDS?
Could gay guys be the ultimate wg men for their straight, male iends? * gay guy and straight guy *
Sex the Cy, Will and Grace), though a lot ls has been said about how gay and straight men regnize and negotiate the distct challeng, plitns, and rewards of their iendships.
Acrdg to Garfield, among the many obstacl to male-male platonic timacy, fear of homosexualy looms large. Straight men et that if they get too close, others will see them as gay; which their mds means feme (horrors!
S., before there was such a thg as a gay inty, some straight men would, wh ltle shame, engage sexual ntact wh other men (ually allowg themselv to be fellated) when female partners were otherwise unavailable (see Gee Chncey’s semal book, Gay New York: Genr, Urban Culture, and the Makg of the Gay Male World 1890-1940) and there is good reason to believe this still occurs other untri and cultur. The mid 20th century this behavr beme associated wh gay inty, new at the time and seen as crimal and then sick.
CAN A STRAIGHT GUY ETHILLY ACCEPT ORAL SEX OM HIS GAY BUDDY?
As a rult of this behavr-inty lk, sexual ngrs between gay and straight men creased nsirably, or at least went unrground. Gay men have suffered physil, social, and psychologil abe at the hands of heterosexually intified mal who, thanks to homophobia and heterosexism, felt fully jtified flictg the terrors.
This legacy of vlence, both physil and psychologil, flicted by straight men toward those of who are gay naturally fuels our utn and distst at the thought of beiendg them.
As turns out, the gay iend worried that if he hugged too closely his iend would thk he was g on to him. For the straight guy, iendship wh a gay man offers the opportuny to learn important lsons about masculy, male inty, sexual orientatn, and diversy.