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data-ttid="ArticlePageChunks" class="ArticlePageChunks-fLyCVG eOdfIs"><div class="GridWrapper-cAzTTK kHBDeH grid grid-margs grid-ems-2 ArticlePageChunksGrid-hfxa bjczjj grid-layout--adrail narrow wi-adrail"><div class="GridItem-buujkM stRKV grid--em grid-layout__ntent"><div class="BodyWrapper-kufPGa bectqB body body__ntaer article__body" data-journey-hook="client-ntent" data-ttid="BodyWrapper"><div class="body__ner-ntaer"><p>From creased reprentatn shows like <a href=">the <em>Gossip Girl</em> reboot</a> to an uptick <a data-offer-url=" class="external-lk" data-event-click="{"element":"ExternalLk","outgogURL":"" href=" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">datg groups</a> and <a data-offer-url=" class="external-lk" data-event-click="{"element":"ExternalLk","outgogURL":"" href=" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">muni</a>, there’s seldom been more tert polyamory. And as more people beg to unrstand and embrace polyamoro relatnships — a <a href=">2020 Gallup poll</a> found that 20% of rponnts said polyamory is morally acceptable, up om 5% as recently as 2006 — ’s never been a better time to learn more about how polyamory works.</p><p>Polyamory is a non-monogamo approach to love and datg which people are nsensually volved wh more than one person at a time. At s re, beg a polyamoro relatnship means vtg a datg stcture that am love as abundant. The betiful thg about polyamory is n take a near-fe number of forms. There are <a data-offer-url=" class="external-lk" data-event-click="{"element":"ExternalLk","outgogURL":"" href=" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">throupl</a>, prised of three people who date each other together; <a href="#solopolyamory">solo polyamorists</a>, who may have many lovers whout havg a primary partner; a V, where one person dat two people who do not date each other; and an fe number of other ways to practice polyamory.</p><div><div class="ConsumerMarketgUnThemedWrapper-iUTMTf jssHut nsumer-marketg-un nsumer-marketg-un--article-mid-ntent" role="prentatn" aria-hidn="te"><div class="nsumer-marketg-un__slot nsumer-marketg-un__slot--article-mid-ntent nsumer-marketg-un__slot---ntent"></div><div class="journey-un"></div></div></div><p>People who choose to explore polyamory their own relatnships will fd more muny support and social rourc available than ever. <a data-offer-url=" class="external-lk" data-event-click="{"element":"ExternalLk","outgogURL":"" href=" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">Sonalee Rashatwar</a>, a queer sex therapist, social worker, and anizer, says that polyamory is creasgly begng to feel like an inty. “People are anizg around , muni are beg formed … I’m seeg books beg wrten about folks polyamoro relatnships — entire webs, datg apps that ter to inti like polyamory,” they told <em>Them</em>.</p><div class="Contaer-bkChBi byNLHx"></div><p>As queer people, many of have already had to overe heteronormative and cisnormative relatnship scripts. Havg already broken down the expectatns of what a romantic relatnship n look like, queerns and non-monogamy n be eply tertwed for many. If you want to learn more about queer polyamory, read on.</p><h2><strong>What is polyamory, and what do mean to be polyamoro?</strong></h2><p>Polyamory “lerally means many lov,” queer relatnships and sex therapist <a data-offer-url=" class="external-lk" data-event-click="{"element":"ExternalLk","outgogURL":"" href=" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">Rachel Wright</a> explas. “It n look different the way that every relatnship looks different, but clus multiple romantic and sexual relatnships wh people who are all aware that multiple relatnships are occurrg.” To be polyamoro is to eher be participatg the relatnship stctur or to be oriented toward dog so.