Fifi or Fido? New York's Gay Men Defy Worn-Out Cane Stereotyp - The Village Voice

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• DOGS AND GAY MEN: A MATCH MA HEAVEN
• FRISKY PUP DUMPED AT N.C. SHELTER FOR BEG ‘GAY’ AFTER OWNER TCH HIM HUMPG FELLOW MALE DOGGY
• DOG ABANDONED FOR BEG 'GAY' IS ADOPTED BY SAME-SEX UPLE
• FIFI OR FIDO? NEW YORK’S GAY MEN DEFY WORN-OUT CANE STEREOTYP
• ABANDONED ‘GAY AS HELL’ DOG FDS HOME WH GAY NORTH CAROLA UPLE
• GAY, SGLE, DEPRSED: HOW THE LOVE OF A DOG CHANGED MY LIFE FOREVER"WE BOTH SPENT THE DAYS, SEASONS, YEARS, LEARNG THE OTHER’S LANGUAGE. DJ WAS THE PERFECT PANN TO KEEP THIS LONER OM LONELS."{FONT:NORMAL 800 1.2REM/1.2 "D BOLD",SANS-SERIF;TEXT-TRANSFORM:NORMAL;LOR:HER;DISPLAY:LE-BLOCK;PADDG-BOTTOM:6PX;POSN:RELATIVE;TEXT-TRANSFORM:UPPERSE;}{BACKGROUND:#89308A;BOTTOM:0;NTENT:'';DISPLAY:BLOCK;HEIGHT:2PX;LEFT:0;POSN:ABSOLUTE;RIGHT:0;-WEBK-TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;WIDTH:100%;}{LEFT:51%;RIGHT:51%;WIDTH:0;}{FONT:NORMAL 800 1.2REM/1.2 "D BOLD",SANS-SERIF;TEXT-TRANSFORM:NORMAL;LOR:HER;DISPLAY:LE-BLOCK;PADDG-BOTTOM:6PX;POSN:RELATIVE;TEXT-TRANSFORM:UPPERSE;}{BACKGROUND:#89308A;BOTTOM:0;NTENT:'';DISPLAY:BLOCK;HEIGHT:2PX;LEFT:0;POSN:ABSOLUTE;RIGHT:0;-WEBK-TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;WIDTH:100%;}{LEFT:51%;RIGHT:51%;WIDTH:0;}LIFEBY DAVID TOSATNOVEMBER 4, 2019/12:28 {HEIGHT:HER;DISPLAY:-WEBK-BOX;DISPLAY:-WEBK-FLEX;DISPLAY:-MS-FLEXBOX;DISPLAY:FLEX;POSN:RELATIVE;-WEBK-FLEX-WRAP:WRAP;-MS-FLEX-WRAP:WRAP;FLEX-WRAP:WRAP;-WEBK-ALIGN-EMS:CENTER;-WEBK-BOX-ALIGN:CENTER;-MS-FLEX-ALIGN:CENTER;ALIGN-EMS:CENTER;-WEBK-BOX-PACK:CENTER;-WEBK-JTIFY-NTENT:CENTER;-MS-FLEX-PACK:CENTER;JTIFY-NTENT:CENTER;-WEBK-TRANSFORM-ORIG:CENTER;-MS-TRANSFORM-ORIG:CENTER;TRANSFORM-ORIG:CENTER;} IMG{HEIGHT:100%;WIDTH:100%;OBJECT-F:VER;}{HEIGHT:2175PX;WIDTH:2138PX;}PIERO RIBELLIBY DAVID TOSATNOVEMBER 4, 2019 / 12:28 PM{"@NTEXT":","@TYPE":"NEWSARTICLE","HEADLE":"GAY, SGLE, DEPRSED: HOW THE LOVE OF A DOG CHANGED MY LIFE FOREVER","THUMBNAILURL":","DATEPUBLISHED":"2019-11-04T17:28:11.000+0000","DATEMODIFIED":"2019-11-04T17:28:11.000+0000","IMAGE":{"@NTEXT":","@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT","URL":","WIDTH":1920,"HEIGHT":1080},"URL":","THOR":{"@TYPE":"ORGANIZATN","NAME":"LOGO TV"},"MAENTYOFPAGE":{"@TYPE":"WEBPAGE","@ID":"},"PUBLISHER":{"@TYPE":"ORGANIZATN","@ID":","NAME":"LOGO TV","URL":","LOGO":{"@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT"}},"CREATOR":"DAVID TOSAT","KEYWORDS":"CHOSEN FAY","ARTICLESECTN":"LIFE"}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}WHEN HE SCREAMED FOR ME THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT I KNEW DIGNY WOULD BE THE ONE OBSTACLE MY DOG ULD NEVER {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}DJ ME TO MY LIFE 2005, AFTER I’D JT WRTEN A BT-SELLG GAY WEDDG BOOK WHILE SGLE, TURNED 40, AND STARTED WORKG OM HOME—WHEN I ULD GET WORK, THAT IS. (BELIEVE OR NOT, QUEER NUPTIAL GUIS DON’T LEAD TO OFFERS TO PUBLISH THE GREAT AMERIN NOVEL.){BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}I WAS PRSED AND LONELY, BUT THEN A THREE-MONTH-OLD PAIR OF EY, EARS, AND ONE CURLY TAIL CRAWLED UP ON MY SHOULR AND TURNED MY LIFE TO A KALEIDOSPE OF LOR. “I DON’T HAVE TIME TO BE PRSED, I HAVE DJ,” I WOULD TELL FAY AND IENDS, ALMOST AFONTED THAT PEOPLE ULD STILL BE NCERNED ABOUT MY MENTAL STATE. WORRYG ABOUT GETTG THE NEXT GAY WRG GIG OR WHETHER OR NOT A GUY CHECKED OUT MY ONLE DATG PROFILE WERE PIDDLG NCERNS OF THE PAST. DID I WANT THOSE THGS? Y. DID MY HAPPS PEND ON ? NOT FOR A MOMENT.PIERO {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}I END UP WRG A BOOK, DJ: THE DOG WHO RCUED ME, 2013, AND THE FIRST MAJOR PUBLISHER WHO REJECTED , AN OPENLY