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data-ttid="ContentHearContaer" class="ContentHearContaer-cGKRbE knDxNq"><div class="ContentHearHedAccredatnWrapper-GFiQf cDNVlV"><div data-ttid="ContentHearTleBlockWrapper" class="ContentHearTleBlockWrapper-cjmSKp cCntXd"><div data-ttid="ContentHearRubric" class="ContentHearRubricBlock-LmpbT eRFpQc"><div data-ttid="ContentHearRubricDateBlock" class="ContentHearRubricDateBlock-kAQcZP fTFWxD"><div class="RubricWrapper-dKmCNX kpuNXj bric ContentHearRubricContaer-eTudtt iRsSlw"><span class="RubricName-fVtemz cLxcNi">LGBTQ</span></div></div></div><h1 data-ttid="ContentHearHed" class="BaseWrap-sc-gjQpdd BaseText-ewhhUZ ContentHearHed-NCyCC iUEiRd jPOabC BjYFU">The Pros of Beg an Open Relatnship</h1></div><div class="ContentHearAccredatn-lfctVB etVsnJ ntent-hear__accredatn" data-ttid="ContentHearAccredatn"><div class="ContentHearDek-bIqFFZ eASNBN">One gay uple om Atlanta shar how, and why, they ma work.</div><div class="ContentHearByle-kmPyCa emiglw"><div class="ContentHearByleContent-dpPmNn 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data-ttid="socialInslist" class="SocialInsList-cHVTIA ivmblD social-ins__list"></ul></div></div></div><div class="ContentHearLeadAsset-hGbumP fEknXh lead-asset ContentHearLeadAssetWrapper-hfXHEc Grck lead-asset--width-fullbleed" data-ttid="ContentHearLeadAsset"><figure class="ContentHearLeadAssetContent-kOfYSG dRGWbI"><div class="ContentHearLeadAssetContentMedia-bLEIpi jjhWdS lead-asset__ntent__photo"><span class="SpanWrapper-umhxW jvZaPI rponsive-asset ContentHearRponsiveAsset-bREgIb hONbnm"><div data-tt="aspect-rat-ntaer" class="AspectRatContaer-bJHpJz ccdiSo"><div class="aspect-rat--overlay-ntaer"><picture class="RponsiveImagePicture-cWuUZO dUOtEa ContentHearRponsiveAsset-bREgIb hONbnm rponsive-image"><source media="(max-width: 767px)" srcSet=" 120w, 240w, 320w, 640w, 960w" siz="100vw"/><source media="(m-width: 768px)" srcSet=" 120w, 240w, 320w, 640w, 960w, 1280w, 1600w, 1920w, 2240w" siz="100vw"/><img alt="Image may nta Animal and Bird" class="RponsiveImageContaer-eybHBd fptoWY 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class="ArticlePageContentBackGround-cNiFNN kJkLmH article-body__ntent"><div class="ArticlePageChunksContent-etcMtP eRxRjL"><div data-ttid="ArticlePageChunks" class="ArticlePageChunks-fLyCVG eOdfIs"><div class="GridWrapper-cAzTTK kHBDeH grid grid-margs grid-ems-2 ArticlePageChunksGrid-hfxa bjczjj grid-layout--adrail narrow wi-adrail"><div class="GridItem-buujkM stRKV grid--em grid-layout__ntent"><div class="BodyWrapper-kufPGa edvONh body body__ntaer article__body" data-journey-hook="client-ntent" data-ttid="BodyWrapper"><div class="body__ner-ntaer"><p>We're tght om a young age that a "regular" relatnship volv a man and a woman enjoyg a monogamo bond. As LGBTQ people grow up and get to grips wh their sexualy and genr inty, they learn to reject this heteronormative nstct of what a relatnship should look like. But the ia that our "soulmate" is someone we should be pletely fahful to, 100 percent of the time, n be trickier to shake off.</p><p>When I me out at 18, I'd never have thought an open relatnship uld be right for me. Now, after 15 years of boyiends and break-ups, I know 's a nversatn I'd want to have wh any potential partner. I've always been fascated by the different ways which people, often queer people, n tailor a relatnship to make work for them. And yet, open relatnships are still tated by an unfair and often ill-rmed stigma. Some people say they're ls stable, ls mted, and even ls lovg.