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Contents:

• GAY MARRIAGE
• IS MY HBAND GAY? SIGNS OF A GAY HBAND
• ABOUT THE CENTERSCE 1983 THE CENTER HAS BEEN SUPPORTG, FOSTERG AND CELEBRATG THE LGBT MUNY OF NEW YORK CY. FD MORE RMATN ON AND OUR WORK ABOUT THE CENTER. VIS ABOUT THE CENTEROUR MISSNCYBER CENTERCENTER HISTORYRACE EQUYMEDIA CENTERLEARSHIP & STAFFEMPLOYMENT OPPORTUNICORPORATE PARTNERSHIPSANNUAL REPORTS & FANCIAL INFORMATNCONTACT USHOURS & LOTNSEMAPSUPPORT THE CENTER
• GAY MARRIAGE
• DEFINITIONS FOR GAY MARRIAGEGAY MAR·RIAGE
• SHOULD GAY MARRIAGE BE LEGAL?
• GAY MARRIED FN, GAY MARRIED MEANG | ENGLISH DICTNARY
• I MARRIED A GAY MAN

GAY MARRIAGE

The fai and iends of lbian and gay upl who are nied marriage rights may also experience negative physil and mental health nsequenc siar to those experienced by their loved on. The vast majory of scientific studi that have directly pared lbian and gay parents wh heterosexual parents have nsistently shown that the same-sex upl are as f and pable parents as heterosexual upl, and that their children are jt as psychologilly healthy and well adjted. Early Years: Same-Sex Marriage Bans In 1970, jt one year after the historic Stonewall Rts that galvanized the gay rights movement, law stunt Richard Baker and librarian Jam McConnell applied for a marriage license Gerald Nelson rejected their applitn bee they were a same-sex uple, and a trial urt upheld his cisn.

” This lg effectively blocked feral urts om lg on same-sex marriage for s, leavg the cisn solely the hands of stat, which alt blow after blow to those hopg to see gay marriage beg 1973, for stance, Maryland beme the first state to create a law that explicly f marriage as a unn between a man and woman, a belief held by many nservative relig groups. Though the gay rights movement saw some advancements the 1970s and 1980s—such as Harvey Milk beg the first openly gay man elected to public office the untry 1977—the fight for gay marriage ma ltle headway for many years.

In 1989, the San Francis Board of Supervisors passed an ordance that allowed homosexual upl and unmarried heterosexual upl to register for domtic partnerships, which granted hospal visatn rights and other years later, the District of Columbia siarly passed a new law that allowed same-sex upl to register as domtic partners. C., 1993, the hight urt Hawaii led that a ban on same-sex marriage may vlate that state nstutn’s Equal Protectn Clse—the first time a state urt has ever ched toward makg gay marriage Hawaii Supreme Court sent the se—brought by a gay male uple and two lbian upl who were nied marriage licens 1990—back for further review to the lower First Circu Court, which 1991 origally dismissed the the state tried to prove that there was “pellg state tert” jtifyg the ban, the se would be tied up ligatn for the next three Defense of Marriage Act Opponents of gay marriage, however, did not s on their hnch.

IS MY HBAND GAY? SIGNS OF A GAY HBAND

Congrs 1996 passed the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA), which Print Bill Clton signed to didn’t ban gay marriage outright but specified that only heterosexual upl uld be granted feral marriage benefs.

ABOUT THE CENTERSCE 1983 THE CENTER HAS BEEN SUPPORTG, FOSTERG AND CELEBRATG THE LGBT MUNY OF NEW YORK CY. FD MORE RMATN ON AND OUR WORK ABOUT THE CENTER. VIS ABOUT THE CENTEROUR MISSNCYBER CENTERCENTER HISTORYRACE EQUYMEDIA CENTERLEARSHIP & STAFFEMPLOYMENT OPPORTUNICORPORATE PARTNERSHIPSANNUAL REPORTS & FANCIAL INFORMATNCONTACT USHOURS & LOTNSEMAPSUPPORT THE CENTER

That is, even if a state ma gay marriage legal, same-sex upl still wouldn’t be able to file e tax jotly, sponsor spo for immigratn benefs or receive spoal Social Secury payments, among many other act was a huge setback for the marriage equaly movement, but transient good news arose three months later: Hawaii Judge Kev S. Phg for Change: Civil Unns The next saw a whirlwd of activy on the gay marriage ont, begng wh the year 2000 when Vermont beme the first state to legalize civil unns, a legal stat that provis most of the state-level benefs of years later, Massachetts beme the first state to legalize gay marriage when the Massachetts Supreme Court led that same-sex upl had the right to marry Goodridge v. 2004 was notable for upl many other stat as well, though for the oppose reason: Ten typilly nservative stat, along wh Oregon, enacted state-level bans on gay marriage.

