How should Christian parents rpond if one of their children out as gay? What should a parent do if their child says he/she is homosexual? How should Christian parents of gay children relate to their children?
Contents:
- A CHRISTIAN PERSPECTIVE ON PARENTG A GAY CHILD
- HOW CAN CHRISTIAN PARENTS RPOND TO THEIR GAY CHILD?
- HOW SHOULD CHRISTIAN PARENTS RPOND IF ONE OF THEIR CHILDREN OUT AS GAY?
- “MOM, DAD… I’M GAY.” A CHRISTIAN PARENT’S RPONSE
- RPONDG LOVE TO AN ADULT GAY CHILD
- HOW CHRISTIAN PARENTS SHOULD RPOND TO THEIR CHILD'S GAY INTY CRISIS
- MY SON IS GAY
- HOW SHOULD CHRISTIAN PARENTS RPOND IF ONE OF THEIR CHILDREN OUT AS GAY?
- SHOULD CHRISTIANS “DISOWN” GAY SONS AND DGHTERS?
- SUPPORT FOR PARENTS OF CHILD WHO SAYS HE’S GAY
- TO CHRISTIAN PARENTS OF GAY CHILDREN
- RPONDG TO A “GAY CHRISTIAN” THE FAY
A CHRISTIAN PERSPECTIVE ON PARENTG A GAY CHILD
For a now, Christian parents have been askg my wife and me for help parentg their gay kids. As a Christian dad of a gay son, I wish there had been someone to talk me through the issu raised by my son’s disclosure of his sexualy. But the evangelil church has until very recently said very ltle about homosexualy, except that is a s and that those who * christian parent of gay son *
For a now, Christian parents have been askg my wife and me for help parentg their gay kids. As a Christian dad of a gay son, I wish there had been someone to talk me through the issu raised by my son’s disclosure of his sexualy.
But the evangelil church has until very recently said very ltle about homosexualy, except that is a s and that those who practice are worthy of nmnatn. As a rult, most gay young people the church stayed silent about their sexualy until they uld no longer ignore .
Most parents, if they knew their kid was gay, told no one about and had no one to talk to. In orr to love the fai and their gay kids well, the church needs to do a better mol to parents. (We’ve wrten extensively about this journey our book, Space at the Table: Conversatns Between an Evangelil Theologian and his Gay Son.
HOW CAN CHRISTIAN PARENTS RPOND TO THEIR GAY CHILD?
The Bible is not silent on parentg, and that clus when a child out as gay or lbian. Learn how to bt handle this hot topic God's way. * christian parent of gay son *
My rpons here are directed specifilly to parents of gay kids, not to the kids themselv.
I should add, too, that I am only speakg om my own experience as a parent of a gay kid, not speakg on behalf of all parents of LGBT+ kids. *To ntue readg, click the lk below to download a ee py of "A Christian Perspective on Parentg a Gay Child" by Dr.
HOW SHOULD CHRISTIAN PARENTS RPOND IF ONE OF THEIR CHILDREN OUT AS GAY?
How should Christian parents rpond if one of their children out as gay? How n Christian parents show love towards a homosexual son or dghter? * christian parent of gay son *
Your child is gay. But for many Christian parents, nothg n prepare them to hear that their beloved child is gay.
If you are a Christian parent, fay member or iend to whom your loved one has e out as gay or lbian, then this is for you.
They did not “choose gayns” to rebel agast you, get back at you or make your life miserable. As a younger Christian, tght that homosexualy is a s, I believed that trma somewhere someone’s past ed homosexualy, even if they didn’t remember .
“MOM, DAD… I’M GAY.” A CHRISTIAN PARENT’S RPONSE
Read “Mom, Dad… I’m Gay.” A Christian Parent’s Rponse by David Murray and more articl about Christian Life and Wiki on * christian parent of gay son *
To my surprise, God pletely shifted my unrstandg and revealed to me the many people who had a great childhood are still gay. Some gay teens have been shamed, banished, threatened, beaten, and shunned.
If dog the thgs meant that homosexualy would not vis a Christian home, then we wouldn’t see croppg up so often. But please unrstand that even if we disagree, nothg chang regardg our rponsibily, our blsg as a Mom or a Dad to unndnally love, accept and affirm our gay children – as God has done wh .
A Hot Topic Requirg Patience and LoveOf all of the trendg topics seen the media today, none is more emotnally charged or ntroversial than the topic of homosexualy or same-sex attractn. Christians are havg a difficult time articulatg a posn that is both biblilly fahful and grac/lovg to those wh a homosexual part of this discsn has to do wh should Christian parents do if their son or dghter “ out” and clar themselv to be gay? How n Christian parents rpond to their gay child?