</p><p>Here, a gay uple om Atlanta—23-year-old Tyler and 31-year-old Mark—share the story of their open relatnship. There's no right or wrong way to have an open relatnship, but Tyler and Mark have created one which mak both of them very happy.</p><div class="Contaer-bkChBi byNLHx"></div><p><strong>Tyler:</strong><br/>I met Mark on Grdr—he was the "visg top" town on a work trip. We spent the night together and hung out the next day, but then he had to fly home. A uple days later, he lled me and said, "I n't stop thkg about you." I thk we clicked bee we were both gettg out of unsatisfyg relatnships. I'd been datg a closeted nservative pastor's kid, so I always felt like I was towg the le between "out" and "not out." Mark and I started chattg on the phone or FaceTimg, like, every available mute, but at first we weren't mted to one another. We'd gladly talk about guys we were datg or sleepg wh.</p><div><div class="ConsumerMarketgUnThemedWrapper-iUTMTf jssHut nsumer-marketg-un nsumer-marketg-un--article-mid-ntent" role="prentatn" aria-hidn="te"><div class="nsumer-marketg-un__slot nsumer-marketg-un__slot--article-mid-ntent nsumer-marketg-un__slot---ntent"></div><div class="journey-un"></div></div></div><p>We vised each other a few tim, and after about six months I packed up my stuff and drove om my hometown, Spokane, to live wh Mark Fort Lrdale, Florida. We beme monogamo as soon as I moved , but after about a year, we realized that I'd kd of serted myself to Mark's life and didn't have many iends of my own. We download all the datg apps aga and started engagg threome-type suatns. But the end game was ls about sex, and more about makg new iends on a more timate level.</p><div class="AdWrapper-dQtivb fZrssS ad ad---ntent"><div class="ad__slot ad__slot---ntent" data-no-id="azwqxe"></div></div><p>A few months later we moved to Atlanta, and Mark started travelg wh work more often. One night, we were different ci and both of end up meetg a guy we found attractive. We both wanted to take thgs to the next level sexually, but knew we uldn't. So I end up gog to the bathroom and reachg out to Mark via text. He said to me, "Let's both jt do ."</p><div data-attr-viewport-monor="le-recirc" class="le-recirc-wrapper le-recirc-observer-target-1 viewport-monor-anchor"></div><p>After that we sat down and set the parameters of our open relatnship. "No sleepovers" is probably our number one le—Mark n't have someone stay over his hotel room; I n't have a guy stay over our loft. I jt thk uld lead to a level of timacy that would make me feel unfortable. For , 's not about replacg your partner; 's about havg a new experience that your partner n't necsarily fulfill. And I thk that's partly bee of the age difference. I'm 23 and only me out three years ago, so I'm relatively young my sexualy. Mark is 31 and has been sexually active sce he was 15, so he already has a range of sexual experienc and stori to tell.