Brothers and Sisters of Gays and Lbians | Psychology Today

Contents:

• WHAT TO DO WHEN YOU LEARN A BROTHER/SISTER IS GAY
• HOW TO FD OUT IF A FAY MEMBER IS GAY
• IS MY FRIEND GAY QUIZ
• AM I GAY?
• SO YOU THK YOUR SISTER’S BOYIEND IS GAY
• ARE YOUNGER BROTHERS MORE LIKELY TO BE GAY?
• MY SISTER IS SO GAY
• BROTHERS AND SISTERS OF GAYS AND LBIANS
• SISTER - GAY?
• RELATNSHIP CONNECTN: MY SISTER’S HBAND ME OUT AS GAY AND IS LEAVG HER
• LONI ANRSON TALKS NEW S "MY SISTER IS SO GAY" AND CIVIL RIGHTS (AUDIO)
• HELP! I THK MY SISTER--LAW’S BOYIEND IS GAY.

WHAT TO DO WHEN YOU LEARN A BROTHER/SISTER IS GAY

If you thk your brother is gay bee he watch a "girly" TV show or his voice sounds a certa way, that's relyg on stereotyp. If you live a particularly homophobic or transphobic area, discs safety plans wh the fay member se of vlence om others.

If your fay member has e out as gay or bisexual, accept that they will end up seeg someone of their own genr, and that's perfectly okay.

Don't be aaid to rearch beg gay, bisexual, transgenr, asexual, or whatever your fay member me out as. If you saw your brother kissg another guy and he said he is not attracted to women, y, he is gay. They might have a lack of tert the oppose sex if they’re homosexual or asexual.

HOW TO FD OUT IF A FAY MEMBER IS GAY

Even people who are fortable wh the ncept of homosexualy may reject the ncept of bisexualy bee may radilly challenge their assumptns about sexual orientatns. There are many factors that may terme how siblgs react to your g out as lbian, gay, bisexual, or transgenr: their age, their relatnship wh you, matury level, parental fluence, relig views, and so on.

As a rult, many aterny brothers and sorory sisters more than likely have never knowgly enuntered someone who is gay, lbian, or bisexual and/or may not know what to do when they learn a brother/sister is gay.

IS MY FRIEND GAY QUIZ

Such lack of knowledge and preparatn perpetuat the ignorance and fear surroundg homosexualy and jeopardiz brotherhood/sisterhood for both gay and straight aterny brothers and sorory sisters. This list provis some suggted ias to keep md when a aterny brother or sorory sister learns that another brother/sister is gay, some remendatns on what you need to do when you learn that a Brother/Sister is Gay. Rpect his/her choice to tell you by lettg him/her know you will not tell anyone he/she is gay.

Remember that your brother/sister may be gay, but he/she may not be ready to acknowledge this to himself/herself or others. Be supportive of your brother/sister, possibly brg up gay topics to munite that you would be a person wh whom he/she n talk. Your Brother/Sister may need support to al wh shameful feelgs that someone the fay is gay.

AM I GAY?

They will also need assistance nouncg and bullyg their peers when others fd out that they have a gay or lbian siblg. As a siblg, here’s a list of what NOT to do when you already know you have a gay brother/sister:. Do not be aaid to ask qutns about beg gay and/or about his/her g out procs.

Do not be ashamed or fail to fend a brother/sister who is gay if, otherwise, he/she is a good sister. Do not be aaid to e the word gay/lbian or bisexual, and do not ignore him/her when he/she brgs up gay topics. Do not try to rtrict the brother’s/sister’s eedom to share beg gay and/or to be a public role mol.

SO YOU THK YOUR SISTER’S BOYIEND IS GAY

Do not be aaid to approach a gay brother/sister if you thk his/her actns are appropriate. Hold a gay brother/sister to the same standards as all brothers/sisters.

Revised om Out on Fraterny Row: Personal Acunts of Beg Gay a College Fraterny, eded by Shane L.

One day, you may hear a remark that mak you wonr if one of your relativ is gay, though the subject has never e up.

ARE YOUNGER BROTHERS MORE LIKELY TO BE GAY?

Though 's not always obv, if you watch a person and the people they spend time wh, there may be some clu to help you terme for sure whether or not they are gay. If you are able to provi this kd of supportive environment, the kid won't feel threatened and then, even if turns out s/he isn't gay after all, you will both be happier, and enjoy a stronger, closer relatnship the barga.

MY SISTER IS SO GAY

A "gay mannerism" is not necsarily ditive of a person's sexual orientatn; straight men might spend a lot of time wh girls, jo a dance team, or jo a cheerleadg team. You may be thkg that a very young child shows "signs" of beg gay - you would probably be wrong that thkg as children are very fluid their behavrs, first intifyg strongly wh their parent of the same sex, and then wh the oppose sex parent. This is a quiz that n tell you whether both (you and your iend) are gay or not.

