What’s wrong wh beg “gay”? Here’s what they don’t tell you.

Contents:

• "WE'RE DISGTED WH QUEERS, NOT FEARFUL OF THEM": THE INTERRELATNSHIPS AMONG DISGT, GAY MEN'S SEXUAL BEHAVR, AND HOMONEGATIVY
• WHAT’S WRONG WH BEG “GAY”? HERE’S WHAT THEY DON’T TELL YOU -- AND ’S REALLY DISTURBG.
• GAY CULTURE HAS GROWN TOXIC WH UNCHECKED PRIVILEGE. IT'S TIME FOR TO RET
• I THK GAYS ARE DISGTG, BUT STILL TREAT THEM AS NORMAL PEOPLE. AM I A BAD PERSON?
• EQUAL RIGHT TO KISS? WHY YOU MAY BE DISGTED BY GAY BEHAVR WHOUT KNOWG IT
• LARGE STUDY DIT DISGT SENSIVY IS LKED TO PREJUDICE TOWARD GAY MEN AND LBIAN WOMEN
• BEG GAY IS DISGTG
• BEG GAY IS DISGTG - SOFTVER

"WE'RE DISGTED WH QUEERS, NOT FEARFUL OF THEM": THE INTERRELATNSHIPS AMONG DISGT, GAY MEN'S SEXUAL BEHAVR, AND HOMONEGATIVY

Usg a batn of personal reflectns, published lerature, and origal empiril rearch, we argue that the disgt triggered by gay men's sexual practic (specifilly, anal terurse) is a cril, though overlooked, ntributor to heterosexual men and women's homonegativy (i. It has bee accepted wisdom most pole circl – as well as schools, ernment, rporate Ameri, and certaly the popular culture – that homosexual behavr is a normal and natural variatn of life.

As Gabriel Rotello—thor of Sexual Elogy: AIDS and the Dty of Gay Men and founr of OutWeek Magaze—wrote, “sexual brotherhood of promiscuy … any abandonment of that promiscuy would amount to a munal betrayal of gargantuan proportns. Rotello also said, “A stranger to gay culture, unaware of the realy of AIDS, might believe om much of the gay prs that HIV fectn was a sort of elixir that produced high self-teem, solved long-standg psychologil and substance abe problems, and enhanced physil appearance … creatg the subnsc imprsn that fectn—the ‘penalty’ of unsafe sex—is really not so bad after all.

WHAT’S WRONG WH BEG “GAY”? HERE’S WHAT THEY DON’T TELL YOU -- AND ’S REALLY DISTURBG.

But even though the nversatns that muted this lumn for six weeks are nowhere close to beg over, I do feel like some thgs that me up durg that time of ntemplatn are worth sayg now — particularly to my fellow whe gay cis out more stori on LGBTQ+ ins and activistsHowever, the ghost of Larry Kramer very much remaed my own head as I ma my way through a Pri month unlike any other.

GAY CULTURE HAS GROWN TOXIC WH UNCHECKED PRIVILEGE. IT'S TIME FOR TO RET

I spent a few quiet afternoons readg his 1978 but novel Faggots, a satiril (yet clearly tobgraphil) look at the liv of gay men 1970s New York Cy that he wrote jt before AIDS ma him a figurehead of Amerin activism. Followg a man his late 30s (based on Kramer himself) who is seekg out a lovg, long-term relatnship a sea of hedonism, the novel has a clear msage: gay men need to start lovg each other stead of beg so obssed wh gettg fucked up and (lerally and figuratively) fuckg each other.

I THK GAYS ARE DISGTG, BUT STILL TREAT THEM AS NORMAL PEOPLE. AM I A BAD PERSON?

In mastream gay media, the phrase almost always refers to a fairly specific subset of the LGBTQ "muny" largely ma up of whe gay cis men — even though many of the battl won around queer rights were fought by people of lour, trans and genr-nonnformg folks, and queer women, and fact the morn Pri movement self was large part iated by Black trans women.

EQUAL RIGHT TO KISS? WHY YOU MAY BE DISGTED BY GAY BEHAVR WHOUT KNOWG IT

If an imprsn of a monolhic "gay culture" fed by such a homogeneo mographic exists, is bee whe gay cis men have until very recently domated mastream reprentatn unr the LGBTQ umbrella and have, general, been hand a level of privilege the last that is wildly disproportnate to any other mographic unr said umbrella.

LARGE STUDY DIT DISGT SENSIVY IS LKED TO PREJUDICE TOWARD GAY MEN AND LBIAN WOMEN

When was the last time I actually had a good time at gay bar full of people I have fely spoken to on social media or apps but who act like I'm pletely sane when I se or say hello person? In analyzg the show's pictn of young gay men livg San Francis, wrer Daniel Wenger diagnos what he terms the "new gay sadns": an entire generatn of urban, privileged gay men who seem to have no clue what they're lookg for or who they are.

Largely born the 1980s, they are the earlit wave of a "post-Stonewall, post-plague, post-activist" generatn of gays — "too old to have brought a boy to the prom and too young to have nursed a fantasy of nng away to an urban gay utopia, " Wenger explas.

Queeri5 pneerg LGBTQ Canadian films you n watch for ee right nowI've seen many of my fellow whe gay cis men seemgly rise to the ocsn by retweetg Black and Indigeno voic, gog to ralli and vowg to te themselv on how to tly be anti-racist (though how performative that is some s is unclear). Rettg "gay culture" will require fightg back agast entrenched social prsur and expectatns of gay cis men — and llg them out when they perpetuate, even passively, any form of discrimatory dialogue.

BEG GAY IS DISGTG

And was large part bee of that attu that he uld lead AIDS activists through a rpt and homophobic system to ga accs to the dgs that ma possible for our generatn to have the liv that we do.

BEG GAY IS DISGTG - SOFTVER

Assumg you have neher the time nor the tert readg through more than 650 onle ments on the issue of homosexualy and moraly posted jt this week to Change of Subject, let me offer, below, the top 7 arguments om rears who supported the posn of Gen. The thgs have a very, very important social purpose that volv timacy, pannship, secury and other forms of happs that nearly everyone striv everyone were homosexual, the human race would die out. In the ments area, rears and I discsed at great length what Juo-Christian scripture really says about homosexualy and what else says about other matters --- slavery, the role of women, smetics and so on.