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It was an historic tone that uple David Bucher and Bce Moats wed at the U.S. Naval Amy Chapel on Saturday, the venue's first gay weddg.

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The right to a ary burial for gay spo was guaranteed natnwi wh the legalizatn of same-sex marriage 2015, but only a handful of known same-sex ary upl are buried across US natnal cemeteri. For most, the right to such an honor has been hard won. * navy gay marriage *

Sce 2011, openly gay, lbian and bisexual men and women have been permted to serve the ary.

It wasn’t until 1982 that the ary enacted a policy explicly banng gay men and lbians om their ranks. And the early 1940s, was classified as a mental illns, disqualifyg gay men and lbians om service.

Eighteen years later, Congrs repealed the policy, allowg openly gay, lbian and bisexual people to serve the ary.

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Matt Thorn, terim executive director for OutServe-SLDN, an advocy group for gay, lbian, bisexual and transgenr service members, said the Supreme Court's cisn was a msage to their muny "that... Gay marriage supporters hold a gay rights flag ont of the Supreme Court before a hearg about gay marriage Washgton April 28, 2015. At the time, former Print Bill Clton's policy, "don't ask, don't tell" was effect, barrg homosexual or bisexual members of the ary om disclosg his or her sexual orientatn and om speakg about homosexual remembered thkg, “this guy has a lot of guts, and he’s kd of cute, too.

"So we put our mds that we were never gog to say we were gay, we were never gog to get ma fun of, and we were certaly never gog to get kicked out of the Army. This means that, like all other qualified cizens, Sailors who are gay, lbian, bisexual, and/or transgenr shall be evaluated based on dividual mer, fns, and performance.

FOR GAY UPL HOPG FOR A ARY BURIAL, THE FIGHT FOR LOVE DON’T END WH ATH

Executive Orr on Advancg Equaly for Lbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgenr, Queer, and Intersex Individuals.

Naval Service of Lbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgenr and Queer (LGBTQ+) Personnel​: A Historil Policy Overview. Article 125 often applied discharge proceedgs of gay service members. 14 tablish a policy of mandatory discharge for service members who attempt to engage a homosexual act.

THE GAY MARRIAG OF A NETEENTH-CENTURY PRISON SHIP

7316 for the first Gay and Lbian Pri Month.

8387 for Lbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgenr Pri Month. DoD LGBTQ+ Timele: This timele not signifint events and polici chronologil orr that had a signifint impact on Department of Defense (DoD) polici, stctns, or orrs as they relate to the Lbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgenr, and Queer (LGBTQ+) muny.

Campbell was the first gay veteran to secure burial rights for her spoe, and the pair were the first same-sex ary uple to be buried together at a US natnal cemetery. The right to a ary burial for gay spo was guaranteed natnwi wh the legalizatn of same-sex marriage 2015, but only a handful of known same-sex ary upl are buried across the 172 natnal cemeteri the US – grounds rerved chiefly for ary members and selected fay.

TELL: AN INTIMATE HISTORY OF GAY MEN THE MILARY

However, gay veterans have always fought for their right to be clud and celebrated such spac. Their tombston shout to the silence: “Gay is good, ” reads a plaque below the grave of Frank Kameny, an inic activist, civil servant and World War II veteran.

TEN REASONS TO SUPPORT GAY MARRIAGE

A glossy namels marble headstone marks the grave of Leonard Matlovich, one of the first LGBTQ veterans to prott the ary’s ban on homosexualy, as one belongg to “A Gay Vietnam Veteran. ” In his tellg, at least a hundred men aboard the prison ships Bermuda had same-sex partners whom they nsired, the official archive of gay marriage is still s fancy: the Uned Stat, June marked the fifth anniversary of the Supreme Court’s lg Obergefell v.

Hodg, which provid gay upl wh the legal right to marry. (It wasn’t until the end of the neteenth century, when “homosexual” and “heterosexual” were vented as medil tegori, that more wrten evince of the existence of what we might ll gay muni emerged.

