I thk I don't f even the gay muny | Empty Closets

Contents:

• A MISF GAY REVEALS: WHAT’S LIKE TO NOT F IN WH YOUR COMMUNY?
• HOW TO ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE GAY
• “I DON’T FEEL LIKE I BELONG TO THE GAY COMMUNY AND IT’S DEVASTATG ME.”
• I THK I DON'T F EVEN THE GAY MUNY
• CONTENTS13) WHY IS GENR IOLOGY BEG PRRIZED TNAL SETTGS?A. THE BIGGER PICTURE: TRODUCTN OF POSTMORN STYLE GENR IOLOGY SCHOOLS IS NOT JT ABOUT CLN, IS ABOUT TRAG YOUNG STUNTS TO ACCEPT GENR IOLOGYB. GENR IOLOGY VIEWPOTS & GOALS OF NTEMPORARY TRANS ACTIVISM ARE NOT SHARED BY OTHERS WH THE LGB & T POPULATNS -TRANS PEOPLE WHO ARE CRIL OF THE GENR & SEXUAL NFN THEY SEE HAPPENG-BISEXUALS, GAYS, & LBIANS WHO ARE CRIL-LIBERALS AND MORAT WHO ARE CRIL OF GENR IOLOGYC. SCIENTISTS WHO SEE HARM CURRENT GENR IOLOGYD. WHY GENR IOLOGY BEYOND ANTI-BULLYG POLICY S CURRENT FORM SHOULD NOT BE TGHT SCHOOLSBACK TO OUTLEMORE

A MISF GAY REVEALS: WHAT’S LIKE TO NOT F IN WH YOUR COMMUNY?

Way back the late 1970s, I went to my very first gay bars, assumg I’d be weled wh arms and legs akimbo. This was way before Inter and hookup apps, so gay guys went to the bars and diss primarily to get picked up, not to celebrate each other’s w or knowledge. At this pot, when the rtoonishly macho dis group Village People were a sensatn, many gays were affectg an impossibly manly pose, whereas I was scrawny, had bad sk and terrible hair, and wore zippered turtlenecks that my mother had procured me om the Sears-Roebuck talogue when I was high school.

In 1987, I walked to my first meetg of ACT UP—the AIDS activist group—and was happy to fd that the grassroots anizatn spanned var threads of the muny, cludg lbians, who aren’t always the same room wh gay men. But the ’90s, the macho thg took over aga, and sudnly all the guys at the Roxy dance club on gay Saturdays had bulgg pecs and were obssively anx to show them.

Too often, the LGBTQ muny dictat what kd of queer you’re supposed to be, addg to the opprsn you already get om a homophobic society.

HOW TO ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE GAY

Gays have to be “straight-actg” (whatever that means), trans people have to pass and be tasteful, and so on, until the only possible act of liberatn is breakg ee om queer le. Even as a wrer for the Village Voice, I wasn’t embraced by the rporate gay tablishment, seeg as I wasn’t ved, honored, or acknowledged.

“I DON’T FEEL LIKE I BELONG TO THE GAY COMMUNY AND IT’S DEVASTATG ME.”

I wore zany thrift store cloth, shook up the celebry closet, and had no patience for “well-meang, ” self-featg gays, pecially on wh fay money or entlement. I was pretty uy and not the kd of gay they wanted to promote—or even give support to, when I asked for —and took years for the powers that be to take note of me. Sce then, the muny has e around—drag queens were once banned om the Pri para, but now rporate gays vet anyone om Drag Race—so I’ve ma stris as a left-of-center gay who do feel like part of a muny the days.

What’s more, gays are people, flaws and all, and if I had to actually achieve somethg and show up a lot of Netflix documentari orr to get regnized, so be .

I THK I DON'T F EVEN THE GAY MUNY

And unlike transgenr or openly gay or lbian people, my safety isn’t tomatilly threatened bee of my inty. Nobody has to know my inty until I explicly share a bisexual, femme woman married to a cisgenr man, I don’t always feel wele at LGBTQ the same time, bee I don’t f to the stereotype of what a queer person looks like, I n’t brg my partner to gay bars whout facg si-eye and the odd muttered mentary, and I’m persistently aware of how we prent to the world.

CONTENTS13) WHY IS GENR IOLOGY BEG PRRIZED TNAL SETTGS?A. THE BIGGER PICTURE: TRODUCTN OF POSTMORN STYLE GENR IOLOGY SCHOOLS IS NOT JT ABOUT CLN, IS ABOUT TRAG YOUNG STUNTS TO ACCEPT GENR IOLOGYB. GENR IOLOGY VIEWPOTS & GOALS OF NTEMPORARY TRANS ACTIVISM ARE NOT SHARED BY OTHERS WH THE LGB & T POPULATNS -TRANS PEOPLE WHO ARE CRIL OF THE GENR & SEXUAL NFN THEY SEE HAPPENG-BISEXUALS, GAYS, & LBIANS WHO ARE CRIL-LIBERALS AND MORAT WHO ARE CRIL OF GENR IOLOGYC. SCIENTISTS WHO SEE HARM CURRENT GENR IOLOGYD. WHY GENR IOLOGY BEYOND ANTI-BULLYG POLICY S CURRENT FORM SHOULD NOT BE TGHT SCHOOLSBACK TO OUTLEMORE

Acrdg to a report by The Movement Advancement Project, bisexual people experience signifint rat of visibily, societal rejectn, vlence, discrimatn, and poor physil and mental health—often at rat higher than their lbian and gay peers. (Image cred: Getty Imag)Biphobia or bisexual erasure—the still-pervasive attu that bisexualy isn’t real or mak a person ls LGBTQ than those who intify as gay or lbian—n have a ser impact on my muny’s health. While data on bisexual mental health is srce pared to rearch on lbian or gay people, several studi show that bisexuals report higher rat of anxiety, prsn, mental illns, suicidal thoughts, and self-harm, relative to gays and experience of isolatn is not unique.