GAY MAN, SAID NO ONE WOULD READ AN ANIMAL STORY WRTEN BY A QUEER MAN. BEE, APPARENTLY, EVEN OUR LOVE OF DOGS IS UNEQUAL TO OUR STRAIGHT UNTERPARTS. HE WAS WRONG, THANK GOODNS, BUT MORE IMPORTANTLY, MY WRG WAS NOW OF MY OWN {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}MY DOG AND I WERE SEPARABLE, HIM CURLED UP HIS BED NEXT TO MY SK WHILE I WROTE, HTG THE LOL DOG PARK TO PLAY FETCH, WHERE DJ TRANSFORMED TO THE MOST PETIVE NE SCE CUJO—HE DIDN’T GET HIS ATHLETIC PROWS OM ME—THEN HOME FOR “SNUGGL!”, AN ANNOUNCEMENT THAT PROMPTED HIM TO SP AND LEAP AND BARK AND WHIMPER AND FLY ONTO THE BED SO HE ULD FALL FAST ASLEEP ON MY HEAD. HIS SNORG WAS LIKE PROTECTIVE CLOUD {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}PUGS ARE NOTORLY -PENNT, SHADOWS OFTEN, AND DJ FOLLOWED ME TO PLAC LIKE MIAMI AND SAN FRANCIS AND THE HAMPTONS, ANTILLY NNG UP AND DOWN STAIRS OR DOORS AND OUTDOORS OR SKIDDG ACROSS HLY POLISHED HARDWOOD FLOORS (MY MOM’S HOE CALIFORNIA), TO KEEP ME FOREVER HIS LE OF SIGHT. BUT HE SEEMED THE MOST FORTABLE HIS NEW YORK HIGH-RISE APARTMENT, BEE THAT’S WHERE THE MOST STIMULATN {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THE DOORMEN KNEW HIM LIKE A RINT, AND HE DIDN’T HAVE TO GO FARTHER THAN THE ELEVATOR TO N TO OTHER DOGS, DOG PARENTS, AND ADMIRERS. STOOP-STG WAS MON, PLAYDAT WERE ROUTE; AFTER AN HOUR OR SO, HE’D CLIMB UP ON THE CHAIR BEHD ME AND GIVE ME THE LOOK, A SIGN THAT WAS TIME FOR GUTS TO LEAVE HIS PROTECTED TERRORY. DID I MENTN HE WAS POSSSIVE?PIERO {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}DJ LOVED TO N AFTER A H SNOWFALL, AND, HIS PRIME, ULD OUTPACE ME LIKE NOBODY’S BS. I SLIPPED AND FELL ON THE ICE ONE MORNG, UNABLE TO GET UP, AND HE STOPPED, SAT DOWN NEXT TO ME ON OZEN WATER, AND WAED. IT WAS AS IF HE DIDN’T QUE UNRSTAND THIS NEW GAME WE WERE PLAYG, BUT, WHATEVER WAS, HE WAS TO W . WE BOTH SPENT THE DAYS, SEASONS, YEARS, LEARNG THE OTHER’S LANGUAGE. DJ WAS THE PERFECT PANN TO KEEP THIS LONER OM {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}I’VE NEVER BEEN PARTICULARLY FORTABLE GROUPS (MY GAY TRIBE IS “N/A”), AND I DIVE TO RELATNSHIPS ABOUT AS OFTEN AS AQUAPHOB DIVE TO SWIMMG POOLS. DJ WAS THERE FOR ME THAT PARTMENT, TOO, AS A SORT OF A SURROGATE FATHER FIGURE. IF THE TWO “MEN” DIDN’T H OFF, I HAD NO TERT GOG ON THE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}ONE GUY I WENT OUT WH BROUGHT DJ TOYS, TREATS, AND EVEN OFFERED TO WALK HIM IF I NEED HELP. SWEET. UNTIL ABOUT A MONTH LATER WHEN I GOT HIS ULTIMATUM; EHER DJ SLEPT THE NEXT ROOM OR HE DID. YOU PROBABLY N GUS WHICH ONE END UP THE DOGHOE. EVERYONE HAS DIFFERENT L FOR WHERE DOGS SLEEP, S, PLAY, AND I RPECT THE CHOIC. I’D CID EARLY ON THAT DJ WAS ALLOWED TO SLEEP MY BED, AND TO MAND THAT MY DOG SUDNLY ADAPT TO NIGHTS THE LIVG ROOM WAS AN SENSIVE PROPOSAL, NOT TO MENTN ONE THAT DISTERTED ME AS WELL. IN RETROSPECT, I PROBABLY SHOULD HAVE UGHT ON WHEN DJ STROYED THE STUFFED ANIMALS HE BROUGHT WH THE HOUR. DID I MENTN DJ WAS A “CHEWER”?{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}FROM THAT EXPERIENCE I LEARNED THAT I HAD NO TERT PURSUG RELATNSHIPS WH MEN WHO WERE DISMISSIVE OF DOGS, OR, WORSE, TREATED THEM AS THGS, LIVG FURNURE TO BE DISPLAYED, POLISHED, ROUTELY AND, UNFORTUNATELY, WALKED AND GROOMED AND CLEANED UP. THEN TUCKED AWAY WHEN IMPORTANT MATTERS ARE AT HAND. “MASTER” AND “PET” MAY WORK AT THE BLACK PARTY, BUT ARE ARCHAIC TERMS WHEN TO DOG RE. ANIMALS AREN’T OWNED BY , AND THEY ARE NOT AT OUR DISPOSAL. IT’S A SHARED LIFE, AND, MANY S, DOGS SPEND MORE TIME THE HOME THAN ANYONE ELSE THE FAY. THEY BURST WH MORE LOVE THAN A PRSURE OKER A MICROWAVE, AND ’S WH HONOR THAT WE GIVE BACK.PIERO {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}I