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Beneath the magnificent cupola of the Navy’s most regnizable relig stcture, two men — acpanied by their two children and about 100 guts — gathered here Saturday for the U.S. Naval Amy Chapel's first-ever same-sex weddg.</p><p class="">For the Naval Amy, was an historic tone that David Bucher, a 49-year-old Amy graduate who works at the Pentagon, and partner Bce Moats, 50, tied the knot.</p><div class="ad ad--text-alignment ad-ntaer boxleAd dn-prt" data-ttid="ad__ntaer"><div data-mps="te" data-slot="boxle" data-siz="[[[1000,1],[]],[[758,1],[[300,250],[700,50],[5,5],[728,90],[360,360]]],[[0,0],[[300,250],[700,50],[5,5],[360,360]]]]" data-renr-on-view="te" data-targetg="{}" data-active-tab="te" data-offset-viewport="100" data-ttid="ad__ntaer__ner"></div></div><div id="taboolaReadMoreBelow"></div><p class="">Before the ceremony got unrway, the uple's weddg day jters mgled wh ncerns they had about opposn to their nuptials.</p><p class="">Moats said that while he and Bucher are not advot tryg to make a polil statement wh their weddg, they do want to ntue the efforts of those fightg for gay rights.</p><p class="">“We’re here to break barriers — and take advantage of the rights we have,” Moats said, beamg.</p><sectn class="le-vio le-vio---body"><div class="le-vio__background"><div class="le-vio__player"><div class="vioPlayer styl_vioPlayer__bL8AJ styl_adNotPlayg__Q51_C styl_alignDktopBottom__4cHaO styl_alignMobileBottom__bhgkQ" data-ttid="vio-player"><div class="vioSlate"><a href=" class="allowClicksOnPreview"><picture class=""><source media="(m-width: 1240px)" srcSet="><source media="(m-width: 758px)" srcSet="><img loadg="lazy" src="></picture></a><div class="playButtonOuter absolute absolute-fill w100 dn-prt"><div class="absolute absolute-fill w100 df ems-center ems-center-m jtify-center jtify-center-m"><div class="play le-vio__play-button"><svg class="play--in" xmlns=" viewBox="0 0 15 15" prerveAspectRat="xMidYMid" style="max-width:30px"><path d="M0 0v15l15-7.41z" 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John Schofield to see no Amy opposn to the ceremony.</p><div class="ad ad--text-alignment ad-ntaer boxleAd dn-prt" data-ttid="ad__ntaer"><div data-mps="te" data-slot="boxle" data-siz="[[[1000,1],[]],[[758,1],[[300,250],[700,50],[5,5],[728,90],[360,360]]],[[0,0],[[300,250],[700,50],[5,5],[360,360]]]]" data-renr-on-view="te" data-targetg="{}" data-active-tab="te" data-offset-viewport="100" data-ttid="ad__ntaer__ner"></div></div><p class="">“The Naval Amy is all about creatg lears for the future and embodyg and promotg a culture of digny and rpect,” Schofield said. “And I thk that ’s le wh those valu, those tes that we hold ar, that we have our first same-sex marriage here.”</p><p class="">He said the Amy was proud to hold the weddg — le wh Maryland law. Same-sex marriage went to effect 2013.</p><p class="">As groundbreakg as the weddg was for the Amy, stuck to tradn wh formal prayers, a readg om Corthians and the Uned Stat Navy Hymn.</p><p class="">But Amy Chapla Lt. John Connolly, who officiated the ceremony, said the n-up to the memorable day wasn’t all smooth sailg.