What Do It Mean to Be a Gay Man? | Psychology Today

Contents:

• THE REAL LIV OF GAY MEN
• JACKSONVILLE JAGUARS ASSISTANT KEV MAXEN BE FIRST MALE ACH MAJOR U.S. PRO LEAGUE TO E OUT AS GAY
• WHAT DO IT MEAN TO BE A GAY MAN?
• IS MY HBAND GAY? SIGNS OF A GAY HBAND
• THE HIDN GAY LIV FALLY BEG UNVERED
• KEV MAXEN JT BEME THE FIRST MALE ACH MEN'S PRO SPORTS TO E OUT AS GAY. HE SAID HE DON'T WANT TO HAVE TO 'LIE' OR 'FEEL FEAR' ABOUT HIS PERSONAL LIFE ANYMORE.
• THE GRIM TTH OF BEG GAY PRISON
• GROWG OLD AS A GAY MAN: HOW LIFE HAS CHANGED FOR THE GAY LIBERATN GENERATN
• THE LBIAN WRER AND HER FLAMBOYANT GAY HBAND

THE REAL LIV OF GAY MEN

In other words, where Bud Light has buckled unr prsure as bigotry grows agast the LGBTQ+ muny, Gay Water’s creator Spencer Hodson wants his new boozy brand to be the anthis of that. “The key issue that Bud Light tapped to was the fact that they didn’t unrstand their re dience and know enough about them,” Hodson, a gay man, told CNN about the ntroversy that began when the Anhser-Bch beer brand sent fluencer Dylan Mulvaney a n of beer.

The nned cktail is named after a lloquialism given to the popular mixed drk (vodka and soda) orred at bars by the gay muny. “Puttg a product wh the word gay the tle is reprentatn self,” which he hop reclaims the word om the negativy ’s sometim associated wh.

JACKSONVILLE JAGUARS ASSISTANT KEV MAXEN BE FIRST MALE ACH MAJOR U.S. PRO LEAGUE TO E OUT AS GAY

He thought of creatg Gay Water about a year ago while on a vatn wh his iend that had got a job wh the beverage dtry.

The two chatted about the limed amount of gay people wh , and wh Hodson burnt out om his tradnal day job tech, started the nned cktail. Hodson built up a strong social media followg on TikTok and Instagram durg Covid-19 and is g some of the money om that (as well as om iends and fay) to help fund Gay Water. “Gay is an umbrella term and the ia behd the brand is to be as clive as possible, which means we want alli, we want straight people to be part of this muny we’re buildg.”.

WHAT DO IT MEAN TO BE A GAY MAN?

For now, Gay Water is sold largely onle (wh a few retailers) and four sugar-ee flavors — watermelon, lime, peach and grapeu — at lnch.

Gay Water might not have the ep pockets pared to s petors, like Whe Claw, but “even at small sle, pani of many siz are havg succs makg spir-based seltzers and premixed cktails,” Bryan Roth, an analyst for Feel Goods Company and edor of the alhol beverage newsletter, Sightl+, told CNN. “There’s lots of space the spir-based seltzer tegory which Gay Water n play, pecially if the brand n offer a cultural or emotnal nnectn that will feel more excg than the prospect of another peapple-flavored vodka seltzer om natnal or ternatnal rporatns,” Roth said. Of urse, other drks e the word “gay,” too, cludg Gay Beer and So Gay Rosé, Hodson noted, which are also tryg to reach the queer muny and offer them an alternative the straight-domated space.

If others peek behd the curta of the whe-picket-fence-homosexualy they have built up for public nsumptn, support for the movement would wher and probably die. But look we mt, particularly sce we are beg asked to nsir that homosexualy is on par wh heterosexualy, that same-sex marriage and oppose-sex marriage n be the same, that gay sex n fact be spoal. The arguments ma by our bt fenrs of man-woman marriage foc almost exclively on the fn of marriage and the rights of children to have both a mother and a father, and they explicly say their arguments have nothg to do wh the unrlyg qutn of homosexualy.

IS MY HBAND GAY? SIGNS OF A GAY HBAND

Recently I was readg an excellent mancript of an upg book by long-time Crisis Magaze ntributor Robert Reilly on how the gay movement has moved through our stutns and our culture.

Lee lived as an out and active gay man for gog on three s and what he scrib is not only sane but also eply heartbreakg.

Lee wr about a gay bookstore At, Texas lled Lobo’s where if you look the ont wdow you see bookshelv full of books, gay books certaly but books. He said such an arrangement was perfect for the big lie that active homosexualy was normal and non-threateng to any straight person lookg the ont wdow. Lee wanted love, gay love to be sure, but love that fell le wh Christian sexual ethics, that is to say a lifelong emotnal and sexual bond.

THE HIDN GAY LIV FALLY BEG UNVERED

He read the fluential 1976 book The Church and the Homosexual wrten by a Catholic prit that explaed how the Church wrongly terpreted all those referenc the Bible nmng homosexualy. ” Father McNeill later wrote an tobgraphy which he explaed he lived a wily promiscuo gay life far removed om any notn of Christian sexual ethics, gay or otherwise.

KEV MAXEN JT BEME THE FIRST MALE ACH MEN'S PRO SPORTS TO E OUT AS GAY. HE SAID HE DON'T WANT TO HAVE TO 'LIE' OR 'FEEL FEAR' ABOUT HIS PERSONAL LIFE ANYMORE.

“Dozens of well-meang people assured me that there was a whole, different world of homosexual men out there, a world that for some reason I uld never fd, a world of God-fearg, straight-actg, monogamy-believg, and fily-practicg homosexuals.

He joed a Yahoo group loosely affiliated wh Digny, the “Catholic” anizatn that affirms gays their active homosexual way of life. ” He received “dozens of rpons, some of them que hostile and meang, and all but one—me—tellg him to go out and get laid bee that was what beg gay was all about.

THE GRIM TTH OF BEG GAY PRISON

A gay man once told me he was a long-time relatnship but they never had sex anymore, jt masturbated ont of porn wh lots of actn outsi the relatnship. In his excellent mancript, The Gayg of Ameri: How Ratnalizg Homosexual Behavr Is Changg Everythg to be published next March by Ignati Prs, Robert Reilly lays out the horrific numbers.

Jefey Santover Homosexualy and the Polics of Tth that “The typil homosexual (needls to say there are exceptns) is a man who has equent episos of anal terurse wh other men, often wh many different men. “The most rigoro sgle study—the Multicenter AIDS Cohort Study [1987]—reced nearly 5, 000 homosexual men and found that: ‘a signifint majory of the men … (69 to 82%) reported havg 50 or more lifetime sexual partners, and over 80% had engaged receptive anal terurse wh at least some of their partners the prev two years.

GROWG OLD AS A GAY MAN: HOW LIFE HAS CHANGED FOR THE GAY LIBERATN GENERATN

Santover c a study by two homosexual rearchers that found that out of “156 upl studied, only seven had mataed sexual fily; of the hundred upl that had been together for more than five years, none had been able to mata sexual fily.

Some have said gays act out promiscuoly bee they have ternalized homophobia, that they were “forced to look for love dimly l bars, bathho, and public parks for fear of harassment at the hands of the homophobic mastream.

THE LBIAN WRER AND HER FLAMBOYANT GAY HBAND

Durg that time, homosexuals have rved out for themselv public spac every major Amerin cy, and many of the mor on as well.