GAVE DJ ALL I HAD FOR MORE THAN 14 YEARS, AND BY THE TIME I KNEW WAS TIME TO LET HIM GO—A CISN I DON’T WISH UPON ANYONE—HE AND I HAD SO MANY ADVENTUR TOGETHER, EACH FALLG LEAF WAS LIKE A PIECE OF OUR WONDRO PUZZLE, NOW RIPPED APART AT THE SEAMS AND STTERED ALONG THE WDY STREETS. HIS LIFE WAS THE BRILLIANT Y, AND I ULD ONLY PUT BACK TOGETHER WH MEMORY AND TIME. AND THE UN-BREATH OF WTER {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}OVER 14 YEARS, MY DOG SURVIVED A MALIGNANT TUMOR, RETAL TACHMENT—AND BLDNS— HIS RIGHT EYE, DISK DISEASE THAT WAS CURED BY HAVG A SPAL OPERATN HIS NECK, AND, LAST SPRG, FULL BLDNS OM TARACTS. HIS HEARG HAD BEEN IMPAIRED FOR ABOUT A YEAR PRR. LIKE ALL ANIMALS, THOUGH, HE DIDN’T REALLY SURVIVE HIS ALTERATNS AS HE DID NQUER THEM, ALWAYS ADJTG, WHETHER BE LEARNG HOW TO WALK M TWO DISKS OR, ONCE FULLY BLD, SUR EVERY RNER OF THE APARTMENT A FEW TIM A DAY TO MAP OUT STATNS SIGHTLS. HIS FIRST STOP WAS THE FOOD {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}WHILE I CRIED WHEN I LEARNED DJ ULD NO LONGER SEE, HE BUMPED TO A FEW THGS, REWORKED HIS STEPS, AND PROMPTLY FIGURED OUT HOW TO CRAWL BACK UP TO THE BED FOR HIS NIGHTLY “LICK DAD’S FACE TO ATH” RUAL. ONCE AGA, OUR DAYS END WH ME SIMULTANEOLY SQUIRMG AND LGHG, THEN DJ SETTLG , HIS 22-POUND PUG-LOAF SELF BACKED UP AGAST ME, HIS FACE TOWARD THE DOOR. EVEN BLD, PERPS WERE NOT TO BE TOLERATED ON HIS {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THE MIDDLE-OF-THE-NIGHT SCREAM ME SHORTLY AFTER HIS LEGS HAD GONE OUT, FIRST THE BACK, THEN THE ONT. MY VET HAD WARNED ME THIS WOULD BE THE FAL CHAPTER, AND I WHEN I FOUND HIM LYG DOWN BY THE ONT DOOR, WHERE HE’D FALLEN, WAS LIKE HE WAS TELLG ME WAS TIME FOR BOTH OF TO GO OUR SEPARATE WAYS.DAVID {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}DJ LEFT THIS EARTH ON OCTOBER 7. UP UNTIL THE LAST MOMENT, I SPENT HOURS HOLDG HIM, CLUTCHG HIM MY ARMS WHEN WE WENT TO THE ELEVATOR, THEN ON THE STREET LOOKG FOR A PLACE WHERE HE ULD DO HIS BS WHOUT THE TERFERENCE OF HURRIED NEW YORKERS, TALKG AND TEXTG AND TOO BY TO NOTICE A TY DOG NO LONGER ABLE TO GREET THEM OR SEE THEM OR TCH THEIR ADORG GLANC. HIS LIFE WAS NOW MY HANDS, AND MY HANDS {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}INSI, I’D PLOP HIM ON MY LAP SO HE ULD FEEL TEXTUR, ALONG WH THE BEAT OF MY HEART, AND THE SCENT HE KNEW SO WELL. WHEN I HAD TO LEAVE THE APARTMENT, HE’D SLEEP ON A PILLOW OF MY CLOTH. HE WAS PUT TO SLEEP ON THE BED, AFTER ONE LAST MORNG OF SNUGGLG, HIS BREAKFAST, AND A LTLE ICE CREAM. MY ARMS WERE AROUND HIM UNTIL THE END. I WATCHED THE ZIPPER GO UP AND OVER HIS FACE AND THOUGHT I’D BETRAYED {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}BEG A GAY MAN NEW YORK IS NOT ALWAYS EASY, BEG A SGLE GAY MAN OVER 50 OFTEN A STGGLE. MY FAY LIV ON THE WT COAST, I’VE NO CHILDREN OR HOE CONNECTICUT OR, CURRENTLY, NO SER RELATNSHIP, LEGAL OR OTHERWISE. A DOG IS NOT A SUBSTUTE FOR EMOTNAL NNECTNS, NOR A BAND-AID FOR PA. THEY’RE ADDNS TO LIFE—GIFTS, CREATUR THAT HELP TO SEE THE WORLD WH A CHILD’S EYE, AND TO APPRECIATE, WH TEMERY, EVERY TY JOY PLACED ONT OF . AND THEY NEVER WASTE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}DJ’S LTLE RNER OF THE UNIVERSE IS NOW MY RNER ALONE, AND EVERY DAY I LIVE THE PLACE, THE STREETS, THE PARK, THE APARTMENT, WHERE MY GUARDIAN OF 14 YEARS RAN AMUCK WH SPIR AND LOVE, AND KEPT ME A JACKET OF BRAND WARMTH. NOW THERE’S JT AIR.PIERO {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;CLEAR:BOTH;}CHOSEN {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;MARG:0 TO;WIDTH:90%;M-WIDTH:288PX;MAX-WIDTH:1440PX;M-HEIGHT:194PX;}LATT NEWS
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DOGS AND GAY MEN: A MATCH MA HEAVEN

