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Contents:
- AM I GAY OR IS MY OCD?
- HOW DO I KNOW I’M NOT REALLY GAY/STRAIGHT?
- DO YOU HAVE HOCD OR ARE YOU JT NYG THAT YOU'RE GAY OR BI?
- YOU’RE NOT GAY: HOMOSEXUALY ANXIETY OCD
- HOW DO I KNOW I'M NOT REALLY GAY?: OCD AND SEXUAL INTY OBSSNS
- HOCD – GAY OR HOMOSEXUAL OCD AND REVERY
- GAY OCD / HOCD TT
AM I GAY OR IS MY OCD?
* gay or ocd *
“HOCD”, short for “Homosexual OCD”, is the term ed for a theme of Obssive Compulsive Disorr which the sufferer has obssns—unwanted tsive thoughts—surroundg their sexual orientatn. I will be g the term “HOCD” throughout this article to discs obssns of those who intify as heterosexual and have relentls doubts about whether or not they are gay. A more reprentative way to scribe the obssns is “Sexual Orientatn OCD” bee OCD n latch onto anyone’s sexualy, whether that be someone who intifi as gay or queer or asexual.
Furthermore, as sexual obssns of OCD n be about perverse ntent (fear that one is a pedophile or unwanted thoughts about ct), the term “Homosexual OCD” impli that homosexualy is perverse.
The way many clients scribe is that they had a good sense of their heterosexual orientatn and then randomly had an tsive thought such as “what if you’re gay? HOCD is not to be misnsted wh nial or sexual reprsn, as those who are reprsg their te sexualy know that they are attracted to the same sex but ph away, often due to shame that om livg a heteronormative and homophobic world. It is a touchy subject among OCD sufferers and therapists alike who proclaim that HOCD is not homophobia.
HOW DO I KNOW I’M NOT REALLY GAY/STRAIGHT?
HOCD - Homosexual OCD - Gay OCD - what is HOCD and how do you overe ? Here, the world's leadg expert show you that fast revery om HOCD is possible. * gay or ocd *
While HOCD is not sexual reprsn, is not accurate to say that every person wh HOCD is not homophobic. “I have HOCD and I’m not homophobic but I would tell my kid that they should not act on their sir if they were gay.
“I have HOCD and jt bee I am not fortable wh or don’t agree wh one’s sexual preference don’t make me homophobic. All of the people above may have HOCD but that do not erase the blatant homophobia. It is important to weed out what is what bee addn to hurtg the LGBTQIA+ muny, ternalized homophobia may be keepg those wh HOCD further stuck.
DO YOU HAVE HOCD OR ARE YOU JT NYG THAT YOU'RE GAY OR BI?
An OCD specialist n addrs unrlyg, or sometim overt, homophobia by askg the sufferer why their tsive thoughts bother them so much. It is important to note that not everyone wh HOCD is homophobic and that the tsive thoughts are not a choice. It is equally important to acknowledge homophobia that is prent among some OCD sufferers bee nyg the existence of homophobia perpetuat s existence.
The realy is that we live a very heteronormative world, which is reflected through mastream media showsg heterosexual relatnships, lack of diversy polics, relig groups that nounce homosexualy and claim—wh zero evince—that gay folks will go to hell, and laws that enable discrimatn agast the LGBTQIA+ muny. While may not be the dividual’s flt for ternalizg homophobia, is up to them to undo what has been tght—OCD sufferer or not. OCD specialists spend a lot of time advotg for and protectg the OCD muny, which is why so many are quick to note that HOCD is not homophobia.
Instead of sayg is the “fear of beg gay when one is straight”, scribe for what really is: the fear of not knowg one’s te sexual orientatn.
YOU’RE NOT GAY: HOMOSEXUALY ANXIETY OCD
Changg the language we e and ensurg that homophobia is not reflected our practic will protect the OCD muny as a whole.
I was aaid of beg gay, like many people who are nfed about their orientatn. In orr to have doubts about one’s sexual inty, a sufferer need not ever have had a homo- or heterosexual experience, or any type of sexual experience at all. If the sufferer is heterosexual, then the thought may be that they are homosexual.
If on the other hand they happen to be homosexual they may obss about the possibily that they might really be straight. ” Some people’s doubts are further plited by havg such experienc as hearg other people talkg or lookg their directn and thkg that the people mt be analyzg their behavr or appearance and talkg about them – discsg how they mt be gay (or straight).
HOW DO I KNOW I'M NOT REALLY GAY?: OCD AND SEXUAL INTY OBSSNS
For those wh thoughts of beg homosexual, part of the distrs mt surely be social orig. Let’s face , gay people have always been an opprsed mory wh our culture, and to sudnly thk of beg this posn, and to be stigmatized this way, n be ighteng.
I have sometim wonred if those who experience the most distrs om such thoughts as the do so bee they were raised wh more strongly homophobic or anti-gay attus to beg wh, or if is simply bee one’s sexualy n be such a basic doubt. Lookg at attractive men or women, or pictur of them, or readg sexually oriented lerature or pornography (hetero- or homosexual), to see if they are sexually excg.
Observg themselv for evince of “lookg, ” talkg, walkg, drsg, or gturg like someone who is eher gay or straight.
HOCD – GAY OR HOMOSEXUAL OCD AND REVERY
Compulsively reviewg and analyzg past teractns wh other men or women to see if they have acted like a gay or straight person.
Readg articl on the ter about how an dividual n tell if they are gay or straight to see which group they might be most siar to. Can you sudnly turn to a homosexual (or heterosexual) even if you have never felt or acted that that way? If I get sexual sensatns when viewg sexual material of an oppose orientatn do mean I am gay (or straight)?
A typil example would be a heterosexual man who experienc an erectn while lookg at gay eroti. This reactn is strengthened by the rrect belief that homosexual cu never stimulate heterosexuals.
GAY OCD / HOCD TT
Avoidg standg close to, touchg or bshg agast members of the same sex (or oppose sex if the sufferer is gay).