Twenty-two years ago, I asked my dad if he was gay. Then he was gone.

Contents:

• IS YOUR DAD GAY—OR ARE YOU A GAY DAD?
• HOW TO TELL YOUR PARENTS YOU ARE GAY
• HOW I ACCINTALLY FOUND OUT MY DAD IS GAY
• I'M 57 YEARS OLD AND MY FATHER JT DISOWNED ME FOR BEG GAY
• MOM DAD I’M GAY
• HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY
• THE GAY FATHER I NEVER KNEW
• WHAT TO DO WHEN YOUR CHILD SAYS: "I'M GAY"
• MOM AND DAD, I'M GAY AND ALSO STRONGER THAN BOTH OF YOU, SO DON'T TRY ANY SH
• HOW TO TELL YOUR MOM YOU ARE GAY

IS YOUR DAD GAY—OR ARE YOU A GAY DAD?

Most children whose dads are gay were born while their blogil mom and blogil dad were married and livg together. If you have a gay dad or a lbian mom, after they separate, which of them is most likely to remarry or to remarry and then divorce? Lbian moms are more likely than gay dads to marry their same-sex partner.

But gay dads are ls likely to get divorced om their hbands than lbian moms are to get divorced om their wiv. Gay men may experience more discrimatn than lbians, pecially if they are parents.

Our society is still ls acceptg of gay men beg fathers than of lbians beg mothers. But perhaps the most important rearch fdg is that gay dads and their dghters have closer relatnships when dads tell the tth—and the dads are ls clilly prsed than dads who hi this important rmatn om their children (Tornello, 2018).

HOW TO TELL YOUR PARENTS YOU ARE GAY

Sadly, gay fathers are more aaid than lbian mothers to tell their children the tth, regardls of their age.

So if you as a dghter or as a gay dad are still tiptoeg around the topic, ’s time to give yourselv a gift by gettg this skeleton out of the closet.

You might be feelg nervo, sad, or even aaid to tell your parents that you are gay. Have your parents exprsed negative views about gay people the past? Be sure to be selective about the environment which you tell your parents that you’re gay.

HOW I ACCINTALLY FOUND OUT MY DAD IS GAY

Avoid beg alone wh them when you tell them if they are homophobic or vlent. Your parents will likely have an entire range of qutns to ask you, pecially if they did not spect that you were gay before now. Some might experience nial, but you should reaffirm to them that you are gay, and tell them ’s not their flt and you don’t need unselg, if they suggt that.

Your parents may not know many, if any, gay people and may be stgglg wh this news.

I'M 57 YEARS OLD AND MY FATHER JT DISOWNED ME FOR BEG GAY

Collect some pamphlets or articl for parents of gay children and give them to them to look over. Fd out if there is an anizatn or lol group for parents and fai of gay children, like PFLAG, the area.

If you grew up a home wh homophobic parents, know that their reactn might not be ial.

MOM DAD I’M GAY

If you thk they will be nfed, you might want to be prepared to talk to them about when you first thought that you might be gay. If you are pletely fancially pennt on your fay and you know that they are homophobic, is likely unwise to e out at this time. If you regularly heard your parents make disparagg or problematic ments about gay people when you are growg up, know that you will likely not receive a posive reactn when you e out to them.

Article SummaryXTellg your parents that you’re gay n be really difficult, pecially if you’re not sure how they’ll react. In this example, you happened to see him naked a settg that n be sexually arog for a lot of gay man.

HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY

My brother picked up the word for "gay" – a word my dad repeated several tim durg that that pot, my parents had told they had problems their marriage, but a few months later, when I was around ne years old, we still went on our annual fay summer holiday to France. "There aren't a lot of gay people out there wh a wife and children, " he told me.

I once tagged along wh him to his favoure gay bar, where I met all the iends he's ma there over the years. We are watchg Barbara Walters terview Ana Bryant, a proment anti-gay activist. For the past 19 years, I never thought my dad didn’t know I was gay.

From there, was only a matter of time before he joed Facebook and, I’m assumg, disvered my profile, which shows me as an out and proud gay Jan. One of the most mon qutns among young men is, “am I gay?” Our quiz will dispel any doubts. Why Do You Need To Take Up The Am I Gay Quiz?Table of Contents1 Why Do You Need To Take Up The Am I Gay Quiz?2 Hts And Experienc Predictg Gay Behavr2.1 High School Csh2.2 Cheatg A Girl2.3 Means Of Copg Wh Rejectn2.4 Checkg Out Other Men2.5 Good-Lookg Women Don’t Attract You2.6 Sex Wh A Girliend Don’t Exce You3 Qutns Preview.

THE GAY FATHER I NEVER KNEW

Women want to know whether they are lbians, and men want to know if they are gay. Takg mental health to nsiratn, many men have started qutng if they are terted datg women or men and takg up the am I gay quiz.

WHAT TO DO WHEN YOUR CHILD SAYS: "I'M GAY"

When rejectn uld entice you to get together wh another man physilly, then there are chanc of you beg gay. If you get exced about seeg him romantilly and sexually, then there are chanc that you are gay. Even if some of the wilst adventur wh your girliend don’t exce you and the image of another man shirtls or a naked photo exc you to the re, then there are chanc that you might be gay.

Men beg attracted to another man emotnally, physilly, and mentally are known as gays. If you are a man and fd problems wh nnectg to a woman, you need to take up the am I gay quiz, which provis you wh a perspective. That's when their olst son, Jim, me home om llege wh the news that he was gay.

MOM AND DAD, I'M GAY AND ALSO STRONGER THAN BOTH OF YOU, SO DON'T TRY ANY SH

"It was his way of articulatg how he felt as a young gay man, " says his mother. She uldn't even say the words "gay" or "homosexual" when she fally got up the urage to ll a lol Catholic prit whom Jim already had nfid.

They had no klg Jim was gay and no ia how to al wh homosexualy wh the ntext of their fah. It was three years before the Lopatas told anybody else that Jim was gay, even their clost iends. She and her hband first found their way to a secular group lled Parents, Fai, and Friends of Lbians and Gays (PFLAG) where they received support om other parents of homosexuals, along wh ndolenc om those who nsired the Catholic Church to be tolerant and homophobic.

Last year Mary Ellen Lopata wrote a book about her experienc as a Catholic parent of a gay child. In Fortunate Fai: Catholic Fai Wh Lbian Dghters and Gay Sons (Trafford), she scrib the lack of accurate rmatn and sound pastoral rourc for parents and fai of gay and lbian Catholics 20 years ago.

HOW TO TELL YOUR MOM YOU ARE GAY

Today the Lopatas are among a ntgent of Catholic parents natnwi who have tablished mistri, provid rourc, and sought to make the church more welg to gays and lbians.

Catholic bishops 1996 wh the release of Always Our Children: A Pastoral Msage to the Parents of Homosexual Children and Suggtns for Pastoral Mistri. In the document, the bishops acknowledged the stggl of Catholic parents of homosexuals: their relief, anger, mourng, fear, guilt, shame, lonels, and sire to be protective of their children.