Went to a Gay Nightclub, Alone! | Empty Closets

Contents:

• HOW TO BEE POPULAR AT A GAY BAR
• WENT TO A GAY NIGHTCLUB, ALONE!
• DO YOU WANNA FUNK WH ME?: A BEGNER’S GUI TO GAY NIGHTCLUBS
• HOW TO COPE WHEN YOU'RE GAY AND LONELY
• THE 42 BT GAY BARS AMERI
• THE DOS & DON'TS OF GAY CLUBBG
• A GAY GUI TO PICKG UP THE HOT GUY AT THE BAR
• GAY CHIGO
• THE 5 BEST MOSW GAY CLUBS & BARSSEE ALL THGS TO DOGAY CLUBS & BARS MOSW
• THE 30 BT GAY BARS NYC
• GAY BARCELONA: OUR GUI TO THE BT LGBTQ SPOTS THE CY
• GAY MOSW MOSW CY GUI
• GAY CLUBS NEAR ME
• THE BT LGBTQ+ AND GAY CLUBS LONDON
• KEV MAXEN BE FIRST MALE ACH A US MEN’S PROFSNAL SPORTS LEAGUE TO PUBLICLY E OUT AS GAY

HOW TO BEE POPULAR AT A GAY BAR

Whether you are gog to a gay bar alone or wh iends, 's possible to be the most popular one there.

WENT TO A GAY NIGHTCLUB, ALONE!

If you're a girl, nothg giv you an edge like beg the accsory for a hot gay guy. Though you should prepare yourself for the fact that people might assume you're gay and might even exprs romantic or sexual tert you.

Also, is nsired to brg a large group of straight people to a gay bar/club (i. A bachelorette party), so if you're gog, you should ially go wh some gay iends.

Dgs n feature the gay club scene, but dog dgs do not make you popular and may even isolate you or get you barred. I also somewhat recently started gog out to gay clubs, except I went alone at first and brought iends later. Most gay clubs are very popular wh STRAIGHT women, but if I'm feelg the ch to dance then I go and have fun anyway knowg the men won't harass me.

DO YOU WANNA FUNK WH ME?: A BEGNER’S GUI TO GAY NIGHTCLUBS

Jt the thought of gog to a gay bar/club mak my heart race. I too went to a gay club by myself for the first time this last week.

The nice thg about beg a gay club, is that s ually safe to assume the majory of mal are gay. Good advice, but you uld jt do the easy way: fd the bit gay club town.

(By “gay bar”, I mean any bar that ters primarily to gay men or lbians. But if you want to go dance, party, and have a good time, tst me — a gay club is where you should be head. To be fair, there are straight clubs that play great mic and have fun, nonjudgmental crowds, and there are gay bars that are nothg more than S and M (Stand and Mol) clubs.

HOW TO COPE WHEN YOU'RE GAY AND LONELY

Certa gay/lbian clubs have their target clientele, of urse — wboys and wgirls (The Round-up Saloon Dallas), leather men (La Track Montreal), punk lbians (The Dyke Bar Brighton, UK), and drag queens (1001 Pub Maryl Istanbul), for stance — but what I’m talkg about is your basic glter-ball, all-wele, humpg-on-the-dance-floor dis.

This wouldn’t have happened at any of the gay bars town, and we fely would have had a better time, as the doorman was jt the first of numero snooty employe we enuntered, there.

THE 42 BT GAY BARS AMERI

If you’ve never been to a gay bar, there are a few thgs you need to unrstand so that you n have the right attu. That may seem obv, but ’s amazg how many people enter what is clearly a gay bar and say, “Hey, thar’s a bunch a queers ‘ere.

THE DOS & DON'TS OF GAY CLUBBG

” And the homosexuals who are there will be dancg wh one another, holdg hands, huggg, and, y, kissg. A gay bar is one of the few plac where homosexuals n exprs their affectn for one another whout beg subjected to someone’s narrow judgment, or, prumably, riskg harm to themselv, so expect to happen. I went wh three iends — a lbian and a straight uple — to a gay nightclub a while back, but was separated om them immediately after enterg the crowd club.

Unlike what you may have seen on Queer as Folk, the overwhelmg majory of gay bars don’t have backrooms and hallways where wild i are takg place. Dg e, particularly the e of ecstasy and other signer dgs, is higher among the gay populatn than the straight populatn, and some gays and lbians equate a night on the town wh a night of high-energy, dg-duced spastic dancg. Havg said all that, why should you go to a gay nightclub?

A GAY GUI TO PICKG UP THE HOT GUY AT THE BAR

In my qut for the perfect dance club, I tried, or was dragged to, diss of all varieti, so I know om experience that the bt dance mic is a gay bar. And numero dance masters and producers market their goods to gay clubs specifilly.

