'Gaydar' or 'wishdar'? The danger obssg over Shawn Mens' sexualy

Contents:

• SHAWN MENS EXPLAS WHY ‘IGNORANT AND SENSIVE’ GAY MOURS UPSET HIM
• 'GAYDAR' OR 'WISHDAR'? THE DANGER OBSSG OVER SHAWN MENS' SEXUALY
• SHAWN MENS ADDRS GAY RUMORS & SUGGTN THAT RELATNSHIP WH CAA CABELLO IS A PR STUNT
• CAA CABELLO: IT WOULD BE “TRAGIC FOR HUMANS” IF ABORTNS AND GAY MARRIAGE WERE BANNED
• CAA CABELLO LNCH PROTECT OUR KIDS FUND RPONSE TO FLORIDA'S 'HATEFUL' 'DON'T SAY GAY' LAW
• CAA CABELLO LNCH ‘PROTECT OUR KIDS’ FUND TO FIGHT FLORIDA’S ‘DON’T SAY GAY’ BILL
• CAA CABELLO, EQUALY FLORIDA, LAMBDA LEGAL LNCH $500,000 FUND TO CHALLENGE FLORIDA’S ‘DON’T SAY GAY’ LAW

SHAWN MENS EXPLAS WHY ‘IGNORANT AND SENSIVE’ GAY MOURS UPSET HIM

Sign up to Rois O’Connor’s ee weekly newsletter Now Hear This for the si track on all thgs micGet our Now Hear This email for eeShawn Mens has said that mours about his sexualy are “ignorant and sensive” Canadian sger-songwrer explaed that he was left upset by claims that he was gay, and that his relatnship wh fellow pop star Caa Cabello was an elaborate publicy stunt. “There was a speratn for me to e out as beg gay, which is such a ridiculo thg, ” Mens told The Guardian.

'GAYDAR' OR 'WISHDAR'? THE DANGER OBSSG OVER SHAWN MENS' SEXUALY

“I got upset bee I know people who are gay who haven’t e out and I know the sufferg they experience bee of that. Her anger, my opn, has nothg to do wh love or relatnships or homosexualy: It's about perpetuatg rctive LGBTQ+ you're a LGBTQ+ person, as I am, chanc are you've been subject to the gross misnceptn that you want to sleep wh lerally everyone. (It's the age-old ncept of a straight guy not wantg to beiend a gay man bee he thks he'll h on him.

Pop stars Shawn Mens and Caa Cabello announced last week that they are endg their two-year relatnship, sendg a meteore crashg through the LGBTQ universe — or at least gay Twter. Hundreds of ers posted mem on social media the past week, many of them jokg about how gay men will be flockg to the heartthrob's home now that he’s sgle. Google search for “Shawn Mens gay” h a three-year peak last week as news of the uple’s spl broke, dwarfg search for Transgenr Awarens Week, which land at the same time.

SHAWN MENS ADDRS GAY RUMORS & SUGGTN THAT RELATNSHIP WH CAA CABELLO IS A PR STUNT

“The gays rejoice, ” a er wrote on others said the mors and the jok were “gross. ”“are some of the shawn mens gay jok funny?

Do they also remd me of that unspeakably awful, gut-punch feelg i’d get when i was closeted and someone TOLD me i was gay bee i let the mask slip and acted feme for one whole send? Also y, ” gay social media fluencer Matt Bernste wrote on Twter, garnerg over 6, 000 has not addrsed the latt hearsay and did not reply to a requt for ment. ”“You want to say, ‘I’m not gay but ’d be fe if I was gay — but also there’s nothg wrong wh beg gay but I’m not.

Gayle Kg and Oprah Wey attend The Rob Hood Foundatn's 2016 Benef at Jab Javz Center on May 9, 2016 New York Cy. Kev Mazur / Getty Imag fileFor years, the close iendship between Wey and CBS host Gayle Kg sparked mors that the two were a uple.