So are gay dog lovers somehow different om straight on?

FRISKY PUP DUMPED AT N.C. SHELTER FOR BEG ‘GAY’ AFTER OWNER TCH HIM HUMPG FELLOW MALE DOGGY

A Gay Man’s Gui to Dogs (Bow Tie Prs).

“Dogs wele any chance to be outdoors wh a group of half-drsed homosexuals, whether ’s for a gay pri para, a Lady Gaga ncert, or a Log Cab nventn the Ozarks, ” says the charmg thor, who unts Joan Rivers and Carson Krsley among his book’s many fans. As turns out, there are a few key factors makg dogs grateful for Gay Pri Month, DePris explas. “Here are three reasons a dog prefers to be ‘owned’ by [gay people] stead of hets: 1) The gay ‘fay’ dog ually don’t have to play send oboe to two-legged children.

Gay men are sentially jt as greedy, though we will share our toys wh men if they buy a meal first.

DOG ABANDONED FOR BEG 'GAY' IS ADOPTED BY SAME-SEX UPLE

3) Dogs love to be the spoiled ‘kids’ of a gay uple — two and all the bbl and nylon bon that money n buy. ” What’s the, ahem, biggt difference between gay dog lovers and straight on?

“There are wonrful gay and straight dog owners out there, and there are horrible gay and straight dog owners out there, too. When a sensible, rponsible gay man — if such a creature exists — ms to a dog, the dog be his fay, his kid, and a tly important part of his world. ” When breers, rcuers, or shelter-dog adoptn unselors see a potential dog owner/adopter who is gay, they tend to jump for joy, figurg that dog will enjoy a great, pampered life.

“Y, gay men tend to spoil their dogs, treatg them like te fay and givg them high prry.

FIFI OR FIDO? NEW YORK’S GAY MEN DEFY WORN-OUT CANE STEREOTYP

For lots of gay men, dogs exist as substut for lovers, children, close fay, and maybe even good iends.

Secretly, most gay men want to be like dogs, even when they’re standg. ” Acceptance, tolerance, unndnal love … the are thgs dogs give everybody, but gay people haven’t always been the beneficiari of such gifts om their fellow humans. Are gays pecially appreciative of that ne love — more, perhaps, than someone who’s never experienced tolerance or prejudice?