Kansas and Texas were next 2005, and 2006 saw seven more stat passg Constutnal amendments agast gay towards the end of the , gay marriage beme legal var stat, cludg Connecticut, Iowa, Vermont (the first state to approve by legislative means) and New Hampshire. Domtic Partnerships Throughout the and the begng of the next, California equently ma headl for seawg on the gay marriage state was the first to pass a domtic partnership statute 1999, and legislators tried to pass a same-sex marriage bill 2005 and 2007.

Perry legalized same-sex marriage early 2010s ntued the state-level battl over gay marriage that fed the precedg , wh at least one notable event.

GAY MARRIAGE

For the first time the untry’s history, voters (rather than judg or legislators) Mae, Maryland, and Washgton approved Constutnal amendments permtg same-sex marriage marriage also beme a feral issue 2010, Massachetts, the first state to legalize gay marriage, found Sectn 3 of DOMA—the part of the 1996 law that fed marriage as a unn between one man and one woman—to be unnstutnal.

Wdsor, nservative Jtice Anthony Kennedy sid wh Jtic Ruth Bar Gsburg, Stephen Breyer, Sonia Sotomayor and Elena Kagan favor of same-sex marriage rights, ultimately makg gay marriage legal across the natn June this time, was still outlawed only 13 stat, and more than 20 other untri had already legalized gay marriage, startg wh the Netherlands December 2000.

ConnecticutKansasNew MexiUtahDelawareMaeNevadaVirgiaFloridaMarylandNew YorkVermontIn some stat, cludg Arkansas, South Dakota, and Kentucky, the state ernment has not yet legalized same sex marriage, but their bans agast gay marriage have been led Sex Marriage and the Supreme CourtIt is no secret that the Supreme Court has had s fair share of s ncerng same sex marriag, some of which have been major victori for same sex upl across the ridge v Department of Public HealthOn November 18, 2003, the Massachetts Supreme Court beme the first to le that the state’s ban on same sex marriage was unnstutnal.

DEFINITIONS FOR GAY MARRIAGEGAY MAR·RIAGE

This landmark lg by a state supreme urt was the rult of a lawsu filed 2001 by a group lled the Gay & Lbian Advot and Defenrs (“GLAD”) on behalf of seven same sex upl, each of which were tablished, long term relatnships. Currently, over 55 percent of Amerins support same sex marriage rights, wh 8 out of 10 young adults favorg gay marriage three percent of people intify as lbian, gay, or bisexualAcrdg to the 2010 Uned Stat Cens Bure, there are more than 600, 000 same sex uple hoeholds the U. Sometim a woman may have been a heterosexual relatnship for years and yet feel somethg is somehow "off;" and she may fd herself askg, "Is my hband gay?

SHOULD GAY MARRIAGE BE LEGAL?

" Many women fd this qutn unthkable but acrdg to Bonnie Kaye,, an expert women married to gay men, is timated that 4 ln women have been, or are, married to gay men.

GAY MARRIED FN, GAY MARRIED MEANG | ENGLISH DICTNARY

A step beyond civil unn, gay marriage will at last give LGBT partners the secury that every fay, whether m/f, m/m, or f/f, gay marriage was approved my state, I am now allowed to vis my hband when he is sick the the gay marriage mug. Ironilly, the Amerin state wh the lowt divorce rate is Massachetts, the center of gay marriage land; followed by Connecticut, New Jersey, Rho Island, and New York.

I MARRIED A GAY MAN

It's jt like the 'no terracial marriage' laws, gay marriage is bound for legaly at some pot as society progrs and be more equal and , people who oppose gay marriage are the same people who hate blacks, Jews, Latos, yada yada why do they get so much credibily promotg "moraly"? Scientific studi show that the fancial, psychologil, and physil well-beg of gay people are enhanced by marriage, and that the children of same-sex parents benef om beg raised by married same-sex upl wh a maral unn that is regnized by law and supported by societal stutns. Social science rearch dit that the excln of same-sex upl om marriage stigmatiz and v public discrimatn agast gay and lbian people, wh rearch also repudiatg the notn that eher civilizatn or viable social orrs pend upon rtrictg marriage to heterosexuals.