</p><asi aria-hidn="te" class="PullQuoteEmbedWrapper-sc-EoVjf fQbAzo"><div class="PullQuoteDerativeBorr-sc-iUyOLj fAzNVP"></div><div class="PullQuoteEmbedContent-sc-kTcfhx eoUd"><p>“There are no right or wrong ways to do polyamory and non-monogamy general. It’s really about what works for you," says sex therapist Rachel Wright.</p></div></asi><p>If seems difficult to unrstand how someone might be able to have multiple romantic relatnships, thk about iendship. We often nsir our relatnships wh our iends to be lovg and affectnate, but they aren’t exclive. That don’t mean we don’t value or aren’t mted to our iendships, but they may require different typ of engagement or levels of attentn. We also often have people we nsir to be our bt or clost iends. Those typ of leatns n exist wh polyamory as well, wh many people referrg to partners as beg primary or sendary and so on. Ultimately, no matter the differenc between each relatnship, all of them still center re, love, and affectn.</p><h2><strong>What is the difference between polyamory, non-monogamy, and an open relatnship?</strong></h2><p>Non-monogamy is the umbrella term that means not exclively datg or havg sex wh one person. Polyamory and open relatnships n both fall unrneath this term, as well as practic like swgg, upl that are mostly monogamo, and more.</p><div class="GenericCalloutWrapper-tojWn iezhXq llout--has-top-borr" data-ttid="GenericCallout"><div class="ContentCardEmbedWrapper-kULtsE iGAJsG ntent-rd-embed ntent-rd-embed--stacked" data-ttid="ContentCardEmbedWrapper"><div class="ContentCardEmbedImage-iwqgVw jlIubp ntent-rd-embed__image" data-ttid="ContentCardEmbedImage"><span class="SpanWrapper-umhxW jvZaPI rponsive-asset"><picture class="RponsiveImagePicture-cWuUZO dUOtEa rponsive-image"><img alt="Willow Smh attends Rihanna's Savage X Fenty Show Vol. 2 Los Angel, CA." class="RponsiveImageContaer-eybHBd fptoWY rponsive-image__image" src=" srcSet=" 120w, 240w, 320w, 640w" siz="100vw"/></picture></span></div><div class="ContentCardEmbedInfo-bDftKl bGnSrq"><div class="BaseWrap-sc-gjQpdd BaseText-ewhhUZ ContentCardEmbedHed-kJVPGC iUEiRd gFmvMS cewqFA ntent-rd-embed__hed" data-ttid="ContentCardEmbedHed"><a class="BaseWrap-sc-gjQpdd BaseText-ewhhUZ BaseLk-eNWuiM ContentCardEmbedHedLk-eXLwe iUEiRd gFmvMS hRaEiJ eFUKSb ntent-rd-embed__hed-lk" href="/story/willow-smh-talks-polyamory-red-table-talk-terview" data-ttid="ContentCardEmbedHedLk">Willow Smh Talks Polyamory at the Red Table: “Love Is an Infe Rource”</a></div><div data-ttid="ContentCardEmbedDek" class="ContentCardEmbedDek-bA-DKch hXdQfY">The 20-year-old joed her mother and special guts for a revealg nversatn about embracg multiple relatnships.</div></div></div></div><p>An open relatnship is a more lloquial term that n refer to several different relatnship arrangements which someone dat or has sex wh people outsi of their primary partnership. In some arrangements, that means only havg sex wh other people whout velopg feelgs; others, n mean datg and matag relatnships wh other people. Open relatnships n be a form of polyamory or only fall unr the broar umbrella of non-monogamy, pendg on how a uple f . However, there is certaly some level of fluidy to the terms and askg qutns about what exactly someone means is always helpful.</p><h2><strong>What relatnship stctur exist polyamory? What n a polyamoro relatnship look like?