ABANDONED ‘GAY AS HELL’ DOG FDS HOME WH GAY NORTH CAROLA UPLE

“Gay men have a lot to learn om dog love, ” DePris says. ” But serly, he adds, “Many gay men feel a disnnect wh their own fai. Dogs live to nnect, and the unndnal love a dog offers when he rais a paw or bs his nose his new owner’s crotch may be the first te moment of ‘fay’ a gay man experienc.

Might gay people be more likely to overlook “what everybody else thks” by boldly selectg a maligned breed as a ne pann?

“Who’s more keenly aware of stupidy this world than gay people? If dogs let some gay people experience fay at s nonjudgmental bt for the first time, do dogs livg wh gay folks feel the difference, not beg objectified as “pets”? Unlike gay men, dogs are fairly discrimate about the tails of their liftyle.

GAY, SGLE, DEPRSED: HOW THE LOVE OF A DOG CHANGED MY LIFE FOREVER"WE BOTH SPENT THE DAYS, SEASONS, YEARS, LEARNG THE OTHER’S LANGUAGE. DJ WAS THE PERFECT PANN TO KEEP THIS LONER OM LONELS."{FONT:NORMAL 800 1.2REM/1.2 "D BOLD",SANS-SERIF;TEXT-TRANSFORM:NORMAL;LOR:HER;DISPLAY:LE-BLOCK;PADDG-BOTTOM:6PX;POSN:RELATIVE;TEXT-TRANSFORM:UPPERSE;}{BACKGROUND:#89308A;BOTTOM:0;NTENT:'';DISPLAY:BLOCK;HEIGHT:2PX;LEFT:0;POSN:ABSOLUTE;RIGHT:0;-WEBK-TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;WIDTH:100%;}{LEFT:51%;RIGHT:51%;WIDTH:0;}{FONT:NORMAL 800 1.2REM/1.2 "D BOLD",SANS-SERIF;TEXT-TRANSFORM:NORMAL;LOR:HER;DISPLAY:LE-BLOCK;PADDG-BOTTOM:6PX;POSN:RELATIVE;TEXT-TRANSFORM:UPPERSE;}{BACKGROUND:#89308A;BOTTOM:0;NTENT:'';DISPLAY:BLOCK;HEIGHT:2PX;LEFT:0;POSN:ABSOLUTE;RIGHT:0;-WEBK-TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;WIDTH:100%;}{LEFT:51%;RIGHT:51%;WIDTH:0;}LIFEBY DAVID TOSATNOVEMBER 4, 2019/12:28 {HEIGHT:HER;DISPLAY:-WEBK-BOX;DISPLAY:-WEBK-FLEX;DISPLAY:-MS-FLEXBOX;DISPLAY:FLEX;POSN:RELATIVE;-WEBK-FLEX-WRAP:WRAP;-MS-FLEX-WRAP:WRAP;FLEX-WRAP:WRAP;-WEBK-ALIGN-EMS:CENTER;-WEBK-BOX-ALIGN:CENTER;-MS-FLEX-ALIGN:CENTER;ALIGN-EMS:CENTER;-WEBK-BOX-PACK:CENTER;-WEBK-JTIFY-NTENT:CENTER;-MS-FLEX-PACK:CENTER;JTIFY-NTENT:CENTER;-WEBK-TRANSFORM-ORIG:CENTER;-MS-TRANSFORM-ORIG:CENTER;TRANSFORM-ORIG:CENTER;} IMG{HEIGHT:100%;WIDTH:100%;OBJECT-F:VER;}{HEIGHT:2175PX;WIDTH:2138PX;}PIERO RIBELLIBY DAVID TOSATNOVEMBER 4, 2019 / 12:28 PM{"@NTEXT":","@TYPE":"NEWSARTICLE","HEADLE":"GAY, SGLE, DEPRSED: HOW THE LOVE OF A DOG CHANGED MY LIFE FOREVER","THUMBNAILURL":","DATEPUBLISHED":"2019-11-04T17:28:11.000+0000","DATEMODIFIED":"2019-11-04T17:28:11.000+0000","IMAGE":{"@NTEXT":","@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT","URL":","WIDTH":1920,"HEIGHT":1080},"URL":","THOR":{"@TYPE":"ORGANIZATN","NAME":"LOGO TV"},"MAENTYOFPAGE":{"@TYPE":"WEBPAGE","@ID":"},"PUBLISHER":{"@TYPE":"ORGANIZATN","@ID":","NAME":"LOGO TV","URL":","LOGO":{"@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT"}},"CREATOR":"DAVID TOSAT","KEYWORDS":"CHOSEN FAY","ARTICLESECTN":"LIFE"}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}WHEN HE SCREAMED FOR ME THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT I KNEW DIGNY WOULD BE THE ONE OBSTACLE MY DOG ULD NEVER {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}DJ ME TO MY LIFE 2005, AFTER I’D JT WRTEN A BT-SELLG GAY WEDDG BOOK WHILE SGLE, TURNED 40, AND STARTED WORKG OM HOME—WHEN I ULD GET WORK, THAT IS. (BELIEVE OR NOT, QUEER NUPTIAL GUIS DON’T LEAD TO OFFERS TO PUBLISH THE GREAT AMERIN NOVEL.){BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}I WAS PRSED AND LONELY, BUT THEN A THREE-MONTH-OLD PAIR OF EY, EARS, AND ONE CURLY TAIL CRAWLED UP ON MY SHOULR AND TURNED MY LIFE TO A KALEIDOSPE OF LOR. “I DON’T HAVE TIME TO BE PRSED, I HAVE DJ,” I WOULD TELL FAY AND IENDS, ALMOST AFONTED THAT PEOPLE ULD STILL BE NCERNED ABOUT MY MENTAL STATE. WORRYG ABOUT GETTG THE NEXT GAY WRG GIG OR WHETHER OR NOT A GUY CHECKED OUT MY ONLE DATG PROFILE WERE PIDDLG NCERNS