As New York gay and lbian upl prepare to sh for marriage licens, the cy may be unprepared for genr qutns.
Contents:
- HOW TO ADDRS A MARRIED GAY COUPLE WH THE SAME LAST NAME
- HOW TO INTRODUCE A MARRIED GAY COUPLE
- GAY MARRIAGE QUANDARY: AM I THE BRI OR GROOM?
- WHAT DO IT MEAN WHEN A GAY SON TAK HIS HBAND’S SURNAME?
HOW TO ADDRS A MARRIED GAY COUPLE WH THE SAME LAST NAME
An Army sergeant asks how to troduce his girliend to a married gay uple, one of whom is an officer. * how do gay couples decide last name *
Feel ee to apply the l when you’re referrg to a married gay uple on thgs like weddg vatns, holiday rds, and letters.
HOW TO INTRODUCE A MARRIED GAY COUPLE
* how do gay couples decide last name *
Addrs each member of a male married gay uple as “Mr. All the l for addrsg a married gay uple wh the same last name apply whether they have chosen to e 1 last name or to e a hyphenated versn of both their last nam.
There are general l you n follow, but not every gay uple has the same preference, so they might appreciate if you ask. Addrs each member of a female married gay uple as “Mrs. This uld apply anytime you're vg a married gay person you know to some kd of formal event and you're vg they're partner as a "pl 1.
GAY MARRIAGE QUANDARY: AM I THE BRI OR GROOM?
There are no l set stone about whose name you have to put first when you’re addrsg a gay uple. For example, one member of a gay married uple might intify as more feme and would th prefer to be lled Mrs. Many gay men do intify themselv as strictly a top (the giver) or a bottom (the receiver) anal sex, but to say that a feme guy is almost always a bottom and a mascule guy is almost always a top is jt pla wrong.
Any gay person will tell you that if you want to be sure a guy is a top or a bottom you had better ask them and not wa until you get to the bedroom, bee 's not unmon to fd a butch guy who only wants to bottom OR a waify queen who ref to let anythg near his butt. As I said, most gay men who only prefer one role will actively seek out ONLY men who prefer the other- so they already know who will be dog what. A majory of gay men are what you ll 'versatile, ' which means they n/will be the giver or the receiver durg anal sex.
24, 2013Every other Tuday, Steven Petrow, the thor of “Steven Petrow’s Complete Gay & Lbian Manners” (Workman, 2011), addrs qutns about gay and straight etiquette for a boomer-age dience. Send qutns for Civil Behavr to Dear Civil Behavr: I’m a sergeant the Army, and my girliend and I are to meet wh a married gay uple (he’s an officer). ” This year, thanks to the Supreme Court’s double punch June — guttg the feral Defense of Marriage Act and dismissg California’s Prop 8 — the floodgat have opened and gay upl are shg to take advantage of this momento time.
WHAT DO IT MEAN WHEN A GAY SON TAK HIS HBAND’S SURNAME?
’ ”Ined, etiquette n sometim seem like a strajacket (“do this, not that”), but also sets out protol, as this suatn, that simply mak for fewer missteps or fx that said, I know om iends and my own recent marriage that changg monikers tak some gettg ed to — by both gays and straights. For stutns still adaptg to openly gay service members, the chang etiquette mt seem head-spng ed.