</p><figure class="styl_leImage__yAWZ0 styl_medium__OMa6x"><picture class="styl_image__1qciH"><source media="(m-width: 1000px)" srcSet=" 2x, 1x"/><source srcSet=" 2x, 1x"/><img loadg="lazy" src=" alt="David Bucher, 49, and Bce Moats, 50, of Maryland kiss at their weddg Annapolis." height="1667" width="2500"/></picture><figptn class="ptn styl_ptn__Pe5JC"><span class="ptn__ntaer" data-ttid="ptn__ntaer">David Bucher, 49, and Bce Moats, 50, of Maryland kiss at their weddg Annapolis.</span><span class="ptn__source">NBC NEWS</span></figptn></figure><p class="">“Not everyone agre that this should be happeng and took a signifint amount of discernment on my own part as well as this uple’s as they were preparg for the day,” Connolly said.</p><p class="">But as he got to know Bucher and Moats, he unrstood how love they were.</p><div class="ad ad--text-alignment ad-ntaer boxleAd dn-prt" data-ttid="ad__ntaer"><div data-mps="te" data-slot="boxle" data-siz="[[[1000,1],[]],[[758,1],[[300,250],[700,50],[5,5],[728,90],[360,360]]],[[0,0],[[300,250],[700,50],[5,5],[360,360]]]]" data-renr-on-view="te" data-targetg="{}" data-active-tab="te" data-offset-viewport="100" data-ttid="ad__ntaer__ner"></div></div><div class="remend-tersectn-ref" data-activy-map="remend-article-body-remend" data-ttid="remend-wrapper"></div><p class="">“The more I met wh this uple, the happier I was to be pridg today,” he add.</p><div class="remend-tersectn-ref" data-activy-map="remend-article-body-remend" data-ttid="remend-wrapper"></div><p class="">The road for this gay uple has not been easy. Moats, a director of munitns for the World Bank, grew up ral Wt Virgia. He said he swam agast a ti of poverty and prejudice.</p><p class="">While gettg married at the Naval Amy’s chapel, he stood awe of the venue.</p><p class="">“It’s timidatg to be this grandse settg,” he said, addg that his pre-weddg nerv were pound by “knowg there are some who don’t approve.”</p><sectn class="blockquote"><blockquote class="blockquote__quote"><p>“We’re here to break barriers — and take advantage of the rights we have."</p><small class="blockquote__source"><span></span></small></blockquote></sectn><p class="">But for David Bucher, the day was pecially momento — and tged wh a sense of remptn.</p><p class="">The son of an Oh untry judge, he graduated om the Naval Amy and served at the time of Operatn Dert Storm the early 1990s. But after five years, and agast his own wish, he said, he left the Navy.</p><div class="ad ad--text-alignment ad-ntaer boxleAd dn-prt" data-ttid="ad__ntaer"><div data-mps="te" data-slot="boxle" data-siz="[[[1000,1],[]],[[758,1],[[300,250],[700,50],[5,5],[728,90],[360,360]]],[[0,0],[[300,250],[700,50],[5,5],[360,360]]]]" data-renr-on-view="te" data-targetg="{}" data-active-tab="te" data-offset-viewport="100" data-ttid="ad__ntaer__ner"></div></div><p class="">“As a gay man the ary, the ary didn’t want me,” Bucher said. “There was some aspect of my personal beg that ma me ls qualified, they thought, so that was why I exed the Navy. There was a certa level of rejectn there.”</p><p class="">But on Saturday, returng to the place where Bucher began his reer — and sensg an extraordary effort to wele him and his partner — there was also a feelg of victory.</p><p class="">He’s workg at the Pentagon, has a fay and is married to the love of his life.</p><p class="endmark">“To me,” he said, “that is a triumph.”