</strong></h2><p>Wright says ’s important to remember that “there are no right or wrong ways to do polyamory and non-monogamy general. It’s really about what works for you — while there are the typ of polyamoro relatnships, don’t mean they are the only ways to do .” Our <a data-offer-url=" class="external-lk" data-event-click="{"element":"ExternalLk","outgogURL":"" href=" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">monogamy-normative society</a> often ndns to look for lebooks and blueprts our relatnships; we want to be told the right and bt way to do thgs. But polyamory leav a ltle more room to be imagative. “You get to create the relatnships stctur that su you, whether there’s a name for or not,” says sex therapist <a data-offer-url=" class="external-lk" data-event-click="{"element":"ExternalLk","outgogURL":"" href=" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">Jayda Shuavarnnasri</a>.</p></div></div></div><div class="GridItem-buujkM fVLMby grid--em grid-layout__asi"><div class="StickyBoxWrapper-jfYB kNleGZ sticky-box"><div class="StickyBoxPrimary-dzWDWL cdhYoN sticky-box__primary"><div class="Contaer-bkChBi byNLHx"></div><div class="AdWrapper-dQtivb fZrssQ ad ad--rail"><div class="ad__slot ad__slot--rail" data-no-id="qlot8"></div></div><div class="ConsumerMarketgUnThemedWrapper-iUTMTf jssHut nsumer-marketg-un nsumer-marketg-un--display-rail" role="prentatn" aria-hidn="te"><div class="nsumer-marketg-un__slot nsumer-marketg-un__slot--display-rail"></div><div class="journey-un"></div></div></div><div class="StickyBoxPlaceholr-grPmrg dxAvXx"></div></div></div></div><div class="RowWrapper-UmqTg HEhan full-bleed-ad row-mid-ntent-ad"><div class="StickyMidContentAdWrapper-fSBzwl drzyIa ad-stickymidntent"><div class="AdWrapper-dQtivb fZrssQ ad ad--mid-ntent should-hold-space"><div class="ad__slot ad__slot--mid-ntent" data-no-id="wy6fhd"></div></div></div></div><div class="GridWrapper-cAzTTK kHBDeH grid grid-margs grid-ems-2 ArticlePageChunksGrid-hfxa bjczjj grid-layout--adrail narrow wi-adrail"><div class="GridItem-buujkM stRKV grid--em grid-layout__ntent"><div class="BodyWrapper-kufPGa bectqB body body__ntaer article__body" data-journey-hook="client-ntent" data-ttid="BodyWrapper"><div class="body__ner-ntaer"><p>“There are fe typ of stctur and figurg out a stcture that works for you is somethg that monogamo folks should do as well,” they tell <em>Them</em>. “The words n be helpful to scribe how I move the world, but they don’t scribe everythg — like queerns.”</p><div class="AdWrapper-dQtivb fZrssQ ad ad---ntent"><div class="ad__slot ad__slot---ntent" data-no-id="cw0rnk"></div></div><p>Though you shouldn’t feel limed by labels and vobulary, fdg termology that scrib your relatnship stcture(s) n feel empowerg. Some of the most mon polyamoro relatnship stctur clu <a href="#triad">triads</a>, <a href="#V">Vs</a>, and <a href="#quad">quads</a>; here’s what they mean.</p><div style="outle:none" id="triad" tabx="-1"><div role="headg" aria-level="3" class="headg-h3"><strong>Triad</strong></div></div><p>A polyamoro triad is a relatnship which all three parti prent the relatnship are volved romantilly and/or sexually.</p><div style="outle:none" id="V" tabx="-1"><div role="headg" aria-level="3" class="headg-h3"><strong>V</strong></div></div><p>A V is a three-person dynamic which only one of the people is volved wh both other people. The two unvolved members at the top of the V are each other’s metamour, or <a href=">lover’s lover</a>.</p><div style="outle:none" id="Quad" tabx="-1"><div role="headg" aria-level="3" class="headg-h3"><strong>Quad</strong></div></div><p>A polyamoro quad scrib four partners who are nnected some way romantilly or sexually. This n also be referred to as a polycule, or a group of people who are romantilly and/or sexually nnected to each other. This is where nstellatns e : n be helpful to draw all the l of nnectn between everyone a polyamoro dynamic, much the same way that l are drawn between stars.</p><div data-attr-viewport-monor="le-recirc" class="le-recirc-wrapper le-recirc-observer-target-1 viewport-monor-anchor"></div><p>The stctur n be closed, meang they are all exclive wh one another, or open, meang they are not.