</p></div></div></div><div class="GridItem-buujkM fVLMby grid--em grid-layout__asi"><div class="StickyBoxWrapper-jfYB kNleGZ sticky-box"><div class="StickyBoxPrimary-dzWDWL cdhYoN sticky-box__primary"><div class="Contaer-bkChBi byNLHx"></div><div class="AdWrapper-dQtivb fZrssS ad ad--rail"><div class="ad__slot ad__slot--rail" data-no-id="ldtdwq"></div></div><div class="ConsumerMarketgUnThemedWrapper-iUTMTf jssHut nsumer-marketg-un nsumer-marketg-un--display-rail" role="prentatn" aria-hidn="te"><div class="nsumer-marketg-un__slot nsumer-marketg-un__slot--display-rail"></div><div class="journey-un"></div></div></div><div class="StickyBoxPlaceholr-grPmrg dxAvXx"></div></div></div></div><div class="RowWrapper-UmqTg HEhan full-bleed-ad row-mid-ntent-ad"><div class="StickyMidContentAdWrapper-fSBzwl drzyIa ad-stickymidntent"><div class="AdWrapper-dQtivb fZrssS ad ad--mid-ntent should-hold-space"><div class="ad__slot ad__slot--mid-ntent" data-no-id="sixaxj"></div></div></div></div><div class="GridWrapper-cAzTTK kHBDeH grid grid-margs grid-ems-2 ArticlePageChunksGrid-hfxa bjczjj grid-layout--adrail narrow wi-adrail"><div class="GridItem-buujkM stRKV grid--em grid-layout__ntent"><div class="BodyWrapper-kufPGa edvONh body body__ntaer article__body" data-journey-hook="client-ntent" data-ttid="BodyWrapper"><div class="body__ner-ntaer"><p>We're very ank about our open relatnship on Grdr and people n be nasty. They say thgs like, "If you were happy, you wouldn't be here." But beg an open relatnship isn't "selfish" or "slutty." We're love, we're happy and nfint, and we have total honty—munitn really is the key our open relatnship. And sounds chey to say, but when 's jt the two of , we still have the kd of passnate sex we had on our first date.</p><p><strong>Mark:</strong><br/>Bee we'd kd of started off a long-distance open relatnship, felt like a natural segue to go open aga. Before I met Tyler, I was married for six years and end bee my ex-hband cheated on me multiple tim, which led to so much jealoy and negativy. I feel like part of the reason Tyler and I have this open relatnship is to stop jealoy om havg a seat at the table. We often share pictur of guys we meet on solo adventur, but Tyler's go-to type is a ltle different om me, so there's never really any fear of missg out.</p><p>Straight people jt have a really tough time unrstandg how all works. I thk my mom sort of knows we have an "arrangement," but she don't need to know the nty-grty tails. I mean, if I were sgle I wouldn't be textg her sayg, "Mom, you won't believe this super-sexy guy I met last night—and he had a giant dick, too!”</p><p>I'd say most gay upl we know are an open relatnship. But Tyler gets asked about more on Grdr, and I thk 's bee of his age. Back when I was younger, the ia of havg an open relatnship didn't even cross my md. When you grow up gay, you try to nform to straight norms so you n "normalize" yourself, and part of that is picturg yourself a tradnal monogamo relatnship. But as you get olr, you open your ey to other kds of relatnship. Bee I'm clearly a ltle olr, I don't thk a 20-year-old twk would be darg enough to msage me wh some of the sh that Tyler gets.</p><p>I n't really image ever gog back to a closed relatnship. For me, 's an important release and a remr of my mment to Tyler. No matter how much I have mon wh another guy, or how great the sex is, I always have more fun wh Tyler.</p><p>I thk if both people a relatnship n look at the hottt guy on Grdr and say, "You know what, I'd rather be at home on the uch watchg the worst YouTube vio wh you," you n make the open thg work. But if there's a ht of jealoy your relatnship already, tread lightly. Don't try to force an open relatnship. 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HOW TO HAVE A GAY OR LBIAN RELATNSHIP

