“Mom, Dad… I’m Gay.” A Christian Parent’s Rponse

Contents:

• HOW TO DEAL WH HAVG GAY PARENTS
• IS YOUR DAD GAY—OR ARE YOU A GAY DAD?
• HOW TO TELL YOUR PARENTS YOU ARE GAY
• HOW TO TELL YOUR MOM YOU ARE GAY
• “MOM, DAD… I’M GAY.” A CHRISTIAN PARENT’S RPONSE
• 5 GAY PARENTG MYTHS
• ASK THE EXPERT: "HELP, I’M SRED TO TELL MY MOM I’M GAY!"
• WHAT TO DO WHEN YOUR CHILD SAYS: "I'M GAY"

HOW TO DEAL WH HAVG GAY PARENTS

If you jt have a feelg that your brother is gay, that's okay. If you thk your brother is gay bee he watch a "girly" TV show or his voice sounds a certa way, that's relyg on stereotyp. If you live a particularly homophobic or transphobic area, discs safety plans wh the fay member se of vlence om others.

If your fay member has e out as gay or bisexual, accept that they will end up seeg someone of their own genr, and that's perfectly okay. Don't be aaid to rearch beg gay, bisexual, transgenr, asexual, or whatever your fay member me out as.

IS YOUR DAD GAY—OR ARE YOU A GAY DAD?

I thk he might be gay. If you saw your brother kissg another guy and he said he is not attracted to women, y, he is gay. How do I tell if a child is gay?

HOW TO TELL YOUR PARENTS YOU ARE GAY

They might have a lack of tert the oppose sex if they’re homosexual or asexual. Havg gay parents n make life outsi of your hoe a ltle more plited than if you had straight parents. This means that alg wh havg gay parents isn't so much about alg wh your parents as s about alg wh other people who don't unrstand your fay.

HOW TO TELL YOUR MOM YOU ARE GAY

Avoid apologizg that your parents are gay. Remember that there is nothg wrong wh beg gay. In addn, the fact that they are gay has no bearg on the way they treat other people, and certaly do not affect the way they treat and al wh you.

Anyone who teas you about your parents' relatnship is probably someone who has had no teractn wh gay people, to their knowledge. Someone who is homophobic bee they haven't been around a lot of gay people may jt need some posive exposure to change their md.

Try sayg, "I know you say you don't like gay people but my parents are great and I would love for you to meet them. You shouldn't try to hi the fact that they are gay by not mentng them. Instead of sayg "my parents" to hi that they are gay, say "my dads" or "my moms" and be proud of the people that have raised you.

“MOM, DAD… I’M GAY.” A CHRISTIAN PARENT’S RPONSE

In sence, you should e out to your iends about havg gay parents.

If you don't, you n ntact (or ask your parents to ntact) a group for kids wh gay parents.

Do your parents have other gay iends wh kids your age?

5 GAY PARENTG MYTHS

Bee gay fai are not always formed the same ways as straight fai, n be nfg. In every way but one, most gay parents are jt like straight parents. "This story help me to feel fortable even though I hate beg lled gay and the fear of enterg hell is there....

Livg wh homophobic parents n be a paful and difficult suatn.

Whether you are gay yourself, have a close loved one or iend who is, or jt support the LGBT movement general, alg wh tolerance is tough. If your parents have said or done homophobic thgs the past, you might try to ga an unrstandg of their viewpots and work to change them. You may have heard your parents make homophobic ments before, but maybe you don't really unrstand why they feel the way they do.

ASK THE EXPERT: "HELP, I’M SRED TO TELL MY MOM I’M GAY!"

Start a dialogue wh them about their feelgs about gay people and e active listeng skills to tly hear their si of thgs. Your parents may try to shg off when you ask "Why are you agast gay people? In some s, this might perta to their relig beliefs, but you might also unver a eper, or more personal reason that they are agast gay people.

WHAT TO DO WHEN YOUR CHILD SAYS: "I'M GAY"

If your parents are relig, they may have learned that homosexual relatnships, beg transgenr, or beg nonbary are wrong.