You n’t ask a person who don’t propose that they are gay or not. Even if ’s jt a clue. But here are 10 ways to tell if someone is gay or not.
Contents:
- IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?
- HOW TO TELL IF YOUR BOYIEND IS GAY
- “BUT YOU DON’T LOOK GAY”—QUEER FASHN AND NIGHTLIFE
- HOW TO TELL IF YOUR GUY FRIEND IS GAY
- HOW TO TELL IF SOMEONE IS GAY: 10 SUBTLE CLU THAT MAKE IT LIKELY
- TMP TELLS GAY SUPPORTER 'YOU DON'T LOOK GAY' AT MAR-A-LAGO FUNDRAISER
- 17 SIGNS YOUR BOYIEND IS SECRETLY GAY (& WHAT TO DO)
- HOW TO DISCREETLY FD OUT IF SOMEONE YOU KNOW IS GAY
- DONALD TMP TELLS SUPPORTER HE ‘DON’T LOOK GAY’
- IS MY BOYIEND GAY? 10 SIGNS TO HELP YOU TELL FOR SURE
- IS YOUR HBAND GAY? 6 SIGNS THAT COULD BE A CSE FOR CONCERN
- HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY
IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?
Joe Kort, Ph.D., talks about his new book, "Is My Hband Gay, Straight, or Bi?" * he doesn't look gay *
In his Royal Oaks, Michigan, practice, Joe specializ Gay Affirmative Psychotherapy and IMAGO Relatnship Therapy, often treatg men who are qutng their sexual orientatn. Number one is the high cince of male-female upl enterg my office bee the woman thks her man might be gay.
He’s actually straight, but for whatever reason, he’s been lookg at gay porn or he’s been havg sex wh men. A lot of the time the men e on their own and they’re holdg my book about g out as gay, and they want to know, “Is this me?
HOW TO TELL IF YOUR BOYIEND IS GAY
If you're a woman, you may have noticed thgs about your boyiend that lead you to believe he's gay or terted men. Sexualy is highly plex and sensive, and there are a lot of accurate stereotyp out there that don't tly... * he doesn't look gay *
And I thk ’s very important to state right here that I’m a gay man, yet here I am sayg that most of the time the men who are beg sexual wh other men aren’t gay.
“BUT YOU DON’T LOOK GAY”—QUEER FASHN AND NIGHTLIFE
There are lots of reasons why you might want to know if your iend is gay. There are some important thgs that you have to unrstand about this suatn before gog forward, however. Someone's sexualy is highly plex and highly... * he doesn't look gay *
That’s unual, bee most gay men, even most gay therapists, believe that if a guy is havg gay sex, he’s gay.
” I always joke wh clients that for me, as a gay man, when I’m walkg on the beach and checkg people out, the women are the way. Wh gay clients, they say they feel the same way; wh bisexual clients, they say they’re lookg at both the men and the women; wh straight clients, they say they’re lookg only at the women.
When a man is a long-term relatnship wh a woman but beg sexual wh men, eher lookg at porn or havg actual sex, he eher will or won’t be homophobic. The straight men have no homophobia at all—to the pot where they’re willg to seek unselg om me, an openly gay therapist. A lot of tim the gay men never even make to me (whout promptg om their wife, anyway) bee they’re riddled wh homophobia and I’m too gay for them.
HOW TO TELL IF YOUR GUY FRIEND IS GAY
* he doesn't look gay *
So if a client is stgglg wh his sexual orientatn and he’s got a lot of homophobia, he’s probably gay. A gay guy wants to do all of that wh a man, a bisexual guy might want a man or a woman, and the straight guy wants to only be wh a woman that way. Even if he’s nfed and don’t want to e out as gay, this is who he is and over time that will e out.
HOW TO TELL IF SOMEONE IS GAY: 10 SUBTLE CLU THAT MAKE IT LIKELY
If you're readg this, there's a good chance you thk your boyiend might be gay. No doubt you're also feelg pretty nfed and wonrg how to al wh the suatn. It's a very sensive suatn to al wh, and you need to make sure you rpect his feelgs. But at the same time, you n't * he doesn't look gay *
So this is a way of bondg wh men—ironilly, through sex—and happens not bee the man is gay but bee he don’t know any other way to get this need met. Eher they’re worried that their man will eventually ci he’s gay and end the relatnship, or they want monogamy, and his cheatg is a threat to the marriage regardls of who he’s dog wh. And I should pot out here that the men when they’re engagg this behavr (regardls of whether they’re gay, straight or bi) nearly always tell themselv that what they’re dog is not cheatg bee they’re dog wh a guy.
If you're a woman, you may have noticed thgs about your boyiend that lead you to believe he's gay or terted men.
TMP TELLS GAY SUPPORTER 'YOU DON'T LOOK GAY' AT MAR-A-LAGO FUNDRAISER
Someone's sexualy is personal, so 's important to rpect their privacy. However, you might want to know if a person is gay bee you're terted datg them or want to support them as a iend. Beg open wh them n be... * he doesn't look gay *
There are many reasons why someone might act this way, so this by self is not a surefire sign that he’s gay. If you believe your boyiend lov and r for you but he "seems to be gay, " keep md that he uld be bisexual, pansexual, or terted men. There are several inti which someone n be terted more than one genr, so don't thk he's "jt gay".