OF THE PAST. DID I WANT THOSE THGS? Y. DID MY HAPPS PEND ON ? NOT FOR A MOMENT.PIERO {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}I END UP WRG A BOOK, DJ: THE DOG WHO RCUED ME, 2013, AND THE FIRST MAJOR PUBLISHER WHO REJECTED , AN OPENLY GAY MAN, SAID NO ONE WOULD READ AN ANIMAL STORY WRTEN BY A QUEER MAN. BEE, APPARENTLY, EVEN OUR LOVE OF DOGS IS UNEQUAL TO OUR STRAIGHT UNTERPARTS. HE WAS WRONG, THANK GOODNS, BUT MORE IMPORTANTLY, MY WRG WAS NOW OF MY OWN {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}MY DOG AND I WERE SEPARABLE, HIM CURLED UP HIS BED NEXT TO MY SK WHILE I WROTE, HTG THE LOL DOG PARK TO PLAY FETCH, WHERE DJ TRANSFORMED TO THE MOST PETIVE NE SCE CUJO—HE DIDN’T GET HIS ATHLETIC PROWS OM ME—THEN HOME FOR “SNUGGL!”, AN ANNOUNCEMENT THAT PROMPTED HIM TO SP AND LEAP AND BARK AND WHIMPER AND FLY ONTO THE BED SO HE ULD FALL FAST ASLEEP ON MY HEAD. HIS SNORG WAS LIKE PROTECTIVE CLOUD {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}PUGS ARE NOTORLY -PENNT, SHADOWS OFTEN, AND DJ FOLLOWED ME TO PLAC LIKE MIAMI AND SAN FRANCIS AND THE HAMPTONS, ANTILLY NNG UP AND DOWN STAIRS OR DOORS AND OUTDOORS OR SKIDDG ACROSS HLY POLISHED HARDWOOD FLOORS (MY MOM’S HOE CALIFORNIA), TO KEEP ME FOREVER HIS LE OF SIGHT. BUT HE SEEMED THE MOST FORTABLE HIS NEW YORK HIGH-RISE APARTMENT, BEE THAT’S WHERE THE MOST STIMULATN {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THE DOORMEN KNEW HIM LIKE A RINT, AND HE DIDN’T HAVE TO GO FARTHER THAN THE ELEVATOR TO N TO OTHER DOGS, DOG PARENTS, AND ADMIRERS. STOOP-STG WAS MON, PLAYDAT WERE ROUTE; AFTER AN HOUR OR SO, HE’D CLIMB UP ON THE CHAIR BEHD ME AND GIVE ME THE LOOK, A SIGN THAT WAS TIME FOR GUTS TO LEAVE HIS PROTECTED TERRORY. DID I MENTN HE WAS POSSSIVE?PIERO {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}DJ LOVED TO N AFTER A H SNOWFALL, AND, HIS PRIME, ULD OUTPACE ME LIKE NOBODY’S BS. I SLIPPED AND FELL ON THE ICE ONE MORNG, UNABLE TO GET UP, AND HE STOPPED, SAT DOWN NEXT TO ME ON OZEN WATER, AND WAED. IT WAS AS IF HE DIDN’T QUE UNRSTAND THIS NEW GAME WE WERE PLAYG, BUT, WHATEVER WAS, HE WAS TO W . WE BOTH SPENT THE DAYS, SEASONS, YEARS, LEARNG THE OTHER’S LANGUAGE. DJ WAS THE PERFECT PANN TO KEEP THIS LONER OM {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}I’VE NEVER BEEN PARTICULARLY FORTABLE GROUPS (MY GAY TRIBE IS “N/A”), AND I DIVE TO RELATNSHIPS ABOUT AS OFTEN AS AQUAPHOB DIVE TO SWIMMG POOLS. DJ WAS THERE FOR ME THAT PARTMENT, TOO, AS A SORT OF A SURROGATE FATHER FIGURE. IF THE TWO “MEN” DIDN’T H OFF, I HAD NO TERT GOG ON THE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}ONE GUY I WENT OUT WH BROUGHT DJ TOYS, TREATS, AND EVEN OFFERED TO WALK HIM IF I NEED HELP. SWEET. UNTIL ABOUT A MONTH LATER WHEN I GOT HIS ULTIMATUM; EHER DJ SLEPT THE NEXT ROOM OR HE DID. YOU PROBABLY N GUS WHICH ONE END UP THE DOGHOE. EVERYONE HAS DIFFERENT L FOR WHERE DOGS SLEEP, S, PLAY, AND I RPECT THE CHOIC. I’D CID EARLY ON THAT DJ WAS ALLOWED TO SLEEP MY BED, AND TO MAND THAT MY DOG SUDNLY ADAPT TO NIGHTS THE LIVG ROOM WAS AN SENSIVE PROPOSAL, NOT TO MENTN ONE THAT DISTERTED ME AS WELL. IN RETROSPECT, I PROBABLY SHOULD HAVE UGHT ON WHEN DJ STROYED THE STUFFED ANIMALS HE BROUGHT WH THE HOUR. DID I MENTN DJ WAS A “CHEWER”?