CAA CABELLO: IT WOULD BE “TRAGIC FOR HUMANS” IF ABORTNS AND GAY MARRIAGE WERE BANNED

” But while speculatn about sexualy among gay iends has existed as long as gay people have, when the speculatn mov to a public fom, n be damagg, some experts say. Jack Drcher, a clil profsor of psychiatry at Columbia Universy and the thor of “Psychoanalytic Therapy and the Gay Man, ” said such speculatn n be particularly damagg if the subject is actually gay and is not ready to e out on their own terms.

“If actually is te that they might be gay and people are speculatg about , you’re gog to sort of make them feel threatened and endangered, ” Drcher said, strsg that he was speakg hypothetilly and not about a specific public figure. ”‘Gaydar’ vs. “Sometim ’s hard for gay men to separate their ‘gaydar’ om their ‘wishdar, ’” Savage said.

“There’s not a lot of speculatn the gay muny that Louis C. Mt be gay. As for the speculatn surroundg Mens, Rogers said: “My first qutn would be, ‘What has he done that is anti-gay?

CAA CABELLO LNCH PROTECT OUR KIDS FUND RPONSE TO FLORIDA'S 'HATEFUL' 'DON'T SAY GAY' LAW

”Anti-gay lawmakers asi, Savage said he empathiz wh LGBTQ people who are angered by public figur who are, fact, lbian, gay, bisexual, transgenr or queer and are not out. "Everyone's been llg me gay sce I was 15 years old. "Everyone's been llg me gay sce I was 15 years old, " said Mens, 22, rellg how he "didn't grow up wrtlg" but stead "grew up gettg my hair braid on New Year's Eve" wh his female explaed how the speculatn not only ma him start policg his actns and closg himself off emotnally, ma him worry about his iends who were not ready to e out.

"It was so, so tratg for me bee there were some people my life that I was very, very close to who were gay and the closet, " the three-time Grammy nomee explaed. ""I thk a lot of guys go through that and, even worse than that, there are so many guys who are gay and the closet and mt be hearg s--- like that and beg like, 'I'm terrified to e out, '" the "Stch" sger said. The openly gay artist fally gets the guy of his dreams the adorable mic vio for “No Te Kiero Olvidar.

CAA CABELLO LNCH ‘PROTECT OUR KIDS’ FUND TO FIGHT FLORIDA’S ‘DON’T SAY GAY’ BILL

” As an openly gay artist, he’s aware of his strong LGBTQ+ fanbase. Durg the ndid chat (which was anythg but the ual Q&A), the star addrsed some of the murmurs directed his story below…Speakg about the mors surroundg his sexualy and thenticy of his relatnship wh girliend Caa Cabello, Mens said:“There was a speratn for me to e out as beg gay, which is such a ridiculo thg. I got upset bee I know people who are gay who haven’t e out and I know the sufferg they experience bee of that.

Caa Cabello has given her view on what the world would be like if abortns and gay marriage were banned. The pop star is a vol supporter of both women’s rights and gay rights, havg spoken about subjects like #MeToo and the women’s march, and performed wh a Pri flag on stage.

In a new terview wh Elle, Cabello was asked how she would feel if there were a world which abortns and gay marriage were ma illegal. We would tell each other s— that yeah maybe you would thk we were gay if you were listeng over but we weren't. On Sunday, the 25-year-old Faia performer lnched her Protect Our Kids Fund, which helps and offers rourc to stunts, teachers, and fai affected by Florida's "Don't Say Gay" law, wh a benef ncert at the San Vicente Bungalows Wt Hollywood.

CAA CABELLO, EQUALY FLORIDA, LAMBDA LEGAL LNCH $500,000 FUND TO CHALLENGE FLORIDA’S ‘DON’T SAY GAY’ LAW

"I am sooo honored to have spent Mother's Day supportg @lambdalegal and @equalyfl lnchg the Protect Our Kids Fund which supports ligatn agast the hateful Don't Say Gay or Trans law FL, " she wrote s ptn. Books that clu gay parents or any LGBTQ+ characters are beg challenged and yanked om school bookshelv.