RPONDG LOVE TO AN ADULT GAY CHILD
When a child first out as eher beg gay or havg same-sex attractn their parents' ial rpons are ually the wrong on, says Chris Doyle, a psychotherapist who specializ SSA. * christian parent of gay son *
Thankfully, Christians have a rich text that giv the words and heart of the Creator of the me give three practil prcipl that n help Christian parents rpond to their gay child. Reject Gay Therapy as an End GoalOver the past or longer, this seems to have been the prevalent Christian parental rponse for havg a gay child. The goal of “gay therapy” is to reorient the sexual orientatn om homosexual feelgs to heterosexual feelgs.
HOW CHRISTIAN PARENTS SHOULD RPOND TO THEIR CHILD'S GAY INTY CRISIS
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Parents should not have the goal of nvertg their child om homosexualy to heterosexualy.
Parents of gay children mt pot their child here everyday!
MY SON IS GAY
Whatever fears parents have about sayg the wrong thgs or makg the wrong cisns, Greg and Lynn McDonald will not be shocked at all. By their own acunt, they ma every mistake possible when they learned their 17-year-old son, Greg Jr., is gay. * christian parent of gay son *
We also need to extend grace to those children who have been abandoned or abed by their parents or fay who have mishandled the 1:16 – For om his fullns we have all received, grace upon is how parents should rpond to their gay child; grace upon grace.
If a child reveals his or her homosexualy, the first thg for Christian parents to do is let their child know that, no matter what, love and grace will w the day. Parents should also enurage a child who has “e out” not to fe himself as a “homosexual.
HOW SHOULD CHRISTIAN PARENTS RPOND IF ONE OF THEIR CHILDREN OUT AS GAY?
Parents n e alongsi a stgglg child and help him see that he is not “gay” simply bee he has homosexual thoughts.
SHOULD CHRISTIANS “DISOWN” GAY SONS AND DGHTERS?
Rather, he is stgglg wh homosexual sir or same-sex attractn. The difference between stgglg wh homosexualy and intifyg onelf as gay may seem subtle, but is a huge distctn, and here’s why. God never created to be homosexual.
Christians may stggle wh same-sex attractn, but that do not make them homosexuals.
Y, homosexualy is sful, but not to a level above that of heterosexual lt or lyg or pri. And the Bible says that homosexualy is unter to God’s tend purpose for human begs. If a child says, “I am homosexual.
SUPPORT FOR PARENTS OF CHILD WHO SAYS HE’S GAY
How should Christian parents rpond if one of their children out as gay? Rachel Held Evans nclus her blog post If my son or dghter were gay wh this paragraph:.
If God bls Dan and me wh a child who is gay, I would want that child to know whout a doubt that he or she is loved unndnally. I believe Rachel’s motivatn is to create a more welg and lovg environment the church for those who intify themselv as homosexuals, or who stggle wh homosexual sire. I admire and agree wh her motive, and mt say that I’ve learned om her this area of beg much more reful how I speak and wre about homosexualy.
First, she don’t munite any ncern about the sfulns of homosexual sir nor the immoraly of homosexual actns.
TO CHRISTIAN PARENTS OF GAY CHILDREN
She seems to nvey that homosexual sir are not part of human brokenns, and that to pursue homosexual practic do not have any bearg on a person’s relatnship wh Christ.
” There is no ditn that she se anythg wrong or unbiblil about homosexualy. Send, Rachel seems to intify everyone who tak the view that homosexual sir are part of broken human sfulns, and that homosexual actns are s, as bulli.
RPONDG TO A “GAY CHRISTIAN” THE FAY
However, ’s irrponsible and unfair to group all who say that homosexualy is immoral as bulli of Christ’s ltle on. What do you mean by “I thk I’m gay”? Are you therefore planng to pursue homosexual relatnships?
Sixth, if your son agre that homosexualy is sful, and he wants to have victory over the temptatns, then there are many Gospel promis you n enurage him wh. However, if he says that he believ homosexualy to be okay and he’s cid to pursue , then while assurg him of your ntued love and re, you mt lovgly warn him of the spirual and physil dangers of homosexualy. Seventh, I’d enurage the son not to see himself as a homosexual, not to fe himself by his sexualy.
Rather I’d want him to see himself as creature ma God’s image, a man wh many parts to his inty, a person wh many gifts, a son wh a diverse character and personaly, one part of which, at least for the moment, is to have a homosexual sir. Eighth, I would ask him to keep g to church, pecially as homosexualy is sometim the rult of worshippg self rather than God (Romans 1:24-25). But I would ask his permissn to let the pastor know about his suatn bee I’d want to urge the pastor to greater sensivy towards those stgglg wh homosexualy.