GAY CHIGO

Sylvter, the late dis diva of the ’80s, was one of the first to target gay dienc, and he tablished a proud tradn of producg multi-layered tracks to which even the most rhythmilly-challenged uld dance. Even though he was straight and had a girliend, Ron and I went dancg together often; we both loved to dance, and if no one wanted to go out wh , we knew we uld dance a gay bar whout beg hassled.

From gym gods to nerds to fag hags (the latter beg the straight women who hang wh their gay male iends) to straight upl who want to try some place new — don’t matter. Although, to be hont, the more you look like a er ught the headlights, the more the regulars will look at you oddly, so try not to eak out when you see your first drag queen or gay/lbian uple makg out.

Still, there are a few thgs to keep md before venturg to your first gay bar. And often, gay clubs smaller towns or ral areas are entrance-by-membership-only, to keep out the rednecks and others who want stir up trouble.

THE 5 BEST MOSW GAY CLUBS & BARSSEE ALL THGS TO DOGAY CLUBS & BARS MOSW

When I attend llege the homophobic town of Wa, Texas, gettg to the one gay bar town remd me of enterg a speak-easy durg Prohibn, but once si, the patrons were all nice and easy-gog.

Dependg on the cy, the parts of town where gay bars are loted are often rough, and crime rat are high. Even when loted “nicer” parts of town, gay bars tend to attract n artists, pick pockets, and gay bashers lookg to prey on the weak or dnk. If you would prefer to have bamboo shoved unr your nails to beg around homosexuals, then bt to stay out of gay clubs.

However, if you have no problem wh gay, lbian, bisexual or transgenred people general, they turn will have no problem wh you, so you ought to give the lol gay bar a try. Part of realizg you're gay, or bi, or trans, or non-bary, or anythg other than cisgenr and heterosexual is acceptg you’re different—and somewhat separated—om the majory.

THE 30 BT GAY BARS NYC

Here he shar his journey to overe the sense of isolatn he felt growg up gay a small U. At the time, there were no real gay role mols except for Graham Norton and Jack om Dawson's Creek—and I certaly didn't intify wh him bee I wasn't a football player. I felt like I was pletely on my rried on until I was 16, when I started gog out to gay bars my hometown.

For the first time I've been able to form a good group of gay iends and create my own support work. I'd go on gay chatrooms but that was jt a facels nversatn wh someone who uld have been anyone. I thk if I'd had iends who were gay when I was growg up, my life would have been so different.

GAY BARCELONA: OUR GUI TO THE BT LGBTQ SPOTS THE CY

I now know there were other kids at my school who were gay, but they didn't e out till much later. The word “gay” speaks to our abily to do exactly that.

The word “gay” lls to md our special knack for fdg the light the darkns, for buildg the dance floor off to the si of the cel world. Let’s take a look at some of the bt gay bars Ameri, om the open-air, vil-may-re spac Wt Hollywood to the neighborhood pub downtown St.

GAY MOSW MOSW CY GUI

The olst gay bar North Carola (found 1976) draws every tegory and mographic. The entrance is through an unmarked shed behd a Chipotle, and featur a blend but unexpected gay/not crowd which same-sex grdg is rigur. —Alfonso Fernanz NavasCourtyAt: Cheer Up CharliBack when I was a young gay, I saw the olt, most betiful woman the world at Cheer Up Charli.

GAY CLUBS NEAR ME

—Abigail CovgtonCourtyBrooklyn: The ExleyFull of ntradictns, The Exley is a ltle different than other gay bars.

When the bar fally reopened Sprg 2022, an entire borough’s worth of gays celebrated by floodg the new back pat all summer and Gger’s has been crowd wh queers ever sce. —Diana HubbellBoston: Club CafeHow is Boston’s stalwart gay bar/rtrant/performance space inic?

It began s life as a beer-and-we offshoot of the Metropolan Health Club, a gym that opened 1983 to serve the gay ctomers who’d been bullied out of other lol clubs at the height of AIDS hysteria. It gave the boys a place to gather the ‘80s, the first outpost that helped tablish the South End as the Boston gayborhood.

THE BT LGBTQ+ AND GAY CLUBS LONDON

It brought the gay and straight muni together the ‘90s wh clever baret programmg. But perhaps most signifintly, gave the gay muny of Boston somethg sperately need: visibily.

While other gay bars of the time were basements or board up, Club Cafe faced by Columb Avenue wh floor to ceilg wdows. Big Chicks serv a diverse crowd— ’s young, ’s old, ’s one of the only plac you’ll see gay men and lbians together!

KEV MAXEN BE FIRST MALE ACH A US MEN’S PROFSNAL SPORTS LEAGUE TO PUBLICLY E OUT AS GAY

—Dave HolmCourtyChigo: Carol’s Pub Not every gay bar is explicly a gay bar.