Gay - While this adjective has historilly scribed men who are attracted to other men, the term now is ed to refer to anyone who experienc romantic, emotnal, or physil attractn to people of the same genr. Sce genr inty and sexual orientatn are separate, transgenr people n intify as straight, gay, lbian, bisexual, etc.

BROTHERS AND SISTERS OF GAYS AND LBIANS

I love my sister very much, I have known she was gay sce she me out to me when she was 11.

SISTER - GAY?

If you ntue to live the homosexual liftyle, you will go to hell and there will be ETERNAL sufferg.

I’d take you on a bible tour, showg you the bety that God created, and expla that you’re the problem wh this earth unls you leave to homosexual liftyle. I hope your parents put you to your place and you get shocked to Hell and back, so you n see why you need to drop the homosexual liftyle. How Olr Brothers Influence HomosexualyHomosexualy might be partly driven by a mother’s immune rponse to her male fet—which creas wh each son she has.Le MacGregor / RtersHere’s what we know: Homosexualy is normal.

RELATNSHIP CONNECTN: MY SISTER’S HBAND ME OUT AS GAY AND IS LEAVG HER

Between 2 and 11 percent of human adults report experiencg some homosexual feelgs, though the figure vari wily pendg on the survey.Homosexualy exists across cultur and even throughout the animal kgdom, as the thors of a mammoth new review paper on homosexualy wre. Female Japane maqu will even pete tersexually wh mal for exclive accs to female sexual partners.Here’s what we don’t know: What, specifilly, someone to bee gay, straight, or somethg between. Part of the explanatn is geic, but bee most intil tws of gay people are straight, heredy don’t expla everythg.The “why” qutn is important bee “there is a strong rrelatn between beliefs about the origs of sexual orientatn and tolerance of non-heterosexualy,” acrdg to the report thors, who are om seven universi spanng the globe.

(When Atlantic ntributor Chandler Burr proposed his 1996 book, A Separate Creatn, that people are born gay, Southern Baptists lled to boytt Disney films and parks prott agast the publisher, Disney subsidiary Hypern.) It shouldn’t matter whether people “choose” to be gay, but polilly, do—at least for now.One of the most nsistent environmental explanatns for homosexualy is lled the “aternal birth orr effect.” Essentially, the more olr brothers a man has, the more likely he is to be gay.

Studi have found that a man whout olr brothers has about a 2 percent chance of beg gay, but one wh four olr brothers has a 6 percent chance. (Meanwhile, other studi have found the relatnship to be weak or nonexistent.) As psychologist Rch Sav-Williams wr an acpanyg mentary, the oute for any given baby boy might pend on the timg of the immune rponse and the fet’s sceptibily to the antibodi.Average prevalence 2013 (Sav-Williams and Vrangalova)Acrdg to the report, Blanchard now plans to tt mothers of gay and straight men for the prence of the antibodi. If proved out, fetal birth orr uld do a lot to fill the missg explanatns for homosexualy.

LONI ANRSON TALKS NEW S "MY SISTER IS SO GAY" AND CIVIL RIGHTS (AUDIO)

But gaps will rema, such as why some firstborn sons are gay, why some intil tws of gay sons are straight, and why women are gay, to name jt a few.The review-paper thors do le out one explanatn for homosexualy, however: That tolerance for gay people enurag more people to bee gay.“Homosexual orientatn do not crease equency wh social tolerance, although s exprsn ( behavr and open intifitn) may do so,” they wre.That reasong—that a tolerant society somehow enurag homosexualy to flourish—has been ed to support anti-gay legislatn Uganda, Rsia, and elsewhere.

And I am happy for them, except for one thg: I am about 99 percent sure he is gay. Before you say anythg hurtful to your sister, let’s take a peek at some of the (homophobic-adjacent) assumptns that you’ve ma on your (probably well-tentned) road to judgment. News flash: He n still be problematic is the “gay panic” of your male iends, whose gossipy stori may rely on sendhand reports om still other men.

Gay men and lbians have long been, and often still are, a persecuted mory.

HELP! I THK MY SISTER--LAW’S BOYIEND IS GAY.

) The ia that a gay man uld blhely and repeatedly “grab the crotch” of his straight horts is absurd.

In 1996, the psychologists Ray Blanchard and Anthony Bogaert published a paper ntendg that homosexualy was more mon men who had olr brothers. "In [Wtern] societi, homosexual men are femized at var levels and they have more olr brothers than heterosexual men, " state the thors of the study.