</p><p>Polyamory wh multiple partners n also be <strong>hierarchil</strong> or <strong>non-hierarchil</strong>. In hierarchil polyamory, there is a distctn between primary relatnship(s) and sendary on, whereas non-hierarchil polyamory keeps everyone on a level playg field.</p><p>Outsi of the, there are also other styl and philosophi that are more dividual-foced on how someone wish to engage, like <a href="#solopolyamory">solo polyamory</a> and <a href="#relatnshipanarchy">relatnship anarchy</a>, to name two.</p><div style="outle:none" id="solopolyamory" tabx="-1"><div role="headg" aria-level="3" class="headg-h3"><strong>Solo polyamory</strong></div></div><p>Solo polyamory is a style often scribed as viewg yourself as your own primary partner. This n allow for a prrizatn of one’s own needs. Solo polyamory challeng the ia that havg a “ma partner” ought to be everyone’s end goal life.</p><div style="outle:none" id="relatnshipanarchy" tabx="-1"><div role="headg" aria-level="3" class="headg-h3"><strong>Relatnship anarchy</strong></div></div><p>Rashatwar thks of relatnship anarchy as “kd of a flatteng of the way those [cishetero-patriarchal] stctur put romantic love as the pnacle.”</p><p>“It giv space to give equal attentn to or rearrange those prri the plac we give and receive love,” Rashatwar explas.</p></div></div></div><div class="GridItem-buujkM fVLMby grid--em grid-layout__asi"><div class="StickyBoxWrapper-jfYB jxBcTH sticky-box"><div class="StickyBoxPrimary-dzWDWL cdhYoN sticky-box__primary"><div class="AdWrapper-dQtivb fZrssQ ad ad--rail"><div class="ad__slot ad__slot--rail" data-no-id="t5yilu"></div></div><div class="ConsumerMarketgUnThemedWrapper-iUTMTf jssHut nsumer-marketg-un nsumer-marketg-un--display-rail" role="prentatn" aria-hidn="te"><div 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Over Drag Shows Texas Is Really a Fight Over the First Amendment</div></div></div></a><div class="SummaryItemByleWrapper-boCfbi hYsZi summary-em__byle-date-in"><div class="SummaryItemBaseByle-fFbXkY dHMSJg summary-em__byle"><div class="summary-em__byle__ntent"><div data-ttid="BylWrapper" class="BylWrapper-KIudk irTIfE byl"><p class="ByleWrapper-jWHrLH ecFEgL byle byl__byle" data-ttid="ByleWrapper" emProp="thor" emType="><span emProp="name" class="ByleNamWrapper-jbHncj fuDQVo"><span data-ttid="ByleName" class="ByleName-kwmrLn cYaBaU byle__name">Abby Monteil</span></span></p></div></div></div></div></div></div></li><li><div class="AdWrapper-dQtivb fZrssQ RecircMostPopularSummaryItem-jQxxiw gmWMTZ ad ad--asi"><div class="ad__slot ad__slot--asi" data-no-id="pqfipg"></div></div></li></ul><div class="RecircMostPopularFooter-enPjgs laPXdt"></div></div></div></div><div class="StickyBoxPlaceholr-grPmrg dxAvXx"></div></div></div></div><div class="RowWrapper-UmqTg HEhan full-bleed-ad row-mid-ntent-ad"><div class="StickyMidContentAdWrapper-fSBzwl drzyIa ad-stickymidntent"><div class="AdWrapper-dQtivb fZrssQ ad ad--mid-ntent should-hold-space"><div class="ad__slot ad__slot--mid-ntent" data-no-id="2axv66"></div></div></div></div><div class="GridWrapper-cAzTTK kHBDeH grid grid-margs grid-ems-2 ArticlePageChunksGrid-hfxa bjczjj grid-layout--adrail narrow wi-adrail"><div class="GridItem-buujkM stRKV grid--em grid-layout__ntent"><div class="BodyWrapper-kufPGa bectqB body body__ntaer article__body" data-journey-hook="client-ntent" data-ttid="BodyWrapper"><div class="body__ner-ntaer"><p>Relatnship anarchy do not label some relatnships as herently more important than others and provis room for you to adjt to what matters most to you.</p><h2><strong>What is the queer muny’s relatnship to polyamory?