</p></div><div class="article-body__ntent article-body-font--loadg"></div></div><div class="article-body--right-rail-ntaer"><div data-ttid="right-rail-ntaer" class="article-body__right-rail layout-grid-em grid-l-4_5-l grid-l-3_5-xl grid-l-ph-half-xl"><div class="ad article-body__right-rail--ad ad--text-alignment ad-ntaer dn-prt" data-ttid="ad__ntaer"><div data-mps="te" data-slot="boxrail" data-siz="[[[1000,1],[[300,250],[360,360]]],[[758,1],[]],[[0,0],[]]]" data-offset="10" data-renr-on-view="te" data-targetg="{}" data-active-tab="te" data-ttid="ad__ntaer__ner"></div></div></div></div></div><span></span><div class="body-bottom-remend"><div class="ad ad--midrponsive ad-ntaer dn-prt" data-ttid="ad__ntaer"><div data-mps="te" data-slot="midrponsive" data-siz="[[[1000,1],[[700,1],[5,5]]],[[758,1],[]],[[0,0],[]]]" data-offset="300" data-reh-terval="0" data-renr-on-view="te" data-targetg="{}" data-active-tab="te" data-ttid="ad__ntaer__ner"></div></div></div></div></div></article></div></div><div id="hfs-footer" class="dn-prt" data-activy-map="hfs-footer"><footer class="hfsf" ><div class="ner"><div class="logo"><a href="><svg class="peack" viewBox="578 62 67 39" xmlns=" fill="currentColor"><g fill-le="evenodd"><path d="M579.074 90.58c1.717-4.494 6.472-6.08 10.697-3.37l18.29 12.754h-22.18c-4.62 0-8.252-4.23-6.8-9.385"></path><path class="feather" d="M579.074 90.58c1.717-4.494 6.472-6.08 10.697-3.37l18.29 12.754h-22.18c-4.62 0-8.252-4.23-6.8-9.385"></path><path class="feather" d="M597.563 75.863l9.442 21.613-19.478-13.35c-4.887-3.24-3.896-8.79-1.19-11.237 3.83-3.24 9.245-2.12 11.226 2.97"></path><path class="feather" d="M610.57 70.93l-3.433 24.19-9.772-23c-2.113-5.75 2.64-9.516 5.81-9.583 3.632-.396 8.188 2.38 7.396 8.394"></path><path class="feather" d="M625.494 72.103l-9.707 23.067-3.102-20.82c-.265-3.17 1.716-3.237 2.443-3.832-.133-.463-1.124-.463-1.124-.463h-1.848c-.198-5.42 4.028-7.8 7.462-7.535 3.697.132 7.856 4.428 5.876 9.583"></path><path class="feather" d="M635.338 84.167L615.86 97.584l9.177-21.348c2.775-6.742 9.245-5.42 11.556-2.842 2.51 2.51 3.235 7.6-1.255 10.773"></path><path class="feather" d="M637.448 99.9h-22.515l18.29-12.756c4.49-2.975 9.244-.266 10.498 3.635 1.327 4.36-1.65 9.12-6.27 9.12"></path></g></svg></a></div><nav class="lks"><ul class="lks__wrap" data-l-2="14" data-l-3=15><li><a href=" target="_self">About</a></li><li><a href=" target="_self">Contact</a></li><li><a href=">Help</a></li><li><a href=">Careers</a></li><li><a href=" target="_blank" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Ad Choic</a></li><li><a href=" target="_blank" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Privacy Policy</a></li><li><a href=" target="_blank" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Do Not Sell My Personal Informatn</a></li><li><a href=" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">CA Notice</a></li><li><a href=">Terms of Service (Updated JULY 7, 2023)</a></li><li><a href=">NBC News Semap</a></li><li><a href=" target="_self">Closed Captng</a></li><li><a href=">Advertise</a></li><li><a href=" target="_self">Select Shoppg</a></li><li><a href=" target="_self">Select Personal Fance</a></li></ul></nav><div class="py"><p>© 2023 NBC UNIVERSAL</p><div class="brands"><a href="><svg viewBox="0 0 120 20" fill="none" xmlns=" aria-labelledby="nbc_news_logo"><tle class="nbc_news_logo">NBC News Logo .

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