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Contents:

• SI GUYS: THKG BEYOND GAY MALE "TOPS" AND "BOTTOMS"
• GAY "SIS": HOW LANGUAGE FRE US TO BE OURSELV
• GAY SLANG 101
• 12 SLANG WORDS FOR GAY – USE THE TERMS TO ADDRS THEM!
• GAY SLANG
• I’M GAY AND I’M NOT A TOP OR A BOTTOM – I’M A ‘SI’
• HOW TO USE TR DIFFERENTLY FOR GAY
• DICK LESCH’S GUI TO SEVENTI GAY SLANG

SI GUYS: THKG BEYOND GAY MALE "TOPS" AND "BOTTOMS"

A third add: “Personally I’m not crazy about the term ‘si’ (sounds to me like someone lyg there, dog not much) but ’s good that Grdr acknowledg that there’s more to gay sex than anal. The gay datg app Grdr n seem like a mefield wh s extensive e of slang – here’s what terms like GEN, NPNC and si is the most popular LGBTQ datg app the world and a cemented part of gay culture. Acrdg to Urban Dictnary, a si is “a homosexual male who do not enjoy anal peratn (givg or receivg), but will engage other forms of same sex activy.

When to sex, whether you’re gay, bi, or straight, we’ve all been a ltle brawashed to believg that there is this thg lled “normal. In the gay male muny, ually, you’re eher nsired to be a “top, ” the perator, or a “bottom, ” the perated, or you’re versatile (n go eher way). But what if you’re a gay man who don’t enjoy anal sex or fds anal peratn paful, don’t like the feelg or the troublome amount of preparatn and cleang up need for to be a pleasurable experience, or simply don’t experience anal sex as erotic?

That’s why a 2013 article I wrote for Huffgton Post, "Guys on the ‘Si’: Lookg Beyond Gay Tops and Bottoms, " I began workg on popularizg the term “si” orr for the gay men to have the language to exprs their sexual and erotic preference. The gay male datg app, Grdr, recently add the sexual preference I created beyond jt top, bottom, and vers when to gay men engagg terurse: "si.

GAY "SIS": HOW LANGUAGE FRE US TO BE OURSELV

That’s what happened 2013 when, an article I wrote for the Huffgton Post, “Guys on the Si, ” I created the term “si” for gay men who aren’t to beg a “top” or a “bottom” or practicg anal peratn. The term “Si” was created when 2010, I was talkg wh some lleagu about “tops” (gay men who prefer the sertive role durg peratn) and “bottoms” (gay men who prefer the receptive role durg peratn) and outed myself for beg a gay man who don’t engage anal terurse at all. Beg a “top, ” “bottom, ” or “vers” (short for "versatile, " or someone who uld go eher way) were the only acceptable mols the gay muny, and I felt dissed for not ftg to the mold.

About a year and a half ago I formed a Facebook group lled “Si Guys” and some of the guys the group started a petn to Grdr, the gay datg app, to add “si” to their list of preferred posns and filters. Back 2011, an article was published the Journal of Sexual Medice which rearchers surveyed 25, 000 gay and bisexual men Ameri about their most recent sexual enunters, and only 36 percent said they had bottomed, and 34 percent said they had topped. Furthermore, a si n be a gay male, a bisexual male, a pansexual male, or fall unr the ace umbrella (asexual male/graysexual male/misexual male, etc.

Dennis Fortenberry MD, MS Sexual Behavrs and Suatnal Characteristics of Most Recent Male-Partnered Sexual Event among Gay and Bisexually Intified Men the Uned Stat. Pri, formerly known as Gay Pri, is a regnn of LGBTQ inty, affirmatn of equal rights, and celebratn of visibily, digny, and diversy the LGBTQ muny.

GAY SLANG 101

While the word homosexual is still ocsnally ed some ntexts, you might have noticed that don’t make an appearance any versn of the LGBTQ acronym.

As our age note on the term stat, “up until 1973, homosexualy was listed The Diagnostic and Statistil Manual of Mental Disorrs (DSM), psychiatry’s standard reference on the classifitn of mental illns. And many feel that this word plac undue emphasis on sexual activy, or that sounds overly clil.” In fact, the term homosexual was liberately rejected by early gay rights activists bee, acrdg to The New York Tim, “they did not want to be intified as exclively sexual begs.”. Gay, on the other hand, n be ed to scribe a person of any genr who experienc same-sex attractn, although is most often ed to scribe a man who is attracted to men.

12 SLANG WORDS FOR GAY – USE THE TERMS TO ADDRS THEM!

On June 28, 1969, the New York Cy police raid the Stonewall Inn, a bar equented by gay and genr-nonnformg people (at a time when terms like LGBTQ didn’t yet exist).

Partially rponse to Stonewall, 1970, queer activists New York Cy anized a march to Central Park wh the theme “Gay Pri.” A more prehensive history of the Stonewall Rt or the Stonewall Uprisg n be found our Pri Month explaer.

GAY SLANG

Queer lerally means “strange or odd om a nventnal viewpot,” and by at least by the late 1800s, queer was ployed as a rogatory term for an effemate or gay man.

I’M GAY AND I’M NOT A TOP OR A BOTTOM – I’M A ‘SI’

Don’t worry; you’re not help you keep up wh the nstantly evolvg language, we have piled a list of mon slang words for scribg homosexualy. Whether you’re g them ironilly or scerely, slang words for gay dividuals are a way to exprs sir knowledge and bsh up on your termology and get ready to add some flavor to your nversatns. Referrg to a feme gay person, Lola is a term that feels both affectnate and ’s a name that njur up imag of fabulons, wh sparkly drs and high heels that uld kill.

But for those who embrace their queer inty wh open arms, ’s jt one more way to celebrate who we whether you’re a Lola yourself or jt love someone who is, let’s all take a moment to raise a glass to our beloved feme gays.

So next time you hear someone g slang words for gay people, remember that language is fluid and has the power to hurt or ’s choose our words wisely and aim for clivy for all. The e of rogatory slang words for gay people has been a dark cloud over the LGBTQ+ muny for such term that olr generatns have ed is “basket.

HOW TO USE TR DIFFERENTLY FOR GAY

Get ready to meet the Flamg Queen – an over-the-top flamboyant gay man who knows how to turn on the charm and steal the his larger-than-life personaly and lorful wardrobe, the Flamg Queen is the life of the party and a te in the LGBTQ+ muny. Its name has taken on a new meang morn-day ed by gay men to refer to themselv, the term u fly is an tertg addn to the expandg vobulary of slang words for the LGBTQ+ muny. Used to scribe someone who is gay or not tradnally mascule, ’s a way of pigeonholg people based on outdated notns of genr and sexualy.

However, ’s worth notg that slang words for gay folks have changed over the years and ntue to evolve “u” to “flamer” to “queer, ” the words we e to scribe ourselv and others n be a powerful tool for self-exprsn and let’s embrace the diversy of human sexualy and genr exprsn and leave the bread-based idms behd.

DICK LESCH’S GUI TO SEVENTI GAY SLANG

Instead, ’s a slang term for someone who intifi as openly term origated the 1940s and 1950s when beg gay wasn’t wily accepted. Many gay men sought refuge and muny wh the Wizard of Oz fanbase, as they intified wh the story’s them of beg an outsir and fdg, to all my iends of Dorothy out there, keep shg like the emerald cy and livg your bt rabow-filled liv! The word “swish” might not sound faiar to some, but ’s a slang term that has been ed for s to scribe a flamboyant man, often wh a gay someone says a man is “swishy, ” means he’s effemate, theatril, and perhaps a b over-the-top his mannerisms.