This is how I really reacted when my son told me he was gay – SheKnows

Contents:

• THIS IS HOW I FELT WHEN MY SON TOLD ME HE WAS GAY
• “I JT FOUND OUT THAT MY SON IS GAY”
• DAD ACCINTALLY DISVERS HIS TEENAGE SON IS GAY, CONSULTS REDD ON HOW TO RPOND
• THIS IS HOW I REALLY REACTED WHEN MY SON TOLD ME HE WAS GAY
• MANY PARENTS STGGLE TO ADJT AFTER LEARNG CHILD IS GAY, STUDY FDS
• HOW I ACCINTALLY FOUND OUT MY DAD IS GAY
• HOW TO TELL IF YOUR SON IS GAY
• YOUR CHILD JT TOLD YOU HE'S GAY. NOW WHAT?
• KEEPG THE FAH, AND LOVG YOUR GAY SON
• WHEN YOU FD OUT YOUR CHILD IS GAY
• MY SON MIGHT BE GAY. WHAT SHOULD I SAY TO HIM?
• WHAT TO DO WHEN YOUR CHILD SAYS: "I'M GAY"

THIS IS HOW I FELT WHEN MY SON TOLD ME HE WAS GAY

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“I JT FOUND OUT THAT MY SON IS GAY”

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DAD ACCINTALLY DISVERS HIS TEENAGE SON IS GAY, CONSULTS REDD ON HOW TO RPOND

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THIS IS HOW I REALLY REACTED WHEN MY SON TOLD ME HE WAS GAY

React kdly to gay people the news or on televisn. In a way, you have an advantage by not knowg; giv you more time to prepare for the day (if ever) when he do reveal he's gay. If you’d like to jo the Fom, drop a le at do feel like to fd out that your son is gay?

So my 19-year-old son told me he is gay last night.

MANY PARENTS STGGLE TO ADJT AFTER LEARNG CHILD IS GAY, STUDY FDS

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HOW I ACCINTALLY FOUND OUT MY DAD IS GAY

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HOW TO TELL IF YOUR SON IS GAY

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First, my wife will be unhappy to learn our son is gay. For help alg wh all this, ntact PFLAG, which giv valuable support to parents wh gay children. They immediately clocked as gay, while we immediately clocked them as we warmed up to another, one mom anxly said: "I have a qutn: I am pretty sure my son is gay, but I don't know what to do.

YOUR CHILD JT TOLD YOU HE'S GAY. NOW WHAT?

"For example, if someone the word "gay" place of "stupid, " remd them that the two are not terchangeable, and suggt they should say what they actually mean stead. "The rourc n help:PFLAG: The untry’s largt anizatn ung parents, fai, and alli wh people who are lbian, gay, bisexual, transgenr, and Spectm: Offers groups, trag, and rourc promotg genr sensivy and cln for all youthGLBT Natnal Rource Database: LGBTQ+ digal directory of rourcNatnal Queer and Trans Therapists of Color Network: Directory of therapists/unselors who are people of lorNatnal LGBTQ Task Force: The progrsive advocy arm of the LGBTQ+ movementDurg LGBTQ Pri Month, TODAY is sharg the muny’s history, pa, joy and what’s next for the movement. So when a 38-year-old sgle dad accintally saw that his 13-year-old son had been lookg up thgs along the l of "I'm gay, what now, " he was nflicted.

The fellas at r/askgaybros were happy to share their put. Another suggted the dad let his son "e to you wh this, " suggtg t he meantime, he start beg discretely supportive of LGBT matters, by "[makg] a posive remark when gay marriage is discsed on tv, pliment(ig) a show for their clivens of LGBT characters, etc. In an update posted to Redd a few days later, he explaed that he "started off wh talkg about general media wh [his son], " like "how awome was that Tim Cook (CEO of Apple) me out as beg gay...

KEEPG THE FAH, AND LOVG YOUR GAY SON

That night, after a few sends of silence, the son told his father, "I'm gay.

“I’m gay. I have had gay iends (and been eply hurt and disappoted when beme obv. He never wanted to be gay.

To iends of me who may have gay children, or be gay themselv, please five me for my ignorance. I don’t know if I’ll ever be “okay” wh the gay liftyle, but right now, I am okay wh my son beg gay, and right now, that is all that matters.

WHEN YOU FD OUT YOUR CHILD IS GAY

What would you do if your child told you they were gay? ” Fally, Amanda buried her head her pillow and said, “I’m gay.

A new study nducted by rearchers at Gee Washgton Universy found that most parents of lbian, gay, and bisexual youth have difficulty adjtg after their kids e study says is one of the first to systematilly exame the experience of parents raisg lbian, gay and bisexual children. ”The study found that Ain Amerin and Lato parents have a harr time acceptg their lbian, gay and bisexual children, as do the parents of children who e out at a later study, which surveyed a much larger sample size than prev studi, nfirmed smaller studi that showed parents’ negative reactns tend to ease over time; the first two years are the harst for were no signifint differenc reactns between mother and father, the age of the parent, or the genr of the child.

The study did not exame the reactns for the parents of transgenr general, acceptance seems to be growg rapidly for lbian, gay and bisexual youth. There’s a lot of kids my school who are gay. My brother picked up the word for "gay" – a word my dad repeated several tim durg that that pot, my parents had told they had problems their marriage, but a few months later, when I was around ne years old, we still went on our annual fay summer holiday to France.

MY SON MIGHT BE GAY. WHAT SHOULD I SAY TO HIM?

Until, out of nowhere, my brother sudnly asked, "Dad, are you gay? "There aren't a lot of gay people out there wh a wife and children, " he told me. I once tagged along wh him to his favoure gay bar, where I met all the iends he's ma there over the years.

There's a new Android app out (here's the English versn) lled "Is My Son Gay? ") that will tell you if, fact, your son is a gay person.

WHAT TO DO WHEN YOUR CHILD SAYS: "I'M GAY"

So below I've provid a better list of ways to tell if your son is a gay person who is you e home om work and you hear nois upstairs and you go up to vtigate and your son's door is open and you tch him "hookg up" (as kids ll today) wh his iend Michael, and you quickly turn around and walk back downstairs and later that night over dner you say "You know, honey, if there's ever anythg you need to tell me... " and he says "Mom, I'm gay, " then your son is your son has recently gone to llege and hasn't been touch much and you figure hey he's new to llege, he's by makg iends and whatnot, and then late one night he lls you on the phone soundg upset about somethg and you ask him what's wrong and he's quiet for a while and then says "Nothg's wrong, really, I'm jt...

Dad, I'm gay, " then your son is your son ever been on a long drive to one of your dghter's swim meets wh you and when stopped at a red light he's turned to you and said "Mom, I feel like I owe to you and dad to tell you that, well, Donald is my boyiend. I'm gay"?