Narcissism & Gay Men | The Velvet Rage | Alan Downs | Steven Surman

Contents:

• 9 SIGNS YOU’RE LOVE WH A GAY NARCISSIST – FROM AN LGBTQ THERAPIST
• NARCISSISTIC PERSONALY DISORR AND GAY MEN – A VIEW OM A LEADG LONDON PSYCHOLOGIST FOR GAY MUNY
• ARE GAY MEN MORE LIKELY TO BE TE NARCISSISTS?
• THE VELVET RAGE BY ALAN DOWNS | SIX LSONS ABOUT GAY NARCISSISM | PART 02
• THE VELVET RAGE BY ALAN DOWNS | SIX LSONS ABOUT GAY NARCISSISM | PART 01
• 46. NARCISSISM BLACK GAY MEN: FEATURG DR. JONATHAN M. LASSER, PHD.
• MALE NARCISSISM AND ATTUS TOWARD HETEROSEXUAL WOMEN AND MEN, LBIAN WOMEN, AND GAY MEN: HOSTILY TOWARD HETEROSEXUAL WOMEN MOST OF ALL

9 SIGNS YOU’RE LOVE WH A GAY NARCISSIST – FROM AN LGBTQ THERAPIST

As an LGBTQ therapist, many of my clients typilly feel hurt by their gay narcissistic partners bee their needs are not valued and rpected. The Gay Therapy Center offers a ee onle class, 30 Days to Feelg Good About You, that is specifilly signed for the LGBTQ muny and to build self-passn. If you’re overwhelmed and feelg distrsed about beg love wh a gay narcissist and you’re nfed about what to do, nsir speakg wh a qualified therapist.

Schle a ee 15 mute nsultatn ll and see if the Gay Therapy Center is the right f for your therapy needs. There is a theory that gay men may be particularly sceptible to narcissistic personaly disorr, as a rult of subnsc feelgs of tense aquacy, for which narcissism is an over-pensatn. London psychotherapy and unsellg for gay men n help open the procs of explorg issu that unrlie the rpons.

NARCISSISTIC PERSONALY DISORR AND GAY MEN – A VIEW OM A LEADG LONDON PSYCHOLOGIST FOR GAY MUNY

I am a heterosexual and th prived of an timate acquatance wh certa psychologil procs, which allegedly are unique to homosexuals. Rearch failed to fd any substantive difference between the psychologil make-up of a narcissist who happens to have homosexual preferenc - and a heterosexual narcissist. There is, however, one element, which might be unique to homosexuals: the fact that their self-fn hg on their sexual inty.

Homosexualy has been flated to the level of a sub-culture, a separate psychology, or a myth. Moreover, the homosexual mak love to a person of the SAME sex - a way, to his REFLECTION. Autogynephilic transsexuals start off as heterosexuals and end up as eher bisexual or homosexual.

ARE GAY MEN MORE LIKELY TO BE TE NARCISSISTS?

Ignorg our views on homosexualy for a moment, I was wonrg what peopl' thoughts were on whether gay men were more likely to be diagnosed wh Narcissistic Personaly Disorr. I mt first say that I am not a health profsnal, but my experience, many of the self-centred, perfectnist, boastg type tras herent NPD seem to be at the foreont gay culture: the need to stay betiful and young forever, body fascism, the plete foc on physil attractivens above all else.

ccumm36D wrote:There are those that would make an argument that homosexuals are disorred to beg. It seems ironic that you would make such a ment regardg the overall attu by many towards homosexuals ntemporary society, one that uld obvly lead to vianc self-teem and personaly disorrs for the afflicted of said ments. It seems ironic that you would make such a ment regardg the overall attu by many towards homosexuals ntemporary society, one that uld obvly lead to vianc self-teem and personaly disorrs for the afflicted of said you nsir that this is probably his favore hobby.

THE VELVET RAGE BY ALAN DOWNS | SIX LSONS ABOUT GAY NARCISSISM | PART 02

I would tend to agree wh "vianc self-teem and personaly disorrs for the afflicted" but I mt fervently disagree that is "ments" that e the emotnal strife to which he refers but rather their ndn or state, their gayns if you will, that is at the root of their perceived anguish. Regardlsly, the existence of negative attus towards homosexuals is highly prevalent some areas of the world and this is all that is necsary to support my ncln. Regardlsly, the existence of negative attus towards homosexuals is highly prevalent some areas of the world and this is all that is necsary to support my were makg a quantum leap my iend (sic).

In my recent vorac readg, I do remember somewhere that there is a higher 'rate' of narcissism among homosexual men, as lovg another man's body more closely reflects worshipg one's own. Suici appears more likely and mental disorrs appear ls likely homosexuals wh rpect to normal populatn. I thk would take a study specifilly focg on NPD homosexuals to nvce me of anythg.

As Alan Downs pots out several tim The Velvet Rage, when two gay men are a relatnship wh one another, will only work out if they both wrangled wh and tamed their own mons. This certaly sounds a lot like the premise Ross Rosenberg’s The Human Mag Syndrome, sce a narcissist and a pennt (gay or straight) are both magilly drawn to each other for havg the characteristics and personaly tras that the other is lackg.

THE VELVET RAGE BY ALAN DOWNS | SIX LSONS ABOUT GAY NARCISSISM | PART 01

One gay therapist I know says, ‘Send only to HIV, betrayal is the most vastatg gay epimic.

46. NARCISSISM BLACK GAY MEN: FEATURG DR. JONATHAN M. LASSER, PHD.

I am sure ss wh many gay men, and ’s why so many of sh to and clg to toxic relatnships—this guy clud. A gay man who pathologilly cis for sex is engagg a procs addictn bee ’s no longer about hookg up. Over the years I’ve had untls (and I mean untls) talks wh gay iends who all pla about how tired and vapid the gay social apps are.

After my own breakup om the Gay Narcissist, I was glued to Scff, and I msaged as many men as possible the world over. Sure, I sperately wanted a rebound to prove the Gay Narcissist wrong my sirabily. Sce I foced so much on the dark si of gay men and their relatnships, ’s important to highlight the sgle most important pot I took away om Alan Downs and The Velvet Rage, which is a hopeful one.

I’ve often wonred if gay men have a greater propensy for narcissism than other groups of people.

MALE NARCISSISM AND ATTUS TOWARD HETEROSEXUAL WOMEN AND MEN, LBIAN WOMEN, AND GAY MEN: HOSTILY TOWARD HETEROSEXUAL WOMEN MOST OF ALL

I’ve spent way too much time on gay-oriented “datg” and “social” apps starg at curated photos and readg posturg profil. And, of urse, I was my own gay narcissistic relatnship for years that end wh an unceremon disrd and replacement.

But I’ve always tsted my keen sense of observatn and tun, and there has always somethg od that’s bothered me about the gay muny’s propensy for toxic, narcissistic behavr. We would meet for happy hour about once a month a Wt Village gay bar, and he’d gracly listen to all of my bile about my ex, who I refer to as the Gay Narcissist. Alan Downs and The Velvet Rage: Overg The Pa Of Growg Up Gay In A Straight Man’s World was also remend to me, but I saved for another day.