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‘In gay years, you’re rather past your sell-by date, aren’t you?’ the person ont of me said, raisg an eyebrow. 

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I’M 43 – BUT I’M MA TO FEEL LIKE A DOSR BY YOUNGER GAY MEN

Many quiri I have received over and over aga through the years beg somethg like this: “I've always liked olr men, but many gay iends close to my age are cril of me and spic of my motiv.

” One young man said to me, “If I see a handsome gay man my age, he might jt as well have a vaga.

Var labels have been ascribed to tergeneratnal upl, whether straight, gay or bisexual: tergeneratnal, age-gap, age-discrepant, or, more often than not, “May-December” relatnships. Inially, I was unnvced the relatnships were ser, but that was bee I held stereotypil views: an olr gay man who was lookg for a trophy-mate and has the money to take re of his boy toy and a younger man who was lookg for a sugar daddy. I now regnize this as a hackneyed ia that furiat men age-gap gay relatnships.

AGE DIFFERENC GAY COUPL

Based on the number of tim this qutn drops to my mailbox, the reasons for the age-discrepant attractns nsum a great al of bandwidth the thoughts of a lot of young gay and bisexual men. Was pletg his doctoral dissertatn, “May-December: Navigatg Life as an Intergeneratnal Gay Couple, ” he thoroughly rearched what proved to be the limed available lerature on tergeneratnal upl. They nsir discrimatn a part of beg gay.

Their work will fort men the double jeopardy of beg both gay and lovg someone much olr or younger. Gass is a gay man whose only sexual attractn is to men signifintly olr than he is. The younger men have more tert sports than their partners and their gay peers who are attracted to men their own age.

The younger men tend to be more mascule than their gay peers who are attracted to men their own age. He wrote, “I stggle more to expla my attractn to olr gay men to my gay iends than I do to my straight iends. ” No one has llected reliable statistics, but age dispary seems to occur more equently gay relatnships than heterosexual on.

THE CURSE OF AN ATTRACTN TO OLR GAY MEN

But the se of a celebry, the tabloid headl the labels may be ed sensatnalistic ways, or even clu more vilently homophobic nam like pedophile and predatory pervert. ” I was once asked by a young gay man, “Why did you e out at 40? But the gay upl may be far more sexually active than many same-sex upl.

It has been suggted that satisfyg sex nnot occur whout wet kiss and swellg ans, which rc gay sexualy to nothg more than sex, and impli that olr men are pable of havg erectns. One recurrg qutn remas: “How n a man have a mutually satisfyg sex life wh a wife and then have a sudn revelatn that he’s gay?

Don’t this ntradict the ia that gay people are ‘born this way’? I don’t believe we have a choice about our sexual attractns, but gay men and women—jt as any heterosexual person—have a choice about how they rpond to sexual sire.

WATCH WHAT HAPPENS WHEN 'THE OLD GAYS' MEET A YOUNG FAN WHO LOV DRS

Sayg “I am gay” is a statement that our attractns, our behavr, and our self-inty are unison, and when that happens—if ever do— suggts a willgns to proclaim our sexualy regardls of the nsequenc.

WE ARE A GROUP OF GAY MEN, more or ls fifty-five or olr, who have assembled to support each other beg gay elrs. We e om a wi range of backgrounds and are uned our primary purpose of beg eful to younger gay men and of service to the gay and larger muny. The GAY ELDER CIRCLE is signed to assist gay men and others to make the transn om adult to elr, the procs nscly assumg a new role the muny—a life of ntug efulns to to others wh the ntext of group support, enuragement, and genue brotherhood.

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