Can Gay and Straight Men Really Be Friends? | Psychology Today South Ai

Contents:

• HOW TO FD YOUR GAY BT FRIEND
• HOW TO MAKE GAY FRIENDS: AN LBGT FRIENDSHIP GUI
• HOW TO GET A GAY MALE FRIEND (FOR GIRLS)
• HOW TO MAKE GAY FRIENDS
• HOW TO TELL IF YOUR GUY FRIEND IS GAY
• HOW TO DEAL WHEN YOUR BT FRIEND IS GAY
• HOW TO GET A MAN (FOR GAY MEN)
• GAY MEN AND STRAIGHT MEN AS FRIENDS
• CAN GAY AND STRAIGHT MEN REALLY BE FRIENDS?

HOW TO FD YOUR GAY BT FRIEND

If the h 90s TV show, “Will and Grace” was one of your favor, you may be yearng for that perfect gay bt iend (GBF). This stereotype has ed people to start lookg for their own GBFs, and ed some gay men to feel prsured to f themselv to that box.

Not every gay person lik shoppg, dog your hair, patg nails, or sayg thgs like "fabulo! People don't have to be gay to be trendy, fun, or good at listeng, so don't lim yourself. Remember that every gay person is unique.

Jt like straight people, gay people n be fashnable or cluels, sporty or un-athletic, sassy or straight-laced, supportive or distant, iendly or gff, and any other mix of personaly tras. Even if you believe you mt have that flamboyant gay man to be your GBF, nsir first the person si––what you are lookg for is a te iend, not a rative accsory. Not every gay person will want to be your iend.

HOW TO MAKE GAY FRIENDS: AN LBGT FRIENDSHIP GUI

On TV and films, the relatnship seems to be all about one character and how their gay iend is always g to the rcue. If your new iend is gay, they won't tomatilly like fashn, shoppg, or other stereotypil terts.

Any tips if my iends have abandoned me for beg gay? Don't bee iends wh a gay person of a different genr, hopg to change them so they will "play for the other team" and start datg you.

HOW TO GET A GAY MALE FRIEND (FOR GIRLS)

If they're gay, that's the way nature tend to be, so don't try to change them.

So how do you make gay iends?

HOW TO MAKE GAY FRIENDS

In some of my most sperate hours for gay bondg, I’ve attend LGBTQ+-themed therapy groups my area.

Outsi of LGBTQ+-specific meetups, a great way to fd LGBT iendships is actually by attendg meetups that gay people typilly like. Popular TV shows and films have portrayed gay men as fabulo, supportive, and amg nfidants for straight women.

However, this portrayal of gay men isn’t realistic, and ’s not really a good ia to seek out iends based on superficial tails like their sexual orientatn. If you happen to nnect wh a man who is gay and form a iendship, there’s nothg wrong wh that, but make sure that you treat them as you would anyone else and be reful not to make assumptns about them. It’s not a good ia to beiend a guy jt bee he’s gay.

HOW TO TELL IF YOUR GUY FRIEND IS GAY

A mon reason some girls seek out gay male iends is bee they are ls likely to pete wh them the datg arena than another girl. Other mon reasons some girls seek out gay male iends clu:[4].

Thkg havg a gay male iend will make them appear “fashnable.

Feelg that a gay male iend will value you more than a female iend or straight male iend.

HOW TO DEAL WHEN YOUR BT FRIEND IS GAY

Don’t lim yourself to men who you thk are gay. If you’re still pursug a iendship wh someone who is gay, make sure that you treat them wh the same rpect and nsiratn that you’d treat anyone else. For example, don’t assume that bee a man is gay, he knows all about fashn.

This is a stereotype of gay men that is unte. Or, if you need relatnship advice, don’t assume that a gay male iend is more likely to give you good advice than a female iend or straight male iend.

I like a guy, he's my bt iend, and he's gay.

HOW TO GET A MAN (FOR GAY MEN)

No, if he says h gay you should rpect his feelgs. What do I do if I like someone who is gay? I have a gay iend and everyone knows he's gay, but some people say we look like a uple and I thk I might like him, what should I do?

If he's gay, and not bi, 's better to jt put those thoughts out of your md. I’ll never fet beg 15 years old and walkg to my first ever meetg for lbian, gay, bi, queer, and trans youth at BAGLY Boston.

GAY MEN AND STRAIGHT MEN AS FRIENDS

”) The close queer iends we make bee a chosen fay, wh a shared culture and inty, formg the bonds that are sential to our wellns and as gay bars and bookstor are closg left and right, many of have turned to apps to fill that gap, meang we spend more time than ever alone our rooms.

LGBT2Q people exist all genrs, all cultur, and relyg on your gaydar is a good start, but expandg your queer and trans cultural referenc will boost your abili. Instagram and Twter make easier to fd other people wh the same terts, whether ’s hedgehogs or aerosol art, and there are so many homo-tastic hashtags. Try #QueerStyle, #BlackTransExcellence, #QueerFemme, #LbianMem, #BiLove, #GenrEuphoria, #Gaysian, #LGBTTikTok.

Or, add your inty to your state, school, or profsn to fd #GayMichigan or #QueerMorehoe or #TransUtah or #PansexualUK and more. That may be surprisg news if you’ve been raised a homophobic branch of your relig tradn, but I promise you—they’re out there, and they n’t wa to wele you (and you may fd really healg to brg your whole self to your fah tradn).

CAN GAY AND STRAIGHT MEN REALLY BE FRIENDS?

Here are some lks to lists of affirmg (that’s the relig buzzword for “we like the gays here”) anizatns:. Check out Unlikely Hikers, which specifilly wel and celebrat people who don’t f the classic Patagonia profile cludg fat folks and hikers of lour; Venture Out Project, which is n by and explicly wel trans people; Gay SCUBA Week and Queer Paddlers; and basilly what I’m sayg is that if you want to be out and Out there are fely other ‘mos to do wh your area.

If you’re newly sober or revery and tryg to avoid plac, people, or patterns that may not be healthy for you right now, a gay AA or other revery meetg might be a double-w for you: support on your path and a boost for your new social life. (Mis)e hookup apps wh gay be clear, a happy, healthy, nsentg hookup is a thg of bety. Growlr (gay bears and admirers).