As assiatn to more mastream culture creas, many gay men are shiftg their attus on non-tradnal relatnships—beg ls acceptg of them.
Contents:
- GAY RELATNSHIPS DON’T LAST BEE….
- GAY RELATNSHIPS CAN BE MORE STABLE THAN STRAIGHT ON
- GAY MEN’S FEARS OF LONG-TERM ROMANCE
- THE TOP 10 ARGUMENTS AGAST GAY MARRIAGE: ALL RECEIVE FAILG GRAS!
- AGE DIFFERENC GAY COUPL
GAY RELATNSHIPS DON’T LAST BEE….
* why gay relationships fail *
People satisfyg monogamo relatnships don't have reason to be I speak to gay men who are satisfyg monogamo relatnships, they're never angered.
The guys are ually *, a gay man I terviewed, supports this notn; he thks open-relatnship shamg is a matter of projectn.
The angry gay men are homonormative my experience, the gay men vehemently opposed to open/poly life tend to be the same men who thk bisexualy is a steppg stone to gay and that beg transgenr is a mental illns; men who don't see the value the word "queer" and don't believe gays should be supportg the Black Liv Matter movement. However, as one gay man I terviewed, Noah, said, "I also thk that (whe) gay men's attus on polyamory are shaped very heavily by our succsful assiatn to mastream culture.
GAY RELATNSHIPS CAN BE MORE STABLE THAN STRAIGHT ON
Gays n end up havg better and longer relatnships than heterosexuals * why gay relationships fail *
Remember, one of the most wispread arguments agast gay marriage was that would lead down a slippery slope towards legalizatn of polygamy and other 'viant' (read: alternative) relatnship stctur. Acceptg polyamory as a posive force the gay muny means phg back agast the re world views of those naysayers. But the gay muny has mostly opted for assiatn, so 's not surprisg that as a poly person I'm equently viewed wh spicn.
GAY MEN’S FEARS OF LONG-TERM ROMANCE
"Though Noah said he hasn't faced direct discrimatn, he mentned that a growg number of gay men refe to date him bee they thk, "I am herently unable to give them the level of timacy that they crave or the level of mment that they sire. "Let's face , " he said, "open relatnships are as mon among gay guys as bread and butter! Wh assiatn to more mastream culture and the acquirement of rights, cludg that to marry, many gay men are shiftg their attus on non-tradnal relatnships--beg ls acceptg of all of that said, I still n't help but see the irony a gay man criqug how someone else lov.
And if love do nquer all, which I believe all gay and queer men believe, then we, as a muny, need to be supportive of other queer men. Instead of buyg to this borg, opprsive, homonormative gay culture, or losg our sense of openns as we ntue to assiate to the heteronormative mastream, I'd like to see gay men expand their notn of what gay is, what love is, and what a relatnship is.
Jt bee a certa non-tradnal relatnship style wouldn't be our first choice, don't mean n't be the ial relatnship style for our gay brothers. We're not only beg arrogant and close-md; we're begng to sound a lot like the Republins who work so hard to take away our if you're one of those gay men who are vehemently opposed to every type of relatnship but monogamy, I ask you to ask yourself: "Why? Gays n have more stable relatnships than their straight unterparts.
THE TOP 10 ARGUMENTS AGAST GAY MARRIAGE: ALL RECEIVE FAILG GRAS!
The first group nsisted of gays and lbians. One hundred gays and lbians were terviewed as well as one hundred heterosexuals. When asked about their love liv, gays were more likely to have long term relatnships.
Though gays did state that they alt wh creased strs levels due to societal attus, they were more likely to report beg ntent and livg happy liv.
Though they were more likely to have closer ti to parents, they reported spendg ls time wh fay than their gay unterparts. After beg hont about their sexualy, homosexuals tend to ga a eedom which translat to happs and stabily.
AGE DIFFERENC GAY COUPL
Clearly, gays and lbians n have better relatnships than their heterosexual unterparts.