If you stumble upon evince of gay porn on his puter or phone, though, that may be a ltle different. If he’s gay, he might thrive on other men’s attentn, equently touch or hug them, or exchange flirty ments wh them (pecially about their physil appearance). Notice if he equently hangs out wh his gay iends, or jos them on nights out at LGBTQ+ bars and clubs.
” Notice if he acts unfortable around gay men, regularly mak homophobic ments or jok, or liberately never talks about anythg remotely gay. He might also be wrtlg wh ternalized homophobia or self-loathg bee of the nflict between his inty and his upbrgg.
17 SIGNS YOUR BOYIEND IS SECRETLY GAY (& WHAT TO DO)
Speakg at a fundraiser for a Republin nspiracy theorist, Donald Tmp told a supporter: "You don't look gay." * he doesn't look gay *
An enunter his teen or llege years is more likely to mean he’s gay or queer than an experience later life, which uld have more plex explanatns. Don’t rely on gay stereotyp like an effemate voice or walk, flashy or tight clothg, his TV and mic preferenc, or beg a neat eak to terme your boyiend’s sexualy. Cara Sullivan lv to the problematic relatnship between queerns and appearance, the expectatns and prejudic that e wh our ias of (homo)sexualy.
HOW TO DISCREETLY FD OUT IF SOMEONE YOU KNOW IS GAY
Is your boyiend gay? How n you tell? Here are 10 signs to look out for that he might be gay, and some advice on how to handle that. * he doesn't look gay *
They shed their gay exterr, removg piercgs, scbbg off layers of bold makp and dchg their thrifted wardrobe as a voiceover says: “This is what I thk I would look like if I was straight. “In a non-queer space, I wouldn’t feel fortable approachg any girl, no matter how ‘queer’ she looked, ” says Ey, a neteen-year-old gay woman om Manchter.
“A lot of gay clubs Manchter don’t allow certa people if they don’t “look” gay, ” Ey go on to say.
Once si, queer people want to attract the right kd of sexual attentn, and spe bouncers’ bt efforts, not everybody the gay club will be gay.
DONALD TMP TELLS SUPPORTER HE ‘DON’T LOOK GAY’
Is your hband gay? The article brgs to you 19 signs to look out for if you spect that your hband might be gay. * he doesn't look gay *
Manchter’s gay village seems to be a favoure for hen parti and straight people who don’t fd the ual clubs, (the on where gay men would be btalised for holdg hands wh their boyiend, ) risqué enough.
To some straight people, the gay village is still wrapped taboo, and be a kd of safari where drag queens and dg culture abound. “When I’m queer spac I want to look queer bee I don’t want people to assume that I’m another straight girl the gay club. Charlotte, a twenty-year-old lbian om Liverpool says: “at first, when I was g to terms wh myself and my sexualy, I told myself: “I need to look gay” orr to be accepted.
You may want to know if your iend is gay, but there may be a good reason why they're stayg closeted.
IS MY BOYIEND GAY? 10 SIGNS TO HELP YOU TELL FOR SURE
For example, his fay may be vlently homophobic and by cidg that he's gay, you may out him by accint by treatg him different or implyg somethg whout meang to. If you're tryg to figure out if your iend is gay bee you want to date him (as a woman), 's important to remember that jt bee he might be terted men don't mean he's not terted women.
One of the theori about why some people are gay has to do wh the hormon that they're exposed to before they're born. The hormone exposure levels may manift actual, physil ways which n be a vague ditor that a guy might be gay. It is possible that your guy iend is not gay but stead falls somewhere else on the Ksey sle of unirns and awomens.
Although some people the gay culture may put on a certa voice or a way of speakg, your iend talkg a siar or "effemate" way is still not a very good way to judge. Everyone n enjoy different thgs; jt like a woman might enjoy watchg football, guys n also enjoy thgs that are more monly associated wh women or the gay muny.
IS YOUR HBAND GAY? 6 SIGNS THAT COULD BE A CSE FOR CONCERN
The movi he watch and the mic he listens to are also not fair methods to gge if he is straight or gayer than Elton John and Gee Takei put together. There's the stereotype that if a guy is a good drser or if he spends a bunch of time on his hair, he's gay.
HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY
Sometim you might assume that jt bee a guy only hangs out wh girls or jt bee his bt iend also seems gay, then he might also be gay. Subtly brg up subjects that show him that you're okay wh your iends beg gay and that he don't need to hi his nature around you.
You n talk about another iend that is gay or even jt about someone hypothetilly g out if you don't know someone who's gay. He do a great job of showg people that there's more to gay people than all those offensive stereotyp. This is the bt way to fd out if someone is gay and much ls offensive than makg assumptns about them.
Say somethg like, "You know you're stuck wh me as a iend no matter what, but I jt have to ask bee I don't want to make assumptns and e to the wrong nclns: are you gay? Article SummaryXTo tell if your guy iend is gay, notice whether he refers to other guys as attractive, which uld be a sign that he’s gay. Pay attentn to how much he talks about women a romantic or sexual way, sce a lack of tert women uld suggt he’s gay.