{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}FROM THAT EXPERIENCE I LEARNED THAT I HAD NO TERT PURSUG RELATNSHIPS WH MEN WHO WERE DISMISSIVE OF DOGS, OR, WORSE, TREATED THEM AS THGS, LIVG FURNURE TO BE DISPLAYED, POLISHED, ROUTELY AND, UNFORTUNATELY, WALKED AND GROOMED AND CLEANED UP. THEN TUCKED AWAY WHEN IMPORTANT MATTERS ARE AT HAND. “MASTER” AND “PET” MAY WORK AT THE BLACK PARTY, BUT ARE ARCHAIC TERMS WHEN TO DOG RE. ANIMALS AREN’T OWNED BY , AND THEY ARE NOT AT OUR DISPOSAL. IT’S A SHARED LIFE, AND, MANY S, DOGS SPEND MORE TIME THE HOME THAN ANYONE ELSE THE FAY. THEY BURST WH MORE LOVE THAN A PRSURE OKER A MICROWAVE, AND ’S WH HONOR THAT WE GIVE BACK.PIERO {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}I GAVE DJ ALL I HAD FOR MORE THAN 14 YEARS, AND BY THE TIME I KNEW WAS TIME TO LET HIM GO—A CISN I DON’T WISH UPON ANYONE—HE AND I HAD SO MANY ADVENTUR TOGETHER, EACH FALLG LEAF WAS LIKE A PIECE OF OUR WONDRO PUZZLE, NOW RIPPED APART AT THE SEAMS AND STTERED ALONG THE WDY STREETS. HIS LIFE WAS THE BRILLIANT Y, AND I ULD ONLY PUT BACK TOGETHER WH MEMORY AND TIME. AND THE UN-BREATH OF WTER {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}OVER 14 YEARS, MY DOG SURVIVED A MALIGNANT TUMOR, RETAL TACHMENT—AND BLDNS— HIS RIGHT EYE, DISK DISEASE THAT WAS CURED BY HAVG A SPAL OPERATN HIS NECK, AND, LAST SPRG, FULL BLDNS OM TARACTS. HIS HEARG HAD BEEN IMPAIRED FOR ABOUT A YEAR PRR. LIKE ALL ANIMALS, THOUGH, HE DIDN’T REALLY SURVIVE HIS ALTERATNS AS HE DID NQUER THEM, ALWAYS ADJTG, WHETHER BE LEARNG HOW TO WALK M TWO DISKS OR, ONCE FULLY BLD, SUR EVERY RNER OF THE APARTMENT A FEW TIM A DAY TO MAP OUT STATNS SIGHTLS. HIS FIRST STOP WAS THE FOOD {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}WHILE I CRIED WHEN I LEARNED DJ ULD NO LONGER SEE, HE BUMPED TO A FEW THGS, REWORKED HIS STEPS, AND PROMPTLY FIGURED OUT HOW TO CRAWL BACK UP TO THE BED FOR HIS NIGHTLY “LICK DAD’S FACE TO ATH” RUAL. ONCE AGA, OUR DAYS END WH ME SIMULTANEOLY SQUIRMG AND LGHG, THEN DJ SETTLG , HIS 22-POUND PUG-LOAF SELF BACKED UP AGAST ME, HIS FACE TOWARD THE DOOR. EVEN BLD, PERPS WERE NOT TO BE TOLERATED ON HIS {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THE MIDDLE-OF-THE-NIGHT SCREAM ME SHORTLY AFTER HIS LEGS HAD GONE OUT, FIRST THE BACK, THEN THE ONT. MY VET HAD WARNED ME THIS WOULD BE THE FAL CHAPTER, AND I WHEN I FOUND HIM LYG DOWN BY THE ONT DOOR, WHERE HE’D FALLEN, WAS LIKE HE WAS TELLG ME WAS TIME FOR BOTH OF TO GO OUR SEPARATE WAYS.DAVID {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}DJ LEFT THIS EARTH ON OCTOBER 7. UP UNTIL THE LAST MOMENT, I SPENT HOURS HOLDG HIM, CLUTCHG HIM MY ARMS WHEN WE WENT TO THE ELEVATOR, THEN ON THE STREET LOOKG FOR A PLACE WHERE HE ULD DO HIS BS WHOUT THE TERFERENCE OF HURRIED NEW YORKERS, TALKG AND TEXTG AND TOO BY TO NOTICE A TY DOG NO LONGER ABLE TO GREET THEM OR SEE THEM OR TCH THEIR ADORG GLANC. HIS LIFE WAS NOW MY HANDS, AND MY HANDS {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}INSI, I’D PLOP HIM ON MY LAP SO HE ULD FEEL TEXTUR, ALONG WH THE BEAT OF MY HEART, AND THE SCENT HE KNEW SO WELL. WHEN I HAD TO LEAVE THE APARTMENT, HE’D SLEEP ON A PILLOW OF MY CLOTH. HE WAS PUT TO SLEEP ON THE BED, AFTER ONE LAST MORNG OF SNUGGLG, HIS BREAKFAST, AND A LTLE ICE CREAM. MY ARMS WERE AROUND HIM UNTIL THE END. I WATCHED THE ZIPPER GO UP AND OVER HIS FACE AND THOUGHT I’D BETRAYED {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}BEG A GAY MAN NEW YORK IS NOT ALWAYS EASY, BEG A SGLE GAY MAN OVER 50 OFTEN A STGGLE. MY FAY LIV ON THE WT COAST, I’VE NO CHILDREN OR HOE CONNECTICUT OR, CURRENTLY, NO SER RELATNSHIP, LEGAL OR OTHERWISE. A DOG IS NOT A SUBSTUTE FOR EMOTNAL NNECTNS, NOR A BAND-AID FOR PA. THEY’RE ADDNS TO LIFE—GIFTS, CREATUR THAT HELP TO SEE THE WORLD WH A CHILD’S EYE, AND TO APPRECIATE, WH TEMERY, EVERY TY JOY PLACED ONT OF . AND THEY NEVER WASTE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}DJ’S LTLE RNER OF THE UNIVERSE IS NOW MY RNER ALONE, AND EVERY DAY I LIVE THE PLACE, THE STREETS, THE PARK, THE APARTMENT, WHERE MY GUARDIAN OF 14 YEARS RAN AMUCK WH SPIR AND LOVE, AND KEPT ME A JACKET OF BRAND WARMTH. NOW THERE’S JT AIR.PIERO {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;CLEAR:BOTH;}CHOSEN {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;MARG:0 TO;WIDTH:90%;M-WIDTH:288PX;MAX-WIDTH:1440PX;M-HEIGHT:194PX;}LATT NEWS