Enterg to a gay relatnship is much the same as enterg to any relatnship. Two people meet and get to know each other. Some thgs never change, even if the partners are of the same genr. Date first. More than once. A mon... * how to have a gay open relationship *

It's not enough that both of you are gay. How do you know if you’re gay? Don't leave your partner twistg the wd - particularly if you're not out, and 's a member of your fay makg a gay joke or sultg gays.

A GUI FOR GAY MEN ON BOTH OPEN AND MONOGAMO MARRIAGE

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If any such issue aris at your place of work, there may be anizatns is the area that you n ntact for advice, such as the Gay/Lbian Center or GLAAD (Gay/Lbian Alliance Agast Defamatn) the Uned Stat. for gay upl?

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GAY MALE COUPL: SEXUALLY OPEN OR CLOSED?

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MOC: Tell me about The Gay Man's Gui to Open and Monogamo Marriage.

MDK: I began offerg workshops for gay, bisexual, and transgenr men about eighteen years’ ago, and after a uple of years there were always a few guys who me up to me and said ( whispered ton), “You’ve got to put this stuff a book. While there are lots of books about how to plan your gay weddg, there were virtually none that addrs what to do after the honeymoon is over (lerally and figuratively). ” — regard to gay marriage — to be ntroversial.

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The Gay Man’s Gui to Open and Monogamo Marriage dar to ask the qutn: is monogamy or an open relatnship (or a batn of both) the bt way to stcture your marriage? Same-sex marriage has been a long time g – a few thoand years or so - and now that ’s fally here, many gay, bisexual and transgenr men may thk that ’s a bad ia to “rock the boat” by discsg the kds of ias that this book prents.

I believe that now is the perfect time to qutn what gay marriage n, should and will be, while is still relatively new, h and malleable.

MDK: I have been givg workshops on “monogamy or open relatnship” for many years, long before gay marriage was legal. While marriage wasn’t a possibily then, the qutns those workshops were basilly the same as those this book: as gay men, do we choose the monogamy of heterosexual marriage as our mol, or do we prefer an open marriage?

Many young gay men are "hopels" romantics, but this may be unrealistic. * how to have a gay open relationship *

And yet, most gay marriag emulate whout much thought, assumg that ’s the “right” way to be married. As a psychotherapist for gay upl for many years’ now, ’s been que clear to me that “handbooks” for heterosexual marriage don’t really apply to our marriag several signifint ways: our marriag are more “signed” than “assumed. As gay men, we are ed to fg our own paths and fg our relatnships on our own terms.

And yet, when I work wh young gay (and bi, straight and trans) men, I see a sea change ahead. I wrote the chapter about “refg genr rol, " bee we have an amazg opportuny as married gay men to terme who we are as two men, married to each other. MDK: As gay people, we n create new stctur and paradigms that serve not only , but all people.

This book enurag everyone, not jt gay men, to take a good look at that formidable stutn and beg to ask some big, meangful qutns, like:. The are not jt qutns for gay upl, they are qutns for all upl: my polyamoro straight clients are alg wh the very same stuff.