</strong></h2><p>You don’t have to be polyamoro if you’re queer, nor are all polyamoro folks queer. However, one’s LGBTQ+ inty n impact the kds of relatnships we participate and how we engage them. Queerns, many ways, is about lovg outsi of the “norm,” and polyamory n n parallel to that fn. “Queerns and the abily to explore what typ of relatnships you want to have the world — those two go hand hand,” Shuavarnnasri tells <em>Them</em>. “You’re explorg who you are this universe, but you’re also explorg how you relate to other begs this universe.”</p><asi aria-hidn="te" class="PullQuoteEmbedWrapper-sc-EoVjf fQbAzo"><div class="PullQuoteDerativeBorr-sc-iUyOLj fAzNVP"></div><div class="PullQuoteEmbedContent-sc-kTcfhx eoUd"><p>“The philosophy of and the value ’s rooted is of love and re, and that is very much a polyamoro prciple,” sex therapist Jayda Shuavarnnasri says.</p></div></asi><p>Many queer people have to create our own blueprts as we go, creatg liv that we’ve never had the luxury of seeg every rom-, and polyamory the morn day often requir the same kd of genuy. Breakg through some norms often mak easier to break through others.</p><div data-attr-viewport-monor="le-recirc" class="le-recirc-wrapper le-recirc-observer-target-2 viewport-monor-anchor"></div><p>Moreover, Rashatwar not that Black, brown, and digeno muni have a unique relatnship wh polyamory. The “re-disvery” of polyamory has been “-opted by whens and whe queerns,” as Sonalee puts , a lot of the ways that we practice polyamory now as well as the discrimatn polyam people n face, stem om a history of normalized polyamory wh Black, brown, and digeno cultur.</p><h2><strong>How do queer dynamics differ om straight dynamics wh polyamory?</strong></h2><p>“There is this reverence for people’s hearts,” Rashatwar says of the way queer polyamoro dynamics n differ om straight on. As a small, margalized muny, we often don’t wish to dispose of each other and strive to hold each other wh rpect even after certa relatnships end. For example, we tend not to get rid of our ex the same way cishet folks do. This also means that we are more likely to be wh someone who may be close proximy to their ex or even have ex mon wh members of our polycul. This isn’t to say that this is herently polyamoro, but there is some mon unrstandg of some of the prcipl of polyamory across the queer muny. “The philosophy of and the value ’s rooted is of love and re, and that is very much a polyamoro prciple,” Shuavarnnasri says.</p><h2><strong>What advice would you give someone who might be terted tryg polyamory?</strong></h2><p>Each expert terviewed for this gui strsed the importance of stayg cur about yourself and your sir and approachg polyamory whout judgment. Give yourself grace and patience. Get fortable apologizg and holdg yourself acuntable. Makg iends the muny and ntug to te yourself through ntent creators are great ways to faiarize yourself wh polyamory.</p><p>Remember: no one knows exactly what they’re dog life. It’s okay to try somethg and disver isn’t for you. Ultimately, you should be thkg about your relatnship valu and what you want — how n you honor yourself, others, and your inty — and what kd of stctur feel bt for you.</p><p><em><strong>Get the bt of what’s queer.</strong></em> <a href=">Sign up for <em>Them</em>’s weekly newsletter here.</a></p></div></div></div><div class="GridItem-buujkM fVLMby grid--em grid-layout__asi"><div class="StickyBoxWrapper-jfYB jxBcTH sticky-box"><div class="StickyBoxPrimary-dzWDWL cdhYoN sticky-box__primary"><div class="AdWrapper-dQtivb fZrssQ ad ad--rail"><div class="ad__slot ad__slot--rail" data-no-id="qnx0zm"></div></div><div class="ConsumerMarketgUnThemedWrapper-iUTMTf jssHut nsumer-marketg-un nsumer-marketg-un--display-rail" role="prentatn" aria-hidn="te"><div class="nsumer-marketg-un__slot nsumer-marketg-un__slot--display-rail"></div><div class="journey-un"></div></div></div><div class="StickyBoxPlaceholr-grPmrg dxAvXx"></div></div></div></div></div><div class="GridWrapper-cAzTTK kHBDeH grid 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