Is a gay man quicker to give his whole heart to a dog? “I don’t see gayns havg much to do wh how open you are to givg of your heart or yourself, ” the thor says.

CAN DOGS BE GAY? WELL, Y AND NO…

“I know plenty of gay men who wouldn’t expend the energy to water a Christmas ct, no ls re for a needy, four-legged animal. But I thk ’s fair to say that most gay dog owners are equally, if not more, as voted to their ne panns as our straight unterparts.

“Gay men — some gay men — are unaaid of exaggeratn, moved by strong emotn and passn, and tend to go a wee b over the top.

For gay men who tly live for our dogs, we give our whole hearts to everythg we love, and our dogs are on the top of the list, right above our partners, parents, and personal traers.

NO, WHEN MALE DOGS MOUNT OTHER MAL, IT DON'T MEAN THEY'RE GAY

Go to gayrelatnships. So many gay men that I meet are almost married to their dog.

BENEDICT CUMBERBATCH DEFENDS DECISN TO PLAY GAY CHARACTER: 'I FEEL SENSIVE' ABOUT 'DIVERSY'

While the pup muny is a broad church, human pups tend to be male, gay, have an tert drsg leather, wear dog-like hoods, enjoy tactile teractns like stomach bbg or ear ticklg, play wh toys, eat out of bowls and are often a relatnship wh their human “handlers” the documentary, we see Tom, AKA Spot, take part the Mr Puppy Europe petn Antwerp, a mix of bety pageant, talent show and Cfts; David, AKA Bootbsh, talk to mera a leather dog mask; two pups walk through London pretendg to wee on lampposts to raise awarens of their inty; and lots of men jumpg up for “treats”, barkg and waggg their mechanil I speak to Tom, he is keen to pot out that puppy play is about more than jt outfs and surface-level power gam: ’s about beg given licence to behave a way that feels natural, even primal.

” The realisatn was not whout s repercsns: led to a breakup wh his former fiancee Rachel and a move to a gay relatnship wh his new handler.