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data-ttid="ContentHearContaer" class="ContentHearContaer-cGKRbE knDxNq"><div class="ContentHearHedAccredatnWrapper-GFiQf cDNVlV"><div data-ttid="ContentHearTleBlockWrapper" class="ContentHearTleBlockWrapper-cjmSKp cCntXd"><div data-ttid="ContentHearRubric" class="ContentHearRubricBlock-LmpbT eRFpQc"><div data-ttid="ContentHearRubricDateBlock" class="ContentHearRubricDateBlock-kAQcZP fTFWxD"><div class="RubricWrapper-dKmCNX kpuNXj bric ContentHearRubricContaer-eTudtt iRsSlw"><span class="RubricName-fVtemz cLxcNi">LGBTQ</span></div></div></div><h1 data-ttid="ContentHearHed" class="BaseWrap-sc-gjQpdd BaseText-ewhhUZ ContentHearHed-NCyCC iUEiRd jPOabC BjYFU">The Pros of Beg an Open Relatnship</h1></div><div class="ContentHearAccredatn-lfctVB etVsnJ ntent-hear__accredatn" data-ttid="ContentHearAccredatn"><div class="ContentHearDek-bIqFFZ eASNBN">One gay uple om Atlanta shar how, and why, they ma work.</div><div class="ContentHearByle-kmPyCa emiglw"><div class="ContentHearByleContent-dpPmNn 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class="ArticlePageContentBackGround-cNiFNN kJkLmH article-body__ntent"><div class="ArticlePageChunksContent-etcMtP eRxRjL"><div data-ttid="ArticlePageChunks" class="ArticlePageChunks-fLyCVG eOdfIs"><div class="GridWrapper-cAzTTK kHBDeH grid grid-margs grid-ems-2 ArticlePageChunksGrid-hfxa bjczjj grid-layout--adrail narrow wi-adrail"><div class="GridItem-buujkM stRKV grid--em grid-layout__ntent"><div class="BodyWrapper-kufPGa edvONh body body__ntaer article__body" data-journey-hook="client-ntent" data-ttid="BodyWrapper"><div class="body__ner-ntaer"><p>We're tght om a young age that a "regular" relatnship volv a man and a woman enjoyg a monogamo bond. As LGBTQ people grow up and get to grips wh their sexualy and genr inty, they learn to reject this heteronormative nstct of what a relatnship should look like. But the ia that our "soulmate" is someone we should be pletely fahful to, 100 percent of the time, n be trickier to shake off.</p><p>When I me out at 18, I'd never have thought an open relatnship uld be right for me. Now, after 15 years of boyiends and break-ups, I know 's a nversatn I'd want to have wh any potential partner. I've always been fascated by the different ways which people, often queer people, n tailor a relatnship to make work for them. And yet, open relatnships are still tated by an unfair and often ill-rmed stigma. Some people say they're ls stable, ls mted, and even ls lovg.</p><p>Here, a gay uple om Atlanta—23-year-old Tyler and 31-year-old Mark—share the story of their open relatnship. There's no right or wrong way to have an open relatnship, but Tyler and Mark have created one which mak both of them very happy.</p><div class="Contaer-bkChBi byNLHx"></div><p><strong>Tyler:</strong><br/>I met Mark on Grdr—he was the "visg top" town on a work trip. We spent the night together and hung out the next day, but then he had to fly home. A uple days later, he lled me and said, "I n't stop thkg about you." I thk we clicked bee we were both gettg out of unsatisfyg relatnships. I'd been datg a closeted nservative pastor's kid, so I always felt like I was towg the le between "out" and "not out." Mark and I started chattg on the phone or FaceTimg, like, every available mute, but at first we weren't mted to one another. We'd gladly talk about guys we were datg or sleepg wh.</p><div><div class="ConsumerMarketgUnThemedWrapper-iUTMTf jssHut nsumer-marketg-un nsumer-marketg-un--article-mid-ntent" role="prentatn" aria-hidn="te"><div class="nsumer-marketg-un__slot nsumer-marketg-un__slot--article-mid-ntent nsumer-marketg-un__slot---ntent"></div><div class="journey-un"></div></div></div><p>We vised each other a few tim, and after about six months I packed up my stuff and drove om my hometown, Spokane, to live wh Mark Fort Lrdale, Florida. We beme monogamo as soon as I moved , but after about a year, we realized that I'd kd of serted myself to Mark's life and didn't have many iends of my own. We download all the datg apps aga and started engagg threome-type suatns. But the end game was ls about sex, and more about makg new iends on a more timate level.</p><div class="AdWrapper-dQtivb fZrssS ad ad---ntent"><div class="ad__slot ad__slot---ntent" data-no-id="azwqxe"></div></div><p>A few months later we moved to Atlanta, and Mark started travelg wh work more often. One night, we were different ci and both of end up meetg a guy we found attractive. We both wanted to take thgs to the next level sexually, but knew we uldn't. So I end up gog to the bathroom and reachg out to Mark via text. He said to me, "Let's both jt do ."