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Contents:
- YOUR CHILD JT TOLD YOU HE'S GAY. NOW WHAT?
- OUR SEVEN-YEAR-OLD SON TOLD HE WAS GAY
- I TRIED TO STOP MY SON FROM BEG GAY. I WISH I HADN'T
- WHAT TO DO WHEN YOUR CHILD SAYS: "I'M GAY"
- MY LOVELY 16 YEAR OLD SON JT TOLD ME HE'S GAY
- MY SON TOLD FRIENDS HE’S GAY. HE TELLS ME HE WAS JOKG.
YOUR CHILD JT TOLD YOU HE'S GAY. NOW WHAT?
Growg up, I was a tomboy — or what Larry David would later ll “pre-gay. And while my father was anx when I first me out as gay at 19, I have only ever felt supported by him.
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OUR SEVEN-YEAR-OLD SON TOLD HE WAS GAY
A gay uple, as picted by Unstable Diffn. For straight parents, havg a child reveal that he is gay n be a jolt. You might ask how long he or she has known, and why he feels he is gay, bi, or trans, suggts Jonathan Tobk, M.
D., a psychiatrist private practice New York Cy and the -thor of When Your Child Is Gay: What You Need to Know. You n fd one through the Associatn of Gay and Lbian Psychiatrists. Take the extra step and show your child that you are terted beg the parent of a gay child.
Edute yourself on what means to be gay, lbian, bisexual or transgenr. PFLAG, or Parents for Lbians and Gays, which now has a group for transgenr youth, and holds natnwi chapters and meetgs;.
I TRIED TO STOP MY SON FROM BEG GAY. I WISH I HADN'T
He took a be of chicken and announced, his matter-of-fact way, “I hope you know I’m gay. In a flood of words, he told me he wanted to tell his iends that he was gay— felt like he was keepg a secret om them, and when he thought about too much, ma him feel heart ached, and I wished I uld rewd to the time when kiss and cuddl fixed absolutely everythg.
WHAT TO DO WHEN YOUR CHILD SAYS: "I'M GAY"
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By now u probably have an ia of what i am about to I am gayRyan: i n’t believe i jt told youMom: Are you jokg?
MY LOVELY 16 YEAR OLD SON JT TOLD ME HE'S GAY
Ryan: i know i amRyan: i don’t like hannahRyan: ’s jt a ver-upMom: but that don’t make you gay…Ryan: i knowRyan: but u don’t unrstandRyan: i am gayMom: tell me moreRyan: ’s jt the way i am and ’s somethg i knowRyan: u r not a lbian and u know that. Ryan: i am jt gayRyan: i am thatMom: I love you no matter whatRyan: i am whe not blackRyan: i knowRyan: i am a boy not a girlRyan: i am attracted to boys not girlsRyan: u know that about yourself and i know thisMom: what about what God thks about actg on the sir?
Not that we didn’t know and love gay people — my only brother had e out to several years before, and we adored him. I tried to pray the gay away wh my teenage son. The feelgs you’ve had for other guys don’t make you gay.
So please don’t tell anyone that you ARE gay. Your inty is not that you are gay — is that you are a child of love you. He read all the Christian books that explaed where his gay feelgs me om and dove to unselg to further disver the orig of his unwanted attractn to other guys.
MY SON TOLD FRIENDS HE’S GAY. HE TELLS ME HE WAS JOKG.
And we lost the abily to love our gay son, bee we no longer had a gay son. What we had wished, prayed and hoped for — that we would not have a gay son — me te. But not at all the way we had, when I thk back on the fear that erned all my reactns durg those first six years after Ryan told he was gay, I crge as I realize how foolish I was.
Now, whenever Rob and I jo our gay iends for an eveng, I thk about how much I would love to be visg wh Ryan and his partner over dner. When parents learn that their child is gay, lbian, bisexual, or transgenr, they n experience a range of emotns.
As a matter of fact, you might someday look back and fd that you are grateful for the experience of havg a gay or lbian child. Well, my study of 65 fai of gay and lbian youth for the book, Comg Out, Comg Home: Helpg Fai Adjt to a Gay or Lbian Child, I found that some parents get to the pot where they believe that the experience of havg a gay child actually ma them a better person—more open-md and sensive to the needs of others, particularly those other mory groups. If you jt found out your child is gay, lbian, bisexual, or transgenr, you may be thkg that such ias are prepostero.