</p><div data-attr-viewport-monor="le-recirc" class="le-recirc-wrapper le-recirc-observer-target-1 viewport-monor-anchor"></div><p>After that we sat down and set the parameters of our open relatnship. "No sleepovers" is probably our number one le—Mark n't have someone stay over his hotel room; I n't have a guy stay over our loft. I jt thk uld lead to a level of timacy that would make me feel unfortable. For , 's not about replacg your partner; 's about havg a new experience that your partner n't necsarily fulfill. And I thk that's partly bee of the age difference. I'm 23 and only me out three years ago, so I'm relatively young my sexualy. Mark is 31 and has been sexually active sce he was 15, so he already has a range of sexual experienc and stori to tell.</p></div></div></div><div class="GridItem-buujkM fVLMby grid--em grid-layout__asi"><div class="StickyBoxWrapper-jfYB kNleGZ sticky-box"><div class="StickyBoxPrimary-dzWDWL cdhYoN sticky-box__primary"><div class="Contaer-bkChBi byNLHx"></div><div class="AdWrapper-dQtivb fZrssS ad ad--rail"><div class="ad__slot ad__slot--rail" data-no-id="ldtdwq"></div></div><div class="ConsumerMarketgUnThemedWrapper-iUTMTf jssHut nsumer-marketg-un nsumer-marketg-un--display-rail" role="prentatn" aria-hidn="te"><div class="nsumer-marketg-un__slot nsumer-marketg-un__slot--display-rail"></div><div class="journey-un"></div></div></div><div class="StickyBoxPlaceholr-grPmrg dxAvXx"></div></div></div></div><div class="RowWrapper-UmqTg HEhan full-bleed-ad row-mid-ntent-ad"><div class="StickyMidContentAdWrapper-fSBzwl drzyIa ad-stickymidntent"><div class="AdWrapper-dQtivb fZrssS ad ad--mid-ntent should-hold-space"><div class="ad__slot ad__slot--mid-ntent" data-no-id="sixaxj"></div></div></div></div><div class="GridWrapper-cAzTTK kHBDeH grid grid-margs grid-ems-2 ArticlePageChunksGrid-hfxa bjczjj grid-layout--adrail narrow wi-adrail"><div class="GridItem-buujkM stRKV grid--em grid-layout__ntent"><div class="BodyWrapper-kufPGa edvONh body body__ntaer article__body" data-journey-hook="client-ntent" data-ttid="BodyWrapper"><div class="body__ner-ntaer"><p>We're very ank about our open relatnship on Grdr and people n be nasty. They say thgs like, "If you were happy, you wouldn't be here." But beg an open relatnship isn't "selfish" or "slutty." We're love, we're happy and nfint, and we have total honty—munitn really is the key our open relatnship. And sounds chey to say, but when 's jt the two of , we still have the kd of passnate sex we had on our first date.</p><p><strong>Mark:</strong><br/>Bee we'd kd of started off a long-distance open relatnship, felt like a natural segue to go open aga. Before I met Tyler, I was married for six years and end bee my ex-hband cheated on me multiple tim, which led to so much jealoy and negativy. I feel like part of the reason Tyler and I have this open relatnship is to stop jealoy om havg a seat at the table. We often share pictur of guys we meet on solo adventur, but Tyler's go-to type is a ltle different om me, so there's never really any fear of missg out.</p><p>Straight people jt have a really tough time unrstandg how all works. I thk my mom sort of knows we have an "arrangement," but she don't need to know the nty-grty tails. I mean, if I were sgle I wouldn't be textg her sayg, "Mom, you won't believe this super-sexy guy I met last night—and he had a giant dick, too!”</p><p>I'd say most gay upl we know are an open relatnship. But Tyler gets asked about more on Grdr, and I thk 's bee of his age. Back when I was younger, the ia of havg an open relatnship didn't even cross my md. When you grow up gay, you try to nform to straight norms so you n "normalize" yourself, and part of that is picturg yourself a tradnal monogamo relatnship. But as you get olr, you open your ey to other kds of relatnship. Bee I'm clearly a ltle olr, I don't thk a 20-year-old twk would be darg enough to msage me wh some of the sh that Tyler gets.</p><p>I n't really image ever gog back to a closed relatnship. For me, 's an important release and a remr of my mment to Tyler. No matter how much I have mon wh another guy, or how great the sex is, I always have more fun wh Tyler.</p><p>I thk if both people a relatnship n look at the hottt guy on Grdr and say, "You know what, I'd rather be at home on the uch watchg the worst YouTube vio wh you," you n make the open thg work. But if there's a ht of jealoy your relatnship already, tread lightly. Don't try to force an open relatnship. 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